r/friendship

PLEASE read everything If you really want to contact me!

I really hope there's someone out there for me... Someone who won't ever give up on me.. someone who wants what I want

(even though some people judge me, I'm still trying to find someone to get along with...It's very Important to never lose hope)

I'm Interested In conversations with people who live In Europe (like me) because I would like to see them In real life - In the future. If you don't live In Europe, there's no reason to read anything else. I'm not trying to be rude - I just don't want to waste your time

I'm here because despite having people to talk to - I don't feel like someone who has friends, you know? My loneliness Is really overwhelming because I'm a perfect example of someone who's never anyone's first choice. I no longer want to be someone to chat with.. I want to have friends and I want to be a friend. Some people don't realize what It's like when you're surrounded by people who don't care about you because there's always someone better to spend time with or something better to do... 😔

What I'm not Interested In?

• I'm not Interested In low-effort messages or comments like "What's up? or "I'm here If you want to talk" Why? I don't need another random person to chat with. Some people reach out to others to make them feel better and I understand why but I'm not here for words of comfort or temporary attention from someone who Isn't even Interested In being my friend. When people read posts like mine they always say "DM If you want to talk" but I'm not here to get something off my chest & then? Move on. I'm here to meet like-minded people who want to make friends. (There's one more thing worth mentioning! I don't like abbreviations In text messages! If you're another person using "Wbu?" Instead of "What about you?" (It's just an example) I'm not for you. I'm not trying to be rude, It's just NOT something I'm a fan of)

• I don't want to get any messages from people whose accounts are NSFW! Please, respect my decision! It's none of my business If you're here to find someone to flirt with or If you're an Internet exhibitionist but I don't want to see you with no clothes on - If you want to be my friend & I don't want to know what you want to do with other women In bed. If you are on Reddit to flirt with others, be on Reddit to flirt with others but... don't make an alternative account to hide who you really are just to send me a message. Pretending to be someone you're not - Isn't good for anyone

• I don't want to talk to any minors because I'm an adult. I don't mind talking to people younger than me because emotional maturity doesn't necessarily come with age (It's more complex) but please, don't send me a message If you're under 18 or If you're a middle-aged person 🌸

• I want to talk to people who love and use emojis 🤭😊 Why? Emojis help us express our emotions even If others can't see our faces. Two emojis "😊" and "😔" are completely enough. Text messages without emojis are really emotionless...I also don't like it when people say "yeah" or yea" as it sounds dismissively. First impression Is everything to me! I want to see your kindness even In a text message.

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I want you to know something else! If you think crying Is a weakness, you're wrong. It's OK to cry even If you're a guy because emotions shouldn't be bottled up 🌸

• I want to meet people who don't have friends and partners. Why? Because It's easier for me to get along with others, If they have something In common with me, something Important. There's nothing wrong with having friends or partners but let's be honest - people who have friends or partners have less time for others (which Is completely understandable) and I? I don't want to feel like an option, again. I'm not here to meet as many people as possible because I choose quality over quantity 🌸

• Don't contact me If your comment history Is full of comments like "Hi! Let's be friends! Or "If you want to talk - send me a message" Why? I want you to be my friend because of who I am! I don't want to be one of many, you know? If It doesn't make any difference to you who you want to be friends with - scroll down to read different posts. I really don't want you to think I'm a rude person (because I'm not) but I want to be 100% honest with you because my post definitely Isn't the same as posts that belong to other people

• I'm not a fan of sarcasm! I do - have a sense of humor but I'm not someone who makes fun of everyone and everything... Jokes about disabilities, death, religion or someone's financial status - are unacceptable to me!

• I don't make friends based on hobbies (unlike most people) I want to know what you're like, not what you like. Don't get me wrong, you can tell me what you're Interested In but It doesn't make any difference to me If you're Interested In photography or something completely different. I want to meet someone with the same personality traits as mine 😊 (I love talkative, honest, kind, caring and understanding people) I want to meet someone whose expectations align with mine - not someone who Is bored or hor**

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• I want to meet people who don't mind listening to negative stories and sharing them with others. My life's not easy so If you want to be In my life, you should be prepared for a realistic or even pessimistic outlook on life. I'm definitely not an optimist and I know I wouldn't get along with optimistic people who always tell others "Just believe In yourself and everything's gonna be OK" or something. We don't always get what we want & and It's completely normal to lose hope "for a better tomorrow" after many failed attempts. Not everything's as easy as It seems to be so If all you want to say to someone who needs emotional support Is "Don't complain" or "Find a therapist" Please.. don't send me a message. Not all sad people need therapists and let's be honest - Would a therapist replace a true friend? Absolutely not! Everyone needs a shoulder to cry on! I also don't mind listening to sad stories (even If they're repetitive) because I know what It's like when no one wants to listen to you.

What else can I say? I'm Interested In daily conversations with people whose expectations are exactly the same as mine. If you're too busy to chat with me or If you don't need daily conversations - Ignore this post. I'm not asking anyone to be online all the time and Instant messaging Isn't something I can't live without but I'm also not someone who enjoys waiting endlessly for messages from someone I'm Interested In... Real time communication Is perfect for people who love short and simple messages. I? I'd rather wait an hour or two to get an Interesting message but waiting two hours to get a message (It's just an example) Isn't the same as waiting twelve hours just to read two or three sentences.. 😔 Not everyone Is the same and It's okay to have different expectations and personalities but It's also Important to feel comfortable! I'm not here to change anyone + I'm begging you, don't try to adapt to me If you're here for something completely different..

• Don't use chat GPT to reply to my messages. If you don't want to use your words due to laziness or constant fear of being judged by others - find someone else. I don't need AI generated messages.

• If your comment history Is full of rude comments & posts stay away from me. I don't want to talk to anyone who's on Reddit to make fun of other people or judge them. Respect Is an Important aspect of my life - just like kindness. I know exactly how rude some are on this app... It's very sad for someone like me because I know what It's like when others attack you just because they disagree with you 😔

Please.. Send me a message only If your situation Is exactly the same as mine and If you really want to talk to me on a daily basis. I don't want to sound like a broken record but I don't want you to contact me to make me feel better & then? Disappear. I don't reply to messages I'm not Interested In even If they're long (sometimes you just know If someone Isn't for you) but I would never Ignore anyone I like

If you want to talk send me a private message or contact me via chat request. I don't like public conversations and I don't reply to comments.

Ps. I'm not here for any advice and I don't need criticism. It's OK to disagree with others but not everyone Is the same so If you don't think I'm someone for you - just Ignore my post or block me. Reddit can be really toxic and there's absolutely no need to make anyone feel worse.

Ps.2 I Know who I am and I think I would be a really good friend but I can't find anyone on the same emotional level as mine 😔

Ps.3 I'm an aspiring goth, I don't like kids and I don't want to ever become a parent. I just thought everyone should know that just In case. I don't want any unpleasant conversations with anyone. Not everyone wants to be friends with people who don't want kids so.. It's better to be honest.

Best of luck, everyone 🌸

I’ve been haunting Reddit like a background character in someone else’s story — always online at questionable hours, rarely speaking. Figured it’s time to step out of spectator mode.

My life isn’t “busy.” It’s side-quest heavy.

Sunrise carp sessions.

Lifting heavy while actually winning a weight-loss arc.

Meal prep like I’m catering for a small army.

Running a mildly chaotic pet empire.

Calling my Steam Deck “stress management” while ignoring real responsibilities.

I don’t do low-effort hobbies. I collect obsessions.

I’m introverted but not boring. Quiet, but I notice everything. I’ll remember the detail you mentioned three weeks ago. I’ll send memes at 1am. I’m low drama, high loyalty. Conversations with me escalate quickly — from “how’s your day?” to life goals, weird theories, and the kind of thoughts you only admit after midnight.

If you’re grounded, curious, a little chaotic but solid at your core — say hi.

Worst case? We chat.

Best case? We click harder than expected

Also? 420 friendly

I feel like I’m never the chosen one, even in friendships

I feel lonely and always overlooked.

Sorry, I have the urge to tell this to someone because I feel like no one listens or sees me, but I don’t have anyone to talk to, my phone is so dry. That’s why I’m here.

Sorry if this isn’t the right sub.

Do you have experience with situations like this and have you overcome them and how?

Seven months ago two other girls and me started at this new job, we are all from somewhere else and everyone live here at the workplace. After two months of working here and us three being inseparable I had to go to school and the other didn’t (we all get told different times when we have to attend). I had to leave work for 10 weeks and I was scared of this before even going because I had the fear of it all changing when I come back, because they stayed there for the ten weeks and worked together.

They reassured me that everything will be okay.

Now I have been back for three months and I’ve noticed a shift.

They are always together, they notice me less. They are insaparable. I’m just there and feel overlooked.

I try to keep the connection up, but they don’t do the same for me.

I feel so lonely and not even noticed from them.

Should I just accept my loneliness and not take anymore steps towards them?

It hurts so much.

And this is not the first time that something like this happened in my life.

I’m always there, but never chosen and I feel like it wouldn’t even matter if I wouldn’t be here tomorrow.

It’s like I’m a ghost in a room full of people.

Every single day.

Hey! I’m looking for friends! I am 38, and a flight attendant. However it’s not my dream. My real dream is to become a pilot, so in off days I am in flight school. I’m a student pilot.

I travel the world for a living. I’ve been to 21 different countries so far.

I am looking for friends, nice people who would be fun to talk to! I’m a nerd, I love gaming, even though I rarely have the time anymore. I’m married to my wife, I’ve been with her for over 14 years now. We just bought our first house also!

Message me if you’re bored or want a traveler friend!

TL:DR - I like yapping with people and I think I'm pretty lovely, though I am a bit biased. Message me anyway and find out?

Pretty much title! I love the little warm fuzzy feeling you get when it's like "Ooooh this person is delightful!" location is no issue, but I would like long term chatty friends. I'm not always available due to plague of wage slaving, but gaps of days between messages is never super fun, besides that I'm fairly open to chatting to whoever!

As for myself, I think I'm pretty lovely, but I'm fairly biased I'll admit. I work from home doing a travel insurance job, its mostly mid, but its not the worst thing ever, though the WFH bit saves it honestly, zero interest in commuting. My big interest is travel, my wallet hates me so much for it. I've been to Philippines/Singapore/Malaysia over two Asia trips, a lot of Europe, Jamaica, Canada. Last year I did Istanbul, Portugal and a Norway cruise, plus a Asia trip. I just got back from Serbia, got a Poland trip for my birthday in May and going to the Formula 1 race in Madrid in September, hoping I get squeeze in a Christmas trip somewhere in Europe too, but its very finance dependent. Beyond that, I'm a pretty keen reader, plus the usual smattering of videogames/sports watching/tv shows/gym (but mostly to offset meals out with friend). I live at the edge of a town and some of the walks are lovely here too. I've dabbled with painting, taken up and dropped the piano a few times (I used to play when I was younger and was decent and sometimes get the urge to play again).

One of my few hang ups is a preferring a bit of a heads up if someone decides its not working and we've spoke for a while, no drama, just drop me a message to say so, the ghostly exit is always a bit depressing, besides that I'm chill and easy to get along with, but I do prefer to be told if someones situation changes and they won't be chatty anymore. Just a bit of closure is preferable is all.

In terms of where to talk, I do prefer to move to apps, I have all the usual ones but staying here is fine too. Include your basic details in your message, the usual about me stuff is fine, don't feel the need to match the rambling essay above! :)

I'm into anime, gaming, music, movies, photoshop/video editing and fitness. be around my age (early-mid 20s preferred) and also based in Europe (timezone compatibility).

Would enjoy to watch YouTube videos or just chatting about something while hearing music together. SFW only

If that sounds good to you, feel free to send me a DM and say hi + an short introduction.

i don't text with people who have anonymous accounts (means no pfp) or an 18+ warning on their profile. (safety reasons)

I love cooking like tacos meat fish burgers and more I am a good cleaner lol worked hard to get this good at it and I love ❤️ helping people out

I love video game lore I spent many hours reading and watching videos about fallout and Star Wars lore and many others like Witcher and elder scrolls and many smaller ones like fable and stuff

I also like reading sci fi and fantasy books like Star Wars the expanse and the lord of the rings and eragon and other series

I like going on nice walks and learning history big fan of Roman and Japanese history but also like a European and other history

and I like reading hellboy and bprd comics I may not read much but I love learning about dc comic books

and I play many different kinds of video games like jrpgs like dragon quest final fantasy and trails in the sky

I like other games like dark souls 1 ashen fallout rage 2 and metal gear solid enderal gothic 2 but also crpgs like baldurs gate 1 and 2 pillars of eternity and one of my favorite series of games avernum

and my favorite tv shows are stargate sg1 and Merlin then I also watched the first seasons of supernatural and thought it was pretty good and some of the series lost

and I like anime like full metal alchemist brotherhood gundam and bleach used to watch a lot of fairy tail to back in the day

When I was younger I watched cartoons like transformers prime gravity falls justice league animated and more

playing a made up dnd type game I made sadly no groups I make stays together for very long so tell me if you want to be in a new group

so we can play and I have fun so if you like any of these things message me and we can maybe become good friends and a big hug for all of you that have read through this

Hey! I am bit of an introvert and having a hard time with loneliness and finding a friend. Ive been through something rough this past month. Just looking for some genuine friends that’s all. 

I am free most of the time and I love to voice call! It makes me feel more connected. Even though I am super shy about calling. I can play Roblox and watch movies if youre down for it.

If youre someone who can voice call daily, that would be such a ++ but chatting is fine with me too. 

I love chess and horror gameplays. I don’t have a gaming console so i Rather watch others playing and enjoy that.

I am good at programming and majoring in Machine learning and AI. I love philosophy and astronomy.

This was about me, we can chat here or take convo to other socials. Whatever suits you. Dont hesitate to text me or have a good day :)

today is my birthday and 2 weeks ago i told my 6 friends the plan and they all said it sounded good. it’s just me , one of my roomates and one friend and they’re just on their phone a lot of it. then just this week one tells me she can’t come to bday dinner bc my other roommate has a sorority event which fine but then today just this morning one just tells me she has class and will be late which ok . then , we go to a comedy show we were held up and late bc of the restaurant and it ends early it was good and i was disappointed bc i wanted to have more time with my friends and we all go to our apartment and practically the whole thing is one friend telling story about a trip she went on, then my roommate telling everyone about her roster of boys , then everyone just trying to hunt for one of the girls new boyfriend or whatever on her instagram which whatever ok what upsets me is they do all that we blow out candles and essentially everyone leaves . i get wanting to catch up with everyone but like it’s like it wasn’t even my birthday and im not one to put the spot light on my self i’ve been having a really bad past couple months my nana passed 4 months ago and life’s just been hard and i’ve missed her a lot today it hurt not to get a call from her singing to me … i was really looking for ward to a day to feel special by people i care about and i just felt ignored and unimportant.

my roomates were sweet and decorated the living room for me and gave me sweet cards . while my other friends couldn’t even get me dollar tree cards or even a soda idc just something to show they thought of me .. one of them not doing anything hurt particularly bad bc on her birthday i hand drew her a card and it’s not like i expected something like that back i just thought something whether its just a thoughtful gesture like getting the 2 dollar coke i got at the show but didn’t do that . i’m just very sad and wish i knew why i wasnt enough

Hello

I’m a good listener, emotionally aware, and not the judgmental type (straight and single if that matters)

I’m comfortable with both depth and nonsense. We can go from stupid memes and random questions to long discussions about history, psychology, cultures, or politics.

I read, enjoy music and movies, sketch sometimes, and game when I’m overthinking life.

Idm any age, gender, race or nationality

If you want to chat, rant, debate, or send absolute nonsense — text me

The friendship ended kinda mutually. It wasn't dramatic or anything. I dont want to explain the full story but it was getting messy.

We were close but now im getting triggers and reasons to really dislike her as a friend. I feel awful about it and I dont know what to do. I miss my old friend , but i feel some discomfort.

Hi! I am a female student and lately I met a male student and we were chatting and I was feeling quite good so I asked him his Insta to follow him. But he didn't accept the request and when I asked him the next day he said that it didn't work so I gave him my Insta and he followed me. We were chatting completely normal today and it was also our last day in the same classroom so I asked if he wants to be my friend (I am really bad at talking to new people so it was awkward) and he said yes. After 20min when I opened my Insta I saw that he unfollowed me and rejected my request. I really want to know what I did wrong!!

From Indiana currently driving down to my hotel but gonna make a few stops. I have my first fishing tournament of the year this weekend so I'm trying to mentally prepare for it. Gonna be a long weekend.

Shoot me a message if you want to chat.

Honestly prefer women cause I've had a lot of weird guys message me lately...

Lately I'm starting to feel like I have less and less people to interact with. People come and go. As such, I hope that maybe I could meet some genuine people on here, and ideally become friends in the long run.

So I'm 22, from Europe, and currently a Master's student. I'm introverted for the most part, and I tend to be reserved and introspective by default. But with the right people I'm also able to open up more. My interests include cars, electronic music, racing games, travelling, international relations, photography, and definitely deep talks. I really don't mind if we don't share much in common as long as we can get along based on other things. I will leave other details to be discussed in our conversation so that we'd have something to talk about.

If you feel like we could get along, leave me a DM. Though I would really appreciate it if you could also tell me a bit about yourself, dry messages don't do justice for me. As a matter of fact, you can even type "👌🏻" so I'd know that at least you read my post and understood it. Anyways, see you soon.

We can watch a movie or a show, if we watch anime I can watch whatever and just pirate it. I also have Netflix if there's anything on there you wanna watch

I just got off of a long-term relationship and lost some friends in the process. I wanted to make new friends now from different cultures.

I really like pokemon, stardew valley alike games, cats, and beer, and I'm a kindergarten teacher's assistant. I work and study, so I have a really busy week, so I wanted friends who understand that could take me some time to answer sometimes.

Hi,

I would like to tell a story about the age old question, can men and women just be friends?

So I was part of a group of friends in highschool. I was the only girl in the group with 3 guys. I started dating one of the guys in highschool.

The other 2 went to University with me while my then boyfriend went to go study in another province.

Friend A had a girlfriend at the time. He broke up with her and he was serial dating to a point where we had to sit him down. It was becoming a mess. He eventually calmed down.

Friend B was kind of another story. He always had a bit of a crush on me (Friend A told me this one drunken night after a party, I didn't know this). He never said anything or acted on it.

At Uni, he met a girl. She thought I was weird (I was a bit weird in hindsight) and I thought she was stuck up. We instantly disliked each other. We were civil, but never got along. It went like this for 4 years.

Eventually me and my boyfriend broke up and her circumstances changed as well (by now she was engaged to my friend) and her and I had to move in together for a few months.

I was heartbroken at this stage. She was stressed with studies and planning a wedding.

I don't know how this happened but she became the Grace to my Frankie

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We have been best friends since then. This was 11 years ago.

During the past 11 years, I got back with my then boyfriend. We got married, had kids, a house and dogs.

Last year Friend B and his wife (my best friend by now) had problems. She was talking to me during that time and at one point, he phoned me.

I answered with "You can't trust me. Whatever you tell me, I will tell her. So be careful"

So I don't know if men and women can be friends. They probably can. But, what I can say is that sometimes you meet an even better friend through them.

I met my best friend through my childhood best friend.

And he doesn't dare mess with us.

* ​​TL;​DR​ *

Riya (myself), Neha and Diya trio of friends. Neha ghosted Riya for 6-7 months. Riya thought Diya was her best friend but now reconsidering it as Diya wants to be friends with both?

*​LONG STORY*

​Riya(Myself), Neha and Diya are the trio of friends, I was randomly being ghosted by Neha for almost 6-7 months like wasn't picking up my calls not responding to my text messages she talked to Diya during this time and they both also used to hangout together sometimes as they live in the same city. I used to talk to Diya with on a daily basis since 5-6 months.

Neha was also a really good friend of mine we used to hangout out together, buy each other birthday gifts we never really fought or argued about anything ever throughout our friendship. But everything changed so unexpectedly.

Neha and Diya are introverts and pretty logical people, Im more of an extrovert and emotional person. They both have always told me how I'm so "emotionally overwhelming" (idk what does that mean) but it really never harmed out friendship.

(2-3 months before today) After that diya was talking with me and then she added Neha to conference call there I asked her if she wants to be friends with me??? She was hesitant and didn't say anything

(2 days before from today) Neha told Diya and told her that she stopped talking to me as I wasn't understanding, I was emotional and didn't value her, and she herself isn't telling me this because she hates confronting me and that's why ghosting me.

I'm hurt, I cried 2 days straight because of this, Diya told me that Neha is wrong in this situation, but still is good friends with her, (I thought she was my bestfriend) She said that she is friends with both and it's not that much of an issue, and she still wants me to be her bestfriend but I'm not sure about it what should I do???? Should I consider her as my bestfriend after this?

Heyy guys, I'm here to find my new best friends since i Have zero in Real life, internet Is my only option.

Im from little europian country named czech republic so i would love if you are from EU too because of timezone

I can describe myself as kind, friendly, truthful like i Tell you everything like i see it, and talkative like a lot, And also annoying.

My hobbies are pretty normal or boring for some people:

- nature, hiking, swiming, cycling And walking

- healthy life style And trying caloric deficit So we can hype eachother

- gaming on pc (BioShock, half life, metro, Stalker, god or war, helldivers2, cs2 And more)

- traveling

- low cortisol activites

- Memes

- cooking and baking

So if you Are interested let me know, just put some effort please, i know its boring but i believe we will click fast if we both give the same energy🙂‍↕️

Working through the night. Just looking for a chat or possibly new online pals. I like weird things. Paranormal, true crime, unexplained, missing people, stuff like that. Into all kinds of music. Mostly heavier, metalcore, deathcore, emo, 90’s & 2000’s alt rock and stuff. I read a lot and play video games in my down time. I’m kind of a spooky guy. If that’s something that interests you. DM me.