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I am currently on periods and it is me making morose. I can't think, concentrate and can barely function. It has become regular occurrence and I don't know how to deal with this anymore. I just want to disappear for a few days until these hormones stop wreaking havoc on my mental health. last time I shared something like this a stupid fellow took advantage of my vulnerability. I don't know how to make myself feel better, suggest something.

Lately I’ve been feeling really overwhelmed… like too much is on my plate at once.

I even tried therapy but idk… it didn’t really help the way I thought it would. My mind is almost always restless, and I’m honestly just tired of being in this constant anxious state.

There’s this weird emptiness inside me that just doesn’t go away. And after so much overthinking and anxiety, it feels like my brain has gone kinda numb now.

I keep thinking… like when our body goes through too much physical pain, it becomes numb after a point… does the same thing happen to our mind too?

And somewhere deep down I feel like maybe I don’t even deserve good things. Like I’m not good enough.

Anyway… just ranting here coz I can’t sleep.

I’m 30 years old Going to be 31 soon.

I am honestly a burden on my parents. I have a job. A well paying one at it. But my own bad decisions and financial folly has caused me to live under debt. And crushing ones no less.

I’m alone right now. Contemplating where to go from here. I’m an idiot.

This is my first post here after months of lurking, so I apologize for any grammatical mistakes.

I am 23 years old and currently in the second year of my B. Tech in CSE at an NIT. I am here because of my own mistakes.

After I passed 12th grade in 2020, it was the COVID period. I had dreams of a good future, and things seemed to be going well when I got into an NIT in one of the most sought-after branches.

However, during my first year, I got into a terrible accident while driving recklessly. The crash left the entire left side of my body paralyzed, from my face down to my toes. I had to pause my studies because it was extremely painful for me to even sit for an hour.

After extensive surgeries, operations, and rehabilitation, I was finally able to move without pain after two years. Although I no longer feel pain on that side, it is still not very functional. I cannot lift heavy objects or do any extensive work with my left side. It often feels like a prop attached to my body.

After completing rehabilitation, I decided to continue my studies. By then, I was already 22 (2024). It felt like a risky decision since I would graduate at 25 (2028), but I still chose to pursue my degree. After all, who would give up a seat in a top NIT, especially in a CS-related branch?

On medical grounds, I requested permission to continue my B. Tech, and it was granted. However, due to changes in the education policy from 2023 onwards, the credits I had previously completed were not sufficient to directly continue in the second year. I had to sit with first-year students again to complete extra credits in two subjects.

By that time, I had already forgotten much of what I studied in 12th grade. I didn’t even remember how to properly study anymore.

The reality hit me in my third semester. I barely passed with C and D grades. My CGPA is around 6.5, which is not good enough for many company placements. I worry that no one will hire me with my grades and the gap in my resume.

My original class, the one I joined in 2021, graduated last year. It hurts a lot to see them moving forward in life while I feel stuck in this situation caused by my own actions.

My parents are supportive and want the best for me, but when I talk to them or look at them, I sometimes see sadness in their eyes. It makes me feel like they already seem hopeless about my situation still giving me the best chance in life.

Yesterday, my mother’s sister called to invite us to her son’s wedding. He is only one year older than me. After the call, my mother started talking about “what ifs” about my life and situation, hoping that one day I would be “normal.”

It hurts me deeply that a single moment of foolishness led to this cascading chain of events: my accident, the medical bills, my college fees, my parents’ expenses, my father stressed working every day while layoffs are happening around him, my mother’s declining health, the pity or mockery my parents sometimes face because of my situation and most important the gulit of time i have lost and am losing while people my age reaching better places.

I have tried to reach my college psychologist, and she is a sweet lady, but her solution of positive reaffirmations is not working. She suggested antidepressants, but I am currently wary to use them, and more or less I know, I need to be financially independent to lleast 70% of my worries to subside, still the road looks bleak.

There is constant internal pressure to stand on my own two feet and not be a burden on others, be a contributing member of society. But alas, it's impossible.
I am dumb, I am a burden, and maybe it was better for everyone involved if I had perished in that accident cuz now I am too scared to kill myself.

I just wanted to let it out as I can't say all these things to my parents and hurt them even more.

I always trued to fit in but my name came first and i was always the last.

Bright, studious and confident yet was always neglected by teachers. I was too young to even understand i was discriminated, too stupid to never question them and too naive to believe that I was lacking in ways no one would even tell me. I became timid overtime, lost all my confidence and self esteem too. I became depressed even put on weight which was not too extreme but TEACHERS asked me to go run under sun so that i loose weight.

The name was to blame.

Just wanted to vent it here and let go cz i dont want to speak about it to anyone else.

It's 4:30 am. I have been trying to sleep for the past 3hrs. But too many thoughts, too much to handle at times. The more I try to run away from my thoughts, the more they latch on.

I have turned out to be a loser in all aspects of life. Family, career, ambition, goals everything. I had so many dreams and yet not a single one of them has been fulfilled.

I am the only earner in my family...stuck in a low paying job with no real future. And I can't even take risk to try something else because there's no security, no backup, no savings.. nothing at all. Here I'm laying on my bed racing my thoughts trying to think of anything at all that'd allow me to earn some extra money. People say money can't buy happiness... I'd agree to that. But atleast not worrying about money would give a good night's sleep I'm sure.

Being born in a poor family, with responsibilities but no backup no security is no less than a curse. The constant battle with self is impossible at this point.

Growing up I was never the studious kid .Neither did I top or rank first in my class except occasionally in individual subjects maybe whenever I studied rigorously.Maybe my parents should have been more strict with me or push me more .Maybe then I could have been but who cares.And then my best friend on the other hand was the class topper.Both her parents and her elder brother are doctors. From childhood I heard her wanting to become a doctor.Meanwhile I was really confused about what I should become because the place where I live it was taught that only toppers can be doctors.If you are not a topper you don't even belong to the competition.So I thought maybe it wasn't for me while still being confused what I love or want to be later in life.And i thought it's impossible for me to become a doctor since i am not a topper.

Things changed when in class 12 our bio teacher introduced us to neet.I felt it was not that difficult of an exam.Though extremely competitive.I thought it was doable if I worked hard.After 12th I started prepping for neet in a local coaching centre and our bio faculty was a doctor himself.He taught us human physiology so well I became really interested and now badly want to become doctor ,learn how to perform surgery nd all that stuff.I know people will come at me saying everything is not bed of roses everything looks good but isn't and it isn't i know that but I really want to.Due to certain distractions it's been 4 years of me giving neet I badly want to crack it but in the process I lost touch with my best friend.She joined medical college and since I am still in neet phase which is a very antisocial phase we drifted apart.

Today I heard from a common friend she thinks I am giving neet to just compete with her since I never really told her growing up I wanted to be a doctor.No one knows about that aspiration.And now many of my classmates think the same that I am some egoistic jealous pos.How do I make them understand that I am not at all jealous of her I want to do this for myself I was never really interested in technology and bio has always been my favourite subject.Is she the only person who is studying medicine that I would be jealous of her or am I the only dropper who gave so many drops for neet due to ego issues with her?Why are people so judgemental and self obsessed?I texted her days ago she didn't bother to reply me either. As much as I miss the beautiful memories we had together I really don't want to talk to her again.I am really heartbroken and hurt.

I was on my way to a friend’s wedding with three of my friends when, near Chembur, two bikes crashed right in front of us.

We immediately stopped the car and rushed to help.

One of the riders (in his 30s) had gotten up and was in pain. People had already gathered around him, asking if he was okay. But no one was going near the other man — an older uncle in his 50s — who was lying face down on the road, bleeding from his mouth and unconscious.

Everyone was just standing and talking.

So me and one of my friends went ahead and flipped him over. He was breathing heavily. Within minutes, more people gathered — maybe 10–15 — and everyone started shouting things like “Call an ambulance!” and “Take him to the hospital!”

One of my friends called for an ambulance… but it was 2 hours away.

Then an autorickshaw driver stopped. We asked him if he could take the uncle to the hospital, and he agreed immediately. Again, people started shouting “Lift him! Lift him!” — but no one actually stepped forward, especially because there was blood near his head.

At that point, I stopped thinking and just acted.

I picked him up from his arms, two other guys held his legs, and we got him into the auto. By then, he had regained a bit of consciousness. I told him, “Don’t worry, you’ll be in the hospital in 10 minutes.”

I gave ₹200 to the auto driver, and around the same time a traffic police officer arrived, so we explained the situation and left.

Only after getting back into the car did I notice something strange — I saw what looked like blood on my friend’s arms. I asked him to check with the flashlight… nothing. Then I checked mine.

My forearms were completely covered in blood.

I was wearing a black shirt and white pants — my pants were stained too. I tried cleaning it with tissues and water, but it didn’t really come off fully. Still, I went to the wedding like that.

What I learned from this:

The bystander effect is real.

People will gather, talk, and shout instructions — but very few actually step in.

Always wear a helmet.

The uncle was wearing one, and I genuinely think it reduced the severity of his head injury.

Sometimes you just have to act.

I didn’t overthink it — I just did what needed to be done. And honestly, I feel good about that.

I was never a “playboy” type during school. My interactions with girls were very limited, and whatever friendships I had were always platonic from their side. Whenever I expressed interest, I was usually seen as “just a friend” or “like a brother.” To be fair, I was overweight back then, so I understand why things didn’t go that way.In college, I worked on myself both physically and mentally. I got into shape, improved my personality, and even received a few proposals. But I turned them down because I was still in love with my best friend. Eventually, I confessed to her as well, and she rejected me. We stayed in touch, but things were never the same after that.After college, I went all in on UPSC prep and spent around 4 years on it, but didn’t get the results I wanted. Since then, I’ve been doing various jobs in event management, hospitality, etc., while preparing for other government exams like SSC.

All this time, I believed that love would come naturally. I never forced conversations or approached women with romantic intent I just treated them like friends. The thing is, I’m actually confident talking to women and don’t struggle socially but I genuinely don’t know how to take things forward in a romantic direction. I also hesitate because I don’t want to come across as creepy or make anyone uncomfortable.

Now I’m 29, and I’ve had zero romantic experience. I haven’t even shared a kiss.

Yesterday, I heard that someone from my extended friend circle (we play cricket together) who is 18 traveled just to hook up. That hit me harder than I expected. I know comparison isn’t healthy, but it made me feel like I’m way behind in life.

Career wise, I haven’t achieved what I wanted. In terms of relationships, I have nothing to show either. The only area I’ve improved in is my fitness and personality—people now see me as confident and well-built (I’ve been lifting consistently for 9 years). But internally, I still feel like I’ve failed.

I keep wondering if the fault lies in me like maybe there’s something fundamentally wrong with how I approach life, relationships, or people.

Not sure what I’m expecting from this post. Maybe perspective, maybe advice, or just to get this off my chest.

Hey r/OffMyChestIndia fam,

Welcome to our “How Are You Feeling Today?” thread! 🌟 This is a space where you can share whatever’s on your mind, no matter how big or small.

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I’m an extremely introverted person and every human interaction gives me anxiety. I’ve been noticing a pattern where I can’t say no to my close group of friends and family. I’m so wrapped up in making sure everyone is happy around me and everyday ends up being energy draining and I can’t seem to get anything done if it’s just for myself. I have very limited time and energy while being employed full time. I need help with learning how to politely say no without being labelled rude or selfish.

just need to get this off my chest.

I got into a financial mess because of an emergency, and now it feels like my entire life is controlled by it. My phone doesn’t stop ringing—calls all day, every day. Even worse, people have started coming to my residence. There’s no peace at home anymore.

I feel constantly anxious, like I’m being watched or chased. I can’t relax even for a minute. My sleep is completely messed up, and I’ve lost my appetite. Some days I just sit there staring at nothing, overthinking everything.

My salary is coming, but I can’t even use it for myself because I have responsibilities at home. My mom depends on me, and that pressure is always there in the back of my mind. I feel stuck between responsibilities and a situation I don’t know how to fix.

I don’t have anyone to talk to about this. No support system. I just keep everything inside and pretend I’m okay outside, but I’m not.

I don’t know what the solution is right now. I just want the calls to stop, the visits to stop, and to feel normal again. Right now it feels like I’m losing control of everything.

Assi has some really disturbing visuals. I can't get them out of my head. The scene of the assault is very triggering. The counting of each time each man hits her is beyond brutal. I couldn't get past that. I cannot fathom what SA victims go through.

I don't understand how and why some men are so barbaric. I will never know where they get the audacity from.

I pray that every woman out there is safe. No one deserves this.

so i hope it doesnt sound cringe but idk how to truly trust others. im 21 and a female so i mostly just have girls friends but i feel like im never truly able to trust anyone. i havent experienced any trauma to be this way.

i just feel people will just yk leave me someday and like im not anyones priority... that i can only trust myself. it has come to a point now where i havent even dated any guy.

i just dont know how to become better

Hey r/OffMyChestIndia fam,

Welcome to our “How Are You Feeling Today?” thread! 🌟 This is a space where you can share whatever’s on your mind, no matter how big or small.

🌞Feeling happy? Tell us what’s making your day shine!
🌧️Feeling stressed or down? Let it out, we’re here to listen.
🌈Feeling something you can’t quite put into words? Share it anyway, just expressing it helps.

No need to overthink, just let it flow. This thread is your safe space to express yourself without the need to create a full post.

So, how are you feeling today? Let’s chat, connect, and support each other. ❤️

Le me, a civillian, sitting in my car, waiting for my cousin, has to go the hospital, because of one of our friends had fallen ill. My misfortune ? Being a civilian, three strikes on my car and I thought somebody has crashed into it, I pulled down my window only to be greeted by 10-12 cops, well I merely asked what's the issue and lord almighty I committed the worst wrong ever in the history of bureaucracy, a civilian ? Questionning the unifomed goons of the government ?

13 people surrounded me, opened my car door, my fault merely asking why they struck my car with the stick ? Their reasoning- people here commit non-sanskari things, and drink and stuff, apparently I was doing nothing of that sort and well to top that, I asked what was the issue.

I was surrounded and perhaps I was saved by the bar association sticker on my car, threatened with challans, abused, 10-13 goons abused me, threatened me, took my phone and the best I could do ? Ask them what was wrong.

It's not about administration or such or the governments fault, each and every one is a cunt hiding behind the khaki uniform of the "SYSTEM".

Never have I ever heard that a person felt safe after seeing a police stoppage? Fear of harrasment, extortion and stuff.

Perhaps a first in my life i was surrounded by men whose main job is to get a salary from my tax money to make my life easier, and well i have never feared more more for life, one threatened me with challan, one ? To break my legs with his stick, one even went to the extent of stating nobody would know where I would be found and well, I knew they were speaking the truth.

Perhaps with god's Grace i was able to get out of that situation without a broken phone and well my body intact. This fucking country is doomed and well nothing, no person i feel is capable of change. The hate these people get is right. Peace out.

is it really true that males might be more attracted towards the lil chubby girls but that only with the ones with brighter skin tone?

i don't know but the ones with the dusky skin tone often seems to go through more than the ones with lighter skin tone.

Putting it out here so I just feel lighter:(please forgive my english I just typed out everything out of nowhere)

I had asked a colleague out on 14/02 and she said "I like someone else right now tho" on whatsapp, fine acknowledged her choice and didn't say anything( no call/ping/text post that). ~2 months later on 07/02 I find she had blocked me on whatsapp since her DP disappeared, like ~3 hours ago I saw her story and found she has blocked me there too, cried again for three hours. I cried for three weeks continuously post rejection that but made sure to not try to have any contact with her and yes no texts/calls/pings anywhere were done by me and she didn't do anything either obv wasn't expected to

Also I left a 20L SWE job @ a US bank last month without any offers since it was taking a toll on my health and I was severely dissatisfied with work, no this was not because of the, girl works in a different office in the same city and different manager. This is one of the lowest lows of my life and I do not have a single number in my cell that I can dial and talk to I cannot discuss everything with my parents. Its lonely at the top we only see CTCs and not what the person is going through, atm my personal life/professional life everything is screwed and I am not getting interview calls either not sure what's going to happen. Rant over, putting it out so I a 23 YO feels lighter and make sure that I come out stronger, good night

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As I get older, I’ve started noticing a bitter reality: how much our culture revolves around status and identity. There is an immense expectation to be a "high performer," especially if you come from a business-oriented background or a high-achieving family.

It feels like if you aren’t equipped with higher education, a solid career, or a specific social standing, you become invisible. I’m realizing how much effort people put into dressing a certain way and mastering "business social skills" just to be taken seriously. When you surround yourself with people who are wealthy and ambitious, the pressure to match that energy is constant.

We often hear that "money doesn’t buy happiness," but in our society, money certainly buys identity, respect, and recognition. From a young age, we are told that the only way to "make a name for yourself" is through a prestigious degree or a high-income business.

I’ve even seen this play out in marriages involving different social or caste backgrounds. I know individuals who had to completely reinvent themselves—striving for higher salaries and elite education—just to feel "worthy" of their partner’s family status. It’s fascinating, yet exhausting, to see how life trajectories change the moment someone marries into a family with high financial and social standing..

Today my mom came to visit, we roamed around the city and at night i dropped her at the bus stop. She had huge luggage with her, and i dropped her off at the wrong stop without realising and i didn't feel bad until she complained. What hurt me is i am so used to being neglected and shabby that this feels completely normal to me. Like i was wondering why doesn't she carry luggage and walk a bit (ofcourse she did) but had i been a better person things would have ended on ahappy note. This made me realise how lonely i am that i dont know basics and complicate stuff