u/ChubbyNUgly22

Hey, I’m a 23M from India looking to make genuine long-term friends here.

I’m autistic, ADHD, and also deal with BPD traits, CPTSD/PTSD, social anxiety, and a very overthinking mind. I also tend to over-apologize and get stuck in my head a lot.

Because of all this, I sometimes struggle socially and feel quite isolated in my day-to-day life. Crowds and loud environments can be overwhelming for me, so I usually prefer calm, one-on-one connections.

I’ve also had a long struggle with self-esteem and how I see myself, which makes it harder for me to connect sometimes, but I’m trying to work through it.

What I’m really looking for is a kind, affectionate, long-term friendship where we can be there for each other regularly. Someone to talk to, check in on each other, share daily life with, and just feel emotionally close to.

I really value emotional warmth in friendships things like caring conversations, support, and feeling safe with someone. I miss having that kind of connection.

If you’re also looking for a genuine friend and a calm, understanding connection, feel free to reach out.

I don’t really know how to say this properly, but I’ve been feeling very overwhelmed lately.

I struggle a lot with fear of abandonment and being replaced. Even when I get close to someone, there’s always this constant thought that they’ll leave or find someone better. It makes it really hard for me to feel secure in any connection.

I’m also neurodivergent (autism, ADHD) and deal with BPD traits, anxiety, and a lot of overthinking. My mind is almost always running, and I tend to overanalyze everything, especially relationships.

Because of that, I end up over-apologizing, withdrawing, or feeling like I’m “too much” for people.

On top of that, I’ve struggled with self-image and feeling unattractive, and I’ve experienced racism and being treated differently, which has made it even harder to feel confident or accepted.

Lately, it’s been hitting me harder. I feel really lonely, even when I try to connect with people. Part of me wants closeness and emotional connection so badly, but another part of me feels like I don’t deserve it or that no one could truly understand me.

I’m honestly just tired of feeling this way all the time.

I’m not really looking for advice, just wondering if anyone else feels something similar or how you cope with these kinds of thoughts and emotions.

I don’t really know how to say this properly, but I’ve been feeling very overwhelmed lately.

I struggle a lot with fear of abandonment and being replaced. Even when I get close to someone, there’s always this constant thought that they’ll leave or find someone better. It makes it really hard for me to feel secure in any connection.

I’m also neurodivergent (autism, ADHD) and deal with BPD traits, anxiety, and a lot of overthinking. My mind is almost always running, and I tend to overanalyze everything, especially relationships.

Because of that, I end up over-apologizing, withdrawing, or feeling like I’m “too much” for people.

On top of that, I’ve struggled with self-image and feeling unattractive, and I’ve experienced racism and being treated differently, which has made it even harder to feel confident or accepted.

Lately, it’s been hitting me harder. I feel really lonely, even when I try to connect with people. Part of me wants closeness and emotional connection so badly, but another part of me feels like I don’t deserve it or that no one could truly understand me.

I’m honestly just tired of feeling this way all the time.

I’m not really looking for advice, just wondering if anyone else feels something similar or how you cope with these kinds of thoughts and emotions.

I struggle with social anxiety and it makes it hard to feel comfortable around people.

Even after interactions, I keep replaying things in my head and worrying I said or did something wrong.

It also makes me feel distant from others, like I can’t fully connect.

Does anyone else deal with this?

As someone who’s neurodivergent, I often feel like my emotions are very intense and hard to manage.

I struggle with overthinking, fear of losing people, and feeling misunderstood.

I really want connection, but it feels difficult to find people who get me on a deeper level.

Does anyone else feel like this?

I deal with a lot of emotional overwhelm and overthinking, and I’m wondering if this is something others with ADHD experience too.

Small things can trigger a lot of feelings, and once it starts, it’s hard to regulate.

I also tend to overanalyze relationships and worry about being replaced or not being enough.

How do you manage emotional regulation in moments like this?

I’ve been feeling really disconnected lately, like I don’t fully belong anywhere.

Even when I’m around people, there’s this emotional distance that doesn’t go away. I find it hard to feel understood or emotionally safe.

Because of that, I tend to keep things inside and deal with everything on my own.

Does anyone else feel this kind of emptiness or disconnection?

I don’t really know how to say this properly, but I’ve been feeling very overwhelmed lately.

I struggle a lot with fear of abandonment and being replaced. Even when I get close to someone, there’s always this constant thought that they’ll leave or find someone better. It makes it really hard for me to feel secure in any connection.

I’m also neurodivergent (autism, ADHD) and deal with BPD traits, anxiety, and a lot of overthinking. My mind is almost always running, and I tend to overanalyze everything, especially relationships.

Because of that, I end up over-apologizing, withdrawing, or feeling like I’m “too much” for people.

On top of that, I’ve struggled with self-image and feeling unattractive, and I’ve experienced racism and being treated differently, which has made it even harder to feel confident or accepted.

Lately, it’s been hitting me harder. I feel really lonely, even when I try to connect with people. Part of me wants closeness and emotional connection so badly, but another part of me feels like I don’t deserve it or that no one could truly understand me.

I’m honestly just tired of feeling this way all the time.

I’m not really looking for advice, just wondering if anyone else feels something similar or how you cope with these kinds of thoughts and emotions.

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Hey, I’m a 23M from India looking to make genuine long-term friends here.

I’m autistic, ADHD, and also deal with BPD traits, CPTSD/PTSD, social anxiety, and a very overthinking mind. I also tend to over-apologize and get stuck in my head a lot.

Because of all this, I sometimes struggle socially and feel quite isolated in my day-to-day life. Crowds and loud environments can be overwhelming for me, so I usually prefer calm, one-on-one connections.

I’ve also had a long struggle with self-esteem and how I see myself, which makes it harder for me to connect sometimes, but I’m trying to work through it.

What I’m really looking for is a kind, affectionate, long-term friendship where we can be there for each other regularly. Someone to talk to, check in on each other, share daily life with, and just feel emotionally close to.

I really value emotional warmth in friendships things like caring conversations, support, and feeling safe with someone. I miss having that kind of connection.

If you’re also looking for a genuine friend and a calm, understanding connection, feel free to reach out.

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Hey, I’m a 23M from India looking to make genuine long-term friends here.

I’m autistic, ADHD, and also deal with BPD traits, CPTSD/PTSD, social anxiety, and a very overthinking mind. I also tend to over-apologize and get stuck in my head a lot.

Because of all this, I sometimes struggle socially and feel quite isolated in my day-to-day life. Crowds and loud environments can be overwhelming for me, so I usually prefer calm, one-on-one connections.

I’ve also had a long struggle with self-esteem and how I see myself, which makes it harder for me to connect sometimes, but I’m trying to work through it.

What I’m really looking for is a kind, affectionate, long-term friendship where we can be there for each other regularly. Someone to talk to, check in on each other, share daily life with, and just feel emotionally close to.

I really value emotional warmth in friendships things like caring conversations, support, and feeling safe with someone. I miss having that kind of connection.

If you’re also looking for a genuine friend and a calm, understanding connection, feel free to reach out.

Hey, I’m a 23M from India looking to make genuine long-term friends here.

I’m autistic, ADHD, and also deal with BPD traits, CPTSD/PTSD, social anxiety, and a very overthinking mind. I also tend to over-apologize and get stuck in my head a lot.

Because of all this, I sometimes struggle socially and feel quite isolated in my day-to-day life. Crowds and loud environments can be overwhelming for me, so I usually prefer calm, one-on-one connections.

I’ve also had a long struggle with self-esteem and how I see myself, which makes it harder for me to connect sometimes, but I’m trying to work through it.

What I’m really looking for is a \\\*\\\*kind, affectionate, long-term friendship\\\*\\\* where we can be there for each other regularly. Someone to talk to, check in on each other, share daily life with, and just feel emotionally close to.

I really value emotional warmth in friendships — things like caring conversations, support, and feeling safe with someone. I miss having that kind of connection.

If you’re also looking for a genuine friend and a calm, understanding connection, feel free to reach out.

Hey, I’m a 23M from India looking to make genuine long-term friends here.

I’m autistic, ADHD, and also deal with BPD traits, CPTSD/PTSD, social anxiety, and a very overthinking mind. I also tend to over-apologize and get stuck in my head a lot.

Because of all this, I sometimes struggle socially and feel quite isolated in my day-to-day life. Crowds and loud environments can be overwhelming for me, so I usually prefer calm, one-on-one connections.

I’ve also had a long struggle with self-esteem and how I see myself, which makes it harder for me to connect sometimes, but I’m trying to work through it.

What I’m really looking for is a \*\*kind, affectionate, long-term friendship\*\* where we can be there for each other regularly. Someone to talk to, check in on each other, share daily life with, and just feel emotionally close to.

I really value emotional warmth in friendships — things like caring conversations, support, and feeling safe with someone. I miss having that kind of connection.

If you’re also looking for a genuine friend and a calm, understanding connection, feel free to reach out.

I deal with a lot of internal stress, overthinking, and self-criticism. It feels like my mind doesn’t give me a break, and I’m always analyzing myself and how others might see me.

I also struggle with feeling comfortable in my own body and often compare myself to others, which affects my confidence a lot.

Even when I try to improve things externally, the internal thoughts don’t really change.

Recently I hit a low point mentally, and I’m still trying to process everything.

I don’t usually talk about this with people in real life, so I thought I’d ask here if anyone relates or has ways they cope with this.

I overthink how I look, how I act, and how people perceive me. It makes it really hard to feel comfortable around others.

I also struggle with self-image, which makes the anxiety even worse.

Recently I hit a low point mentally, and it made me realize how much this has been affecting my life.

Does anyone else feel like this? How do you manage it?

I deal with ADHD/autism traits, overthinking, social anxiety, and a lot of internal self-criticism.

One of the hardest parts is how I see myself, especially my appearance and how I assume others perceive me. I compare myself a lot and struggle to feel comfortable in my own skin.

Even when I try to improve things externally, the internal narrative doesn’t really change.

Lately things have been getting heavier again, and I’ve been feeling more mentally exhausted than usual.

Just wondering if anyone else here experiences something similar.

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I’m a 23M dealing with ADHD, autism traits, BPD traits, CPTSD/PTSD, social anxiety, and constant overthinking. I also tend to over-apologize a lot and struggle to feel comfortable with myself.

A big part of my struggle is how I see my appearance and how I assume others see me. I compare myself a lot, and it’s been affecting my confidence for years.

I’ve tried working on myself (fitness, skincare, routines), and while it helps a little, I still feel mentally unhealed.

Lately things have been getting heavier again, and I hit a low point recently that I’m still trying to process.

I don’t really talk about this in real life, so I guess I just wanted to put it somewhere.

If anyone has been through something similar, how do you deal with it?

I’m really sensitive right now and I can’t stop crying.

My heart actually hurts and I don’t know how to calm myself down.

It feels like everything is too overwhelming, even small things.

I hate how intense my emotions get, it makes me feel so out of control.

I just needed to say this somewhere.

If anyone relates, I’d really like to hear how you get through moments like this.

I’ve been thinking a lot about love lately, and it’s been harder than I expected.

I’m 23M and still a virgin, and after facing multiple rejections, I’ve started to feel like romance isn’t really for me. I’ve always been a hopeless romantic, which makes it even harder to admit, but I’ve been stepping back from actively chasing love.

I struggle with my appearance and confidence. Some days, I look in the mirror and feel like I don’t measure up and that makes putting myself out there even harder. I try to be honest with myself: if I were someone else, I might make the same choice. It’s not about blame; it’s just my reality right now.

I don’t have the resources to change much, so I’m focusing on accepting myself and working on building a stable life. My goal now is personal growth and becoming financially independent so I can at least feel secure and comfortable in my own skin.

Still, I do wonder what it feels like to be genuinely chosen and loved. I guess part of being single and introverted is navigating these feelings quietly, but sharing them here makes me feel a little less alone.

Hey. I am back here. Idk what is happening to me. I have been avoiding everything in life. I have been wanting be with someone all the time. Although I function well when I am sometimes alone. But idk the moment i think about asking space, I feel like that's the end, they will disappear forever. I don't want to think about my life. It's worst. I am stuck in doing stuff that I never wanted to do. And if I don't do them, its a dead end for me. But i can't force myself to do it. I feel alone. So alone. So miserable. I reached out to no one cuz i have no one in my life. Since it's serious time, they are busy. And every others have a life that doesn't make me a part of it. Everyone has the right to live their life. But me, I can't be with myself. My head hurts. I am thinking about a lot of stuff that my head has gone numb now. I did try to do something about the lonely feeling. I even started writing quotes which i find online and writing is my go to thing when I wanna feel like I can do something to avoid life. But now that has also started feeling useless. I have been feeling really lonely despite having people. Idk... It's like I am back to where i started. I need someone 24 x 7. I have become distant from my family and isolate myself in my bedroom in their house. It's like I am not a part of it anymore. More like an appendix. So i thought I'll see if I can do something about it. I didn't think I'll end up ranting this long hahahahaha. I feel weird. It's like two sides of my brain. One trying to be productive and move forward with life, other one has given up and wants me to feelu suicidal and dead forever. But both are unsatisfied. I wish I had someone to hug. I am lying with myself all alone. But i really crave someone so bad sometimes, just someone to hug and say I am here. There is literally no one even as long distance or in real life cuz sometimes physical distance can hurt more.

Idk what i am feeling now. While i am writing this, I feel like smiling although I feel numb. I feel nothing belongs to me, i belong nowhere. Thanks for reading to this shit. I really wish i could have someone. I hate adulthood. I wanna be a kid. Just sleep in someone's shoulder and someone can hug me so tight and cuddle whole day . And have good food. Do things that make me happy without guilt. I wish.i wish. but u know it's never gonna happen

Hey. I am back here. Idk what is happening to me. I have been avoiding everything in life. I have been wanting be with someone all the time. Although I function well when I am sometimes alone. But idk the moment i think about asking space, I feel like that's the end, they will disappear forever. I don't want to think about my life. It's worst. I am stuck in doing stuff that I never wanted to do. And if I don't do them, its a dead end for me. But i can't force myself to do it. I feel alone. So alone. So miserable. I reached out to no one cuz i have no one in my life. Since it's serious time, they are busy. And every others have a life that doesn't make me a part of it. Everyone has the right to live their life. But me, I can't be with myself. My head hurts. I am thinking about a lot of stuff that my head has gone numb now. I did try to do something about the lonely feeling. I even started writing quotes which i find online and writing is my go to thing when I wanna feel like I can do something to avoid life. But now that has also started feeling useless. I have been feeling really lonely despite having people. Idk... It's like I am back to where i started. I need someone 24 x 7. I have become distant from my family and isolate myself in my bedroom in their house. It's like I am not a part of it anymore. More like an appendix. So i thought I'll see if I can do something about it. I didn't think I'll end up ranting this long hahahahaha. I feel weird. It's like two sides of my brain. One trying to be productive and move forward with life, other one has given up and wants me to feelu suicidal and dead forever. But both are unsatisfied. I wish I had someone to hug. I am lying with myself all alone. But i really crave someone so bad sometimes, just someone to hug and say I am here. There is literally no one even as long distance or in real life cuz sometimes physical distance can hurt more.

Idk what i am feeling now. While i am writing this, I feel like smiling although I feel numb. I feel nothing belongs to me, i belong nowhere. Thanks for reading to this shit. I really wish i could have someone. I hate adulthood. I wanna be a kid. Just sleep in someone's shoulder and someone can hug me so tight and cuddle whole day . And have good food. Do things that make me happy without guilt. I wish.i wish. but u know it's never gonna happen