AITA for being upset at how he asked for a prenup?
My boyfriend and I have been together almost 2 years. We have discussed marriage but he has not proposed yet. We are older, mid 40’s and 50’s. We have kids from previous relationships (all are grown but 1 of mine). We have discussed prenups, which I am fine with signing however he told me “Unfortunately if you want to marry me you have to go through my lawyer.” He hasn’t even proposed. I felt like it was coarse, un gentleman like behavior to address such a complex topic so crassly. My former spouse is deceased. There is a small amount of property involved on my side, some student loan debt, and one of my children has financial benefits related to his fathers death. I think how he addressed the topic was wrong. I dont carry the same amount of assets into the potential marriage as he does. He had a messy divorce prior to me and feels the need to protect his assets, which is reasonable. I think he put the cart before the horse. I am fine with maintaining separate accounts and financial independence but something about his comment really rubbed me the wrong way, especially without a proposal. He offered to pay the legal fees associated with his request, which I feel I should not accept. The prenuptial agreement as I understand it will protect his assets. I don’t really have any plans to modify or, or make any changes to it. Am I the asshole for thinking he is the asshole right now?