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I'm 22, and my whole life I never wanted kids.

I was a kid when I decided that.

But my mom and her family (the Mexican side) told me from the start that I would, "change my mind when you get older."

Years later, I never did.

I recently watched a video of an makeup influencer that got pregnant and she was so...happy.

Towards the end of the video, I felt...bad.

I wasn't jealous. I was depressed. Of not wanting to be pregnant. I felt like a failure of a woman.

I don't want to be touched sexually, ever.

I don't even want to kiss another person.

I'm perfectly fine with being single.

And the thought of my body changing without me being able to stop it...horrifies me.

Having being told all my life that it's a mistake I'm thinking like this all my life, sucks.

I know this is super long and probably too much context, so TLDR, I don't want to lead him on, but don't know when it's appropriate to bring up.

So, I (21F) am talking to a guy (24). We almost exclusively talk online and it started as a purely friendly thing. He recently told me he really liked me and wanted to hang out in person more. [As a bit of a side note, he's very patient with the fact that I struggle to express certain things so he's always making sure I'm not uncomfortable with anything he said and never puts me on the spot to reciprocate.] The issue is, I know for a fact that I'm somewhere on the ace spectrum. I've never felt sexual attraction to anyone but I'm still figuring some things out. I'm open to the idea that I may be demi but I've never developed a close enough bond to know if I'd feel attraction to someone in that situation. I'm not aromantic. He's never made sexual advances or suggestions. But he is a straight man and has expressed romantic interest in me. I really like him. I'm interested in him. I'd be very happy to have a specific kind of romantic relationship with him. But not a sexual one. How do I tell him this without sounding like I'm jumping to conclusions? He's never said anything sexual to me, it's all been very wholesome. So I don't want to blindside him by jumping to that kind of topic. But I don't want to wait too long and hurt him if this is a deal breaker for him (which I would totally understand if it was).

I want to share something I’ve noticed about myself, and I wonder if anyone who is asexual has experienced this too.

I’ve noticed that for a certain period, around one to two months, I become very interested in and curious about sex (horny mb?). During this time, I masturbate more often, and sometimes I want to touch someone (I don’t actually have one).

But after that phase passes, I no longer feel anything toward those desires. I stop thinking about or wanting to have sex, or even intimacy, and my sex drive drops again. And this is what I’m like most of the time.

I also realized that I’m asexual about 6-7 years ago. I don’t have sexual needs and I don’t enjoy engaging in sexual activity. These sudden periods where I become horny and develop sexual desire happen at unpredictable times. The frequency is also inconsistent over the years: it might happen once a year, twice, or even not at all for 2 consecutive years.

I wonder if this is strange. Because after going through those periods and “returning to normal,” I find that I don’t really like the version of myself during those times.

We’ve all heard the buzz around Heated Rivalry, and honestly… I’m still completely hooked. I’ve been trying to get my friends into it too, but not everyone has the same freedom, some have parents who aren’t supportive of the LGBTQ+ community, which made me a bit sad because I just wanted to share something I enjoy with them. It also made me think about how some people try to avoid these conversations altogether, even going as far as homeschooling to limit exposure. But realistically, the world is full of different people and perspectives, and at some point, everyone will encounter that diversity anyway.

Do you notice more queer representation now than a few years ago?

If you are going to say something about my age or something instead of real advice, I'd prefer you not comment. I'm looking for answers and advice.

Okay, I've been dating this guy for almost 3 months. Same classes, same lunch table, he gave me his sweater...

He's really kind. But the thing is, I can't do this anymore. It breaks my heart so badly because right now I've texted him "I'm so sorry there's something wrong with me I need to figure out" and he said "is there anyway I can help, what are we talking about?" (as I type)

Also, me and him have kissed. Not important, but I took his first kiss and he's also Christian? Idk that's not relevant but it's some context on his character ig?

But I don't know if I can be attracted to dudes anymore. I understand my age makes it hard to think I am mature enough but please don't comment on that. Ive never found a dude sexually attractive or thought that when I'm older I will want to... Yk do stuff with them. I've never found that pleasing.

PLEASE HELP I FEEL LIKE A TERRIBLE GF AND I'M CONFUSED AS HELL

hello guys!

I am an asexual and I fall somewhere between sex neural and sex repulsed (more toward sex repulsed) bi-romantic. And I dated my last partner for 5 years and we broke up 3 years ago. I was quite traumatized with sex and avoided dating and love after then. Now after all the time and healing I feel like I want to start dating again~ but after the giant break I have no idea how to start. It's hard enough for allos it's definitely tougher for me and I really don't want to date an allo person again... so what do you guys recommend? Are there any dating apps that cater to aces? what should I look out for? I really have no clue where to begin...

Hello! My name is Ash and I am a queer Swedish 3rd year gymnasium student, and as a part of my graduation work I chosen to a questionnaire to gather information for my study.

The study is about how LGBTQ+ people's self-esteem are affected by interactions in school. The purpose of it is to make people more aware of how interactions (both posetive and negative) affect LGBTQ+ peoples self-esteem and to create awareness regarding LGBTQ+ student's situation in school all over the world.

I am looking for any LGBTQ+ people who are willing to answer and are aged 16-25.

Thank you in advance to anyone who wants to participate, I really appreciate it!

Hey, folks! I've been struggling as of late. I've been engaged to a wonderful woman for going on 5 years now and she is ace. We had A LOT of sex when we first got together but then it just kind of disappeared. I've brought up a want to be more intimate and sexual to her multiple times over the years because I am a very sexual person. She was relieved at one point when I told her I could go outside of our relationship for that but it just felt like I was cheating because she didn't want to know the details or even what I was doing.

I brought it up a few months ago and told her I felt like I was missing a part of myself and that I want to live my life with her but really need to feel like I don't just kiss my roommate goodnight. Lol. I love her deeply and would do anything for her. She said she was going to look into female libido stimulants but...she looked it up once and then didn't again. I just need some advice from the ace community on what to do in a caring way.

For example, Senegal has doubled the sentencing for homosexuality and the only people taking issue with this are… republicans?

On the contrary the left wants more of the people that openly cheer this sorta thing on in our countries. How is that a good thing for us?

How can the lgbtq community so deeply hate conservatives with every fiber of their being, but it seems they take no issue with Islam. If anyone‘s the enemy it‘s Islam. If they ever get into power, they will literally kill you?!

The worst you will get from republicans is that they ban trans people from certain bathrooms or they will ban transwoman from competing in sports, but like thats kind of it, is it not?

I know I will most definitely be downvoted to oblivion and probably get banned from this sub, but im just genuinely curious and do not understand this timeline at all.

EDIT: if you leave a dislike, atleast explain why, coward.