Me (18M) really likes my girl best friend (18F) and got rejected by her for something I told her months ago. Is there a way for me to fix this? Or should I try to move on?
Hello this is my first ever post I decided to do this because of what happened today and I really need to share my thoughts and get some opinions.
So I’ll start from the beginning, I’ve known this girl Emma, for about 3 years now, we have been close friends on and off and I’ve always had feelings for her. From when I met her until about a year ago every time I think our friendship might lead to something more life gets in the way and we would stop talking for months. Last school year we didn’t speak from September 2024 all the way until August 2025. When we became friends again in August I felt something was different and it would actually workout this time, so we texted and hung out for 2 weeks and then randomly out of the blue she told me she started talking to this guy in our grade (this guy is a horrible person like the things he has done are insane) so I am of course crushed by this and try not to say anything but one day I got into a massive argument with her over it and told her how she “must be easy” if she is going for him and all this but I never tell her I have feelings for her I just am trying to act like a concerned friend. Well blah blah blah we are just friends while they are talking for a few weeks and we keep getting in arguments about it I say more stuff that hurts her feelings (I still feel terrible for saying all of that). Well the day finally comes which I was warning her about, a new girl comes into my class and the guy wants her and he basically wants to hookup with her and I tell my friend and she is hurt by the whole situation and I thought we moved on from that whole thing.
For the next few months we continue arguing about random stuff but it’s probably like once every 2 weeks or once every month and it’s just getting less and less. I still have feelings for her but we are just friends and we text all the time and hangout and play Minecraft when we aren’t hanging out and my feelings just get stronger. She’s literally my favorite person.
Fast forward to this month it’s probably been over 2 months since we haven’t argued we still text and hangout all the time. im on vacation and she’s texting me the whole time and it feels different like she actually likes me. I even took some pictures of some flowers that I saw and sent them to her and told her they reminded me of her, and she set her background on her phone to them. So at this point I’m really really getting excited for our future and a week after I get back from the trip a random Sunday night I decided to write my thoughts and feelings in my notepad to kinda give me a rough draft of what I want to tell her the next day.
So when I get home the next day. She texted me asking how my day was and she’s done it before but this time since I was wanting to tell her how I feel it made me feel so happy and confident. I was like this is it this is the best time to say it, so after we are done talking about each others day, I text her asking if we can talk for a second and if we can go hangout rq for we can talk and she couldn’t because she had to go somewhere that day so then I texted basically a sum up everything I wrote in my notes but with less emotion and stuff for I don’t come off as weird “I know you probably don’t feel the same but these past few months I’ve really started to like you again, I regret not telling you sooner I just care about you so much so I didn’t wanna ruin our friendship but I have to tell you because I can’t keep hiding how I feel” I typed a lot more like we were having a conversation about it and stuff.
She didn’t react too differently than I expected I knew there would be 2 ways, she either feels the same and we live happily ever after, or she doesn’t feel the same and just sees me as a friend. She basically told me that we are such close friends and it would be an awkward switch from friends to liking each other and she needs more time and she could maybe see it in the future. And I am surprisingly not heart broken I think I was in shock a little bit loll but I was just glad I told her and I was ready to move on with my life. The next day she texts me and I don’t have any interest in texting her I just want to focus on myself but somehow the topic from yesterday is brought up again and is sounding like she is considering it more and more. Which gave me hope.
Throughout the week we are texting a lot and I really feel like we will soon start “talking” and she just needed sometime to think about it. So tonight on Sunday we were texting about being sad that we may not see each other as much when we graduate so I thought this would be a perfect time to bring it up again since it’s been a week and she’s had time to think. Well I bring it up and at first its sounding good and I mention that I think we would have a really good relationship and randomly she says “I don’t know maybe” and I’m like why and she basically says it’s because of the arguments but I tell her we haven’t argued in 2 months and this and that. But she brings up the arguments from when we first became friends again and specifically she brings up me calling her easy. I tell her that I’m sorry for that (I’ve literally apologized for this about 20 times in the past 6 months) and the entire mood of the conversation switches and she says that maybe one day when I’m more mature and all this and the entire time I’m just telling her that I don’t know what she wants me to do there is nothing more I can do I’ve already apologized.
She said the main reason we probably won’t ever date is because I called her easy all those months ago. She can’t get over it and I’m sorry but really what else can I do. I care about her more than anyone else and would do anything for her and I know we would have an amazing relationship.
I have no idea what to do. Do yall have anyway I can fix this and we can start dating?
Thank you for reading all this.