r/amiwrong

About a year ago my father in law asked if I could help him redo part of his basement. I do a lot of my own home repairs, so I brought over basically everything. Drill set, socket set, saws, levels, clamps, extension cords, all that stuff. The project took a few weekends and when we were done he said I could just leave the tools there since we still had a couple small things to finish later. It seemed easier, so I did.

The problem is that "leave them there" somehow turned into everybody using them. My brother in law borrowed my impact driver and brought it back with a cracked battery. A nephew took one of my tape measures and nobody knows where it went. My father in law lent out my ladder to a neighbor without asking me first. Every time I went over, something was in a different spot or missing entirely. I brought it up more than once and got a lot of "we'll replace it" or "it's not a big deal."

Last weekend I went over because I needed my miter saw for a project at home and couldn't even find the blade guard. My father in law said one of the guys had probably taken it off and forgot. That was kind of it for me. I loaded up every single thing that was mine and took it home. I even grabbed the little bins of screws and bits becuase those kept vanishing too.

Now my wife says I made things awkward because her dad thinks I was trying to send a message. He is right, I was. My brother in law texted me saying I embarrassed everybody over "some tools." But it wasnt some tools to me. It was a few thousand dollars worth of stuff that I paid for and kept having to replace.

Am I wrong for just taking my own stuff back without another discussion?

My cousin asked me to be a bridesmaid for her wedding, and since it was my first time ever being one, I immediately said yes. I was so excited and felt honored to be included.

A little while later, she explained that I would be responsible for all my own bridesmaid expenses. This included a customized dress ordered from a specific boutique, matching shoes she had already chosen, and professional hair and makeup done by her chosen stylist only to acvoid outshining the bride

After she broke down the details, I started realizing how expensive it all was for what is basically a one day event. I’ve been saving money and trying to be careful with my finances, and the total just didn’t feel realistic for me.

I talked to her privately and told her I might not be able to afford it anymore and would prefer to just attend as a guest instead. I also explained that I thought some of these costs would be optional or shared since I didn’t realize everything was expected to be out of pocket.

She told me I should have mentioned my budget from the beginning so they could have replaced me right away with someone who could afford it. I apologized and said I genuinely didn’t know how it usually works, and even offered a compromise where I would buy my own dress and do my own hair and makeup so I could still be part of the wedding in some way and still afford to give a proper gift.

She rejected that idea and said it would mess up the wedding plan. Now she’s upset with me and saying I’m selfish and ruining her wedding arrangements.

I feel bad because I don’t want to cause stress, but I also didn’t expect the financial burden to be this high.

AIW?

I work in a BPO company where operations run 24/7. We have a team group chat where coworkers often ask work related questions or ask for help with tasks.

Lately, I’ve been getting messages after my shift already ends from teammates asking me to guide them or fix things. What makes it more frustrating is that the on-duty support is often not available or already busy handling their own workload, and there are no other tenured agents around they can easily reach out to during those times.

Because of that, they’ve been messaging me even when I’m already off the clock.

I get that they’re new and still learning, but I’ve had a firm mindset that once I clock out, I’m off. I don’t bring work home and I don’t stay mentally “on call” after my shift unless it’s something truly urgent or officially escalated additionally those are unpaid so why do i care.

So I don't replying to messages after work hours unless it’s a real emergency.

Now some of my coworkers are saying I’m “not being a team player” or Im a snobber, don't know how to reply in messages and acting like I’m abandoning them when they need help, especially since they feel like I’m the only experienced person they can rely on.

I didn’t think I was doing anything wrong by separating work and personal time, but now I’m second guessing myself because of how they’re reacting.

AIW?

TL;DR: I stopped replying to work group chat messages after my shift ends, even when support is unavailable and I’m the only tenured person they can ask, and now coworkers say I’m not a team player.

Me and my brother had seperate upbringings I got adopted by good family that treat me like their own daughter while he became homeless as kid and made friends that I dont like, they ruined his life and made him get involved in many bad things. When I try to reach out to him after I grow up he was totally different person than I remember he was so cruel to me and he pushed me away.

And there is multiple events that happened that made my trust in him shutter forever like when he stole from me to get drugs, he break my houses window after a fight, I pay for his treatment after he OD on drugs, called me after he got stabbed for me to pay his hospital bills, I told him to go to rehab many times and even volunteer to pay for it but he refused.

He didnt get to his senses until he got 10 years in prison and even then he called me from prison to complain I never visit him. He overall been a really shitty brother for me through all our lives. We always fight whenever we talk it just turns into screaming I resent him too much.

Now that hes out of prison he became homeless like he been all his life. Im just so done with him but lately he found a job ,I let him use my address, and he seem like hes doing good in that job. Suprised how he didnt get fired yet but he been clean since he got into prison and hes acting different like he doesnt talk back to me when I roast him.

He also started going comminity school and he never went to school so there is that, hes apologizing to me but I cant forgive him for things he did. I still let him use my shower in exchange money. AITAH for not wanting him in my house

so I am AFAB and very fem but I’m non binary and I am pro choice for abortions because women derseve to choose what happens to their bodies. So I was talking to this guy and he said that he thinks it murder and when I brought up like non con he was well then they can get it and then when I brought up what about teen he said choices have consequence. I said so the conquzese of a teenagers mistake is a whole human life and potentially two because the mother could die as well and the men don’t have to take any blame even if it was half way their fault he said more but I tuned him out because overall I don’t think men should have an option on this i blocked him as well but my friend who is a women said i am in the wrong because its just an political opinion but i disagree because it has real world impacts and takes away women’s basic human rights over their body.

I’m (F24) talking to this guy (M 24) for about 3 months now. Things are going well and I think he’s going to ask me to be his girlfriend very soon. The problem is that as we get closer to it, I start to get cold feet and I think it’s because of what I’ve done. During the beginning of our talking stage I did meet up with other men, we didn’t have sex but we did go on dates and make out, and i did secretly text them here and there even though he said we were exclusive to each other. I just didn’t see it that way since we were never officially together. I don’t know if i was wrong for what I did or its normal during the talking stage? Seems like with my generation/age group it’s a deal breaker

>The other day I went out with my friends, it was our last hangout until our exams begin and it was to celebrate 2 friends birthdays. One friend I'll call G and the other I'll call M. I wasn't willing to go a few weeks ago due to me being on a tight budget (I'm dirt poor) but I decided to go anyway because it was our last hangout and I didn't want to miss out. The plan was to go bowling then Eat at Popeyes (for those who could afford) and then go Charity shopping. We had all agreed that one friend would pay £36 for all of us for bowling as we couldn't pay individually and then pay £7-8 back (there was five of us). So G paid for all of us but she added an extra £4 for an extra game than non of us had agreed prior. Me not wanting to seem cheap since no one else spoke up went along with it. G then said we all had to pay her back (no given deadline) £12. Me with only £14 in my bank count that I had been saving up all month for this hangout was faced with a dilemma. Either I pay her £12 pound back and not get Popeyes I wanted a meal which costs £10 or buy Popeyes, pay her what I had left , then pay her the remaining money a few weeks later (mystery shopping is my source of income and they pay about £5-7.50 per shop. They pay at the 10 of every month and it takes 5 days for the money to show in the account).
I automatically assumed to pay back wasn't THAT urgent since she had a job and previously that day she claimed to have £2.5k saved up in her bank account, so to her £12 wasn't that much so I could pay her back at my conviniece. Well, I decided to go with the second option which was stupid and I'm currently regretting it. I could've brought something much cheaper at Popeyes but I didn't which I am at fault for. Anyway after Popeyes and Greg's the others wanted to go charity shopping but it was already past my curfew and I needed to be home. Going charity shopping also meant that I had to spend an extra £2.50 for bus. I told G I needed to go home and she asked "what about being a rebel?" Persuading me to come. Knowing it was our last hangout i gave in which was also stupid because it was a waste of money (charity shops where all closed). But that was my fault for giving in to peer pressure. I eventually went home feeling relived thinking the hangout went well until the next day.G had asked me why i hadn't paid her back. I checked my bank account and there was only £2.30. I told her I couldn't pay her back the amount I owed her straight away and that she may have to wait a few weeks. She then told me she needed to be paid back asap because she needed the money for her mother (I think she owed her ). She also told me she spent a lot of money that day at town, leisurely and for presents (this was the day after the hangout). I apologised and explained that I don't have a stable source of income so getting £12 wasn't easy.
She then pointed out that I was being financially irresponsible with my money and that I knew that we were going bowling so I should have been aware of my spending choices, which I didn't protest against, she was right. She told me that her mother at was mad at her for spending money on her friends and explained I was the only one that hadn't paid her back yet. I felt extremely guilty and told her I wasn't sure what to do. She told me that i had to ask my parents for money, otherwise she'll get her mother to call my mother to pay her back. I really hated the idea of getting my parent involved with this for a number of reasons but the main was the fact that this was my mess to clean up so I had to take accountibility. I told her I wanted to leave my parents out of this but she made it clear that this wasn't an option. So I asked her give me 2 days.
I was really distressed about this whole money debacle because I really value G, we've been friends for 5 years and I didn't want to £12 pounds to get in the way of our friendship but after talking to another friend who came with us for the hangout (I'll call A) she had the same feelings as me, she was forced to take money off her parents to pay back and was annoyed she had to pay back an extra £4 that she didn't agree to pay for (she is also tight on money and unemployed). She explained the whole thing was unfair and that I shouldn't feel guilty. So now I'm conflicted. A made me feel like I was being too complacent about the whole thing but at the same time I don't want to escalate it because G seemed ready to argue when I said I couldn't pay her back asap. So AITA?

So I am teenager currently in foster care, and my parents are in prison. They've been there saicne I was 7 for manufacturing drugs. I haven't seen them in almost a decade, and I really just kinda forgot about them and focused on just living. I got a message through my case worker last week that my mom wanted me to visit her. I haven't seen here in 9 years, and I really don't remember much about her. I have been thinking about how my life is good right now. I have an amazing foster family, and I don't want to bring their mess back into my life.I was supposed to go see her this week, and I told my foster mom I didn't want to go see her. I feel guilty, but i don't know if I am doing the right thing or not. I just need an adult to tell me if I was wrong or not.

This is going to sound petty and I agree that it is. My girlfriend likes to play board games and games together on the Nintendo switch. Most of these game are just luck anyway with no skill needed but some of them you actually need skill.

I've been playing games a lot longer than my girlfriend so I am better at a lot of them. This means I win a lot of the time. Not all of the time though and there are still quite a few time times my gf wins.

The issue is she's starting to get annoyed whenever I win. I've tried talking to her about playing different games, maybe not playing at all if that's the reaction she has etc but she refuses.

She said it's shit watching me win all the time and that I could always let her win at times. I mention that she's not a child and me letting her win would be obvious so wouldn't really change anything.

I also point out a few of the games are just luck anyway so I can't really do anything with that. I mentioned that there's no enjoyment in it at all for me to just sit back deliberately losing.

I've bought her new games, we've tried co op games but she'll still have the same reaction. I bought her It Takes Two as I thought it would be good but as soon as I managed something easier than she did she just said it wasn't fun for her and stopped playing. I bought her Lego Star Wars and she again got annoyed when she died more or I collected more coins etc.

She said I should just want to enjoy playing the game with her and should be fine letting her win but I pointed out the same logic could be applied to her in that she should just be fine playing the game with me and be fine with me winning but she said it wasn't the same.

AITAH for not letting my girlfriend win when we play games?

So context my mom is quite strict if I don't listen to her even if it's something little she would ban me from so much stuff, so around 3 years ago I made the decision of avoiding conflict and arguments with her, yet yesterday I don't know why, I thought it's wouldn't result tosuch a big conflict, I decided to protest how I don't want to wash my brother tray since if he would just eat with us in the same dining table there would be no such tray I need to wash, but she got mad said she would ban me from lunch, and things just escalated, I apologised couple of times even though I was the one who was physically and verbally hurt, but she said I didn't change I am the same like how I was years ago the same bad daughter that cares about herself the most (I mean is it wrong to care about myself the most? ) she also said I took it to far with what I said and I was confused cause what did I say to her that was too far, I didn't cuss her or anything but me talking back to her, establishing my disagreements in such situation and wanting alterative chores that I could do was that too far? I mean I was disrespectful talking to my mom but I feel like she was the one who escalated the situation or is it fine cause she is the mom? Anyways currently she is ignoring me, and she said she wouldn't forgive me unless I wrote a million sorry, how is that reasonable, and the math addict in me was like let me count how many hours it would take me to write a million sorry, it was around 1111 hours, and if I only spent an hour a day writing, it would talk me 3 years, and why should I waste this much time on apologising I feel this is beyond reasonable, its like she is saying I don't want to forgive you. Idk what to do iprayed to god to help me cause I am quite a sensitive person and the whole environment/situation makes me feel so gloomy.

I (26F) had a best friend of 10 years who I’ll call “Jade” (25F). We’d been long distance for about 3 of those years. Last year I noticed her becoming increasingly invasive and clingy. Things were fine until I made the mistake of telling her I had gone on a date for the first time in years. She was visibly annoyed, so I changed the subject. She hung up shortly after, and went silent for a few days. She got over it because afterwards, any time she had a free moment she was calling to FaceTime me, and usually for multiple hours. And would try many guilt tripping tactics if I wanted to end calls early.

What started the problem is when I told her I needed a week or two of space and I wouldn’t have the bandwidth to talk to her because I had to manage apartment hunting in a new city, moving out of my apartment that I shared with a toxic roommate without him knowing, all the expected moving pains. Within an hour she was back to sending countless messages and within 3 days started sending multiple of her friends (high school mutuals that I haven’t spoken to since graduation) to flood my inboxes on social media, since I deliberately never gave them my number, to “check on me.”

I felt that was weird, and a little inappropriate of Jade. For context: none of those people even had condolences to offer me, let alone checked on me, when Jade told them about my parents dying—without even asking me if that was okay to share—but somehow this was the situation that required them to “check on me.” Why would I even need to be “checked on” because I didn’t want to talk for a bit? I simply didn’t acknowledge them.

Jade decided to give some of them my phone number so they could leave guilt tripping voicemails, and then she sent gifts to my old address for my birthday—which I couldn’t retrieve because of the roommate. Because she continued escalating, I continued ignoring her. This culminated in her sending police for wellness checks to all of my previous addresses that she could remember, at which point I directly told her to leave me alone and blocked her and everyone else she roped into this.

I know the ignoring probably wasn’t the best thing to do and may have even been petty and cruel because I dragged it out for a long time, but having been stalked before I felt like this behavior was stalking-adjacent and was too uncomfortable to talk to her again until she forced my hand. Was I wrong to block her? Did I blow it out of proportion?

This always ends up happening during conflicts in my family. It’s basically some disagreement happens and then I get irritated to the point where I cannot talk normally without yelling angrily. I decided it’s best that before it reaches that point I should stop talking to them.

Recently with a family member I told them before it got to that point that I’m annoyed right now and need them to stop talking to me about the situation. They kept explaining themselves and the whys and I started raising my voice more and more to tell them to stop talking to me. I even managed to explain calmly that right now I’m so annoyed that I cannot have a calm conversation and yet no understanding because they wanted to get their words out. It ended in a yelling argument and later they told me I was in the wrong for yelling at them and that I cannot just stop talking to them without solving the problem.

They apparently were so upset at this that they cried. I realized maybe it is true because it was a time issue and we should’ve solved it that same day bc of schedules. but I didn’t bc I already had a resolution in my head and if they had stopped it would’ve resolved with what I would do.

what do you think, should I work on myself bc of this? I tried for years not to get upset like this but it always ends up happening even when I’m not that upset, before I can think about it

married almost 6 years, together for about 11.5 years.

about 4 years ago, he became extremely depressed following a herniated disc injury and surgery. he worked in a packaging facility and his boss tried to move him into the office side of things so he could still work. he felt inadequate at that and quit that job.

he picked up a part time pet store job a few months after quitting the other job. he stayed at the pet store for a few months before quitting again.

he has not worked or brought in any kind of income since January 2023. since then he has done almost nothing around the house. sometimes he does laundry, takes out the trash and/or recycling, and feeds our lizards, but that is it.

I have tried to talk to him about helping more around the house since he's home all day and I'm not. like I've told him to wash dishes, vacuum, sweep, clean the bathroom, etc. every time I bring it up, he goes into "I'm so dumb, I'm a failure" mode. I end up trying to reassure him he's not dumb or a failure, but the reassurance never works. I've tried to bring up to him that he should get a job and get out of the house and it might help his mood to make friends and be around people, but again I get the "I'm a failure" speech.

it's so bad he will rarely leave the house. the only times he leaves is if he has an appointment (and I go with him) or to get kratom or vapes from the tobacco store. I have to get his medicines for him and he won't come with me to get those. he won't even come to family gatherings with me when my family invites him every time. he didn't even come celebrate with me when I turned 30 last year.

he has been seeing a psychiatrist for medication for the past 4 years. she's tried all different kinds of depression, anxiety, and bipolar meds but none of them have helped it seems like. right now he's on lithium and clonazepam. he's seen a few different therapists over the past 4 years, but he never sticks with it. he also tried an intensive outpatient program online.

I understand that he is severely depressed and has lots of health issues. but I also have anxiety and several health issues of my own and I make it to work and do normal 31 year old things. am I asking you much of him to help out when he's feeling bad seemingly every day?? how do I help him see that he needs to move around and do things to help me and himself?

We’ve been together on and off for about 7 years. There’s a lot of love between us and when things are good, they’re really good. But we’ve also had repeated issues around lifestyle, finances, and stability. We broke up twice.

Right now the main conflict is this: I’m about to buy a small apartment on my own (with my savings + some family help), and he is very against it. He thinks I’m being selfish and that in a real relationship we should do everything together—live together, build together, buy together.

He has been saying that the apartment is a shoebox and that he wont be able to fit his PC and all his stuff (he has A LOT) of stuff.

He wants me to wait and rent a place together until he has his finances sorted and then buy a big house together, using his pension and my family’s money. At the same time, he makes snarky comments about me having help from family and he doesn’t.

The thing is… I don’t feel safe doing that right now.

We already tried building a life together abroad (his idea), and it failed financially. I ended up covering the majority of the costs, and even now, almost 6 months later, he hasn’t started paying me back his part, although he has been paying off other debts to other people. He earns well, but tends to live paycheck to paycheck because of spending habits, hobbies, and spontaneous expenses. He has no real savings or structure, and when I bring it up, it doesn’t really lead anywhere. He only relies on his pension money for purchasing a property one day. What troubles me is that he quit his job abroad knowing that he has no savings, that I will have to cover majority of the rental penalties, and that we will have to live at our parents places, separately, when we get back home. He also spent money on unnecessary things on the first month abroad, like expensive air plane tickets and a gaming laptop, because he would get bored at home…

That alone makes me hesitant to merge finances or take on something like a shared property.

On top of that, there are also day-to-day lifestyle differences that really affect me. When I stay at his place nowadays, I often end up taking household responsibility that I feel like should be done by him. Things like changing bedsheets, cleaning the toilet, or maintaining the space don’t get done unless I push for it or do it myself. At one point recently I literally had to beg him to tell me where his mother keeps spare bedsheets and change his sheets myself because they hadn’t been changed in months and started to smell. Don’t get me wrong, I’m more than fine with cleaning and stepping up with house chores, but I also think every adult should have accountability and clean their own living space. Additionally, he blamed me for not sleeping over enough, and when I expressed my discomfort, his ego would get hurt and nothing would change. I would always cave and spend the time there anyway, not to cause problems in the relationship.

I understand that he is likely not feeling good about himself and he doesn’t want to stay in a rundown place either. I don’t expect perfection, but it makes me feel like I need to take care of basic hygiene in his own place, because he doesn’t.

Here’s where it gets confusing:

He previously refused to live with me in the apartment I am buying, when I suggested it and even got angry about it. Now, after months of calling me selfish, and not being able to find his own place to rent, he suddenly wants to move in and is open to it—but it feels off to me. Like the timing and motivation have changed. Like he is testing whether i will accept it or not.

On the other hand, I want to live alone for 6–12 months, set up my apartment the way I want, feel stable again, and then see where we stand before making bigger decisions together. I want to see that he is making plans, handling his money and that he has a structure in place and that he is handling his OWN life well first before merging with mine.

But he sees that as me rejecting him. He says I’m selfish, that I don’t want him, and that relationships aren’t supposed to work like this.

From my side, it’s not about not wanting him—it’s about not wanting to repeat the same patterns and lose my sense of stability again.

I feel guilty, and I fear that I’m ruining the relationship, and that what I see as my boundary is actually just my selfishness. I know he feels insecure about everything that happened and I know things are hard for him too.

Overall, we get along really well and have built a strong connection over the years. We’ve grown used to each other’s personalities and ways of communicating, which makes being together feel natural and comfortable most of the time. We can laugh, spend time together effortlessly, and genuinely enjoy each other’s company. He’s caring, affectionate, and brings a lot of warmth and spontaneity into my life, while I bring structure and stability, so in many ways we balance each other. That’s what makes this so hard, because on an emotional level we do work well together and there is real love there.

So I guess my question is:

Would I be wrong to not live with him right now, even if it upsets him?

Is this me protecting myself, or am I being too individualistic and not acting like a “real partner”?

In April 2025 my family cat gave birth to four kittens, my mother (45) had already made the decision that we were not going to keep any of the kittens way before they were born, she planned to sell the kittens and give them to family members when they weren't depending on their mom. I instantly bonded with one of the kittens and me and my family decided this kitten could be 'mine' until she was given away, I named her Bub, (ignore the silly name I thought as we weren't keeping them I didn't need to put much thought into the name)

Anyways, after a couple months I became very attached to Bub and it seemed she became attached to me as well. After ALOT of convincing, my mum decided we could keep Bub and she would remain my cat and I would take her with me when I move out which is this month (April 2026).

Sadly a couple months after my mum decided we could keep her, my mum started to develop severe allergic reactions to cat fur. She told me we wouldn't be able to keep the cat. My mums friend (we will call her Haylee) said she would happily take care of bub until I moved out and then I could have her back. As I'm unemployed, 18 and on a full time college course I don't have any income, Haylee said she was more than happy to pay for food, litter and any other things Bub needed while she was caring for her.

In March 2026 Haylee messaged my mum saying she might not be able to have Bub at hers anymore as she wasn't getting along with her other cats. After she told my mum this I had then started trying to look for somewhere else for Bub to stay.

One evening my sister (26, who we will call Cassie) called me and told me that she had picked Bub up from Haylee and that she will have the cat at hers until I move out. She did ask if I could occasionally buy food and litter for her, but ii made it clear to her I am not in a great financial position and will find it very difficult to do so. She understood.

Me and Cassie are VERY close and have been since we were little, we are very similar and I have even lived at her house multiple times when I was having problems at home during my teens. Sadly my sisters daughter (my niece. 4 years old) Started to have allergic reactions to the cat and my sister informed me she wouldn't be able to have the cat at her house anymore and that I would need to find somewhere for her to go.

I contacted friends and other family members asking if anyone could have the cat at theirs until next month (when I move out) One of my friends from college said that she would most likely be able to have the cat at hers and she tried asking her mum but she said to wait until they are back from holiday to make that decision. I told my sister and my mum this.

The other day, while I was at a friends house I got a call from a private number, It was my cousin (19F who we will call Kayleigh) I am not in contact with Kayleigh as I believe she is a horrible person, she is an alcoholic, has serious drug problems and when my mother was fostering her a few years ago she would steal large amounts of cash from me and my mum for drugs and alcohol and did a lot of other terrible things such as sleeping with one of my ex girlfriends while me and her were together.

When she had called me she had stated that she 'has my cat' I asked her why and she said that Cassie had given Bub to her. I instantly hung up and messaged my family group chat to see if this was true. Cassie replied confirming that she did give Bub to Kayleigh and said she couldn't have the cat at hers any longer as it was affecting her daughters health. I was instantly filled with rage and called her out asking why she thinks she had any right to give MY cat to someone who is not trustworthy.

My sister then started saying she was the one paying for the cat and caring for the cat so it is 'her cat'. This made me so angry and I told her she can call Kayleigh and tell her to bring the cat back now. (During this time I messaged one of my old friends asking if she was still looking for a cat, as she was when we were friends, and she said yes. I then arranged with this friend that I will come drop the cat off at her house as soon as I have it back off Kayleigh.)

Cassie refused to message Kayleigh and said she is not my cat anymore and I need to stop having a go at her for caring about her daughters health. As this argument was happening on my family group chat my Mum and Dad got involved calling me selfish and rude for arguing with my sister 'over a cat'.

I am not angry at my sister for giving my cat away in general as I understand that her daughters health comes first but I wish she would have either asked me or spoke to me before giving my cat to such an un trust worthy person.

Also before anyone comments on how I would be able to care for the cat after I move out, I start working a week before I move out which means I would have the income to buy food, litter and to pay for vet bills.

I will admit I was quite rude to my sister and did tell her to fuck off and not speak to me, but I feel like that was pretty justified.

Sorry this story was very long, but AIW?

I’ve been with my girlfriend for 5 years. Her family meet up 3-4 times a year so I know them pretty well. My girlfriend is close to her cousin who turned 18 in November.  Her cousin has joined us for days out, meals, cinema trips etc over the last 2 years.

We weren’t out with her cousin for a meal least week and were talking about upcoming movies. Her cousin mentioned one coming out soon that she really wants to see but has no one to go with and doesn’t want to go on her own. 

I mentioned I was planning on going on my own to see it and mentioned she could come with me if she wants and told my gf could always come aswell even if it’s not something she’s interested in,  Her cousin agreed but my gf said she doesn’t want to see the movie.

When we got home my gf mentioned I shouldn’t be going to the cinema with her cousin on my own. I pointed out she’s invited and is choosing not to go and I felt bad that her cousin has no one to go with. 

My gf mentioned that she’d be messaging her cousin to cancel but I just said she’s not really being reasonable since I was just trying to be nice and there’s nothing stopping my girlfriend coming. 

AITAH for inviting my partner and her cousin to the cinema?

Okay I'm going to do my best to keep this short and to the point. I had an accident Feb last year that caused me to lose my leg. I was in a almost 3 relationship at the time with a woman I've known for 20 years. I spent 2 months in the hospital and she way there with me the whole time. I'm greatful she did even though we argued a lot about what we needed to do when we left the hospital. I cant work so we would be homeless and the loss of my leg would make that 10× worse. My mom's in another state and she's the only one we have to stay with now. So I decide that's where I'm going and she says no she won't go because my sister don't like her. It's almost 1,000 miles to my mom and she refuses to go. Do I am forced to make that trip by myself. Because I lost my leg and need a place to stay and moms is the only place I know we can stay am I wrong for feeling like she should have went with me and not worry about my sister because I needed her more now than ever. I feel she don't really care about me like I thought she did. I know I'd be there for her if it were the other way around. I don't know. What do some of y'all think. Am I wrong?

This had happened a while back with one of my now ex friends who I’ll refer to as Ghost and Gigi. Ghost was venting to me about something very personal, yet mid-way through Gigi has walked into the room. I noticed Ghost pause in place so I had told Gigi something along the lines of “This isn’t the time, please leave.” I’ll admit, it sounds mean but in the moment I wasn’t thinking and was trying to get her out the room since Ghost seemed uncomfortable.

Gigi had told me that she just wanted to say hi to Ghost before she left the room. After Ghost was done I had went to go find Gigi to apologize and tell her that I genuinely didn’t mean to sound mean and it was in the moment. Yet I had seen Gigi talking to some of her friends on how mean I was and how mean Ghost was for not defending her when I said it, I understood why.

She obviously seemed upset so I had just waited for her to calm down before I went to apologize, she didn’t expect my apology (which is fine) and walked away. She never talked to me again and we went out separate ways.

My boyfriend made a new friend at work and he’s come over twice now, calling him A. We all hung out together and had a good time. A couple days ago, I saw A on a suggested tab because my boyfriend follows him. I hit follow, obviously thinking nothing of it. In my opinion, it’s completely normal to follow people you know on social platforms.

A few hours later, my boyfriend gets a text from A saying that his girlfriend saw that I followed him on Tik Tok and was uncomfortable so he wasn’t going to follow me back. My boyfriend acted surprised that I followed A on Tik Tok and asked why/how I found him, so I explained. He responded to A asking why his girlfriend was uncomfortable and A said she just thinks it’s weird.

I felt embarrassed to be honest because I did what I thought was a harmless act but it caused people to be upset. I asked my boyfriend if he thought it was weird too and he said yes. We argued and he asked how I would feel if A’s girlfriend followed him and I said that would be weird only because they’ve never met or talked. But if they were friends or acquaintances, I would think nothing of it.

Now I’m in a situation where I don’t want A’s girlfriend to come to my home because she sounds really insecure and not fun to be around. But that might cause another rift in my boyfriend and A’s friendship.

I find all of this very childish, honestly. I’m almost 30 and A/A’s girlfriend are 19/20. I’m obviously in a relationship and I’m definitely not interested in a 19 year old.

I’m just curious, am I wrong or did I do something weird? Or are they overreacting and the weird ones?