r/AITA_Relationships

My boyfriend and I have been together almost 2 years. We have discussed marriage but he has not proposed yet. We are older, mid 40’s and 50’s. We have kids from previous relationships (all are grown but 1 of mine). We have discussed prenups, which I am fine with signing however he told me “Unfortunately if you want to marry me you have to go through my lawyer.” He hasn’t even proposed. I felt like it was coarse, un gentleman like behavior to address such a complex topic so crassly. My former spouse is deceased. There is a small amount of property involved on my side, some student loan debt, and one of my children has financial benefits related to his fathers death. I think how he addressed the topic was wrong. I dont carry the same amount of assets into the potential marriage as he does. He had a messy divorce prior to me and feels the need to protect his assets, which is reasonable. I think he put the cart before the horse. I am fine with maintaining separate accounts and financial independence but something about his comment really rubbed me the wrong way, especially without a proposal. He offered to pay the legal fees associated with his request, which I feel I should not accept. The prenuptial agreement as I understand it will protect his assets. I don’t really have any plans to modify or, or make any changes to it. Am I the asshole for thinking he is the asshole right now?

this all started when two people inside the friend group started dating, tai and Felix. From the start everyone else had a feeling it would be a bad idea due to Felix’s bad history with communication and how jealous they can get. We let Tai know this but it’s still ended up happening. Well thy broke up, which everyone expected. Tai was hurt because whenever Felix had a problem in the relationship or was just upset about something in general, they would just go on twitter complaining about it, without even trying to communicate with tai or they would just vague post on their note ( which a lot them where targeted towards tai) but the things is tai also blows a lot of things out of proportion, so she just assumed that everything was about her when in reality it wasn’t, adding more stress to the situation. Tai confronted Felix about this and it ended just like that. Now I do think they needed to break up, as it was causing so much problems but the way tai did it was not the best. She didn’t even give a reason and just dropped Felix like that. Obviously they weren’t on good terms but everyone else was still friends with Felix. I wanted to keep it that way until Tai started saying we had to pick a side. At the time I didn’t wanna lose my friendship with Tai either and I felt very pressured but I did understand tais perspective. Felix wasn’t the best person. So the whole friend group cut Felix off. A couple months went by until one of my other friends (baylee) in the friend group reached out to me . She explained that she hasn’t been doing well mentally since the fallout with Felix. I understand that cus her and Felix were like best friends. The whole situation had stressed her out so much she started binge eating and getting depressed. She also explained how she was getting irritated with tai recently, as tais been acting really high maintenance and controlling lately ( and honestly as much as tai hates felix, they are alike in some ways) She explained how she reached out to Felix privately and they decided to be friends again. I respected her opinion but I knew tai has to know soon. And as you would expect she didn’t take it lightly. She cut off baylee immediately. I explained to tai before this that I would not choose side in this, as I’ve known Baylee for years and she is one of my best friends. Tai said she understood that but she probably would not talk to Baylee in a group setting anymore. All seemed to be fine until Tai just started ignoring us. I reached out to talk about it and she said that me being friends with Baylee is just excusing Felix’s actions. I told her that I have no part in Baylee and Felix’s business and I am friends with Baylee individually.Tiana said she didn’t want to be a part of the friend group and I said I respect that and we can be friends individually and hang out separately if it’s more comfortable. She still hasn’t responded to me and Is now ghosting me I’m person to. I don’t wanna lose my friendship with tai:(

I apologise greatly for how long this is. To start off, I have an extensive history of being sexually assaulted starting from a young age and my fiancé knows all of the details about this. I have had almost every form of sex "taken" from me, except for receiving oral.

My previous partner used to perform oral on me and it was one of the things that made me feel the most loved and would make it easy for me to orgasm. That was before my previous partner started being abusive a few years down the line.

My fiancé, who I love more than anything in the entire world, knows how I feel about oral sex. He said he tried it on another woman before and did not like the taste and texture of it. He has performed it on me once and he said he did not mind it, and it was something he would like to try again. I never pushed for it during sex from then out, hoping he would take initiative and perform it by himself. Over the years, I have brought it up several more times.

Recently, I brought it up again and emphasized the importance of it for me. He agreed and kept saying he was going to do it. I even purchased scented and flavoured wipes made specifically for oral sex to make it better for him because I care about him enjoying it. I made sure I was fully shaved, showered well, and used wet wipes every time I went to the bathroom to make sure I was always fresh. He kept putting it off and "pinky-promising" to do it the next day. I started to feel incredibly unwanted and like my parts were gross. I started crying and told him how I felt and he ended up saying that he did not want to do it all and he led me on because I made him feel stuck.

I asked him why he didn't want to do it and he told me he does not need a reason. I apologised and said I just wanted to know what about it he didn't like and he brought up the taste and feeling on his tongue but was referencing the other woman. But he had done it on me before so I do not understand why he didn't look back at that experience. I told him he does not have to do anything he is not comfortable with and that I would never force him but that hearing he will never do it hurts me and I need time. I cried all last night to the point I needed by rescue anxiety medication I normally use for my PTSD (from the assaults) and I still feel hollow and sad.

I have been thinking a lot and I don't feel adored or beautiful. He never calls me beautiful but says it is because he isn't good at outwardly showing that and I told him I understand. He will try to be better at that aspect. I am unsure where to go from here in terms of the oral sex. I threw out the wipes and am trying to come to terms with never having oral again.

AITA for pushing it so much? I adore him so much. He is my safe place, and it would break me to lose him.

I(19M) recently started at university and my girlfriend(19F) started at a college. I have class 5 days a week from 07:30 till 17:30 and she has class from 08:00 till 12:00 Monday to Thursday.

I don’t have a problem with this as both of us have different interests in our studies and different levels of intellect. My problem is that I don’t have the time to hang out with her anymore because I’m either busy with school or exhausted. We have been together for almost 3 years and have been through a lot together. She saved my life 3 times by just being there and saying I love you at the right time or a sweet poem. I really love her and I wish we can grow old together, but our schedules wont allow us to actually be together and this exhausts me mentally. I dread replying to her messages during the day, but I love talking to her in person(which I cant do anymore).

WIBTA?

I’m starting to feel like I’m crazy. My husband and I have been married almost 10 years and it has always been somewhat toxic. We have high highs and very low lows . Currently we are separated , not living together and coparenting our 4 year old. A LOT has happened up to this point , I never thought I could actually leave him but I finally realized that this marriage is slowly killing me/ my spirit. Anyways to the point, this man HATES my male cousin. Now just maybe 2 months ago we all hangout and were friends. Then it started, if my cousin and I were like hanging out having drinks in the garage and my husband says he was going to sleep , he wouldn’t. He would keep randomly coming in the garage slamming doors and getting more and more drunk. He was mad that I was like having fun with my family. He used to say sorry or that he felt bad but now he is just a complete asshole. He came to pick up our daughter today and my cousin and one of my best friends were over last night. He flew into a rage and told me he is no longer allowed in our house (husband currently isn’t even living in our home). I’m starting to feel like I’m insane and that even though I know my husband is ridiculous that he’s right. I hang out with my cousin like once a week , he has never been an ass to my husband and he is my family. What do I even do here? Right now we are seperated but I think I need to go to therapy and file for divorce.

I recently went to my partner's house and I found a shampoo bottle in the bathroom. It wasn't there the last time I was I was there. And its definitely not mine, the shampoo was for blonde hair and I have brown hair.

I asked him about it via text and said it was either his exes or this girl (I'll call her Jane) that occasionally watches his animals when he's away from his house for more than 12 hours. He's never mentioned her before to me nor has he ever mentioned being away from his house for 12 hours before.

When I asked him why he's never mentioned her or him being out of his house for 12 hours before he replied saying that "I mean, there's really nothing to tell. She watches my animals in the event I'm away from my house." As if its normal to keep another girl's personal hygiene products in his bathroom.

After 4 questions, he started to get upset that I was asking him. He accused me of '"drilling" him for answers and that I was asking "with clear malice as an undertone".

Imfeel like he's trying to turn the conversation away from the shampoo bottle and more towards me.

Am I overreacting to this situation?

We've been dating for 2 years and live together, so it's a serious relationship, but I just feel like putting a picture of her on my desk is more of a wife thing

Yet she came to my work for dinner last night (I work 2nd shift so I go on break at 9 pm), and when we were hanging out at my desk she was kind of taken aback by the framed picture of my best friend on the desk. She clearly noticed it, noticed me notice her notice it, and so she pointed it out and was like, "why do you have a picture of (her name) on your desk?" I just kind of laughed and said I didn't know, I've just always kept it there and seeing her makes me smile, so I don't even think much of it.

I don't think she wanted to come out and say anything about it, but it clearly bothered her. We dropped it and continued with dinner but she kept glancing at it periodically.

I told one of my work friends after she left (an older woman), and she was like, "oh, that isn't her in the picture? I always thought that was (girlfriend's name)" which I clarified that it was not, and that it was my friend. She laughed at me and asked why I would do that, kind of like motherly teasing which is in line with our friendship, and then she said my girlfriend must have expected me to have her picture up instead and that I should add one if not remove the one of my friend.

I haven't addressed it with my girlfriend yet but is this really a big deal? It's just like a framed picture of my friend in a flower dress, nothing weird.

TL;DR - I have a framed picture of my best friend on my desk and not one of my longterm girlfriend

ngl I feel kinda weird even typing this out but I just want some outside opinions

I’ve been seeing this girl for a bit like three months (both left long term relationships around the same time, 22M, 25F) and everything’s actually been really good, nothing toxic, very healthy and mature. we get along super easily, she’s really caring, and I’ve been starting to like her a lot.

she recently went on a trip to Korea for a week with friends (planned prior to meeting me), and her ex was part of that friend group… before she went, I asked her about it straight up that it kinda bothered me and she told me she’d have her own bed/room and that she’s “not that type of person” so nothing would happen. she also reassured me she has zero feelings for him and would never go back.

fast forward, i hear from my close friend she’s also friends with, she ended up sharing a bed with her ex on the trip.

i haven’t brought it up to her yet because she’s at coachella right now with her other friends (no invite lol), but it’s kinda messing with me. like yeah the situation itself is weird, but what’s bothering me more is that she told me something completely different before.

like if plans changed or whatever, I feel like she could’ve just told me instead of making it seem like that would never happen.

I’m kinda stuck between:

•	thinking maybe I’m overreacting and it was just a overthinking thing

•	and feeling like this is lowkey disrespectful / a trust issue

I don’t expect someone to not have a past or never be around their ex, but sharing a bed with them (especially after saying you wouldn’t) just doesn’t sit right with me.

at the same time she’s been really good to me otherwise which is why I’m conflicted

am I tripping or is this something you wouldn’t be okay with either?

my bf and I have been together for a month. we were friends for a bit before he confessed that he liked me. I have always felt a lack of chemistry or butterflies which is new to me because in my previous relationship I used to feel "sparks"? if that makes sense. my friends told me not to rely on those feelings because it might be anxiety and fear. love should feel peaceful. FYI my previous relationship was lowkey toxic.

I wouldn't say he's my type physically but he's so kind and considerate. but I don't feel comfortable opening up sexually to him not because I have unresolved trauma or wtv but because of who he is. I am his first gf and I know he was trying to get a gf and got lucky w me. sometimes I think he's a lil traditional and slow. whenever I go out he asks me a thousand questions, not to be controlling but js to know. he also wants to tag along wherever I go. he also asks the same question over n over. he keeps jokingly asking for my account and says give me yours n I will give u mine but i kept dodging and then said no cause it's too early. one day he was talking about how his previous crush was in his friends university and said, "it's her loss, brb I'll be crying on the side." I got pissed naturally and asked him why he would say that in front of his gf. he cried and apologized and said it was just a joke.

one day, a few girls hit on him and he told me that he has a surprise. I asked him what it was and he told me about these girls hitting on him. idk it just seemed like it was a prize? I have no better way to describe it. he says shit like since I was in an all boys school I want to interacte w girls more but dw I'll be loyal, you are my only girl bsf.I feel like I'm overanalyzing because when guys hit on me, I do show it to him but it's more like in a joking way. one day I posted on my story and he said things like why did u post, any reason? and I told him it's becauseI can post wtv i want and felt pretty. he then backtracked and told me he wasn't being controlling js curious. he then added that I look pretty everyday. when I posted another story he's like oh ur gonna get hit on again, stay safe, I dont want someone else to kidnap you, some bs like that. It gives me the feeling that he's awkward and maybe insecure?

there are 2 major points tho. first being the fact that he always kinda manhandles me and tickles me and is a lil rough. I told him I didn't like it when he tickled me to which he continued to do so and I got mad and pulled at his shirt to stop. I gave him a tiny scratch not on purpose and he kept whining. this is funny because he has long nails and i always ask him to cut them cause it's icky. he also was carrying my bags and tried to pick me up but couldn't. he then looked at me asked me what my weight was. I got hurt naturally and he said that he was js curious and couldn't carry my cause of the bags or maybe it was cause I didn't want him to carry me which wasn't true. srcond being, I was his first kiss and it was bad. he kept trying to kiss me in the cab and public places which I wasn't comfy with. he was going in too strong, putting his tongue immediately and everything. I tried to make him go slow and teach him but he js couldn't. he also keeps asking me if I love him. I already told him it's too early and if I did, I would tell him but he keeps asking me whenever we meet.

idk what to do. he is a nice guy, I do like him but I just don't feel anything for him like that. he's everything I want on paper but I feel like there is something missing. my friends say that he's a good guy and I just need to get more comfy w him. idk if I can find such a guy again and feel terrible for letting something so trivial affect me but honestly idk what i should do.

i 18f have a boyfriend 20m and me and my boyfriend usually call 24 seven it’s a mutual agreement most of the time and he has work almost every day at 12 at night to the morning. Usually he calls me while he’s at work but sometimes they’ll be random days in a week that he just will not call me even if I’m asking him why he’ll just say oh my coworkers are in or my phones about to die, which is understandable but usually he calls me even when his coworkers are there and like it’s kind of a repeating thing that we do is calling and it’s kind of what I’m used to and I’m not trying to be toxic. It just feels really weird to me when you just stop doing something randomly one day and then after that it’s all normal again. I fully just don’t understand why someone would be doing that and like I said when I asked him, he just got defensive and I don’t wanna assume that he’s like cheating with his coworkers or anything. I just don’t understand what would be another reason of not calling me and yes, it could be just like my past creeping up on me and it’s not his fault. It’s just hard for me to understand it in general, am I just toxic and is this normal because I tried talking about my feelings about it to him and he kinda was just like there’s nothing to talk about. I told you my coworkers are here and my phone was dying. what should I do in the situation and am i in the wrong?

I (24M) recently broke up with my girlfriend(24F), and am now going back and forth whether i was wrong in doing so.

Already we were doing long distance (roughly a 2 hour drive between where we live) which was already making things hard. It felt like anytime we would see each other it had to be on her terms. She was only willing to spend the weekends (when we were both off work) at my place when i would visit during week. I didn’t like going to her place because she has a roommate (M30) who I don’t necessarily get along with. She wanted us to become better friends but any time i would come down he would avoid us like the plague. Personally i think that’s because she was either sleeping with him when we weren’t together or had slept together before we were together (and i imagine she ran to his bed the night we broke up) and would get jealous when whe was around me because we didn’t spend much time with him.

When she would come to stay with me she never wanted to go out to the bar with my friends (she would but she was never really happy about it). Being a social person as i am, it really made me feel like i was going to be missing out on being able to go out and party with my friends.

She also seemed kinda entitled. She was becoming very successful in her career path and it seemed like she wanted me to get it together so that she would look better. She wanted me to get better dress clothes for important events (i only have a couple polos), she was “encouraging” me to get back into school and complete my degree and masters for my chosen path, which I’m wanting to do on my time. I plan on getting proper therapy and working out more consistently and plan on distancing myself from some of my bad habits but with her it started feeling like she wanted me to have a checklist to finish it rather than plan it on my own time. I felt judged and unsupported and what really got me was the double standard. She was always talking about me breaking my bad habits (mostly drug use) but at the same time doesn’t seem to have the same energy when it comes to her (again M30) roommate’s very blatant and obvious issue with his alcoholism! Like i need to fill a certain image.

Our different lifestyle preferences also was more of a problem than i let on. She prefers to cook at home rather than go to restaurants, she would want to do events that were not our vibe and clearly for people in their late 30s and up, and although she claimed she would always date to marry, our whole relationship was based on physical aspects and I had to actively try and have her be my girlfriend (we also stopped having sex as much as we did to start)

I just felt tired and weak by the end of the relationship and so i wanted to end it, and now not only are our mutual friends calling me an asshole and taking her side, im starting to wonder if im justified in feeling like it was time to end the relationship.

He has a toxic habit of following half naked girls and thirstraps accounts. I said toxic cause even after I express that I am not comfortable with that, he still continuous to do so and even lies about it right into my face when I confront him. I personally am not a fan of guys in committed relationships (especially the ones with a whole ass family) still looking at other options and naked bodies of other women when you already have a responsible wife (yes I pay half the bills) and a son to take care of at home. What’s the point?

He lied that he did not follow this girl whose content is nothing but boobs and half naked reels, nothing education or informational, but when we downloaded his data, it showed that he actually did. And when he saw there’s proof now, he blatantly blame the data for being false and that he might have just clicked the button accidentally. Yeah right.

In my defense, I hate how he was able to do such thing (knowing I’m not comfortable with it) right in the middle of his life crisis. Yes, he is struggling financially and he’s been asking me to help him which I happily do.

I dont understand and cant accept how he was able to think of doing such thing when his life is already failing? Instead of coming up with solution, to elevate our life (cause we have a newborn son) to overcome this crisis, he instead follow thirstraps?

May I also add that he doesnt give me and my son a quality family time. He plays Dota2 all day, all night even up to 5am, and wakes up 2pm the next day missing breakfast and lunch time with me and my son. The only quality time we spend together is dinner time, which is an hour of his day and after that he hops onto his game again. So am I the asshole for wanting to leave this relationship?

We’ve been together for almost 15 years, married for 8. I really enjoy travel, he does not. We’ve had many discussions over the years & I’ve been very clear about how this is one of the big things I’m passionate about. He does not really care for travel.

We’ve bickered about little trips i.e. we lived in Arizona for a few years & I loved doing day trips to hike some really beautiful trails. He would sometimes come with me, but he always acts like it’s a chore. I get upset because I want him to be excited and want to go. He says he doesn’t mind going because he knows I like to. At first, I accepted this as compromise, but it’s just not as fun knowing that he would rather be at home playing video games or watching tv. He says it’s because I stop too much to take pictures. I agreed and said ok I’ll do less pictures next time, but even if it’s just to get one picture with him in a scenic spot he looks annoyed & ruins the moment. I LOVE travel, I LOVE pictures. I would like him to be just as excited to go. I started going on hikes alone, he was perfectly fine with this. It made me sad, because I would like to enjoy this someone, not alone. I want my man to WANT to accompany me to have fun adventures WITH me not FOR me out of obligation & for safety reasons too!!

When it comes to big trips / international travel, It’s the same issues. He’ll go, but he’s a bore to have around. He’s ok with me traveling alone, because he rather not go. So I did that last year. I traveled internationally alone twice, and both times I was sad that he was so nonchalant & ok with that.

I’ve voiced all this and more. But afterall this year it’s just the same argument over and over. AITA? Should I drop it? Or should he be making more of an effort?

I (28f) work in a restaurant that is attached to a hotel. One of the front desk agents, let's call him Tom (32m) and I started to spend some time together outside of work. I made sure to set my intentions right off the hop. I am not interested in dating him for a number of reasons but it's mainly because of our differences in lifestyle. The more I got to know him, the more I was just interested in being friends. We'd smoke, walk his dog, watch tv, talk, and go for drives. Things felt easy and despite him being a little reserved, I thought we had established a genuine platonic connection and I was really starting to trust him (which is odd because it's only been 2 weeks and I have a hard time trusting men).

Sometime last week his true intentions started to come to light. I gave my phone number to a customer at work, I don't do this often but I've been single for a few years and this man and I were having a really great conversation. I told Tom about it and he was very openly upset. Saying "This is why I don't date" and "don't come crawling back to me when things don't work out". At the time I brushed it off but it didn't sit well with me.

I decided it was time to state my intention to be friends yet again, and he doubled down asking "how do you feel about platonic cuddling?" a few days went by and I was very hesitant but I chalked up my emotions to me not being open enough with my friends so I pushed myself to try it knowing I could always change my mind. Instantly it felt wrong, my stomach was in knots and I was so scared because I could feel this was VERY romantically charged and not platonic by any means. My entire body froze and I was scared to ask him to stop due to previously explosive partners and SA. He put his head on my chest and I gave him a pillow to block the contact, he kissed my head and I told him that wasn't okay, and finally he said "I've been wanting to do this for a while now, is that bad?" I somehow managed to keep redirecting the conversation and reset my boundaries every 10 minutes or so but couldn't find it in me to tell him to get the hell out of my home.

The discomfort of the situation persisted into the next day so I told him I actually wasn’t comfortable with cuddling and wanted to keep things platonic. His responce was "sounds good :)". There was no reason for me to think that he was upset. I was still open to fixing our friendship and having an open conversation about things. We didn't talk for two days and when I got into work yesterday, I walked into the lobby to grab my shirt as I do for every shift. Tom's back was to me and he was talking to another front desk agent using the exact same verbage as when I told him about me being interested in the customer "this is why I don't date." this time adding, "some women are just crazy". I walked up behind him and said "hello", he choked a little, laughed, and then tried to backpedal in his statement.

I got really frustrated and upset which lead me to talking about the situation during my shift with my two friends/coworkers. I didn't use his name and I wasn't trying to start any drama, I was just really hurt and processing my emotions in real time while also managing a large section on our busiest night of the week. I wasn't making accusations or dragging him through the mud, but I'll admit I was probably more vocal about my emotions than I should have been in a work environment. After work, I saw that he randomly sent me $25, when I asked why, he said it was for Uber charges and snacks that he missed. It felt avoidant and like he was trying to tie up loose ends instead of addressing anything that actually happened.

Now I feel like everything is awkward. I don't trust him anymore, I don't feel comfortable being around him, and the whole connection went from sweet/innocent to tainted/charged. I can't unhear the things he said about wanting to sleep with me or drop the feeling that everything he did and said was just to get into my pants. In the same breath, I feel guilty because of how openly upset I was at work. Now I'm worried people think I overreacted or that I proved his point about me being “crazy.”

I genuinely thought we could be friends and now I feel disappointed, angry, and betrayed. I don't want his money, I don't want an empty apology, I just wish he had been integral with his words and didn't put me in this position in the first place when I had clearly stated my boundaries from day one. There are so many little details and nuances that I am definitely forgetting, and I'm happy to answer any questions. I am just feeling very shaken for the first time in years and I want to know if I am in the wrong or if I just have a hefty amount of internalized mysogyny.

So… AITA for how I reacted and for setting boundaries, or is he in the wrong for how he handled (or didn't handle) everything?

Husband and I have been together for decades. We have two kids and generally things are pretty good to great, however he gets really defensive in response to *any* criticism.

For example... little kid has been coughing all day today and yesterday. Doesn't seem serious, but it's almost constant. I'm telling kid to drink water, checking his temp, bringing cough drops. Husband is in the same space on his headphones and computer, and I said, "Can you not hear him?" I didn't raise my voice, but I asked because husband isn't reacting to kid at all. Nothing. Husband got mad, saying I'm judging him and being passive aggressive.

Meanwhile, two weeks ago I was sick and kid was very sick at the same time. I worked while sick and also took care of sick kid during the weekend -- all while I was still sick. Husband did not participate, despite watching all this happen.

A few weeks before then, big kid had the flu. I took the temperatures, dispensed the meds, brought the food, etc for days. 90% of the care was me.

I explained all of this, calmly, and asked for a more present partnership because it's really for his own children.

He's a great partner the vast majority of the time, but sometimes I feel like my legitimate concerns are weaponized because I didn't tell him exactly the way he (says) he wants to receive this info.

Now he's mad at anything I say... I may have called him a cretin when he got his food all over my work papers. Ugh. It was from a very old joke and I didn't think it was mean, but he got SO very mad and upset. Saying I'm judging him and telling him he has character flaws.

Which... I wasn't trying to? But now I'm just confused and wondering if I am, indeed, the asshole.

Help!

As of recently my wife and I are going through a rough patch in our marriage so we are not sleeping in the same bed. Usually she would take the couch but as of lately she has been sleeping at the neighbors house. He has told me before that he wanted to have sex with my wife and it makes me very uncomfortable that she sleeps on the couch when it's just the 2 of the there. I don't believe she is cheating on me since he's is a weird guy but I still dont think it's okay. So am I the asshole for saying I don't want her there?

Before I started my relationship with my partner, I had a female friend who invited me to her birthday (10m ago). I brought a gift that I bought from my partner’s business. I went to that birthday because a friend of mine was going, and it was just a calm dinner, everything normal.

Now, 8 months later, we were watching the Mario Galaxy movie while hugging and holding hands. In one scene, Mario said he wanted to make the princess happy, and I told her that I also try to make mine happy, referring to my girlfriend. Right after that, Mario looked for a gift for the princess, and she said, “Like you with your friend.” I didn’t say anything and just felt a bit sad because I didn’t understand the comment, but we kept hugging and holding hands.

The next day, we were talking under the stars, hugging side by side everything very nice and she asked me what I would be doing if I weren’t with her. I told her I’d be trying to win her over, and she said, “Or you’d be giving gifts to your friend.” That made me sad, and I chose to leave.

I don’t understand. Since I’ve been officially with my partner, I stopped talking to all women by my own decision. I don’t follow anyone in any social media, and I’ve told her in the most kind and respectful way that in my world only she exists and she has nothing to worry about. She has her own friends, and I don’t think or say anything about that. She says she was joking, but I don’t understand the joke.

Now that she told me that, I said it was okay and that I understood, but that I didn’t feel up to talking and hoped she would understand. I also told her I’ll always be there for her and that I love her very much I just need some time, but we’ll still talk. Now she’s talking to me more coldly than I could have ever imagined, it is fair? AITA?

(As a disclaimer: By saying I did it on my own (stop talkin with f friends), I mean that she never explicitly asked me to do it, but one day she checked who I was following and she didn’t like that certain friends were there. So, to protect my relationship, I decided to distance myself. Still, that’s not really the point it’s about her recent comments and how i take it)

I would say i have developed selective mutism for some people after what they did to me and how thev treated me. i was untrustworthy almost always lying in their eyes and first person they would blame at a mistakeor something happening. After i stopped talking to them they of course have done nothing wrong and now i am the bad person. They continuously say im the bad person now and i am "mentally torturing them". I've also done the same for people who were ok to me however when those 'friends ' said those stuff they would do little to help me even after that person has left and they had their own thing (being overly concerned for me like have i eaten and buy food always). The ages of the people are 27F and 18F and 30+M i will not say who is who and now the 2 Females are saying i will be the cause of the males d**th if I carry on the way I am. I am 26F am i really in the wrong for the way i act?

I met a guy online, we haven’t met in person yet.. but we’ve been talking daily. We video call all the time and I pay a lot of attention to teeth because a nice smile is important to me. He had a decent small so I looked past it.. however the more we talked and the more I saw him laugh, I noticed he is missing a tooth in the front but you only can see it when he laughs widely. I was a little turned off but I felt childish so I’m like as long as we are still vibing, I’m not going to cut him off for that. Fast forward, we were talking the other and he told me that he wasn’t having a good day because his teeth were hurting. I asked if it was wisdom tooth pain because that is the only thing I could think of. He told me no that it was cavities… and I just feel like we are too grown to be having poor oral hygiene. I know everyone isn’t perfect but we only get one set of teeth and we are supposed to take care of them. I am so big on oral hygiene, I’ve had my share of dealing with men with horrible breath and trying to look past it.. but I am past that stage of life. And while we haven’t met in person yet, I can’t help but think that his breath is terrible. Am I crazy?? I feel so bad but like I just don’t know if I feel the same. He said cavities PLURAL not cavity.. so I’m just concerned and turned off.. should I wait until we meet in person and go from there? We live far apart so if I see him it would be an entire weekend kind of thing. Idk man loll am I being ridiculous?

AITA for getting mad at my bf at a ball and ignoring him after?

I (17F) had a graduation ball and my bf (18M) was my escort at an old but well known hotel.

I started getting ready at 2 and finished by 4. The invite literally said 5 PM. I was just waiting for him after that, and he only arrived at 5:45.

When he got there, I went down to meet him but the hotel’s elevator is slow AND old. Not only that, I’m at the 16th floor with too many stops because all of the students were going down with their dates and it took like 15 minutes. The FIRST thing he says when I get down is that I made us late because I took too long.

That pissed me off because how?? I was ready early and he showed up almost an hour late. He knew I was checked in and he told me. I was already to call him to leave as early as 4 because his place was 1 hour away from the venue. Even HE left at 430.

Anyway, we were at the reception of the venue and I told him to stfu out of frustration and told him to just go in. While we were walking in he stepped on my dress and did not even escort me properly through the tight spaces in between the tables which, of course, made me even more annoyed.

When we sat down, I tried explaining why I was upset (that he blamed me right away instead of acknowledging he was late), but he kept interrupting me and arguing that I was the reason we were late. Like he wouldn’t even let me finish talking.

So I told him “I won’t talk to you unless you fix your tone” and I stopped talking to him for like an hour.

During that time he tried putting the corsage on me and holding my hand but I pushed both away. We didn’t even talk properly nor did he even apologize properly.

Not long after, he took our photos and literally tore them in front of my friends, slammed the corsage on the table and walked away.

and then texted me saying he wants to breakup.

So, AITA?