u/Embarrassed_Pickle87

Ok so for context, I am female 18 almost 19 and he just turned 19. We got together beginning of senior year and really haven’t had any issues our whole relationship. He’s my first ever relationship and I lost all of my firsts to him. We don’t live together (as we are still young) but we see each other decently often.

Recently, though, I’ve been feeling kind of bored/annoyed. I have always thought my boyfriend was funny but more recently i’ve kind of realized that his way of being funny is just being childish. Like, he plays around with his spit, makes stupid jokes and just constantly feels like he’s trying to be funny. Also, all of his friends + him say slurs as jokes and call each other those slurs (lots of guys do) and i do know that he’d never say any of those slurs towards someone that “represented” it or whatever. (idk the best way to word that sentence but I hope you get what i’m saying). I don’t really like that he does that but I’ve kinda put up with it. I don’t really get any kind of butterflies anymore but I do still think he’s a little cutie and I definitely love him. I am currently in college and have a pretty good idea of what I am going to do for the future. He decided to take a gap year (which is totally fine) and has been working this whole year (at a food place) and has like 8k saved. I am very proud of him for saving his money like he has but also it’s a lot easier for him because he still lives at home where his parents pay for a lot, whereas I live in an apartment with my brother where I pay for all our groceries, my brother pays for utilities and my dad pays for rent (he lives out of state). As I have been attending college, I am also working atleast 25 hours a week. Anyway, It’s getting to that time of year where he would have to start applying for student aid or to schools/trade schools, whatever he wants to do. I talked to him about this and he just kinda shrugged it off and said he doesn’t know.

I really do love him and obviously we are still young, haven’t lived together, etc. But I have just been getting ick’s from him lately and don’t really know if i’m overreacting or really what I should be feeling right now. Sorry if this was worded kinda weird but i tried my best lol. Any thoughts? i’m lost.

Ok so for context, I am female 18 almost 19 and he just turned 19. We got together beginning of senior year and really haven’t had any issues our whole relationship. He’s my first ever relationship and I lost all of my firsts to him. We don’t live together (as we are still young) but we see each other decently often.

Recently, though, I’ve been feeling kind of bored/annoyed. I have always thought my boyfriend was funny but more recently i’ve kind of realized that his way of being funny is just being childish. Like, he plays around with his spit, makes stupid jokes and just constantly feels like he’s trying to be funny. Also, all of his friends + him say slurs as jokes and call each other those slurs (lots of guys do) and i do know that he’d never say any of those slurs towards someone that “represented” it or whatever. (idk the best way to word that sentence but I hope you get what i’m saying). I don’t really like that he does that but I’ve kinda put up with it. I don’t really get any kind of butterflies anymore but I do still think he’s a little cutie and I definitely love him. I am currently in college and have a pretty good idea of what I am going to do for the future. He decided to take a gap year (which is totally fine) and has been working this whole year (at a food place) and has like 8k saved. I am very proud of him for saving his money like he has but also it’s a lot easier for him because he still lives at home where his parents pay for a lot, whereas I live in an apartment with my brother where I pay for all our groceries, my brother pays for utilities and my dad pays for rent (he lives out of state). As I have been attending college, I am also working atleast 25 hours a week. Anyway, It’s getting to that time of year where he would have to start applying for student aid or to schools/trade schools, whatever he wants to do. I talked to him about this and he just kinda shrugged it off and said he doesn’t know.

I really do love him and obviously we are still young, haven’t lived together, etc. But I have just been getting ick’s from him lately and don’t really know if i’m overreacting or really what I should be feeling right now. Sorry if this was worded kinda weird but i tried my best lol. Any thoughts? i’m lost.