r/teenrelationships

So we’ve been dating for 10 months, we have kissed once, she initiated it, about 5 months ago. She has had one boyfriend before me who she was with for 7 months, and they kissed regularly after 6 and made out as well. Where as we have only kissed once, I’ve talked to her, and she said that she just isn’t ready yet, but she said that the first time around 4 months ago, when I tried to go for a second kiss, and every time I bring it up we get in an argument and she shuts me out, so I’ve stopped bringing it up, I don’t know how much longer I’m willing to wait. I’ve thought about giving it until we’ve been together a year and if nothing has changed then I’ll talk to her and potentially break up with her. I’d really appreciate any advice or thoughts on the matter, because I really don’t want to lose this girl but I’m not happy with things staying the way they are.

I have been dating my bf for nearly two years, but one of the main issues in our relationship is that I have never learned to get to know people.

Like, I always had friends that I knew since I was little, so I didn't need to get to know them because we grew up together; and when making new friends I guess I am not really interested in ACTUALLY getting to know them, or, as I said, I don't know how to do it.

And unfortunately it shows in my love life. I realized that, when I want to make a gift for my boyfriend, I can't think of an original idea. It's always something that he has mentioned before, or a "regular" gift like flowers or food, even though I know his interests. It's making me really sad because I feel like I can't make a proper surprise for him.

Do you guys have any advice on how I could get to know him more, and/or what kind of gifts I could give him?

Ok context this is my first post so I’m new

Me (14f) has been dating my boyfriend (14m) have been dating for a few months and he is my first real relationship tho I have had a few “middle school boyfriends” before. He has never dated anyone. We dated last year but it was very middle school and I broke up with him over summer because of some family issues and we just didn’t talk that often or hang out due to the fact that we can’t drive and at the time I didn’t really know him that well. I told him that I still wanted to be friends but the whole beginning of the year he just acted sad and it was very noticeable.

Fast forward to the beginning of the second semester- we started talking more often and he seemed to get more comfortable around me. We reconnected and started dating again. I actually got to know him as a person and I really think that I loved him. We live in a small town and a lot of people just stay in town, including him, but I play on a travel soccer team and a travel softball team and I am very social and have a lot of outside connections and am very good at communicating with people. He kind of just stays at home which never really bothered me but I’m a very busy person and we don’t get to hang out often. he is more quiet and I am more outgoing, but a lot of people said that we even each other out.

But I never really realized how socially awkward he is. Talking to people is something I really enjoy doing and he is very awkward around people he doesn’t know and doesn’t talk to adults very well when I find talking to adults the same as talking to anybody else.

I also just realized how immature he is when I’m not around I had had people tell me that he is immature, though I didn’t believe them but now I believe he acts differently when I’m not around

He often says how his whole life revolves around me how he loves me more than anything and he would do anything for me. I love him too, but I want him to have other things in his life. I have a lot going on in my life and I can’t give 100% of my attention. I recently went on a cruise for spring break with my best friend which made me realize that while we were dating, I put all of my effort into him because that’s what he was doing to me and I lost connection with a lot of my friends and missed out on a lot of things that were happening. He is also expressed a lot of jealousy about some guy friends that I have. And I don’t even know the full extent because I have a lot of guy friends outside of school too. He also has expressed how he will never have full confidence around me, and I always make him nervous. I don’t want to make him nervous. I want him to have confidence around me. I kinda just feel like us breaking up and getting back together is toxic and we just shouldn’t be together but I think he is kind of obsessed with me and has expressed a lot of signs of depression and I’m scared he might hurt himself if I break up with him because he hinted at it a few times.

We also go to a small school where the world would get around fast and his older brother is a substitute teacher at our school and our parents are both involved in the district and it might just be a lot of drama

I just really don’t know what to do because I haven’t talked to him since Friday afternoon over text where he said we needed to talk more before we decide on needing space from each other because I told him I wanted space. But I just feel like we are taking more away from each other‘s lives than adding to each other’s lives.

Sorry about the lack of punctuation. I have to see him tomorrow first period and I just need some advice.

I am F18 and my bf is M18 and we have been dating for a year.

From my extensive stalking I do sometimes on tik tok, I noticed that when u search up someone’s username frequently, the algorithm detects the pattern and immediately suggests you their account even by typing the first letter of their user.

For context, there is this really pretty girl my bf used to talk to around a year and a few months ago. He liked her a lot but it just never worked out. I have always been sort of insecure about their relationship because they were still in the same friend group a year later and halfway into our relationship. Because of my insecurity, he removed her on all platforms for me which gave me some reassurance.

Today I just got curious since I noticed this tik tok search pattern. I put in the first letter E into the search bar and her full name immediately popped up. I tried it on my own search algorithm again to see if this would happen with someone else’s page I used to frequently search up (but do not anymore) and this did not happen when it used to.

He said he used to send her tik toks so that was probably why she showed up immediately. So hearing this, I tried the same experiment on my friend who I send videos to everyday but do not frequently search up. No suggestion. BUT when I try this on people who I search up sometimes, it works and I do get the suggestion immediately.

I feel like I’m tweaking cause I understand the search algorithm enough to know he was lurking at least within the past year, but I can’t fully rely on it because algorithms are known to be faulty sometimes.

Hello, there’s some context on this situation: in 5th-9th grade we were in the same class, but well I didn’t really know back then if I had emotions about her or if I want to have some sort of relationship. We never really talked, I can remember only one time when my IT teacher asked me to help her on understanding some task. Now, that I am in 10th grade, we still go to the same school, but we are in different classes: she is in the chemistry/biology class, I am in the physics/maths class. We live pretty close: I have to walk for 15 minutes to reach her home. We both ride the same bus from school to home and from home to school. However, she has to walk 1 minute to her house and I have to walk like 15min. The only time that I can use to tell her my feelings is in the Tuesday, after school, because I’m an introvert and I can’t imagine me going to tell everything to her at school. Oh yea I also think she is an introvert as well, according to her actions. I didn’t try to stalk/spy on her, we’ve never really talked before, so I have no idea what to start from.

Me and her have been together about six months and this has happened several times. I am a little autistic so I don’t really know how to do this kind of thing. My gf often feels sad because she believes she is not beautiful. Though to be honest, she’s wayyyy out of my league anyway lol. I have even told her this, but she doesn’t like when I self depreciate. Yet she does it a lot!

She really is incredibly pretty, and I try to assure her that I find her pretty and that I love her, but this just seems to make her more sad! She says that she knows I find her pretty but wants to “be more pretty socially?”

Anyone have any advice on how to deal with this? Am I not catching hints? Please and thank you.

super sorry in advance for any mistakes in my writing, this is one of my first posts on reddit so i hope i'm being respectful

recently, my classmate (used to be close but we drifted apart with time) got together with a guy in our class. i never particularly cared much about them or their relationship aside from being shocked, as it was an unexpected pair.

earlier today, i was hanging out with my friend group and my best friend, vania during lunch break. vania was on her phone when she showed me the instagram story of my classmate kissing the guy, on the lips.

i was shocked and freaked out by it. i really dont know why i was, it just seems wrong to me, but the best i can come up with is that it's because we're still only kids and i feel like we're not mature enough for that kind of stuff, i never grew up around pda, and that my classmate had a history of saying racist and xenophobic things about my country (i dont live in my country at the time of writing this), so i automatically just stopped tolerating her.

i reacted with a simple "ew, okay, i dont really care." and moved on, continued talking to my other friends, who didn't pay attention to our conversation.

then, vania said something along the lines of "why are you so gloomy? why can't you just be happy for people?"

to that i replied that "it's because i don't give a damn about other people," and she called me "rude and inconsiderate". she ignored me the entire day after that exchange and im pretty sure she will continue to ignore me for a while.

vania had been acting distant and quiet for the past few weeks, im not sure why, and has a repeated history of shit talking me, spreading lies about me, and just doing stuff to our entire friend group that has just been, to me at least, mean.

ive got mixed responses from my friends when i asked them what they thought about it, so i dont know how to approach this. was vania right about me? if she is how can i be better?

I’ve liked this girl for a few months and finally worked up the courage to call her today to tell her how I feel.

Her mom picked up instead. Before I could even ask for my friend, her mom said, “Don’t you call her too often?” I was completely blindsided because I’ve literally only called her twice in the last month. In my confusion, I just blurted out "What?" and she repeated that she was just asking.

I panicked and told her I was just calling to invite her daughter to a party. Now I feel like I’ve dug a hole. I still want to tell her I like her, but I’m worried her mom already has a weird vibe about me, and now I actually have to follow up about this "party."

How should I handle this? Should I tell my friend what happened, or wait for the heat to die down with her mom first?

hi. i’ve been daiting my boyfriend for almost 1.5 years, and for a while, i thought i was going to marry him. i told so many people that we were going to get married. but recently i have felt like we were not meant to be. like i love him, but im not in love anymore. and a guy i used to mess with when we were younger messaged me on tiktok after i posted a story, and from there we got talking. for some context, me and this kid i used to mess with are literally the exact same person. we like the same music, have the same humor, interests, literally everything. so i’ve always had a crush on him. but for some reason every time we would get closer, i would push him away. but ever since that message, we have been hanging out, and having some very serious moments where i could see myself with him. but then i get flashbacks to my boyfriend and i then wanna be with him. it’s like, i like both so much when im with them individually. like when im with my boyfriend i like him, and when im with my sneaky link i like him. i’m so conflicted, im scared, i feel so bad, and im incredibly guilty. please help.

please read this im at my critical point

made on throwaway account.

i’ve been in this relationship for a year and a half now. my favorite time was the first 4 months and maybe sometime after. on ninth month the relationship and my boyfriend completely changed into a way i couldn’t imagine but honestly the signs were there before ig i just decided to ignore them.

for context, i was always a person with a really free picture of the world and never put myself into any restrictions unless it’s something crazy like bad habits or something else. him, on the other hand, is not really an open person in the way he sees the world and that’s what ruins me.

i’ve been posting things on internet my whole life, but with him near to me i genuinely can’t do it because he doesn’t allow me to. i can’t wear cool earrings because of him. i can’t do nails. i can’t wear something that shows at least a bit of belly. i can’t wear heavy make up. because he doesn’t like it. and these didn’t come at the start of the relationship. it came only after nine months and that’s why i’m so attached.

i still love him and that’s my main problem. because rn i actually don’t do what he doesn’t like, the relationship is normal, but if i try to post anything at all our relationship will crash fully. whenever i try to tell him that i just wanna post something for myself, he says that it’s for people’s attention and that’s weird and his argument that i can’t say anything on is “u don’t care about my feelings that’s why u continue doing it” like okay then u don’t care about my feelings if i do something that i like and u restrict me?

i don’t know completely how to either get out or talk to him. i don’t wanna be restricted in so many things in such a young age and that’s definitely not healthy. but i also don’t wanna lose him because i love him. please help

so i came into a relationship w a guy, we were in the same school, same age and all, he is a typical famous kind of guy, he's hot, good at everything, and has some trauma (intense) from his last relationship, but he has a lot of girls swooning over him, and yes he always has a situationship, he liked me first and i started liking him after few months because of his personality and his interests, his vulnerability and all, looks aside, i have had my fair share of situationships, i dated in middle school and high school too, but it was a week or something i dont really consider them something meaningful

we had our breakup and i was shattered, i was at fault for it, he tried being there but he was never that understanding like even if he was his words were quite the opposite and he pushed me away, i tried being there for him for 2 months after which when he continuously asked me to leave not talk about stuff, i went for no contact for 3weeks, after hinting him towards it, i came back after 3weeks (had some stuff going on too), he didnt reach out, i had my friends giving updates on him for 3 weeks, i texted him and he went awfully disrespectful towards me, he insulted and all said that i wasnt there for him, left him everything

i tried talking out but he shut down completely started blaming me for random things and went off, i waited for a bit, heard a lot of things in between, how he said stuff about me, yes not bad, but misunderstandings and everything
he also started a new talking stage with some girl,
i texted again, did cute stuff and all, we had a good talk after which, he told me about his feelings we cleared out misunderstandings i took accountability of things i was not fully wrong at (our breakup reason was very weird, everyone around us says this, that it was a reason for normal fight and could've been sorted out if he was understanding), i kept reaching out, sorting out, we talked normally, he has been giving mixed signals its been3 months of reaching out, 6 to my breakup and he was being sweet calling me nicknames until past week he suddenly stopped it and told me that i am pushing hm into things, which i didnt
i really dont know what to do, maybe im not directly confronting him?
he isnt reallly the type to put it all in front, i dont wanna f it up by leaving again, he gave mixed signals when we had a talking stage, and he is doing it now too

Ok so for context, I am female 18 almost 19 and he just turned 19. We got together beginning of senior year and really haven’t had any issues our whole relationship. He’s my first ever relationship and I lost all of my firsts to him. We don’t live together (as we are still young) but we see each other decently often.

Recently, though, I’ve been feeling kind of bored/annoyed. I have always thought my boyfriend was funny but more recently i’ve kind of realized that his way of being funny is just being childish. Like, he plays around with his spit, makes stupid jokes and just constantly feels like he’s trying to be funny. Also, all of his friends + him say slurs as jokes and call each other those slurs (lots of guys do) and i do know that he’d never say any of those slurs towards someone that “represented” it or whatever. (idk the best way to word that sentence but I hope you get what i’m saying). I don’t really like that he does that but I’ve kinda put up with it. I don’t really get any kind of butterflies anymore but I do still think he’s a little cutie and I definitely love him. I am currently in college and have a pretty good idea of what I am going to do for the future. He decided to take a gap year (which is totally fine) and has been working this whole year (at a food place) and has like 8k saved. I am very proud of him for saving his money like he has but also it’s a lot easier for him because he still lives at home where his parents pay for a lot, whereas I live in an apartment with my brother where I pay for all our groceries, my brother pays for utilities and my dad pays for rent (he lives out of state). As I have been attending college, I am also working atleast 25 hours a week. Anyway, It’s getting to that time of year where he would have to start applying for student aid or to schools/trade schools, whatever he wants to do. I talked to him about this and he just kinda shrugged it off and said he doesn’t know.

I really do love him and obviously we are still young, haven’t lived together, etc. But I have just been getting ick’s from him lately and don’t really know if i’m overreacting or really what I should be feeling right now. Sorry if this was worded kinda weird but i tried my best lol. Any thoughts? i’m lost.

I (18F) have been friends with this person (we’ll call them Sam) for around 2-3 years now, but we starting hanging out more last summer (mid-2025). I have always seen them as a good friend, and nothing more.

At the start of 2026, we had been getting closer (along with another mutual friend, Emma) because we were performing in the same play. Almost every practice us three would be hanging out, getting food or heading home together, and so naturally Sam and I began doing so one-on-one a few times.

Fast forward to two weeks before the show (March), we were having significantly longer rehearsals which would last the entire day and into the evening. Sam would often be sitting in my lap/being touchy and complimenting me (not that strange given they are naturally quite flirty, but they weren’t THAT touchy e.g. sitting in people’s laps with anyone else.)

On the Tuesday, they stayed over at my house and we watched a movie in my room (I have a TV facing my bed). During the movie, they were very close (head on my chest, my arm around them etc.) and I felt that there were some moments/tension. On the same evening they were cuddled up against me (leg over mine and everything).

The next night, we had another evening rehearsal and during this time, Sam and I were in a changing room with a few other people. This included one of Sam’s friends, Kylie. I personally am not the biggest fan of Kylie (she isn‘t the easiest to get along with and has been quite rude to friends of mine in the past), but she’s tolerable for short periods of time. Others left, leaving Sam and I with Kylie. Out of the blue, Kylie says something along the lines of “how obvious is it?”. I didn’t know what she was referring to, until she elaborated.

”That Sam and I are dating.”

I was confused, to say the least. I rarely saw the two of them hanging out (especially compared to how much Sam hung out with Emma and I) and they didn’t seem like the most obvious couple, but I just brushed it off. I asked Kylie about it later that night and found out that they had been ‘together’ for a few months.

I told Emma later (who was equally surprised, and shares the same reservations about Kylie), but asked her not to tell Sam I told her.

On the Friday (first show night), Sam, Emma and I went on a walk in the interval. Emma pretended to have figured out that they were dating, and we asked Sam all about it. They told us that Kylie and them had only kissed five times over the span of the few months, and that it didn’t really feel like a relationship. We pressed them, and they basically said that they were considering breaking up and that they felt they were already ‘emotionally cheating’ on Kylie, and that was something they didn’t want.

On the Saturday of that week Sam stayed over again and slept in my bed despite us having a guest room. Same touchiness and cuddling as Tuesday night.

Emma and I thought that the following week would be a good opportunity for Sam to break up with Kylie, and asked them about it. We expressed that we didn’t think they were a great match, particularly because of what Sam had said to us on the Friday, and that it would be best if they did it sooner rather than later.

Kylie has a very abrasive, dominant personality and can be quite forceful, whereas Sam is much more easygoing (and some might say a pushover). This is never a good dynamic, but especially because the two were friends before they got together, and we thought Sam would have a harder time breaking up with Kylie because of this (Kylie literally has one friend other than Sam, and so they might feel guilty about it.)

Anyway, after the show ended I begun wondering if I liked Sam as more than a friend. I’ve never been particularly good at distinguishing platonic vs romantic feelings, and so I was in a bit of a spiral after this, wondering if it was just a result of proximity or something. I thought about Sam a lot more than I had before, and found myself wanting to be around them or do things for them.

I hung out with Emma about a week ago and told her all this, and she basically said that she had assumed I was the one Sam was ‘emotionally cheating’/liked. This fuelled my thoughts and pretty much confirmed to me that I like Sam. She basically advised that I distance myself but I think I’d find that pretty difficult.

She also said that she doesn’t think Sam will actually break up with Kylie (mostly for the aforementioned reasons), and will coast along until they naturally drift apart.

So, any advice? I don’t want to get overly invested or be delusional, just wondering what I should do.

(PSA don’t worry about being harsh, I will appreciate the honesty.)

Thanks!

She told me her love language is just doing small things I am a jerk because I didn't asked her "like what" at that particular time cause we were having a serious Convo so that wasn't really a main thing. But now I'm so idk insecure and I feel I don't do anything for her like "small things" idk what is that and I wanna make her feel special I want her to go to her friends and say "my boyfriend did this for me today" and be happy about it. She told me she likes when people notice small things and I am a really forgetful and dumb person and I can't notice anything please help me and tell me what are the "small things" people like in a relationship.

for context, we're both in high school. So there's this guy, we'll call him Jack, we knew of each other since middle school but just started being friends as of November 2025. We got really close, and are now best friends. He likes this girl who goes to a diff school, we'll call her Belle. So Jack and Belle are pretty close, and Jack knew Belle before he knew me. He's had interest in her for over two years. They just recently confessed they had feelings for each other about a month ago. Of course, I supported him, and was super pumped, as a best friend should be. But...I think I have feelings for him. I know, normally it's the guy best friend that likes the girl, but it's opposite. Everyone at school ships us (like 12 diff people have asked if we're a thing) but he REALLY likes Belle. I've tried ignoring it, but I tend to have him in my head more often than not. One night, a big group of friends was watching a movie (it's a tradition) and we shared a blanket. it was over our shoulders, and we were relatively close. That was in February. Later, he confessed I was on his 'list' (sort of like a little list of people you like and consider dating, we made it up) AT THE SAME TIME AS BELLE, but said I only like Belle now. I've told him multiple times I do NOT like him, as rumors had been surfacing that I had a 'massive crush' on him, which i never told anyone I did. I've tried convincing myself we're just best friends, but idk what to do anymore. Please help! (sorry for any grammatical errors and/or the length of this post)

Okay so I've been in a relationship with this girl for about a year now and about 2months ago we had a massive fallout over her not willing to remove these guys I was a bit insecure over and I ended up calling her a slut which I take full accountability on how it was wrong while she said some harsh things I've moved on from. So after that we broke up for about a month and a half and decided to try again with us hanging out for 5 days on a row before valentines which was alot for me but I enjoyed it. Ever since valentines my girlfriends been making excuses for 2 months to not hang out with me and how she's not aloud but hangs out with her friend 3 times a week because apparently her mums okay with it. For the last month she's just became more and more dry with us having so many talks on it apparently I take the blame because I argue alot whereas she doesn't want to take any accountability making me feel crazy a bit. We don't talk on the phone much anynore because apparently she's to busy for that now and she won't even hang out with me at school because she doesn't wanna leave her friends. Today was her birthday and I really wanted to hangout with her and I thought she'd have the thought reciprocated in her mind but then she went to hangout with her family which was okay with me. What else happened today is that one of her friends which I'm honestly starting to develop feelings for invited me to the library today to study with me going straight to ask my girlfriend if she'd be comfortable with it even tho it's fully platonic she said yes which wasn't really what I was expecting but I just feel like she doesn't care about me anymore she doesn't listen to me ask me questions or even laugh at my jokes like she use to while her friend is always so intrested in me my well-being and just makes me feel heard I don't know genuinley what I should do with my relationship please help if I should keep trying within the relationship or just give up completely because she's just changed so much from even the little things like calling me cute names or sending me videos or asking to spend time again.

Please help

17M here.SO

 about a month ago I got into a relationship with my long time crush. I was so happy about it. For about 2 weeks we spent a really good time and everything was going perfectly fine. Then suddenly , she texts me she wanted to break up . the reason being 1) her parents were strict and if she gets caught then 💀 2) She needed to focus on jee and was getting distracted by this. I was fine with her decision cause I respect her a lot and her decision(altho i think it wwould have been better to talk it thru before any decision) and her points were also valid specially the studies one (We both are the toppers of our batch and everyone has high expectations). Even I was feelling im getting distracted so ya it happened. We had agreed to continuing the relationship after the school was over ... so I was fine with that also ..Next two days, worst...... I felt so low and depressed .... I cant even explain in words. From the third day on we started talking the way we used to before confessing our feeling. that gave me some relief ngl. few days later she told me that she is getting distracted by this still and wants to keep some distance for a while.. I felt so sad after reading this mssg. all those feeling post breakup started coming back. Through a mutual friend I got to know ki she is blaming herself only for the breakup and is overthinking about it. She is not even talking to me about this....she is okay talking to other ppl about it but not me .......😭😭😭. I will only try to help obv. Actually she is not the one to be blamed. I should be blamed. I should have thought about it before confessing 😭😭Its all my fault 😭It is becoz of me she has to go through all of this.............................I really should have thought about it .............. if ur somehow reading this which is impossible but still..... just wanted to tell you it was NEVER UR fault.... It had always been my fault.....Please stop thinking about this and try to talk normally plz......
.I Still love her the same way...........Now it has been 5 days since we havent talked......it hurts me so much when she ignores me in the class but i cannot do anything. I had asked her friend to make sure she is fine. i feel worried for her but she is not talking to me what do it do 😭😭

Please tell me what can i do in this situation so that things get back to
normal?

My boyfriend, 15 M and I,16 F, have only been dating for around a month. So far and he’s genuinely the sweetest guy ever. He pays for all my things, supports my hobbies and intrests, and doesn’t mind letting me yap about whatever I’m obsessed with for the week. He really is my dream guy, handsome, funny, and really nice to me.

But one problem; I don’t like how submissive he is. And I guess his sexual preferences don’t particularly matter since we haven’t had sex yet, or even talked about doing so. But for some reason his submissiveness pisses me off… we can’t both be bottoms!!

It’s to the point where I think I’ve lost feelings. I definitely don’t feel the same butterflies in my stomach anymore or really anything when we hold hands or kiss.

Maybe talking to him is the answer but if we’re both not into the same type of things what are either of us supposed to do about that?

Please give me advice on what to do!!

Hi reddit, the thought of posting on here whenever i have problems going on keeps circling in my head so here I am. My boyfriend and I have been together for a few months now so its still a fresh relationship even though it doesn’t feel like it. For some context we met online and after texting and calling for about a month or two we decided to meet up and since then we’ve been hanging out almost every day and not long after he asked me to be his gf. Before i met him though I was in what I would say my „prime“ so far, I think it was the best I‘ve ever looked but after i met my bf I feel like im becoming less attractive and I‘m not sure why that is, maybe im not putting as much effort in my looks as I used to idk. Besides the point, my bf and i were talking one time and the topic of my instagram came up in which he called me a catfish. I’m confident in my looks and I’m aware that i might not look as good as i do on my instagram pictures but who does right? Side note, no, I never edit my pictures, i don’t use filters that change my looks in any way (only changing the colouring sometimes) and I don’t look that drastically different, I’d say its just me from a good angle with good lighting. After he mentioned it i kinda shrugged it off maybe he was joking but it didn’t matter he’s still attracted to me is what i thought. Since that first time the term Catfish has come up a few times in comments he’s made and yeah they usually are meant in a joking way i suppose, but they do make me question if he actually feels like that. Especially the past 3 days id say hes called me a catfish about 3 times if not more and in just normal situations, for instance we would lie in bed and he would turn to me and say something like “come here my catfish gf” like wtf. What rubbed me the wrong way is how today i sent him a picture of me getting ready and he replied with “ahh my catfish queen”, which didn’t make me feel great about myself. I did look good in that picture and I looked the same when looking in the mirror but if he looked at me from a bad angle of course i wouldn’t have looked that great. One time a few weeks ago as we were on call he was going through my instagram highlights and kept commenting on how i “dont look like that” or how i “look so different there” (most of the pictures were more than a year older so that couldve played a part in how i looked slightly younger or just different there since I have changed in a year). This often makes me question if hes even attracted to me knowing his type is blondes and I’m a brunette but i always shrug it off on how at least im funny and i remember one time when he said that he would never be with me if i were chopped. I don’t wanna bring it up and start an argument but i know it will happen again and i was even planning on posting a what i think is a cute picture of me on my instagram but i can’t stop questioning whether i actually look like that to others or i just look like that to me in my head, but how do i go about this next time or how do i bring it up without sounding insecure?

Hello this is my first ever post I decided to do this because of what happened today and I really need to share my thoughts and get some opinions.

So I’ll start from the beginning, I’ve known this girl Emma, for about 3 years now, we have been close friends on and off and I’ve always had feelings for her. From when I met her until about a year ago every time I think our friendship might lead to something more life gets in the way and we would stop talking for months. Last school year we didn’t speak from September 2024 all the way until August 2025. When we became friends again in August I felt something was different and it would actually workout this time, so we texted and hung out for 2 weeks and then randomly out of the blue she told me she started talking to this guy in our grade (this guy is a horrible person like the things he has done are insane) so I am of course crushed by this and try not to say anything but one day I got into a massive argument with her over it and told her how she “must be easy” if she is going for him and all this but I never tell her I have feelings for her I just am trying to act like a concerned friend. Well blah blah blah we are just friends while they are talking for a few weeks and we keep getting in arguments about it I say more stuff that hurts her feelings (I still feel terrible for saying all of that). Well the day finally comes which I was warning her about, a new girl comes into my class and the guy wants her and he basically wants to hookup with her and I tell my friend and she is hurt by the whole situation and I thought we moved on from that whole thing.

For the next few months we continue arguing about random stuff but it’s probably like once every 2 weeks or once every month and it’s just getting less and less. I still have feelings for her but we are just friends and we text all the time and hangout and play Minecraft when we aren’t hanging out and my feelings just get stronger. She’s literally my favorite person.

Fast forward to this month it’s probably been over 2 months since we haven’t argued we still text and hangout all the time. im on vacation and she’s texting me the whole time and it feels different like she actually likes me. I even took some pictures of some flowers that I saw and sent them to her and told her they reminded me of her, and she set her background on her phone to them. So at this point I’m really really getting excited for our future and a week after I get back from the trip a random Sunday night I decided to write my thoughts and feelings in my notepad to kinda give me a rough draft of what I want to tell her the next day.

So when I get home the next day. She texted me asking how my day was and she’s done it before but this time since I was wanting to tell her how I feel it made me feel so happy and confident. I was like this is it this is the best time to say it, so after we are done talking about each others day, I text her asking if we can talk for a second and if we can go hangout rq for we can talk and she couldn’t because she had to go somewhere that day so then I texted basically a sum up everything I wrote in my notes but with less emotion and stuff for I don’t come off as weird “I know you probably don’t feel the same but these past few months I’ve really started to like you again, I regret not telling you sooner I just care about you so much so I didn’t wanna ruin our friendship but I have to tell you because I can’t keep hiding how I feel” I typed a lot more like we were having a conversation about it and stuff.

She didn’t react too differently than I expected I knew there would be 2 ways, she either feels the same and we live happily ever after, or she doesn’t feel the same and just sees me as a friend. She basically told me that we are such close friends and it would be an awkward switch from friends to liking each other and she needs more time and she could maybe see it in the future. And I am surprisingly not heart broken I think I was in shock a little bit loll but I was just glad I told her and I was ready to move on with my life. The next day she texts me and I don’t have any interest in texting her I just want to focus on myself but somehow the topic from yesterday is brought up again and is sounding like she is considering it more and more. Which gave me hope.

Throughout the week we are texting a lot and I really feel like we will soon start “talking” and she just needed sometime to think about it. So tonight on Sunday we were texting about being sad that we may not see each other as much when we graduate so I thought this would be a perfect time to bring it up again since it’s been a week and she’s had time to think. Well I bring it up and at first its sounding good and I mention that I think we would have a really good relationship and randomly she says “I don’t know maybe” and I’m like why and she basically says it’s because of the arguments but I tell her we haven’t argued in 2 months and this and that. But she brings up the arguments from when we first became friends again and specifically she brings up me calling her easy. I tell her that I’m sorry for that (I’ve literally apologized for this about 20 times in the past 6 months) and the entire mood of the conversation switches and she says that maybe one day when I’m more mature and all this and the entire time I’m just telling her that I don’t know what she wants me to do there is nothing more I can do I’ve already apologized.

She said the main reason we probably won’t ever date is because I called her easy all those months ago. She can’t get over it and I’m sorry but really what else can I do. I care about her more than anyone else and would do anything for her and I know we would have an amazing relationship.

I have no idea what to do. Do yall have anyway I can fix this and we can start dating?

Thank you for reading all this.