J'ai l'impression que je vais finir pars pt un plomb si à 35 40 ans je suis encore puceau je vais envisager le suci... j'en n'est marre de mater du porn j'ai tellement honte de moi à cause de ma virginité je me sens comme un monstre une bête de foire
Is it worse to have a high body count at a young age or a low or no body count an older age?
I was talking about this with a friend, which would you perfer?
(My idle would be some where in between)
I do feel like it is better to have a lot of experience then nun at all.
I wish I had a normal expience young like 16-18
Not cos I crave it that bad I just hate feeling like a loser I think I'll feel more like an adult.
Why you didn't lose your virginity? And what is the reaction of people about being old virgin?
I am nearly 20 years old but asking this cuz I will not able to lose it
Or do you think that in retrospect it has to be hard enough that we can use the men that either never get laid or can't get laid as a cautionary tale to inspire men to push themselves to never end up like them while also ensuring that sex remains special and highly sought after?
Are there any "outgoing" virgins on this sub?
My long-time and closest friends know my (non) sexual status (I just confirmed it to a friend of over 10 years. I think she got suspicious around year 4 once I never brought a partner around).
But anyone else would never guess I'm a FA virgin. I'm sure most people (including my family) think I just fuck around and don't get serious.
The gag is, it's totally the OPPOSITE. Part of it is my outgoing personality, and part of it is I make it seem that way with certain (fake) comments, etc. like "ugh, I can't do relationships", "I hate men". All of which are true, but for totally different reasons.
I started a new job a few years ago in a new city where nobody knew me, so I kind of went with that narrative to throw everyone off my virgin scent. I try to make it sound like I had a really bad relationship in the past and have sworn off men/relationships.
Does anyone else do the same? I feel like this fake facade is going to catch up with me one day.
I admit to being guilty of this.
I remember one time reading a thread posted by a porn-addicted kissless virgin in his 50s who was rejected by not one but TWO prostitutes. So I, as a 31-year-old virgin who's still been on a few dates and have kissed a few women, could not help but think "gee, at least I'm not that guy" lol
I am about to be 29M and obviously not experienced.I am on a mission to master being alone now as I am bad at dating and would like some inputs from those who have succeeded.My goal is to treat a partner ,may be like a rare bonus instead of a necessity.So inputs from those who enjoy solitude are welcome.
I cant take it anymore . All i think about is dick on a daily basis , i have a very high sex drive and knowing I cant do anything about it especially when ovulating is KILLING ME .
As a girl that want to wait until marriage to do it with the right person I don’t even know how am I supposed to hold it all in until then !!
Hey everyone, I wish you all a good day,
Here is my situation. I am 22M and I am still a virgin (for personal and religious reasons). I have never been in a long relationship, i tried to date people with the intention of marriage but no one my age is as serious as me. I don’t want to have casual sex, or hookups. I want to find a girl i will really like and will date her until I am sure I want to marry her. I would like her to be virgin or at least somewhat inexperienced, so we can discover things together. I have a very stable emotional and financial life. I just want to find someone to share everything I have with.
I know it sounds silly, but it’s just the way it is. It’s how I want it. If you have any issues with what I am saying, please just don’t comment.
So here is my question : Where/How can I meet someone who would be as serious as me in terms of goals and marriage and commitment. Online or irl. I really want to find my partner. I don’t think I am difficult in terms of physical attraction. I have found multiples woman who were not « conventionally » attractive (not trying to hurt anyone here), really attractive. I don’t really have a type. So if you guys can point me to a place where i could meet someone I would be very grateful.
Thank you guys for hearing me out. And i wish you all an amazing day/night.
I just thought about how I have never heard of a therapist who's a virgin, do they exist or they are all experienced hence it's easy for them to help others? Idk, it probably sounds stupid lol
Dated someone for a little bit last year before getting dumped for being a virgin. Since then I’ve had a bunch of failed first dates and one potential relationship that didn’t work out because we simply were not compatible. I am looking to get back into dating but don’t know how to navigate being so inexperienced since girls seem to hate that on the first date (I don’t mention it but can be awkward since I don’t know when to kiss or hold hands). I’m already 26 so most girls will dump me for being a virgin.
Last week I approached that cute waitress I'd been crushing on and got her Instagram, I immediately requested to follow her and finally got her approval today. I had a look through her profile and learned that she actually has a boyfriend who appears to be a fighter pilot, she had posted pics of him sitting in a cockpit of a fighter jet and included "proud of you 🥰" in the caption. Oh, that's when I knew that my financial analyst ass would most definitely not be able to gain much of her attention lol
Besides being tall, fit, handsome, intelligent, charismatic etc. having an interesting career is a massive boost to how attractive a man is to a woman. I can't imagine them being as engaged in hearing about me processing financial data as they would about that guy flying jets.
Onto the next one, there's no way in hell I can grab the attention of this gal.
Hey im 21f virgin and at times all I can think about is sex and being touched... ive sent nudes and shit which quells it a tad but I immediately feel guilty for sending them. Im at war with wanting to wait until the right person and just saying fuck it and go for it. It doesnt help that the things that i find hot arent conventional (edging, being kind of a femdom, bdsm essentially) Im literally banging my head against a wall. Thank you for letting me rant lol any advice is welcome.
I am 20 F and I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 10 months. He knows I'm a virgin and in all this time, we have tried to have intimacy multiple times but we always stop because it really hurts me a lot when it's about to (you know) enter/go inside. But it's not a soft pain like some girls may describe. I really feel like I'm being broken or some shit like that, it really hurts so much that I always have to stop it. He is really patient and lovely but it makes me really sad that we can't get to that level of intimacy that we both want and need. We have tried EVERYTHING to make it easier and painless for me but nothing works.
Any suggestions that would really help me please?? I'm almost desesperate. To be honest I have never used my fingers with myself because every time I have tried it also hurts, so it makes me scared. We have also used lube and done a lot of foreplay. I was thinking about going to therapy because something the problem is deeper than I think? HELP
I don’t understand the comparison to rapists and murderers though, like if I save my virginity then I’m a rapist, so alternatively I need to let some woman rape me so that I’m not a rapist. Makes my head hurt.
And I don't mean everyone, or even most, but my god some people here are actively fucking over their own lives and blaming everyone else.
No job, out of shape, no social skills, dont want to leave the house but also expect to have girls throwing themselves at them and are surprised they are a still a virgin. The very epitome of the "I've tried nothing, and Im all out of ideas!" meme.
Then they come on here crying about teenage love as a 30 year old man, or being 5'9 (average male height btw) and expect us to feel sorry for them. Then downvote the hell out of you when you tell them to get a fucking grip.
If I was a girl and I saw you coming, I'd run the other way too. No one wants to be around a loser who thinks like this, this kinda person would only fuck up your life and bring no positive value to you whatsoever.
Only thing I can say is to the people who don't have this mindset and actually want to better themselves and find fulfillment, dont spend too much time around these people online or otherwise because their mentality will seep into you and sooner or later you will end up thinking like them, which is basically a death sentence.
I know most everyone here is a virgin, but if you're not, I would like to know if sex is overrated. I wish I could experience it once as an unattractive 27M. I always think about how I feel like I'm missing out on it. I hope I can one day get to experience it with a woman.
This happened over the weekend. I'll try to make it short. A friend invited me to a party on Friday night, where we stayed until the early hours. Once I was in the right frame of mind, I even approached women, although it was more for fun as I always introduced my friend to them and then left.
The next day, we were at a volleyball tournament. I wasn't allowed to play, so I spent most of my time watching and hitting the ball occasionally. Then I spotted her, the kind of woman who wouldn't leave my mind. I decided to approach her after her game, but kept putting it off. I told myself, 'After the next... After the next...' But during her last game, both teams became quite toxic, and she didn't seem interested in being approached. Soon afterwards, most of her team, including her, had left. It's now been a few days, and I still can't stop thinking about her.
The only success I've had is talking to one of her teammates, whose team plays in the same league as mine, and who seems to be attending the same tournament I'll be at in a month.
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