r/BadNeighbors

I live on the 3rd floor and my upstairs neighbor is really loud. I don’t mind the footsteps or the dragging of furniture because that’s just part of living in a shared space. I realize a lot of the things I hear aren’t really his fault as we have hardwood in every space except the bedroom.

I’ve had to tap the ceiling once or twice to get him to turn down his music and he has. Well the other day, he had his music up sooooo loud, like I could hear it bar for bar. I didn’t initially tap the ceiling because it’s like 2 in the afternoon, it is what it is. Well then, like 20 minutes after hearing him blasting his loud as music, I hear a girl moaning then I hear him moaning. On top of hearing the loud music, now I’m having to hear him pound this girl. I had to hear the entire session, and I tapped the ceiling once because I didn’t want to ruin their moment, but I also didn’t want to hear him or this girl hunching.

The ceiling tap didn’t work, they just got louder. I tried to call the office twice to let them know, but they didn’t answer so I resulted to calling the Police. I called the non-emergency line because there was no way that I was going to listen to loud music and hunching all day long. The Police did come out and he did turn down the music, but a few days later, I could hear them hunching again.

After thinking about it, I’m happy I didn’t tell the office because I feel like that might have been very embarrassing for him, since they would know who he is. I don’t think he’s aware that I can hear him having sex, I think he thinks the music is the issue. I was going to write him a letter letting him know that I can hear his sexual encounters but I wanted to get some input on the best approach..The sex noises just started about 2 weeks ago and I’ve heard it three times since the first time.

Hi. Me and my dad live together in a house he’s resided in for over 40 years. We have a neighbor who has, in the last couple of years, suddenly began accusing my dad of trespassing on her property, among other things (all falsely, I might add). Her supposed proof is video footage taken from in front of her privacy fence of my dad being too close to the fence (he was doing yard work on the outside of her fence - her back yard buttresses up against our front yard). He has never stepped foot on her property, but she is taking him to court for a second time now alleging he is trespassing (the first case was dismissed due to lack of evidence). I am not worried at all that my dad will be found guilty. Her evidence (if she has it) itself will prove he was never gone beyond her fence and actually stepped foot on her property. My question is, how do we prevent her from continuing to do this? Is there some sort of legal recourse we can take to prevent her from going back to court and having charges drawn up on my dad on a different day? This has happened twice now and it is causing him undue stress, not to mention him having to miss work because he has to go to court. We have tried just ignoring her and staying as clear from the fence as possible (which sometimes is impossible), yet she still continues to make false allegations against my dad. What can we do?

Location: North Carolina

they bang on their wall when they hear me press my switch Lite's buttons when I play on it ( I play daily. I also don't even put the sound on ! ), they hear my music even when I listen to it with earphones ( I put the volume up but even then, the music shouldn't be heard from the earphones downstairs ) and now they bang on the walls when I'm just breathing normally ( even banged on the wall when I was breathing a bit fast and heavily and crying due to an anxiety attack ! ) ! I told my mother who I live with about the situation and she got pissed and called me crazy. I can't even go to them 'cause I hate confrontations, I want all of this to stop ! I' m allowed to live God damnit !

I started throwing plushies at my floor when they bang on the walls, now. I have enough !

I’m curious if anyone else finds this normal.

My neighbor appears to work from home. He lives directly across the street from me. I say he appears to work from home because his car is usually parked in the driveway.

He has recently taken to the habit of watching me leave for work and watching me come home. Every day when I come home or when I leave, he is sitting in his garage with a chair directly facing my driveway. He is rarely on his phone and stares at me as I leave. He has never spoken to me, never initiated conversation or anything remotely neighborly.

I feel like I’m being stalked by because he’s clearly memorizing my schedule. But he hasn’t done anything violent or weird, he just stalks me.

There is no one else on the entire street or in the neighborhood who does this type of behavior. He is the only one sitting in his garage, staring at the neighbors. Other people might be outside, but they’re usually doing something, not simply watching. They might be playing with their kids. They’re doing chores, but he is never doing any of those things. Even though he has kids, he is never playing with them. He is always sitting in the garage, staring at the neighbors.

So I’m curious if there’s anything that can be done about my creepy neighbor or do I just have to put up with it?

There's an older lady who lives in a house on my street, who HATES when people let their dogs pee in her yard. Fair, it's her yard. She even put a couple signs in her yard warning folks not to let their dogs use her yards as a toilet. Again, fair, it's her yard, the signs are small and look fine.

Apparently the signs weren't doing the trick though, so she has now installed solar powered motion activated devices that emit a loud high pitched noise. The problem? Other people's mailboxes are at the edge of her yard, and whenever people go to get their mail, the device goes off. And on the other side of her yard, there is a path to a local park, which is very popular with neighbors, and she placed a second device there that goes off whenever anyone walks down the path.

I don't know if these devices have worked to keep dogs out of her yard, but they have worked at pissing off neighbors getting their mail, and making babies and small kids cry as their family heads to the park.

Are these things even legal?!

Like the heading says my neighbor has had there light above their garage (which is a SUPER bright light) on constantly throughout the night. We have no HOA and no neighborhood rules to abide by but it keeps me up hours out of the night, I could lower my shades but they are broken and I am petty. I want to get a super bright flash light to shine at there house and not disturb any other neighbors but them. What light or flashlight would you recommend to shine at there house throughout the night to get back at them for doing this for the past 5 years?

Hey everyone, first time poster, long time bad neighbor-haver.

We live next to the one crappy rental house on an otherwise descent block. We've had the same people in the rental for a while now. They're generally not too bad, just obnoxious. Recently one of the tenants has a new boyfriend that's been hanging around and I'm pretty sure he's selling drugs. I have no concrete evidence. He comes and goes multiple times in a short span of time. I know this because you can hear his car coming from half a mile away. A couple of weeks ago we heard someone yelling about their son buying drugs at the rental. Again, nothing concrete. but I'm confident the guy isn't doing door dash.

I will stress we really try to mind our own business. I'm not a "get off my lawn" guy. I am not constantly watching them out my window. We don't call the cops on them for every little thing. If anything we've let them get away with a lot of crap over the years.

Wanted to get some opinions on if I should call the police or just continue to mind my own business?

We live in a culdesac in a lovely suburban neighborhood. Our next door retired neighbor got a hound pup around 18 months ago, got an invisible fence and left the dog outside to bark all day. And by bark, I mean howl, scream, bellow. Around the time the got the dog we had our 3rd child. Notable to mention my husband was also diagnosed w a serious heart condition and hospitalized (bad timing, very stressful w new babe) that she knew about as we asked neighbors for any help they can provide in a hard time. After the 3rd time the dog woke up the baby and husband after his hospitalization and surgery, we gently asked her if we can come up with a plan to limit the incessant barking. She was in denial somehow to his barking but said she'd work on it. Got better for a week or two then became a nonstop issue again. We again let her know the dog was waking us up before 7 AM with barking. This time, she and her husband were defensive and aggressive saying that dogs bark that's what they do, it is odd we werent up and at work by 7, etc. Also stating WE'RE the problem and theyve never had issues with neighbors. We aren't petty people and didn't state it, up we've been made aware they previously had a blood hound that was extremely loud disturbing neighbors and (rumored) bit individuals and had to be taken by animal control.

This last argument was around 14 months ago. We now are in a pattern of the dog barking incessantly, our notifying them including calling animal control on occasion, the barking decreasing for a week or two then the pattern repeats itself.

We have also tried handheld ultrasonic devices which haven't been useful.

She maintains that "dogs bark, that's what they do" and that she is trying very hard (despite standing next to the dog on multiple occasions while he barks incessantly without attempting to stop it or bring him inside. We've also let her know we had to totally rearrange our house due to the dog's barking which she stated "great idea!".

I should add the decibel of this bark is outstanding. It echoes through the entire neighborhood. In addition to the frequency and the fact the animal faces the front yard of a culdesac and our bedroom window, it is an absolute problem.

This post is mostly to rant because at this point I'm convinced we have to suffer due to her rudeness and poor consideration of other until we move. They're also proud Christians hosting weekly Bible groups which I find humorous considering they are outwardly torturing their neighbors with small children.

I will also listen to any and all advice.

The late 30s or 40 year old guy who lives with his mother next door to us has a rockband that he plays with in the drive way/garage of their house. When I say rockband I mean they have amps and microphones to project the terrible guitar playing and singing. Usually starts playing at 7pm and go on for as long as they want. This guy also practices by himself in the garage any time of day (10am, 4pm, Midnight, 3am). My house is on the side of the garage and my bedroom is literally next to it. But even if I am across the house I can still hear the music blaring. I'm relatively new to the area and I can't believe the other neighbors have put up with this for years. The other neighbors close to me are 3 houses with retirement age people and a house with children.

Moved into a room for rent. Renters said a house recently moved and the spots assigned to the home are vacated “open parking”. This community is HOA and each spot is assigned two spots. These two spots are vacant.
I started parking there instead of parking two blocks down near a park with public spots.

No one batted an eye since the neighbors moved out for a good three months the spots have been empty. Until last month, these obnoxious neighbors who own 5-6 cars; parking it on the public street hoarding the spots; owner calls it unfair and parks two of his vehicles in the vacant spots while his assigned spots is open and free- he claims he wants to keep the fairness.

When I parked there, He’s harassed my renter and his wife calling them, shouting out the front door telling them to move; they passive aggressively park their car sideways where I’m parked, tail gating near my vehicle. This is all because his wife had an issue with it and she doesn’t drive.. they called security and they cited me a ticket threatening to tow. I’ve been calling back to back hoping the same outcome would happen and yet nothing, the vehicle is still parked in the spots. At times, I arrive to my community before the neighbor comes and if I park there then he blows up my renters phone and harasses them. I guess I am looking for advice to deal with this or at least have some fairness.

Thanks.

Location: California

I live in an apartment, my immediate neighbor has an assigned parking space next to mine. I have my motorcycle parked in the back of the space and park my car in front of it. My neighbor’s storage closet is directly behind my motorcycle with two feet of space in between. I was pulling into my parking space, and noticed my neighbor and his 4 or 5 year old son crouched behind my motorcycle rummaging through their closet. As I pull in 3/4 of the way, he looks over his shoulder and stands up, walking into my parking space. I reversed not knowing what he was doing. He picks up a plastic snow sled looks at it then slams it on the ground, then tosses it over to his parking space. He began swearing at me since I ran it over. I did not see it. For context, they leave their stuff in my parking spot all the time. Their kids don’t pickup after their toys, and their parking space next to mine is piled high with toys and other junk, and they have to park with half their car protruding out into the parking lot. He called the police demanding them be out here immediately and threatened to call a lawyer. All this time I sat in my car stunned. He began accusing me of almost hitting his child if his child had ran out to save his toy. I maintained that I didn’t see it. The police never showed up. I notified my landlord and provided my dash cam footage. I am certain that if I didn’t have my dash cam he would’ve lied and claimed I hit his son. Should I go to the police to file a report for his aggressiveness? Or should I leave it be?

I recently moved into an apartment the end of last summer, I(M21) rented this place since its close to campus for me. So next to my apartment is another one that shares a wall with my living room, so I can basically hear everything even footsteps. My neighbors are a young couple with a kid that I estimate to be about 7-8 years old, a corgi and I believe recently a baby. At the beginning I didnt really mind them, my first interaction with them was probably when I went out to my patio and was met with the corgi running up to me and barking, they didnt really do much just watched but i brushed it off. Idk if this is relevant to the situation but the dad is korean and the mom is african american they seem to be in their mid 20’s. First it started with just hearing their loud footsteps but I realized that everyones footsteps were loud so it was fine, and then eventually the corgi would bark throughout the whole day to night, they also slam their door when they come in and come out (I always make sure to stop it before it slams and quietly close it), they started banging as well randomly at night it seems like hes building/fixing something, one of the incidents that really started making me pay attention to these people was one night there was a lot of banging late at night and so I went out my apartment to check it out and then the dog started barking, while I started to walk back to my door I immediately heard the dad start hitting the corgi hard like yk when korean people get mad and like sigh and say stuff like “aish”, well thats all i heard from him continuously striking the dog and the dog starting to whimper, another recent incident was that their dog bit my gf when I was not home atm when she was trying to get home which really pissed me off and now that brings us to today. For context each person gets their own sorta storage unit in the basement where the laundry is, so when I went to get something that day I saw that there was a pipe leaking into my stuff and it ruined somethings that I had to throw away, well today I was told by the maintenance guy that it was from a broken sink pipe from the neighbors that bursted most likely 2-3 weeks ago that they chose not to report so now im even more pissed, also apparently they didnt really seem to care or feel bad at all. I honestly dont know what to do maybe I can do something back to them, anyone have advise? And let me know if I am overreacting please!

I’m feeling a little like I’m losing my mind recently and don’t know what to do. My upstairs neighbor has began to target my movements and make me feel constantly on edge and watched. She started to punish me for making any noise by stomping on the floor or banging/dropping something on the floor. She’s been making a significant amount of more noise the past two weeks compared to the past year of her living above me which is how I know this isn’t random. Texting me or reacting by making noise herself to my TV when it’s on low or not on at all. Texting and calling me late at night. Recently she called me at 1AM to ask if my TV was on. I didn’t see the call till the next morning because I was asleep. She had texted; “Is that your TV” after I didn’t answer. I responded that I was asleep, so no.

I was on the phone with Kaiser the other day and as soon as I get off, I hear her window close. She listened to my entire conversation. She’s a fucking freak and seems to be constantly monitoring my movements.

This is the worst by far. Two weeks ago she was texting and calling me repeatedly while I was at work saying there’s a man in my apartment and that he won’t open the door for her when she says who’s in there and that she’s calling the police if he doesn’t open my door, causing me to have to leave work early and rush home terrified, barely able to drive because I was shaking so much thinking I’m walking into an emergency situation.

I was thanking her and only to find out it was a ploy to get me home quick because my best friend’s dog I had for ONE night barked at another dog passing my door in our building a few times throughout the day (she hates pets). She never mentioned the dog noise until after I got home, and that’s when I realized there was never any man in my apartment.

Also she takes her frustrations out on the entire building. She put inaccurate signs about pet laws in our elevator (people were arguing with her about it in the group chat) and is always angrily texting the group chat often about noise or other random issues she has. She’s like our hall monitor.

I took her pet law sign down one day because I was just pissed at the constant retaliatory noise (stomping/banging), and she posted a new one the very next day. I took that down as well day of, which maybe I shouldn’t have done as it was a little immature but I was just frustrated that this situation was disrupting my sense of peace and not feeling watched in my own home.

I’ve always known that she’s a tad unhinged but I guess I’m her target now. We actually used to be very friendly. I was always very kind to her and vice versa. But she’d always complain about people to me so I don’t know why I’m so in shock it’s circled around to me.

It just sucks so bad. I feel so on edge now all the time when I’m home. I’m not gonna confront her, it would probably make it worse and I don’t want to give her any of my energy and let this hopefully die out on its own. I’m trying so hard to pretend she doesn’t exist and not give her peace of mind and focus on being in my own world, but it feels impossible.

AITA- I was walking into my apartment complex and found my upstairs neighbor stopped, bent over on the stairs staring into my window apartment and whispering. She obviously didn’t see me but I asked her if she needed something from my apartment??

She didn’t say anything and I repeated myself and the answer was “you have two cats now?”

I have ESA letters and my landlord is aware.

She has been not very nice to my boyfriend and I in the past (see previous post) but I told her I had valid documentation and if she needed to see them or what the problem was?

She just walked away…

Now I’m just feeling anxious about the interaction :(

Hi all. I have been visibly physically disabled for several years now (drunk driver). While this was a very difficult journey, I've accepted the fact that I'm never going to get better and in a strange way now that I no longer have that expectation it's been a lot easier to be happy. I still have a lot to be grateful for.

Just my next-door neighbor is not one of those things.

My next-door neighbor who is not a dumb woman, in fact she has a pretty senior pretty high trust professional position, has developed this bizarre fixation with my incurable physical disability and her behavior is escalating.

A close friend of hers opened up a certain alternative medicine place (I'm deliberately being vague) about a year ago.

Shortly after that my neighbor began telling me that she just knew that this treatment would cure me.

She's also offered theories over the years that 5G, chemtrails, Barack Obama, etc are the cause of my disability.

I have to live next-door to this woman so my response to these conversations has been something along the lines of that's interesting, thank you for sharing that, I've got to run now nice seeing you.

Today she accosted my husband in our front yard and informed him that Jesus had appeared to her in a dream and told her that I was not following her medical directives (OK well perhaps her blond deity had a point there... 🤣).

She became extremely agitated and told my husband that I needed to get that medical treatment and that I was being irresponsible not to and missing my chance to be a good person God made me to be again. She gave my husband all of these medical detail details about me which are not accurate and which I have never shared with her. We just don't talk like that.

To me, this bitch crossed the line when she tried to triangulate my husband on her crazy bullshit.

I have already dealt with a lot of disability based harassment and defamation in this community and other people's reactions to it has put my safety in serious jeopardy.

This bitch is holding herself out as a medical authority and she's creating a narrative that is misrepresenting not only my medical situation but my actions, mental fitness & competency.

Of course people in the community are taking sides saying well you make everyone look at you on that thing (referring to my mobility aid) so it is everyone's business.

I've had it with this shit.

Has anyone ever dealt with anything like this and how do you shut it down because you have to teach people how to treat you.

I have neighbors who have been harassing us for years. They flip us off constantly, run over our side of the grass, and get extremely close to our garage. All the neighbors and even HOA does not like them. Cops have been called in the past and just recently have been called again. Unfortunately the officer can not do much since they are not physically hurting us or verbally threatening us. What should I do?