u/IreneAzer1111

Ok context this is my first post so I’m new

Me (14f) has been dating my boyfriend (14m) have been dating for a few months and he is my first real relationship tho I have had a few “middle school boyfriends” before. He has never dated anyone. We dated last year but it was very middle school and I broke up with him over summer because of some family issues and we just didn’t talk that often or hang out due to the fact that we can’t drive and at the time I didn’t really know him that well. I told him that I still wanted to be friends but the whole beginning of the year he just acted sad and it was very noticeable.

Fast forward to the beginning of the second semester- we started talking more often and he seemed to get more comfortable around me. We reconnected and started dating again. I actually got to know him as a person and I really think that I loved him. We live in a small town and a lot of people just stay in town, including him, but I play on a travel soccer team and a travel softball team and I am very social and have a lot of outside connections and am very good at communicating with people. He kind of just stays at home which never really bothered me but I’m a very busy person and we don’t get to hang out often. he is more quiet and I am more outgoing, but a lot of people said that we even each other out.

But I never really realized how socially awkward he is. Talking to people is something I really enjoy doing and he is very awkward around people he doesn’t know and doesn’t talk to adults very well when I find talking to adults the same as talking to anybody else.

I also just realized how immature he is when I’m not around I had had people tell me that he is immature, though I didn’t believe them but now I believe he acts differently when I’m not around

He often says how his whole life revolves around me how he loves me more than anything and he would do anything for me. I love him too, but I want him to have other things in his life. I have a lot going on in my life and I can’t give 100% of my attention. I recently went on a cruise for spring break with my best friend which made me realize that while we were dating, I put all of my effort into him because that’s what he was doing to me and I lost connection with a lot of my friends and missed out on a lot of things that were happening. He is also expressed a lot of jealousy about some guy friends that I have. And I don’t even know the full extent because I have a lot of guy friends outside of school too. He also has expressed how he will never have full confidence around me, and I always make him nervous. I don’t want to make him nervous. I want him to have confidence around me. I kinda just feel like us breaking up and getting back together is toxic and we just shouldn’t be together but I think he is kind of obsessed with me and has expressed a lot of signs of depression and I’m scared he might hurt himself if I break up with him because he hinted at it a few times.

We also go to a small school where the world would get around fast and his older brother is a substitute teacher at our school and our parents are both involved in the district and it might just be a lot of drama

I just really don’t know what to do because I haven’t talked to him since Friday afternoon over text where he said we needed to talk more before we decide on needing space from each other because I told him I wanted space. But I just feel like we are taking more away from each other‘s lives than adding to each other’s lives.

Sorry about the lack of punctuation. I have to see him tomorrow first period and I just need some advice.

Ok context this is my first post so I’m new

Me (14f) has been dating my boyfriend (14m) have been dating for a few months and he is my first real relationship tho I have had a few “middle school boyfriends” before. He has never dated anyone. We dated last year but it was very middle school and I broke up with him over summer because of some family issues and we just didn’t talk that often or hang out due to the fact that we can’t drive and at the time I didn’t really know him that well. I told him that I still wanted to be friends but the whole beginning of the year he just acted sad and it was very noticeable.

Fast forward to the beginning of the second semester- we started talking more often and he seemed to get more comfortable around me. We reconnected and started dating again. I actually got to know him as a person and I really think that I loved him. We live in a small town and a lot of people just stay in town, including him, but I play on a travel soccer team and a travel softball team and I am very social and have a lot of outside connections and am very good at communicating with people. He kind of just stays at home which never really bothered me but I’m a very busy person and we don’t get to hang out often. he is more quiet and I am more outgoing, but a lot of people said that we even each other out.

But I never really realized how socially awkward he is. Talking to people is something I really enjoy doing and he is very awkward around people he doesn’t know and doesn’t talk to adults very well when I find talking to adults the same as talking to anybody else.

I also just realized how immature he is when I’m not around I had had people tell me that he is immature, though I didn’t believe them but now I believe he acts differently when I’m not around

He often says how his whole life revolves around me how he loves me more than anything and he would do anything for me. I love him too, but I want him to have other things in his life. I have a lot going on in my life and I can’t give 100% of my attention. I recently went on a cruise for spring break with my best friend which made me realize that while we were dating, I put all of my effort into him because that’s what he was doing to me and I lost connection with a lot of my friends and missed out on a lot of things that were happening. He is also expressed a lot of jealousy about some guy friends that I have. And I don’t even know the full extent because I have a lot of guy friends outside of school too. He also has expressed how he will never have full confidence around me, and I always make him nervous. I don’t want to make him nervous. I want him to have confidence around me. I kinda just feel like us breaking up and getting back together is toxic and we just shouldn’t be together but I think he is kind of obsessed with me and has expressed a lot of signs of depression and I’m scared he might hurt himself if I break up with him because he hinted at it a few times.

We also go to a small school where the world would get around fast and his older brother is a substitute teacher at our school and our parents are both involved in the district and it might just be a lot of drama

I just really don’t know what to do because I haven’t talked to him since Friday afternoon over text where he said we needed to talk more before we decide on needing space from each other because I told him I wanted space. But I just feel like we are taking more away from each other‘s lives than adding to each other’s lives.

Sorry about the lack of punctuation. I have to see him tomorrow first period and I just need some advice.

Ok context this is my first post so I’m new

Me (14f) has been dating my boyfriend (14m) have been dating for a few months and he is my first real relationship tho I have had a few “middle school boyfriends” before. He has never dated anyone. We dated last year but it was very middle school and I broke up with him over summer because of some family issues and we just didn’t talk that often or hang out due to the fact that we can’t drive and at the time I didn’t really know him that well. I told him that I still wanted to be friends but the whole beginning of the year he just acted sad and it was very noticeable.

Fast forward to the beginning of the second semester- we started talking more often and he seemed to get more comfortable around me. We reconnected and started dating again. I actually got to know him as a person and I really think that I loved him. We live in a small town and a lot of people just stay in town, including him, but I play on a travel soccer team and a travel softball team and I am very social and have a lot of outside connections and am very good at communicating with people. He kind of just stays at home which never really bothered me but I’m a very busy person and we don’t get to hang out often. he is more quiet and I am more outgoing, but a lot of people said that we even each other out.

But I never really realized how socially awkward he is. Talking to people is something I really enjoy doing and he is very awkward around people he doesn’t know and doesn’t talk to adults very well when I find talking to adults the same as talking to anybody else.

He often says how his whole life revolves around me how he loves me more than anything and he would do anything for me. I love him too, but I want him to have other things in his life. I have a lot going on in my life and I can’t give 100% of my attention. I recently went on a cruise for spring break with my best friend which made me realize that while we were dating, I put all of my effort into him because that’s what he was doing to me and I lost connection with a lot of my friends and missed out on a lot of things that were happening. He is also expressed a lot of jealousy about some guy friends that I have. And I don’t even know the full extent because I have a lot of guy friends outside of school too. He also has expressed how he will never have full confidence around me, and I always make him nervous. I don’t want to make him nervous. I want him to have confidence around me. I kinda just feel like us breaking up and getting back together is toxic and we just shouldn’t be together but I think he is kind of obsessed with me and has expressed a lot of signs of depression and I’m scared he might hurt himself if I break up with him.

We also go to a small school where the world would get around fast and his older brother is a substitute teacher at our school and our parents are both involved in the district and it might just be a lot of drama

I just really don’t know what to do because I haven’t talked to him since Friday afternoon over text where he said we needed to talk more before we decide on needing space from each other because I told him I wanted space

Sorry about the lack of punctuation. I have to see him tomorrow first period and I just need some advice.