Is someone willing to volunteer to keep me accountable to not watch at all. I really need help, I keep spiralling everytime I resist the temptation. I just need someone to tell me to not watch.
I want to stop porn and even masturbating but everytime I´m alone with some free time it´s the first thing I do, I convince myself that it´s normal, almost all men watch porn, why I couldn´t? and also that a lot of people have sex, it´s my way to have mine.
I didn´t consider it as an addiction because when I´m busy with school or other thing, I just forget about porn and masturbation but it´s awful not being able to focus on yourself and in your hobbies and passions for watching porn.
If you have gone 3 months porn free, do yourself a favour. Don't return. Ever. You've made it finally. You are free now.
If you are still struggling, no matter the cost- do not engage.
No matter the idea- how loose it is, 'it's not really porn' 'far from it' or in fact it is explicit, you also do yourself a favour. Don't. The voices, the ideas. Your mind, it lies. Turn back.
This machine was not built for you, it was always meant to cause you to dysfunction. There's is no way around it.
And you will be okay, soon. All you have to do is not do it, now.
Stop.
I'm 18, in a relationship, and honestly in all of my past relationships i've failed to quit watching porn. I just lie and hold these double-standards (not wanting my partner to consume that content) yet I'm so hypocritical and gross. Im pansexual and mainly watch female creators/wlw content. I'm dating a man though and when I've been with a dude they accuse me of liking other women. I honestly am monogamous and have never cheated/acted on desire, yet this has been eating at me and It feels impossible to stop. Even during sex It's hard for me to finish and most of the time I don't. I've had this addiction for about 6 years, almost every day. What can I do? is there any other girls with similar experience?
This is my first post here. I feel like I want to start posting here regularly to clear some of my thoughts by writing them and to keep myself accountable in some sense. So here goes nothing I guess.
I'm a M23 and I've been struggling with a porn addiction for a while. I realized that quite a long time ago when I started to go into more extreme fetishes or kinks and fast-paced porn in general. Yet I continued for 3 years even though I knew, that it wasn't healthy anymore. It slowly started to affect my every day life. I spent so many hours of my time watching porn. 6-8 hour sessions 2-3 times a week and not a day passed where I wouldn't watch porn. I even failed whole university courses because I prioritized gooning over studying. That is my background story (or at least what I'm comfortable sharing at the moment) and I just hope one day I won't feel the need to watch porn anymore.
I haven't watched porn in 2 days. I feel empty. Watching porn is constantly on my mind now. When does this feeling go away?
I just have to kinda let it out of me and tell this story. I hope there will be at least one person reading this and finally feel motivated to stop watching porn.
I'm 21 and I've been watching porn for probably 10 years. The addiction and so the kinks just got worse and worse, I probably shouldn't go in details...
For the last years I was kinda dedicated to hook up with any girl and have sex with her. I was fucking desperate I had like almost 5 dating apps. First I wanted a GF but then it kinda lead to being fine if it was just an ONS.
Long story short, the apps kinda worked and I met with a girl a few days ago.
We were sitting in the back of my car and were making out first (my first kiss btw), then she slowly started to reach for my dick and she gave me a BJ...
Now here are the consequences of watching too much porn and excessive masturbation:
1: kinda sounds weird but I was very ticklish. She loved my body and touched and kissed me all the time but I was always like moving not even allowing any small touch of her (which pissed her off)
2: I was not in the mood. When we chatted on Whatsapp I was fully bricked up just by imagining making out with her and receiving a BJ. When the real thing started I kinda felt bored. Which leads to being less horny and also not being 100% hard or losing your boner fast.
3: Stimulation. She told me that her BJ count is about over 10+ and kinda glazed herself talking about how good she can suck and let every guy cum in under 1min. She sucked it for 5mins until her jaw started to hurt and I WASN'T EVEN CLOSE. I don't even know if I felt it as much as I should? We met for 2 days in a row. She sucked it in both days and I still didn't cum. It was very disappointing for me and it turned her off a lot. She wanted to have sex after that because she wanted to see if maybe this could make me cum, but I declined her offer because I completly lost my mood and didn't want to lose my virginity.
I always thought the people here are just exaggerating because I can literally cum in 2mins when I watch porn and it sounded absurd when porn addicts say that sex doesn't feel as good as they imagined.
I wanted to have sex so badly like a few ago. The me back then would never believe that I rejected a girl who directly asked me to have sex while we were sitting alone in my car.
I generally don't even want to have sex anymore until I found the love of my life (and fix the problem).
So if there's anyone out there who says it will get better when they get a gf, have real life experience whatsoever. It won't.
If you're kinda in the same situation as me back then trying to look for someone to hook up. Please stop wasting your time right now, it is absolutely not worth it.
And if anyone believes I AM over exaggerating or just a rare case. I would suggest you to find a prostitute try it out yourself if u don't believe me.
I wish I could rewind the time and never searched for a girl so desperately for so long. Not even a second of it was worth it and I also wasted my first kiss.
Y'all please quit porn and start looking for LOVE
Buenas quería saber si a alguien mas también le pasa el estar obsesionado con las tetas gigantes. Solo me atraen mujeres de pechos tan grandes que para las demás personas son hasta desagradables incluso.
No puedo salir de ese gusto…
(english is not my first language, so i apologize in advance for the spelling mistakes)
I (29M) have been in a really happy realationship since 2019; soulmates stuff. We are engaged now.
i've been consuming porn and jacking off daily since i was 10. in the begining i watched most vanilla stuff and hentais. until i lost my virginity in 2015. Then, i realized sex doesn´t feel as great as i imagined. I mean, it's good, but not what porn make you believe it is. so i decided look for more intense material. Jacking off started to make me feel bad, but i keep increasing the frequencie, sometimes i've done it 7x a day. and obviously, feel like shit after. i wasn't for the hornyness anymore, it was to feel something.
I met my finacé (26F). She is awesome, and the sex is magical. In the beginning i've quit for like, 1 year. i didnt i need anymore. She is very anti-porn so i shuted the side of me for a long time. In the following years we discorver ourselfs as a bi couple and opened our relationship. We fooled around with some people. Together. Alone. Boys. Girls. We did most of the stuff i dreamed doing by seen it in the porns. But again, it didnt feel as good as imagined. I feel empty.
now, i've been watching only orgies, agressive stuff , and i choose to jack off instead of make love to my wife (wich is the best thing in the world btw). i feel helpless. i feel dirt after doing it, but i cant stop. i'm seeing porn everytime i go to the bathroom.
my all time low was recently. My mom got in the ICU and even in this moment i jacked off to porn 5 times the moment i got home after the hospital.
my greatest fear is this thing escalonates to the point a lost interest in my wife, or worse, i cheat on her.
any advices in my situation?
21m i have been addicted since i was around 13-14, im 21 about to be 22 now, and i do have a boyfriend, but i want to be free from it. the longest i have gone is around 3-4 days, but i dont know what to do and i dont want to think about it everyday anymore
I can’t stop looking at women with lust. I truly want to be better, but I can’t stop acting on compulsion. I have so many female friends and it shames me to even think about looking at women with so much lust. I feel super evil and im addicted. I want to quit masturbation just as much as porn. Help me
Hey yall (18M) here I just want to tell my story n would like a bit of help. I’ve been addicted to porn since I was about 9 I was exposed early to it by older peers n looking back at it now it’s ruined my life. I have a gf and she’s found out about my addiction more than once, I’ve told her multiple times I’d quit and do better but then I’d relapse. At one point I quit for a while and I felt good, I had my confidence back, I could talk to people and form real connection but I relapsed and everything came crumbling down. It’s almost our 2 year anniversary n she looked through my history which I thought was clean and she found old porn I was watching obviously it didn’t go well, I feel disgusted but I also feel like I don’t know if I’m going to overcome this addiction and I might lose the loml. Please is there any advice yall have or methods to help me fix my addiction?
Im addicted to porn and I can’t stop. I’m a minor, and I think it’s ruined my life. I can’t look girls in the eyes and no matter how much I try to stop something always brings me back. It’s gotten to the point I masturbate every day and I always hate myself after. The kinks get worse and worse over time and I’m scared. I wish I never started, if I could go back I’d stop myself. This is the worst mistake Ive made in my life please help me
I'm reaching out because I don't know what to think, feel, or do. my partner (m27) is a PA, and I feel like I'm drowning in the pain of his actions. It has escalated from porn to what I consider cheating (exposing himself to women in live chats), and I'm absolutely shattered. He's even doing it while I'm feet away from him.
He, in a very diluted way, told me this was a problem for him when we first started seeing each other, but I had no idea how bad it actually is.
I recognize the power addiction has over people because I was an addict once upon a time. I can empathize, but I'm really struggling to be supportive while I'm hurting so badly.
I want to help him through this, but I don't even know what conversations to have or what limits to suggest. Right now, I just want to crawl out of my skin.
Can anyone give me some insight or suggestions? I'm drowning in this, and I don't know what to do.
Hi all,
Told to post here as it got removed from another community
Looking for some advice and comfort I suppose. Would love to hear from people who have PA or partners with it.
If you look at my post history you’ll see that penetrative sex with my partner has been an issue from the start of our relationship. We have had many conversations about why he thinks he can’t finish or stay hard during PIV. These convos have always been gentle and I’ve been as mindful as possible not to place blame or ever seem annoyed at it.
A few days ago we tried to have sex and he couldn’t get hard (wanked, put it in and immediately went soft again). We stopped and had the conversation again (I recommended maybe seeing a doctor) when all of a sudden he got quiet and admitted that he thinks he has a porn addiction/death grip problem. I was a little taken aback as we have talked about porn before and he’s said he rarely uses it and only masturbates a couple times a week. Turns out it’s daily/multiple times a day whilst we’ve been LD for the past 8 months. But he says the addiction goes back to his pre-teens.
I am so hurt that he’s lied to me for the better part of two years and from a selfish perspective I’m pissed that he knew I was blaming myself for his lack of arousal during sex and he’s let me hold that weight this whole time (even though he never blamed me and reassured me etc). He also admitted that he thinks of porn during sex in an attempt to stay hard - this was horrible to hear as I have crippling self esteem issues and the thought that I’m not enough came crashing down all over again.
He’s since signed up to therapy and says he won’t be using porn at all anymore. But I am so hurt and feel like a fool.
Does anyone have any advice on how to handle any of this? How to not let my self esteem plummet any further?
I feel so worthless and undesired.
Thanks!
Edit: after giving him multiple chances and telling him to come clean about it all (and him promising he had) I found out this morning that he’d been still using porn more recently than he said and that he’d visited those horrific AI websites that undress women without their consent. He’d saved a photo of a women he knows with the intention of doing this to her. I am so disgusted.
I have always liked fat women. However, porn makes me want to go after women way way older than me . I see ones at the supermarket or just anywhere and I feel like I want to bone everyone of them or at least try to convince them. I tend to find myself only wanting women for their bodies. Will this go away with less porn usage?
Also I look for them to have extremely large breasts and find myself saying to myself "man if that women's chest was bigger I would think she is hot "
I’ve been in this thing for about 10 years and I think I’m only just now being honest about what it actually is for me.
I used to say it was just about being horny.
Sometimes it is. A lot of the time it isn’t.
A lot of the time it happens right when I hit something I don’t want to deal with. Work I can’t focus on. A decision I don’t want to make. A problem I know I need to think through. My brain feels pressure and immediately starts looking for a way out.
Porn became one of the easiest ways out.
That’s the part that makes me feel sick when I really look at it. Not just the porn itself. The fact that I trained myself to use it like a trapdoor every time real life got hard.
At my worst I could lose hours a day like that.
Did anyone else realize at some point that this wasn’t only about lust anymore? That it had turned into a way to avoid thinking?
If so, what usually comes right before it for you?
can anyone recommend a good app/software to block/filter porn
hey everyone I am in my early 20's and from today onwards I won't consume porn.
I have introspected a lot and I think all my relationship failed because of porn, I get attention from girls, I guess I’m just lucky. but I get bored and don't feel anything even though they are pretty and are caring and all I think about sex and casual end up destroying the relationship , and when I am close to them I don't feel a single bit, it has fucked up my brain , downloaded many dating apps even though I was talking to a girl, need continuous stimulation.
Can't focus on studies, get bored easily. no motivation, small achievement won't make me happy anymore. brain fog and list goes on . brain feel activated only when watchin porn.
I am watching porn from 8 year's, tbh it's the toughest decision of my life, i don't know how to explain this but rn my body is fighting and telling me that's there is no need for you to stop it. But I know that it's very important. It's now or never.
I'll post everyday to tell how's it going for one week and then maybe one post in a while .
I hope it goes well. Can you tell me what can I do to counter sudden urges.
Before, I’ve tried to stop from porn. I failed unfortunately. I want to really lock in so I decided to write a post so people can also help me in the process. I hope that by sharing my journey on the community provide me with my support and also share my feelings to help out other people with similar problems. I would write down my experiences from my previous failures and see what I can learn from them.
Porn addiction is often not the reason but the RESULT. My porn addiction often comes from a lack of intimacy towards a love relationship. Back then, when I was having a good relationship with my ex girlfriend, I could stop the porn thing for a few weeks feeling it was nothing. But when arguments started to flood in our relationship, my old habits returned. I wont say my porn addiction is too detrimental, maybe 2 to 4 times a week, depending on my mood. Yet, gooning can sure be tiresome and I want to stop it. Having good relationship is indeed important to your porn addiction. Cherishing a community that you can share thoughts about your addiction is also important. It is difficult when you are alone but when there is the support from a community, everything becomes easier.
Go find a hobby or activity you truly liked. Find what you want and need in life. Porn addiction to me is just a cheap way to ease my desire towards an intimate relationship with others. Yet, sometimes I doubt myself in handling my own problems. It is not healthy to give all of my problems, including my porn addiction, to my (future) partner. They also have their own problem and they may not be able to handle your problem. So I started reading books and journaling, writing articles and essays to find out what I need. Reading and writing is very effective for me. I consume thoughts and understand more about the world. By writing, I am organising my thoughts and desire. I am sure that there is something more meaningful in life compared to sex and by reading and writing I am finding that purpose. It is ok to fail to find your purpose. A lot of people don’t know their purpose even at the moment death comes. As long as you are trying, you should be proud of yourself. The current purpose in life that I can think of is “learning and becoming a better version of yourself everyday”. The lust and money can be meaningless if you don’t know what you are doing with life. After finding a purpose, I’m sure that we would reply less to the pulse of excitement from pornography and focus more on life.
To be honest, I also have a similar problem with watching YouTube. Just like porn, it is often due to a lack of meaning. Some days, I would just sit down on my couch and watch 8 hours of YouTube.
I would say maintaining a healthy life style can also help you. GO to sleep at 1000 to 1100 pm. Go out for a jog or hit the gym two times a week. Have some more vegetables. These could help me handle my bad mood. The thoughts related to my addictions often come in when I am having a bad mood. A healthy life style keeps myself away from the bad moods.
I hope that you and me can get through this pain-in-the-ass war. I believe that you and me can win this. Good luck big man You can do this
Just for some context, I (20F) found probably hundreds of lewd and sexual videos of girls (none of them looked like me either) saved on Instagram on my boyfriend’s (20M) phone. We almost broke up but I trust him, and he started to go therapy for it. Everything has been perfect, and he has not been looking at anything since. We even passed our 1 year anniversary. Besides…. Sex or anything sex-related for me. Which is so confusing because intimacy was a big part of our relationship before.
He is an amazing boyfriend and I genuinely love him so much. But ever since I found the videos on his phone, I’ve lost all of my sex drive. I’m never horny, and if I am it’s usually just when I’m alone. I’ve even tried to watch porn (I know… why would i do that) but it genuinely just made me nauseous and I almost threw up.
We have had sex once within the past 4 months when we were drunk; the sex was good I guess but it didn’t feel the same as before, and I couldn’t finish despite finishing each time before. A week ago he was just fingering me and I was so turned off within not even a minute of him starting.
I’m so confused on what to do. I just miss how my relationship with my boyfriend used to be. There’s nothing that falls short, and honestly at the rate of my sexual drive’s decline, I would be fine not having sex for the rest of my life. But deep down it just feels wrong and I know this is not who I am. I don’t know what’s wrong. Please give me advice on what I can do to fix this gap in intimacy both for just myself and my relationship.