AITA or is my gf in the wrong for lying to me.
ngl I feel kinda weird even typing this out but I just want some outside opinions
I’ve been seeing this girl for a bit like three months (both left long term relationships around the same time, 22M, 25F) and everything’s actually been really good, nothing toxic, very healthy and mature. we get along super easily, she’s really caring, and I’ve been starting to like her a lot.
she recently went on a trip to Korea for a week with friends (planned prior to meeting me), and her ex was part of that friend group… before she went, I asked her about it straight up that it kinda bothered me and she told me she’d have her own bed/room and that she’s “not that type of person” so nothing would happen. she also reassured me she has zero feelings for him and would never go back.
fast forward, i hear from my close friend she’s also friends with, she ended up sharing a bed with her ex on the trip.
i haven’t brought it up to her yet because she’s at coachella right now with her other friends (no invite lol), but it’s kinda messing with me. like yeah the situation itself is weird, but what’s bothering me more is that she told me something completely different before.
like if plans changed or whatever, I feel like she could’ve just told me instead of making it seem like that would never happen.
I’m kinda stuck between:
• thinking maybe I’m overreacting and it was just a overthinking thing
• and feeling like this is lowkey disrespectful / a trust issue
I don’t expect someone to not have a past or never be around their ex, but sharing a bed with them (especially after saying you wouldn’t) just doesn’t sit right with me.
at the same time she’s been really good to me otherwise which is why I’m conflicted
am I tripping or is this something you wouldn’t be okay with either?