r/lgbt

Hello! I have a 14 year old daughter who is an out and proud lesbian. She wants to know if her girlfriend can have a sleepover. I do allow sleepovers but never had the issue of a romantic partner sleeping over until now. What do other parents do in these situations?

I am inclined to say yes, and just have them sleep in the living room. I feel that with two girls there is no issues of unintended pregnancy, I trust my daughter (she is very modest and for a while thought she was asexual - she wants to take things slow), and I feel like there is less of a worry of power dynamic issues than in a hetero-relationship - so all that makes me worry less. But am I being naive?

The Middle East feels like a place God made to be hell for everyone. I was just sitting at uni during a break between classes, scrolling through cat videos. Out of nowhere, a guy comes up to me, absolutely furious. He points at my phone case and snaps, "What is this?"

I asked him why he was asking, but he didn't answer. He just grabbed my phone, smashed it on the ground, and started hitting me. Security stepped in pretty quickly and took us to the Dean’s office. There, I had to listen to the Dean tell me that I was the one in the wrong for "promoting homosexuality."

He said he was being "lenient" by only giving me a warning instead of expelling me. I didn't even tell him I was gay; I told him I didn't even know what the colors on the case meant.

I asked about the guy who broke my phone and attacked me for no reason, and the Dean just said, "You provoked him, so deal with the consequences."

I can't take this anymore. I’m losing my mind and I just need to get out of this place by any means possible.

I’m a lesbian, and I’ve been dating around more, looking for something serious.

I’ve matched with multiple trans women, and felt attracted to them, but I really don’t know how to navigate the bottom surgery topic.

I want someone with a vagina, I’m not attracted to penis, and since I’m looking for something serious, I don’t wanna waste time with multiple dates if they don’t have bottom surgery yet.

I know this topic is sensitive, and I don’t wanna be one of those “what’s in your pants?” people because other than my own dating preferences, I don’t care.

So trans women, how do I navigate this while dating?

I don’t want to go on multiple dates and get to know someone, like them, just to find out that something that there’s a fundamental dealbreaker. Not to mention, not everyone plans to get surgery.

Please help me

Today i went to an LGBT club, and though it was early (5pm) i just wanted to sit and chill a little and maybe meet someone. There were like six people inside including the bartender and i didn't want to drink so i sat on an empty couch and started organizing pictures on my phone while tapping my foot to the music (they had some pretty good music there and spectacular bass). After about forty minutes the bartender walked over to me and asked "Hey, you doing ok?" So i answered "Umm yeah, just chilling..." "Waiting on someone?" "Umm.. yeah." Then he kinda rolled his eyes and walked away. I felt guilty because i guess he wanted me to order something so i just left. My friend was telling me that I should've just stayed and ignored the guy. But then again, i was getting increasingly lonely there. I'm very anxiety-prone, so walking up to people is a nightmare to me.

Another “important” topic for Eastern countries. Instead of fixing healthcare and dealing with bigger issues let’s ban lgbt as much as possible. But, it was expected because Belarus is practically “small Russia”

Possibly important details:

-We've been friends 3 years now and dating 2 years.

-Both of us are bisexual.

-Am pre T but they have known since the start I want to transition medically.

-They have expressed feelings about wanting to be a woman throughout our relationship and I've always been welcoming but they ignore exploring anything deeply so hence the they/them.

Now multiple conversations I've had revolve around being trans, and that I want to start T and every time they disagree with something, such as beards not being that cool, or that there is no reason to have surgery, but say I can do anything I want.

I've expressed uncomfortable feelings with certain talk or actions (sexual or not) and parts of my body that bring me lots of dysphoria and they keep reverting back to that stuff, always feel disgusting from that, I get their point of view boobs are pretty awesome but I have expressed that I feel really dysphoric with my chest so feels like lack of respect.

We have mutual friends who know I'm trans and are cool with all of that, but my partner doesn't call me their boyfriend or use my preferred name which is really weird, because the friends all call me that name anyway.

They honestly seem ashamed to date me but also find me sexually appealing, I have tried talking about expectations and trying fwb or poly or something but they are happy with us dating yet somehow keep crossing my boundaries or hiding me away metaphorically from their family and friends.

They are honestly my best friend and we have so much fun hanging out and talking, cannot stress that enough, honestly I wouldn't be dating them besides that, basically my only real friend and they mean a lot.

They call me their boyfriend when we text and seem supportive with small moments and words which is why I've not just broken up, honestly considering doing that anyway and trying to remain friendly, this is bothering me lots, but this is all really confusing, so if any of you have advice that would be amazing and I'll be happy to answer any questions thanks.