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I have a fiance and I love her very much but sometimes I get these random thoughts that I wish I had gotten to date more women. She is the only women I’ve ever been in a relationship with. It’s not that I don’t want to be with her or that I even want to be with another woman, I think I just want to know if other women would find me attractive as a trans man. It could also be a little bit of the fact that my fiance has been with a lot of people before and so I feel inexperienced.
Sometimes I wish I could’ve been a guy who talked to girls but I feel like a missed out on that.
I feel like that makes me a bad fiance, idk… does anyone else understand this?

I’m wondering if I might be asexual. I have a foot fetish and can be into that, but I’m not sexually attracted to literally anything else about women/the female body and have basically no interest in sex itself. Has anyone else experienced something similar?

Throughout my life I've had LOADS of crushes, mostly on fictional guys. When I was a kid, I'd "fantasize" about being around them, being friends with them, taking care of them when they are hurt or sick, sometimes holding hands, and maybe them saving me from danger and stuff like that. Then, when I became a teenager, I heard someone talking about their sexual fantasies, and I was like "Huh?? Fantasies are SUPPOSED to be sexual???"

My ideal partnership would be taking care of each other, maybe hugging or cuddling, going places together, having fun, etc.

So I tried making up a sexual fantasy but it just didnt sit right with me so I stopped.

Then one time, I had a crush on someone WAY older than me and my mom was telling me "You have to be logical. You can't go after every guy that makes your cootchie wet." And I was thinking like

"Wdym?? I've never really looked at that guy and felt sexually aroused by him..."

And now I still wonder, why do people kiss? Because I don't really see the hype, kissing disgusts me a bit. Do they feel horny while kissing? Do couples feel aroused by seeing each other nude?? Is that SUPPOSED to happen??

I have no desire to look at any nude guy for sexual reasons, I would only be curious about what they looked like, and that's all.

Then I remember someone told me "Oh, that guy's hot." And I thought "Hot" meant that they were tan blonde and wore sunglasses

But no....It ACTUALLY means apparently that you would like to bang them if you have the chance???

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I've recently noticed that a lot of people hear that I'm asexual and assume I could never enjoy sex, and here's the thing while I personally am sex averse I think that generalization could be harmful to other members of the asexual community, so I made this. it's a symbol for anyone who is sex favorable or sex neutral but really it can just be used to show the diversity of the asexual community. I call it the Dirty Ace. it has all four suites of an Ace: Diamond, Heart, Club and Spade. I hope you guys love it!

So, I’ve recently realized I’m probably asexual, or at least one the ace spectrum. I’ve kind of been dancing around it for the last 5 years, kept holding out for “the right person” that would prove that hypothesis wrong… but here I am, almost 23, with pretty much no dating history and not a single sexual urge towards a living, breathing person. I’m still young, so who knows how I may feel later on, but at the very least, I haven’t had a conventional experience with dating and the feelings that come with it.

…But I don’t think I’m aromantic? I do desire companionship, and ultimately want to have a committed partner to share my life with. Romantic relationships have always sounded nice in theory, but with regular dating, the issue of the sexual aspect has always held me back from trying to pursue partnership with anyone. This sounds really dramatic, but the threat of having to be physically with someone always filled me with immense amounts of dread... Even if I liked the person and could potentially see them romantically.

I guess I’m curious about how partnership has worked for people who are asexual? The idea of a queerplatonic relationship or a committed romantic asexual relationship has sounded nice, but I don’t really know what that looks like in reality. Most of all, I don’t know how people even find other people who want the same thing, alongside the already difficult task of passing all the other compatibility tests required to create a stable relationship.

I guess I want to get some perspective, as someone who newly identifies as asexual, but still really wants a partner. Any other thoughts and experiences on the topic?

I had a recent trip to the ER recently, and they thought I could be pregnant.

...I literally went there for withdrawal symptoms from my antidepressants.

I had to use the restroom, and a nurse (not my assigned nurse) wanted a urine sample while I'm at it. I did it, not expecting them to use it for a pregnancy test.

They literally wasted their resources and time by running the test.

When my nurse said that it came back negative (of course) my dad said I was on birth control. *It's for my hormonal acne. But the way he said it made it seem like I was, "Getting some."

...I'm literally at home 24/7 and if I'm not, I'm working.

When he said that to my nurse, I said quietly, "Well of course it will be negative...I don't view anyone like that." Both the nurse and my dad didn't say anything.

I really do wish asexuality and the right to be celibate was more accepted.

This experience just made the feeling of being an outcast for not wanting sex, to be pregnant, or be in a relationship with anyone.

Some good news for Australian trans women

I (24 Non-binary Fem) have been struggling with my sexuality for years. I’ve known since the 7th grade that I was bisexual, but that doesn’t feel right anymore.
Right now I’m away from home trying to find myself while spending time with God and my close friend Bill Wilson (iykyk). While being away from home I’ve met a guy (38 Male), let’s call him Andy, and we’ve been dating for a month now, I enjoy our moments together and the gifts and love he has for me, but being in a relationship with him doesn’t feel right, maybe because I’ve been spending time with Bill for only 6 months and I’m getting back into the routine of spending time with God for the first time in almost 6 years (due to religious trama I left Christianity and decided to come back when I felt ready). I never intended to date while being away from home, it all just kinda happened, and Andy is a super sweet guy, but our values don’t align and I just don’t feel that spark with him the way he does with me.
I feel so confused, frustrated, and overwhelmed, I don’t know what to do and how to solve this, but I’m tired of denying how I feel and I’m tired of feeling like I can’t show who I really am and how I sparkle.
If anyone has any advice, I would appreciate your help more than anything. Thank you for reading and I hope you have a wonderful day

Okay, for some context, I am religious and a girl. Part of the reason I began to realize I might be ace is that the whole 'waiting for marriage thing' didnt really seem like a big deal to me, I didnt understand why people would tell me it was difficult. I would get the stereotypical "you'll change your mind, you'll probably do it before marriage anyway" and similar statements I hear ace people are often told.

For a while I thought nothing of it, and thought maybe they were right, but now years have gone by and I still feel the same. In fact, I've gained experiences like making out and whatnot and I really don't understand what the big deal is. I don't imagine that sex would be that big of a deal either, and the more I think about it, the thought of having sex even after I get married isnt appealing. Like at all.

I think its slowly becoming more apparent to the people I know that I might be ace, and I've gotten a lot of different reactions from others, but by far the strangest is from my brother. Every time I've told him something like "I dont think waiting for marriage is a big deal", or "idk if I would even do that after marriage", or "I want to get married but I don't want to sleep with my husband", he will be incredibly shocked by my perspective and say things like "your poor husband", or tell me that all guys want to have sex, and that if I want to be with a high achieving man, that man is going to want a lot of sex with me (because apparently all men are motivated by sex and only become successful because they want to sleep with women???). Most strangely, he tells me that because I'm looking for a partner who is also religious, that the only way I'm going to end up with someone who doesn't want sexual intercourse is if he is secretly gay, and that I am more likely to end up with a gay man who cheats on me than a man who is also ace.

I'm not really too worried about that happening, I think his perspective on it is kind of insane. I just wanted to share the craziest response I've received to expressing what might(?) be my asexuality (I'm still figuring it out). Has anyone else had crazy responses to their aceness, or ones similar to mine?

I'd literally just want to read, okay video games, or watch TV in my room and eat snacks. Literally anything else than wanting to have sex. 😂