Brother thinks that because I'm ace(?) I'm going to marry a gay man
Okay, for some context, I am religious and a girl. Part of the reason I began to realize I might be ace is that the whole 'waiting for marriage thing' didnt really seem like a big deal to me, I didnt understand why people would tell me it was difficult. I would get the stereotypical "you'll change your mind, you'll probably do it before marriage anyway" and similar statements I hear ace people are often told.
For a while I thought nothing of it, and thought maybe they were right, but now years have gone by and I still feel the same. In fact, I've gained experiences like making out and whatnot and I really don't understand what the big deal is. I don't imagine that sex would be that big of a deal either, and the more I think about it, the thought of having sex even after I get married isnt appealing. Like at all.
I think its slowly becoming more apparent to the people I know that I might be ace, and I've gotten a lot of different reactions from others, but by far the strangest is from my brother. Every time I've told him something like "I dont think waiting for marriage is a big deal", or "idk if I would even do that after marriage", or "I want to get married but I don't want to sleep with my husband", he will be incredibly shocked by my perspective and say things like "your poor husband", or tell me that all guys want to have sex, and that if I want to be with a high achieving man, that man is going to want a lot of sex with me (because apparently all men are motivated by sex and only become successful because they want to sleep with women???). Most strangely, he tells me that because I'm looking for a partner who is also religious, that the only way I'm going to end up with someone who doesn't want sexual intercourse is if he is secretly gay, and that I am more likely to end up with a gay man who cheats on me than a man who is also ace.
I'm not really too worried about that happening, I think his perspective on it is kind of insane. I just wanted to share the craziest response I've received to expressing what might(?) be my asexuality (I'm still figuring it out). Has anyone else had crazy responses to their aceness, or ones similar to mine?