u/Last-Plankton-5796

Geçen hafta hikâyemi paylaşmıştım ve hepiniz bana çok destek oldunuz. Her şeye karar vermiştim ve eşim iki gündür bana yalvarıyor. Kapıma geldi, ona her şeyin bittiğini söyledim. Buna rağmen sabaha kadar kapının önünde yattı. Sürekli yalvardı. Sabah yine, akşam yine… Gözyaşları, yakarışlar… Ona acıdım. şu an kendimden utanıyorum. Bana bir ay vermemi, kararımı o zaman vermemi istedi. Yanımdan gitmediği için dün geceyi onunla geçirmek zorunda kaldım. Bu sabah yatağıma kahvaltı getirdi ve ağladı. Ona açık açık artık onu sevmediğimi söyledim ama eski duygularımın geri geleceğini söyledi.

Az önce işe gitti ve ben şimdi ağlıyorum. Her şeyden emindim. Hislerimden emindim. Gelecek için heyecan duyuyordum. Şimdi ise kendimden utanıyorum. Nefes alamıyormuşum gibi hissediyorum. Hiç böyle bir durum yaşayan oldu mu? Sonrasında ne yaşadınız?

Last week I shared my story, and you were all so supportive. Thank you for your support. I haven’t been able to write since yesterday. The reason is that my husband has been begging me for two days. He came to my door, but I didn’t let him in; I told him it was over. He slept in front of the door until morning. He begged. Again in the morning, again in the evening. Tears and pleas. I felt sorry for him. But I’m ashamed of myself. He asked me to give him a month and make my decision after that. Since he wouldn’t leave me, I had to spend last night with him. This morning, he brought breakfast to my bed and hugged me while I was crying. I told him to his face that I didn’t love him, but he said it would bring back my old feelings. He just left for work, and I’m crying. I was certain of everything. I was certain of my feelings. I was excited about the future. Now I’m ashamed of myself. I feel like I can’t breathe. Have you ever been in a situation like this, and what happened afterward?

Last week I shared my story, and you were all so supportive. Thank you for your support. I haven’t been able to write since yesterday. The reason is that my husband has been begging me for two days. He came to my door, but I didn’t let him in; I told him it was over. He slept in front of the door until morning. He begged. Again in the morning, again in the evening. Tears and pleas. I felt sorry for him. But I’m ashamed of myself. He asked me to give him a month and make my decision after that. Since he wouldn’t leave me, I had to spend last night with him. This morning, he brought breakfast to my bed and hugged me while I was crying. I told him to his face that I didn’t love him, but he said it would bring back my old feelings. He just left for work, and I’m crying. I was certain of everything. I was certain of my feelings. I was excited about the future. Now I’m ashamed of myself. I feel like I can’t breathe. Have you ever been in a situation like this, and what happened afterward?

Last week I shared my story, and you were all so supportive. Thank you for your support. I haven’t been able to write since yesterday. The reason is that my husband has been begging me for two days. He came to my door, but I didn’t let him in; I told him it was over. He slept in front of the door until morning. He begged. Again in the morning, again in the evening. Tears and pleas. I felt sorry for him. But I’m ashamed of myself. He asked me to give him a month and make my decision after that. Since he wouldn’t leave me, I had to spend last night with him. This morning, he brought breakfast to my bed and hugged me while I was crying. I told him to his face that I didn’t love him, but he said it would bring back my old feelings. He just left for work, and I’m crying. I was certain of everything. I was certain of my feelings. I was excited about the future. Now I’m ashamed of myself. I feel like I can’t breathe. Have you ever been in a situation like this, and what happened afterward?

Two days ago, I left that house for the first time in five years. He told me, “Since you’re a woman, you have to clean the kitchen because I pay the bills.” I told him I didn’t want to put up with this nonsense anymore. “Of course, that’s not the only reason” (I’ve shared my story in detail in many communities before; those who are curious can check my profile), today is the third day with no contact—I need to go get my things. Thinking about the decision to divorce is hard, but this is what I have to do. How did you carry out this decision after making it? What were the most important things that gave you strength? I’m going through emotional ups and downs, changing my mind every 10 minutes throughout the day.

Two days ago, I left that house for the first time in five years. He told me, “Since you’re a woman, you have to clean the kitchen because I pay the bills.” I told him I didn’t want to put up with this nonsense anymore. “Of course, that’s not the only reason” (I’ve shared my story in detail in many communities before; those who are curious can check my profile), today is the third day with no contact—I need to go get my things. Thinking about the decision to divorce is hard, but this is what I have to do. How did you carry out this decision after making it? What were the most important things that gave you strength? I’m going through emotional ups and downs, changing my mind every 10 minutes throughout the day.

I’m 26 years old. I have a good job and I’m attracti….My husband is 40 but he looks 30 and we’ve been married for two years. He is obsessed with sports — he works out six days a week — and he owns his own business. Financially, he is very well off, but he is extremely stingy and hates spending money.

We’ve been together for five years. Before getting married, I had so many redflags because I had already seen countless red flags. I still don’t know what kept me in the relationship, but I went through with the marriage anyway.

The first months of our marriage were a nightmare. He would get angry and yell over the smallest things. For example, one day he screamed at me just because I woke up later than him, questioning what kind of woman I was. Another time, when I was about to use his credit card for the first time before our honeymoon, I bought towels and also a lipstick, and he called me a thief. After that, I never used his card again.

There were thousands of situations like this. He would always yell, I would cry, and then later he would apologize.

By the end of the first year, I became emotionally numb. I changed. I became someone who could yell back and say no, but inside I felt worn down and emotionally disconnected. I’ve also lost all desire for intimacy — I haven’t been able to sleep with him for the past six months.

To be fair, he is calmer now and tries harder to please me, but his priorities have always been his work and his workouts.

I’m both a student and a working woman. Last night, after coming home, I cooked dinner and was exhausted, so I asked him if he could clean the kitchen when he got back from the gym. That request turned into a huge fight. He said the kitchen was my responsibility and that if I made the mess, I should clean it myself. Of course, I exploded emotionally.

feel like I already know what I should do, but I can’t do it. Sometimes I even blame myself. During the argument, he said, “I pay the bills,” but the apartment we live in already belongs to him. Other than that, he only pays the utility bills and sometimes meals when we eat out. I live on my own salary.

I think the reasons I stayed were the “good” sides I focused on: he has never cheated on me, he doesn’t have a life outside of work, the gym, and home, and he has a very strong personality. Maybe those were the things that convinced me to stay.

Please suggest something that might help me, because I can't do it

I’m 26 years old. I have a good job and I’m attracti….My husband is 40 but he looks 30 and we’ve been married for two years. He is obsessed with sports — he works out six days a week — and he owns his own business. Financially, he is very well off, but he is extremely stingy and hates spending money.

We’ve been together for five years. Before getting married, I had so many redflags because I had already seen countless red flags. I still don’t know what kept me in the relationship, but I went through with the marriage anyway.

The first months of our marriage were a nightmare. He would get angry and yell over the smallest things. For example, one day he screamed at me just because I woke up later than him, questioning what kind of woman I was. Another time, when I was about to use his credit card for the first time before our honeymoon, I bought towels and also a lipstick, and he called me a thief. After that, I never used his card again.

There were thousands of situations like this. He would always yell, I would cry, and then later he would apologize.

By the end of the first year, I became emotionally numb. I changed. I became someone who could yell back and say no, but inside I felt worn down and emotionally disconnected. I’ve also lost all desire for intimacy — I haven’t been able to sleep with him for the past six months.

To be fair, he is calmer now and tries harder to please me, but his priorities have always been his work and his workouts.

I’m both a student and a working woman. Last night, after coming home, I cooked dinner and was exhausted, so I asked him if he could clean the kitchen when he got back from the gym. That request turned into a huge fight. He said the kitchen was my responsibility and that if I made the mess, I should clean it myself. Of course, I exploded emotionally.

feel like I already know what I should do, but I can’t do it. Sometimes I even blame myself. During the argument, he said, “I pay the bills,” but the apartment we live in already belongs to him. Other than that, he only pays the utility bills and sometimes meals when we eat out. I live on my own salary.

I think the reasons I stayed were the “good” sides I focused on: he has never cheated on me, he doesn’t have a life outside of work, the gym, and home, and he has a very strong personality. Maybe those were the things that convinced me to stay.

Please suggest something that might help me, because I can't do it

I am 26 years old. I have a good job and I am considered physically attractive. I am a kind and sensitive person; unfortunately, I cannot be harsh with people. I am very emotional. My husband is 40 years old, but he looks like he's around 30 years old when seen from the outside, and he appears to be a very stern person. We've been married for two years. He is passionate about sports—training six days a week—and owns his own business. He is very wealthy, but extremely stingy and hates spending money.

We have been together for five years. Before we got married, I had countless doubts because I had seen so many negative signs. Despite his very good financial situation, I moved into his bachelor pad. Although I was hurt by this, I ignored it due to economic circumstances; I thought there was no need to spend money unnecessarily. Actually, what really wore me down wasn't financial issues, but emotional ones. For example, when I told him I couldn't find a wedding dress, he said to me, "that's your problem," and an hour later he regretted saying that. I still don't know what kept me in that relationship, but I still got married.

The first months of our marriage were a complete nightmare. He would get angry and shout at the slightest thing. One day, he yelled at me just because I woke up later than him and questioned what kind of woman I was. According to him, women should wake up before their husbands. Another time, before our honeymoon, I was going to use her credit card for the first time; I bought a lipstick while buying a towel, and she said to me, "Are you a thief? You should have asked me first." said." I've never used your card again since that day.

Thousands of similar incidents occurred. He would shout, I would cry, then he would regret it.

By the end of the first year, I became emotionally numb. I changed. I became someone who could say no and stand up for myself, but deep down I became emotionless and lost my emotional connection. Then the roles shifted somewhat. Unfortunately, I have also completely lost my sexual desire; I haven't been able to have a close relationship with him for about six months. This isn't working.

To be honest, he's calmer now and makes more of an effort to make me happy, but work and sports are always his priorities.

I am both a student and a working woman. Last night, I came home and prepared dinner. Since I was tired, I asked if she could clean the kitchen after returning from the gym. This led to a major argument. She said that the kitchen was my responsibility and that I had to clean up the mess I had made myself. Naturally, I experienced a major emotional collapse.

I think I know what I should do, but I can't. Sometimes I even look for flaws in myself. During the discussion, he told me, "I pay the bills, so you have to do it too." said. But the house we live in already belongs to him. Apart from that, he only pays the bills, and when we eat out, he usually pays the bill. I live on my own salary. I don't receive any extra financial support from him. Additionally, I do the grocery shopping for the household meals because I arrive home before him. I cook at home two or three times a week; On other days, I work in the evenings, and she eats out alone.

Additionally, during our international travels, she usually covers most of the expenses; I pay for the hotel costs, and she covers the remaining expenses.

I think the reason I stayed in the relationship was because I focused on his "good" qualities: never cheating on me, his life consisting only of work, sports, and home, and having a strong character. Or maybe it was because he listened to me—listening to my problems with friends or work and offering advice. He was someone whom others respected. Maybe these were the things that kept me in the relationship.

Even though I've gone to therapy many times, I still don't understand why I can't break up, why I can't walk away. Maybe someone who's gone through something similar could say something that might help me. Thank you.

I am 26 years old. I have a good job and I am considered physically attractive. I am a kind and sensitive person; unfortunately, I cannot be harsh with people. I am very emotional. My husband is 40 years old, but he looks like he's around 30 years old when seen from the outside, and he appears to be a very stern person. We've been married for two years. He is passionate about sports—training six days a week—and owns his own business. He is very wealthy, but extremely stingy and hates spending money.

We have been together for five years. Before we got married, I had countless doubts because I had seen so many negative signs. Despite his very good financial situation, I moved into his bachelor pad. Although I was hurt by this, I ignored it due to economic circumstances; I thought there was no need to spend money unnecessarily. Actually, what really wore me down wasn't financial issues, but emotional ones. For example, when I told him I couldn't find a wedding dress, he said to me, "that's your problem," and an hour later he regretted saying that. I still don't know what kept me in that relationship, but I still got married.

The first months of our marriage were a complete nightmare. He would get angry and shout at the slightest thing. One day, he yelled at me just because I woke up later than him and questioned what kind of woman I was. According to him, women should wake up before their husbands. Another time, before our honeymoon, I was going to use her credit card for the first time; I bought a lipstick while buying a towel, and she said to me, "Are you a thief? You should have asked me first." said." I've never used your card again since that day.

Thousands of similar incidents occurred. He would shout, I would cry, then he would regret it.

By the end of the first year, I became emotionally numb. I changed. I became someone who could say no and stand up for myself, but deep down I became emotionless and lost my emotional connection. Then the roles shifted somewhat. Unfortunately, I have also completely lost my sexual desire; I haven't been able to have a close relationship with him for about six months. This isn't working.

To be honest, he's calmer now and makes more of an effort to make me happy, but work and sports are always his priorities.

I am both a student and a working woman. Last night, I came home and prepared dinner. Since I was tired, I asked if she could clean the kitchen after returning from the gym. This led to a major argument. She said that the kitchen was my responsibility and that I had to clean up the mess I had made myself. Naturally, I experienced a major emotional collapse.

I think I know what I should do, but I can't. Sometimes I even look for flaws in myself. During the discussion, he told me, "I pay the bills, so you have to do it too." said. But the house we live in already belongs to him. Apart from that, he only pays the bills, and when we eat out, he usually pays the bill. I live on my own salary. I don't receive any extra financial support from him. Additionally, I do the grocery shopping for the household meals because I arrive home before him. I cook at home two or three times a week; On other days, I work in the evenings, and she eats out alone.

Additionally, during our international travels, she usually covers most of the expenses; I pay for the hotel costs, and she covers the remaining expenses.

I think the reason I stayed in the relationship was because I focused on his "good" qualities: never cheating on me, his life consisting only of work, sports, and home, and having a strong character. Or maybe it was because he listened to me—listening to my problems with friends or work and offering advice. He was someone whom others respected. Maybe these were the things that kept me in the relationship.

Even though I've gone to therapy many times, I still don't understand why I can't break up, why I can't walk away. Maybe someone who's gone through something similar could say something that might help me. Thank you.

I am 26 years old. I have a good job and I am considered physically attractive. I am a kind and sensitive person; unfortunately, I cannot be harsh with people. I am very emotional. My husband is 40 years old, but he looks like he's around 30 years old when seen from the outside, and he appears to be a very stern person. We've been married for two years. He is passionate about sports—training six days a week—and owns his own business. He is very wealthy, but extremely stingy and hates spending money.

We have been together for five years. Before we got married, I had countless doubts because I had seen so many negative signs. Despite his very good financial situation, I moved into his bachelor pad. Although I was hurt by this, I ignored it due to economic circumstances; I thought there was no need to spend money unnecessarily. Actually, what really wore me down wasn't financial issues, but emotional ones. For example, when I told him I couldn't find a wedding dress, he said to me, "that's your problem," and an hour later he regretted saying that. I still don't know what kept me in that relationship, but I still got married.

The first months of our marriage were a complete nightmare. He would get angry and shout at the slightest thing. One day, he yelled at me just because I woke up later than him and questioned what kind of woman I was. According to him, women should wake up before their husbands. Another time, before our honeymoon, I was going to use her credit card for the first time; I bought a lipstick while buying a towel, and she said to me, "Are you a thief? You should have asked me first." said." I've never used your card again since that day.

Thousands of similar incidents occurred. He would shout, I would cry, then he would regret it.

By the end of the first year, I became emotionally numb. I changed. I became someone who could say no and stand up for myself, but deep down I became emotionless and lost my emotional connection. Then the roles shifted somewhat. Unfortunately, I have also completely lost my sexual desire; I haven't been able to have a close relationship with him for about six months. This isn't working.

To be honest, he's calmer now and makes more of an effort to make me happy, but work and sports are always his priorities.

I am both a student and a working woman. Last night, I came home and prepared dinner. Since I was tired, I asked if she could clean the kitchen after returning from the gym. This led to a major argument. She said that the kitchen was my responsibility and that I had to clean up the mess I had made myself. Naturally, I experienced a major emotional collapse.

I think I know what I should do, but I can't. Sometimes I even look for flaws in myself. During the discussion, he told me, "I pay the bills, so you have to do it too." said. But the house we live in already belongs to him. Apart from that, he only pays the bills, and when we eat out, he usually pays the bill. I live on my own salary. I don't receive any extra financial support from him. Additionally, I do the grocery shopping for the household meals because I arrive home before him. I cook at home two or three times a week; On other days, I work in the evenings, and she eats out alone.

Additionally, during our international travels, she usually covers most of the expenses; I pay for the hotel costs, and she covers the remaining expenses.

I think the reason I stayed in the relationship was because I focused on his "good" qualities: never cheating on me, his life consisting only of work, sports, and home, and having a strong character. Or maybe it was because he listened to me—listening to my problems with friends or work and offering advice. He was someone whom others respected. Maybe these were the things that kept me in the relationship.

Even though I've gone to therapy many times, I still don't understand why I can't break up, why I can't walk away. Maybe someone who's gone through something similar could say something that might help me. Thank you.

I am 26 years old. I have a good job and I am considered physically attractive. I am a kind and sensitive person; unfortunately, I cannot be harsh with people. I am very emotional. My husband is 40 years old, but he looks like he's around 30 years old when seen from the outside, and he appears to be a very stern person. We've been married for two years. He is passionate about sports—training six days a week—and owns his own business. He is very wealthy, but extremely stingy and hates spending money.

We have been together for five years. Before we got married, I had countless doubts because I had seen so many negative signs. Despite his very good financial situation, I moved into his bachelor pad. Although I was hurt by this, I ignored it due to economic circumstances; I thought there was no need to spend money unnecessarily. Actually, what really wore me down wasn't financial issues, but emotional ones. For example, when I told him I couldn't find a wedding dress, he said to me, "that's your problem," and an hour later he regretted saying that. I still don't know what kept me in that relationship, but I still got married.

The first months of our marriage were a complete nightmare. He would get angry and shout at the slightest thing. One day, he yelled at me just because I woke up later than him and questioned what kind of woman I was. According to him, women should wake up before their husbands. Another time, before our honeymoon, I was going to use her credit card for the first time; I bought a lipstick while buying a towel, and she said to me, "Are you a thief? You should have asked me first." said." I've never used your card again since that day.

Thousands of similar incidents occurred. He would shout, I would cry, then he would regret it.

By the end of the first year, I became emotionally numb. I changed. I became someone who could say no and stand up for myself, but deep down I became emotionless and lost my emotional connection. Then the roles shifted somewhat. Unfortunately, I have also completely lost my sexual desire; I haven't been able to have a close relationship with him for about six months. This isn't working.

To be honest, he's calmer now and makes more of an effort to make me happy, but work and sports are always his priorities.

I am both a student and a working woman. Last night, I came home and prepared dinner. Since I was tired, I asked if she could clean the kitchen after returning from the gym. This led to a major argument. She said that the kitchen was my responsibility and that I had to clean up the mess I had made myself. Naturally, I experienced a major emotional collapse.

I think I know what I should do, but I can't. Sometimes I even look for flaws in myself. During the discussion, he told me, "I pay the bills, so you have to do it too." said. But the house we live in already belongs to him. Apart from that, he only pays the bills, and when we eat out, he usually pays the bill. I live on my own salary. I don't receive any extra financial support from him. Additionally, I do the grocery shopping for the household meals because I arrive home before him. I cook at home two or three times a week; On other days, I work in the evenings, and she eats out alone.

Additionally, during our international travels, she usually covers most of the expenses; I pay for the hotel costs, and she covers the remaining expenses.

I think the reason I stayed in the relationship was because I focused on his "good" qualities: never cheating on me, his life consisting only of work, sports, and home, and having a strong character. Or maybe it was because he listened to me—listening to my problems with friends or work and offering advice. He was someone whom others respected. Maybe these were the things that kept me in the relationship.

Even though I've gone to therapy many times, I still don't understand why I can't break up, why I can't walk away. Maybe someone who's gone through something similar could say something that might help me. Thank you.

I am 26 years old. I have a good job and I am considered physically attractive. I am a kind and sensitive person; unfortunately, I cannot be harsh with people. I am very emotional. My husband is 40 years old, but he looks like he's around 30 years old when seen from the outside, and he appears to be a very stern person. We've been married for two years. He is passionate about sports—training six days a week—and owns his own business. He is very wealthy, but extremely stingy and hates spending money.

We have been together for five years. Before we got married, I had countless doubts because I had seen so many negative signs. Despite his very good financial situation, I moved into his bachelor pad. Although I was hurt by this, I ignored it due to economic circumstances; I thought there was no need to spend money unnecessarily. Actually, what really wore me down wasn't financial issues, but emotional ones. For example, when I told him I couldn't find a wedding dress, he said to me, "that's your problem," and an hour later he regretted saying that. I still don't know what kept me in that relationship, but I still got married.

The first months of our marriage were a complete nightmare. He would get angry and shout at the slightest thing. One day, he yelled at me just because I woke up later than him and questioned what kind of woman I was. According to him, women should wake up before their husbands. Another time, before our honeymoon, I was going to use her credit card for the first time; I bought a lipstick while buying a towel, and she said to me, "Are you a thief? You should have asked me first." said." I've never used your card again since that day.

Thousands of similar incidents occurred. He would shout, I would cry, then he would regret it.

By the end of the first year, I became emotionally numb. I changed. I became someone who could say no and stand up for myself, but deep down I became emotionless and lost my emotional connection. Then the roles shifted somewhat. Unfortunately, I have also completely lost my sexual desire; I haven't been able to have a close relationship with him for about six months. This isn't working.

To be honest, he's calmer now and makes more of an effort to make me happy, but work and sports are always his priorities.

I am both a student and a working woman. Last night, I came home and prepared dinner. Since I was tired, I asked if she could clean the kitchen after returning from the gym. This led to a major argument. She said that the kitchen was my responsibility and that I had to clean up the mess I had made myself. Naturally, I experienced a major emotional collapse.

I think I know what I should do, but I can't. Sometimes I even look for flaws in myself. During the discussion, he told me, "I pay the bills, so you have to do it too." said. But the house we live in already belongs to him. Apart from that, he only pays the bills, and when we eat out, he usually pays the bill. I live on my own salary. I don't receive any extra financial support from him. Additionally, I do the grocery shopping for the household meals because I arrive home before him. I cook at home two or three times a week; On other days, I work in the evenings, and she eats out alone.

Additionally, during our international travels, she usually covers most of the expenses; I pay for the hotel costs, and she covers the remaining expenses.

I think the reason I stayed in the relationship was because I focused on his "good" qualities: never cheating on me, his life consisting only of work, sports, and home, and having a strong character. Or maybe it was because he listened to me—listening to my problems with friends or work and offering advice. He was someone whom others respected. Maybe these were the things that kept me in the relationship.

Even though I've gone to therapy many times, I still don't understand why I can't break up, why I can't walk away. Maybe someone who's gone through something similar could say something that might help me. Thank you.

I am 26 years old. I have a good job and my appearance is quite good as well. I am a kind and sensitive person; I cannot be bad with people, unfortunately I am very emotional. My husband is 40 years old but looks around 30, and he is a very stern person from the outside. We have been married for two years. He is obsessive about sports he trains six days a week and he has his own business. His financial situation is quite good, but he is extremely stingy and does not like spending money at all. We have been together for five years. Before getting married, I had many question marks in my mind because I had seen countless red flags. Despite his very good financial situation, I moved into his bachelor apartment. Even though I was hurt by this, I did not make it a problem; I thought there was no need to spend money due to economic conditions.

Actually, it was not financial issues that wore me down, but emotional ones. Things like him saying “that’s your problem” when I said I couldn’t find a wedding dress, and then regretting it an hour later. I still don’t know what kept me in the relationship, but I still got married.

The first months of the marriage were a complete nightmare. He would get angry and shout at the slightest thing. For example, one day he yelled at me just because I woke up late, questioning what kind of woman I was. He said that women are supposed to wake up before their husbands. Another time, before going on our honeymoon, I was going to use his credit card for the first time; while buying a towel, I also bought a lipstick, and he said to me, “Are you a thief? You should ask me first.” After that day, I never used his card again.

Thousands of similar incidents happened. He would shout, I would cry, then he would regret it.

At the end of the first year, I became emotionally numb. I changed. I became someone who can say no and stand up for herself, but inside I became dull and completely emotionally detached. This time the roles changed a bit. Unfortunately, I have completely lost my sexual desire; I have not been able to be close to him for about six months. This is not working.

To be fair, he is now a calmer person and tries more to make me happy, but his priorities are always work and sports.

I am both a student and a working woman. Yesterday I came home and cooked dinner, and since I was very tired, I asked him whether he could clean the kitchen when he returned from the gym. This turned into a big argument. He said the kitchen is my responsibility and I should clean it the way I left it. I naturally had a major emotional breakdown.

I feel like I know what I should do, but I cannot do it. Sometimes I even blame myself. During the argument, he said, “I pay the bills, so you have to do it too,” but the house we live in already belongs to him. Apart from that, he only pays the bills, and when we eat out he usually pays. I live on my own salary. I do not receive any additional financial support from him. I also buy the groceries for home cooking because I get home earlier. I cook at home two or three times a week; on other days I work in the evenings and he eats out by himself.

In addition, he usually covers the costs of our international trips; I pay for the hotels, and he covers the remaining expenses.

I think the reason I stayed in the relationship was because I focused on his “good” sides: that he never cheated on me, that his life is only work–sports–home, and that he has a strong character. Or maybe because he listens to me, listens to my problems with friends or work and gives advice. He is a respected person. Maybe these were the things that kept me in the relationship.

Even though I have gone to a psychologist many times, I still have not been able to understand why I cannot leave or walk away. I thought maybe someone who has gone through something similar might say something that could help me. Thank you.

I am 26 years old. I have a good job and my appearance is quite good as well. I am a kind and sensitive person; I cannot be bad with people, unfortunately I am very emotional. My husband is 40 years old but looks around 30, and he is a very stern person from the outside. We have been married for two years. He is obsessive about sports he trains six days a week and he has his own business. His financial situation is quite good, but he is extremely stingy and does not like spending money at all. We have been together for five years. Before getting married, I had many question marks in my mind because I had seen countless red flags. Despite his very good financial situation, I moved into his bachelor apartment. Even though I was hurt by this, I did not make it a problem; I thought there was no need to spend money due to economic conditions.

Actually, it was not financial issues that wore me down, but emotional ones. Things like him saying “that’s your problem” when I said I couldn’t find a wedding dress, and then regretting it an hour later. I still don’t know what kept me in the relationship, but I still got married.

The first months of the marriage were a complete nightmare. He would get angry and shout at the slightest thing. For example, one day he yelled at me just because I woke up late, questioning what kind of woman I was. He said that women are supposed to wake up before their husbands. Another time, before going on our honeymoon, I was going to use his credit card for the first time; while buying a towel, I also bought a lipstick, and he said to me, “Are you a thief? You should ask me first.” After that day, I never used his card again.

Thousands of similar incidents happened. He would shout, I would cry, then he would regret it.

At the end of the first year, I became emotionally numb. I changed. I became someone who can say no and stand up for herself, but inside I became dull and completely emotionally detached. This time the roles changed a bit. Unfortunately, I have completely lost my sexual desire; I have not been able to be close to him for about six months. This is not working.

To be fair, he is now a calmer person and tries more to make me happy, but his priorities are always work and sports.

I am both a student and a working woman. Yesterday I came home and cooked dinner, and since I was very tired, I asked him whether he could clean the kitchen when he returned from the gym. This turned into a big argument. He said the kitchen is my responsibility and I should clean it the way I left it. I naturally had a major emotional breakdown.

I feel like I know what I should do, but I cannot do it. Sometimes I even blame myself. During the argument, he said, “I pay the bills, so you have to do it too,” but the house we live in already belongs to him. Apart from that, he only pays the bills, and when we eat out he usually pays. I live on my own salary. I do not receive any additional financial support from him. I also buy the groceries for home cooking because I get home earlier. I cook at home two or three times a week; on other days I work in the evenings and he eats out by himself.

In addition, he usually covers the costs of our international trips; I pay for the hotels, and he covers the remaining expenses.

I think the reason I stayed in the relationship was because I focused on his “good” sides: that he never cheated on me, that his life is only work–sports–home, and that he has a strong character. Or maybe because he listens to me, listens to my problems with friends or work and gives advice. He is a respected person. Maybe these were the things that kept me in the relationship.

Even though I have gone to a psychologist many times, I still have not been able to understand why I cannot leave or walk away. I thought maybe someone who has gone through something similar might say something that could help me. Thank you.

I am 26 years old. I have a good job and my appearance is quite good as well. I am a kind and sensitive person; I cannot be bad with people, unfortunately I am very emotional. My husband is 40 years old but looks around 30, and he is a very stern person from the outside. We have been married for two years. He is obsessive about sports he trains six days a week and he has his own business. His financial situation is quite good, but he is extremely stingy and does not like spending money at all. We have been together for five years. Before getting married, I had many question marks in my mind because I had seen countless red flags. Despite his very good financial situation, I moved into his bachelor apartment. Even though I was hurt by this, I did not make it a problem; I thought there was no need to spend money due to economic conditions.

Actually, it was not financial issues that wore me down, but emotional ones. Things like him saying “that’s your problem” when I said I couldn’t find a wedding dress, and then regretting it an hour later. I still don’t know what kept me in the relationship, but I still got married.

The first months of the marriage were a complete nightmare. He would get angry and shout at the slightest thing. For example, one day he yelled at me just because I woke up late, questioning what kind of woman I was. He said that women are supposed to wake up before their husbands. Another time, before going on our honeymoon, I was going to use his credit card for the first time; while buying a towel, I also bought a lipstick, and he said to me, “Are you a thief? You should ask me first.” After that day, I never used his card again.

Thousands of similar incidents happened. He would shout, I would cry, then he would regret it.

At the end of the first year, I became emotionally numb. I changed. I became someone who can say no and stand up for herself, but inside I became dull and completely emotionally detached. This time the roles changed a bit. Unfortunately, I have completely lost my sexual desire; I have not been able to be close to him for about six months. This is not working.

To be fair, he is now a calmer person and tries more to make me happy, but his priorities are always work and sports.

I am both a student and a working woman. Yesterday I came home and cooked dinner, and since I was very tired, I asked him whether he could clean the kitchen when he returned from the gym. This turned into a big argument. He said the kitchen is my responsibility and I should clean it the way I left it. I naturally had a major emotional breakdown.

I feel like I know what I should do, but I cannot do it. Sometimes I even blame myself. During the argument, he said, “I pay the bills, so you have to do it too,” but the house we live in already belongs to him. Apart from that, he only pays the bills, and when we eat out he usually pays. I live on my own salary. I do not receive any additional financial support from him. I also buy the groceries for home cooking because I get home earlier. I cook at home two or three times a week; on other days I work in the evenings and he eats out by himself.

In addition, he usually covers the costs of our international trips; I pay for the hotels, and he covers the remaining expenses.

I think the reason I stayed in the relationship was because I focused on his “good” sides: that he never cheated on me, that his life is only work–sports–home, and that he has a strong character. Or maybe because he listens to me, listens to my problems with friends or work and gives advice. He is a respected person. Maybe these were the things that kept me in the relationship.

Even though I have gone to a psychologist many times, I still have not been able to understand why I cannot leave or walk away. I thought maybe someone who has gone through something similar might say something that could help me. Thank you.

I am 26 years old. I have a good job and my appearance is quite good as well. I am a kind and sensitive person; I cannot be bad with people, unfortunately I am very emotional. My husband is 40 years old but looks around 30, and he is a very stern person from the outside. We have been married for two years. He is obsessive about sports he trains six days a week and he has his own business. His financial situation is quite good, but he is extremely stingy and does not like spending money at all. We have been together for five years. Before getting married, I had many question marks in my mind because I had seen countless red flags. Despite his very good financial situation, I moved into his bachelor apartment. Even though I was hurt by this, I did not make it a problem; I thought there was no need to spend money due to economic conditions.

Actually, it was not financial issues that wore me down, but emotional ones. Things like him saying “that’s your problem” when I said I couldn’t find a wedding dress, and then regretting it an hour later. I still don’t know what kept me in the relationship, but I still got married.

The first months of the marriage were a complete nightmare. He would get angry and shout at the slightest thing. For example, one day he yelled at me just because I woke up late, questioning what kind of woman I was. He said that women are supposed to wake up before their husbands. Another time, before going on our honeymoon, I was going to use his credit card for the first time; while buying a towel, I also bought a lipstick, and he said to me, “Are you a thief? You should ask me first.” After that day, I never used his card again.

Thousands of similar incidents happened. He would shout, I would cry, then he would regret it.

At the end of the first year, I became emotionally numb. I changed. I became someone who can say no and stand up for herself, but inside I became dull and completely emotionally detached. This time the roles changed a bit. Unfortunately, I have completely lost my sexual desire; I have not been able to be close to him for about six months. This is not working.

To be fair, he is now a calmer person and tries more to make me happy, but his priorities are always work and sports.

I am both a student and a working woman. Yesterday I came home and cooked dinner, and since I was very tired, I asked him whether he could clean the kitchen when he returned from the gym. This turned into a big argument. He said the kitchen is my responsibility and I should clean it the way I left it. I naturally had a major emotional breakdown.

I feel like I know what I should do, but I cannot do it. Sometimes I even blame myself. During the argument, he said, “I pay the bills, so you have to do it too,” but the house we live in already belongs to him. Apart from that, he only pays the bills, and when we eat out he usually pays. I live on my own salary. I do not receive any additional financial support from him. I also buy the groceries for home cooking because I get home earlier. I cook at home two or three times a week; on other days I work in the evenings and he eats out by himself.

In addition, he usually covers the costs of our international trips; I pay for the hotels, and he covers the remaining expenses.

I think the reason I stayed in the relationship was because I focused on his “good” sides: that he never cheated on me, that his life is only work–sports–home, and that he has a strong character. Or maybe because he listens to me, listens to my problems with friends or work and gives advice. He is a respected person. Maybe these were the things that kept me in the relationship.

Even though I have gone to a psychologist many times, I still have not been able to understand why I cannot leave or walk away. I thought maybe someone who has gone through something similar might say something that could help me. Thank you.

I am 26 years old. I have a good job and my appearance is quite good as well. I am a kind and sensitive person; I cannot be bad with people, unfortunately I am very emotional. My husband is 40 years old but looks around 30, and he is a very stern person from the outside. We have been married for two years. He is obsessive about sports he trains six days a week and he has his own business. His financial situation is quite good, but he is extremely stingy and does not like spending money at all. We have been together for five years. Before getting married, I had many question marks in my mind because I had seen countless red flags. Despite his very good financial situation, I moved into his bachelor apartment. Even though I was hurt by this, I did not make it a problem; I thought there was no need to spend money due to economic conditions.

Actually, it was not financial issues that wore me down, but emotional ones. Things like him saying “that’s your problem” when I said I couldn’t find a wedding dress, and then regretting it an hour later. I still don’t know what kept me in the relationship, but I still got married.

The first months of the marriage were a complete nightmare. He would get angry and shout at the slightest thing. For example, one day he yelled at me just because I woke up late, questioning what kind of woman I was. He said that women are supposed to wake up before their husbands. Another time, before going on our honeymoon, I was going to use his credit card for the first time; while buying a towel, I also bought a lipstick, and he said to me, “Are you a thief? You should ask me first.” After that day, I never used his card again.

Thousands of similar incidents happened. He would shout, I would cry, then he would regret it.

At the end of the first year, I became emotionally numb. I changed. I became someone who can say no and stand up for herself, but inside I became dull and completely emotionally detached. This time the roles changed a bit. Unfortunately, I have completely lost my sexual desire; I have not been able to be close to him for about six months. This is not working.

To be fair, he is now a calmer person and tries more to make me happy, but his priorities are always work and sports.

I am both a student and a working woman. Yesterday I came home and cooked dinner, and since I was very tired, I asked him whether he could clean the kitchen when he returned from the gym. This turned into a big argument. He said the kitchen is my responsibility and I should clean it the way I left it. I naturally had a major emotional breakdown.

I feel like I know what I should do, but I cannot do it. Sometimes I even blame myself. During the argument, he said, “I pay the bills, so you have to do it too,” but the house we live in already belongs to him. Apart from that, he only pays the bills, and when we eat out he usually pays. I live on my own salary. I do not receive any additional financial support from him. I also buy the groceries for home cooking because I get home earlier. I cook at home two or three times a week; on other days I work in the evenings and he eats out by himself.

In addition, he usually covers the costs of our international trips; I pay for the hotels, and he covers the remaining expenses.

I think the reason I stayed in the relationship was because I focused on his “good” sides: that he never cheated on me, that his life is only work–sports–home, and that he has a strong character. Or maybe because he listens to me, listens to my problems with friends or work and gives advice. He is a respected person. Maybe these were the things that kept me in the relationship.

Even though I have gone to a psychologist many times, I still have not been able to understand why I cannot leave or walk away. I thought maybe someone who has gone through something similar might say something that could help me. Thank you.

I am 26 years old. I have a good job and my appearance is quite good as well. I am a kind and sensitive person; I cannot be bad with people, unfortunately I am very emotional. My husband is 40 years old but looks around 30, and he is a very stern person from the outside. We have been married for two years. He is obsessive about sports he trains six days a week and he has his own business. His financial situation is quite good, but he is extremely stingy and does not like spending money at all. We have been together for five years. Before getting married, I had many question marks in my mind because I had seen countless red flags. Despite his very good financial situation, I moved into his bachelor apartment. Even though I was hurt by this, I did not make it a problem; I thought there was no need to spend money due to economic conditions.

Actually, it was not financial issues that wore me down, but emotional ones. Things like him saying “that’s your problem” when I said I couldn’t find a wedding dress, and then regretting it an hour later. I still don’t know what kept me in the relationship, but I still got married.

The first months of the marriage were a complete nightmare. He would get angry and shout at the slightest thing. For example, one day he yelled at me just because I woke up late, questioning what kind of woman I was. He said that women are supposed to wake up before their husbands. Another time, before going on our honeymoon, I was going to use his credit card for the first time; while buying a towel, I also bought a lipstick, and he said to me, “Are you a thief? You should ask me first.” After that day, I never used his card again.

Thousands of similar incidents happened. He would shout, I would cry, then he would regret it.

At the end of the first year, I became emotionally numb. I changed. I became someone who can say no and stand up for herself, but inside I became dull and completely emotionally detached. This time the roles changed a bit. Unfortunately, I have completely lost my sexual desire; I have not been able to be close to him for about six months. This is not working.

To be fair, he is now a calmer person and tries more to make me happy, but his priorities are always work and sports.

I am both a student and a working woman. Yesterday I came home and cooked dinner, and since I was very tired, I asked him whether he could clean the kitchen when he returned from the gym. This turned into a big argument. He said the kitchen is my responsibility and I should clean it the way I left it. I naturally had a major emotional breakdown.

I feel like I know what I should do, but I cannot do it. Sometimes I even blame myself. During the argument, he said, “I pay the bills, so you have to do it too,” but the house we live in already belongs to him. Apart from that, he only pays the bills, and when we eat out he usually pays. I live on my own salary. I do not receive any additional financial support from him. I also buy the groceries for home cooking because I get home earlier. I cook at home two or three times a week; on other days I work in the evenings and he eats out by himself.

In addition, he usually covers the costs of our international trips; I pay for the hotels, and he covers the remaining expenses.

I think the reason I stayed in the relationship was because I focused on his “good” sides: that he never cheated on me, that his life is only work–sports–home, and that he has a strong character. Or maybe because he listens to me, listens to my problems with friends or work and gives advice. He is a respected person. Maybe these were the things that kept me in the relationship.

Even though I have gone to a psychologist many times, I still have not been able to understand why I cannot leave or walk away. I thought maybe someone who has gone through something similar might say something that could help me. Thank you.

I am 26 years old. I have a good job and my appearance is quite good as well. I am a kind and sensitive person; I cannot be bad with people, unfortunately I am very emotional. My husband is 40 years old but looks around 30, and he is a very stern person from the outside. We have been married for two years. He is obsessive about sports he trains six days a week and he has his own business. His financial situation is quite good, but he is extremely stingy and does not like spending money at all. We have been together for five years. Before getting married, I had many question marks in my mind because I had seen countless red flags. Despite his very good financial situation, I moved into his bachelor apartment. Even though I was hurt by this, I did not make it a problem; I thought there was no need to spend money due to economic conditions.

Actually, it was not financial issues that wore me down, but emotional ones. Things like him saying “that’s your problem” when I said I couldn’t find a wedding dress, and then regretting it an hour later. I still don’t know what kept me in the relationship, but I still got married.

The first months of the marriage were a complete nightmare. He would get angry and shout at the slightest thing. For example, one day he yelled at me just because I woke up late, questioning what kind of woman I was. He said that women are supposed to wake up before their husbands. Another time, before going on our honeymoon, I was going to use his credit card for the first time; while buying a towel, I also bought a lipstick, and he said to me, “Are you a thief? You should ask me first.” After that day, I never used his card again.

Thousands of similar incidents happened. He would shout, I would cry, then he would regret it.

At the end of the first year, I became emotionally numb. I changed. I became someone who can say no and stand up for herself, but inside I became dull and completely emotionally detached. This time the roles changed a bit. Unfortunately, I have completely lost my sexual desire; I have not been able to be close to him for about six months. This is not working.

To be fair, he is now a calmer person and tries more to make me happy, but his priorities are always work and sports.

I am both a student and a working woman. Yesterday I came home and cooked dinner, and since I was very tired, I asked him whether he could clean the kitchen when he returned from the gym. This turned into a big argument. He said the kitchen is my responsibility and I should clean it the way I left it. I naturally had a major emotional breakdown.

I feel like I know what I should do, but I cannot do it. Sometimes I even blame myself. During the argument, he said, “I pay the bills, so you have to do it too,” but the house we live in already belongs to him. Apart from that, he only pays the bills, and when we eat out he usually pays. I live on my own salary. I do not receive any additional financial support from him. I also buy the groceries for home cooking because I get home earlier. I cook at home two or three times a week; on other days I work in the evenings and he eats out by himself.

In addition, he usually covers the costs of our international trips; I pay for the hotels, and he covers the remaining expenses.

I think the reason I stayed in the relationship was because I focused on his “good” sides: that he never cheated on me, that his life is only work–sports–home, and that he has a strong character. Or maybe because he listens to me, listens to my problems with friends or work and gives advice. He is a respected person. Maybe these were the things that kept me in the relationship.

Even though I have gone to a psychologist many times, I still have not been able to understand why I cannot leave or walk away. I thought maybe someone who has gone through something similar might say something that could help me. Thank you.