r/BingeEatingDisorder

I just don’t what to do anymore, I mean I wish it was as easy as “put the food down and walk away” but we know that’s not reality for us.

I never did drugs or drink, it’s always been food for me.

I usually start off the day okay, tracking callories and such, then by mid day go off the rails. If I’m not asleep, I’m thinking about food. I’m hungry like every hour dispite trying to up my protein and stuff (I’m still trying to up my water intake) I know people say oh watch for your “hunger ques” idk what mine are or don’t have them. Like am oily hungry or bored

I’m the highest I’ve ever been, I go to the gym for nothing cuz then I eat like shit.

I’m setting a terrible example for my child. I’d also like to have 1 more but at 5’1 250lbs And almost 38, who knows if that’ll happen. My first pregnancy I got diagnosed with GD, while it could have been worse mine was….”mild” if you want to call it that, I didn’t need insulin or anything like that.

I want to live another 40-50 years but who knows.

I’ve tried therapy, GLP-1, vvyvase honestly worked best until I didn’t feel the effects of it anymore.

My biggest trigger foods are like: chips, pasta and all salty things. I could eat my weight in these things, and honestly, I love the “happy feelings” I get. 😭 they’re short lived then I physically feel guilty & ill. But then you forget about them the next day and back to square one.

Any tips or advice?

My binge eating is the worst it’s ever been.

Every day I talk myself into turning over a new leaf, into starting over, into forgetting everything I had previously tried, all in favor of finally “getting it right”.

Do I ever get it right? No.

Do I binge day after day? Yes.

That being said, I am about to graduate uni, and despite wanting to celebrate, I’m finding it hard to find joy given my circumstances.

I stood in a fitting room today, staring at myself in a dress that I thought would look good for the graduation ceremony. My first thoughts were about how horrible I felt, how much I let myself go, how uncomfortable I felt in my own skin. I loved the dress despite the horrors that came with putting it on- so I took it home.

I tried the dress on a second time in front of my own mirror.

I still didn’t love how I looked, in fact, I am the biggest I’ve been in quite some time. Yet this time, after careful scrutiny, I laughed at my own thoughts.

Was how I looked the most important thing in this moment? I am about to graduate with a degree in a topic I love dearly. I am in no way perfect, but how dare I ignore my accomplishments for the sake of feeding into my failures?

How dare I let urges take away from something I love? I am so tired of pushing my interests aside for thoughts about bingeing, and after thinking about how greatly my determination has been affected, I have a newfound desire to make a change.

I don’t know if this time I’ll “get it right”, but I do know that I want to let what lights my fire guide me- not what extinguishes it.

Going forward, I want to remember the following, and I hope anyone who reads this can remember this with me:

- find meaning in what you love, and do not let BED take it from you

-treat binges as urges, not methods of coping. Urges fade, and coping mechanisms can be changed

-you are more than what you eat, and you can change your patterns. If I can try, so can you!

I hope tomorrow will be the start of something new, as ironic as that may sound given my earlier spiel, but I refuse to let what I recognized today go unnoticed.

I refuse to keep giving my life to this disorder when there’s so much out there that keeps me going.

Cheers to new journeys with new outlooks. 🥂

i have struggled with bed for years now. im extremely unhealthy physically and mentally because of it. i desperately need to change. i want to change… i think anyway lolz im posting here in hopes of finding people who i relate to so that we can work together to get better/recover. if anyone wants to be friends or knows any non toxic online groups please lmk!! also i am 22f from america if that matters c:

Earlier I resisted picking up a loaf of bread to binge on. This is my main binge food. Instead of feeling good I'm beating myself up about not getting it. Struggled with bed for 8 years now. It's taken me a long time to get to the point of not picking things up but I still have the regret of not doing so. I could be enjoying a nice soft loaf right now but instead I'm spiralling so much to the point of posting for the first time on this sub.

It was a mix of feeling somewhat hungry and wanting something sweet because I came home from work feeling crappy from body pain and work itself. The meal was around 450 calories, which put me over my calorie allowance by 250. I still feel like I binged when I didn’t, not like I have been over the past week. I think it’s because I ate over my allowance and ate chocolate when I’ve been trying to not eat so many sweets since my binges were really intense. But it wasn’t near an actual binge, so I shouldn’t be feeling like I did binge.

Does this happen to anyone else?

Anyone else go over the cliff once a sweet treat or dessert/cake hits their tongue?

Resisting a binge is hard enough as is, but the minute my tongue touches sugar ITS OVER. My brain switches off and I go on a rampage

Hi!

My question is easy but I didn’t find any post about it..

For these, who’s taking GLP for bed - how long did You take it?

What it was like getting down from it? Does bingeing stopped after You stopped taking it?

I don't know how to start this, or even really what I want to say, but food addiction is controlling my entire life and has been for a long time. I (25F) have been struggling with this for as long as I can remember, leaving me with chronic health issues, self image and confidence issues and destroying my life. Not only do I binge on food, but I also eat large amounts regularly day-to-day. It is mostly always unhealthy food. The hunger I feel is absolutely unbearable, where I feel so physically sick I can't focus or work properly when I try and change my addiction.

From the time between 2020 and mid-2025, I could probably estimate the number of times I have cooked myself a meal to roughly 20-ish times. Every other meal of my day in that time was either junk food such as instant noodles, or fast food. During this time I really struggled with mental health issues, along with restrictive dieting and obsessive food-related issues. I would say it is unsafe for my mental health to end up in that position again, especially with restrictive eating and the obsessions I get with trying to maintain it. I did manage to lose weight, but none of that was due to healthy eating. I continued to eat junk or fast food, just restricting myself to eating very little. I got to 91kgs through the restrictive dieting, my max would have been 115kgs at that time.

I moved to my current home in late 2025, and at first the environment change really helped with cooking and maintaining a healthier (not healthy) diet, but in the last five or so months that has reverted back to the start. I still spend roughly $600 worth of food delivery services and fast food purchases a week. I am obese, 137kgs at my heaviest. I'm only 5'4.

I recently within the last year have been diagnosed with ADHD, and started taking Vyvanse (plus a smaller, faster release dexamphetamine throughout the day as boosts). I am currently on 70mg, with the option to keep going higher until "it's the right amount" according to my psychiatrist. I can only credit taking this medication to helping my lose enough weight to reach 125kgs, and limiting some food noise, however I am still consistently struggling. At times where I have been trying to diet, or take certain foods out of my diet, I find myself crying on my kitchen floor and have even reached for self-harm before ultimately caving in and relapsing into the cycle of eating I used to have. Cooking food is exhausting, even though I tend to enjoy it. I even binge eat home cooked meals when I actually manage to cook.

I have several health issues all impacted by or caused by eating, PCOS, GERD and Gout to name the few larger ones. I have requested to see dieticians, however my requests keep getting denied by my health care providers as they do not see a significant reason for me to see one.

I would say my self confidence and image has had irreparable damaged due to this addiction. I no longer leave my house, outside of going to work. I have no energy to make myself “presentable”. I haven’t even worn makeup or clothing besides pyjamas or my work uniform in months. I used to enjoy social gatherings and events, but I now avoid and often cancel plans due to the thought of leaving my house. All of this is because of the way I look.

I have been to several mental health care professions, including ones specialising in food related disorders, but none of them have diagnosed me with an eating disorder. I have even told them that because of the pain I get from GERD I throw up my food after eating, which technically makes GERD worse but it is also the only way to stop me from vomiting while I sleep and waking up choking on the vomit.

I am afraid I am going to die, one way or another, from the way I eat and continue to abuse food. Whether that is due to a health issue such as obesity, diabetes which I apparently have managed to fend of this long, or by my own hand when things get unbearable mentally.

If any of this info seems hard to understand, I'm happy to answer questions. I had originally written this much longer, and have had to cut down much of the details, including lots of the detailed information about my life between years.

I do not know what to do. I do not know where to start as every method I have tried has lead me back to the same place. I ultimately need help, before I end up killing myself or dying from a heart attack. This is my plead for help.

I am 16 and super addicted to binging for a while now I used to be kinda chubby in 9th grade but then I got kicked out of school went online had the “great lock in” and got shredded but after that I can’t stop binging I’m now in 10th grade going into 11th soon and I look good I know I look good I get told all the time but the thing is I’m not satisfied bc what ppl see is me in my highlighted moments of life otherwise I hide myself away from everyone bc I binge every 2 -5 days and nothing helps I went to a psychiatrist and got prescribed Vyvanse and got put on 40 mg and it still doesn’t help me. I can’t control my hunger levels. I feel like I’m lost in an epitome of doom and it’s weird because I just recently quit Nic and I keep relapsing to, but this time it’s permanently gone out of my life because I ended up replacing all those problems, a.k.a. my friends because I realize my brain correlates friends with bad decisions like nic and I’ve been struggling with it for a really long time. I’ve tried everything. I’ve tried talking to people. I’ve genuinely tried everything. People don’t understand on how much of a level I’ve tried everything and it makes it worse. Piece of affects my training, I lift and run and I’ve been lifting for years now and running for about a year. I’m really good at running and I don’t under fuel, but I just can’t get control over the binging and I feel like no matter how many different people are even suffering with binging I talk to will never understand how bad it is for me for some odd reason. It just feels like a whole Nother level for me compared to everyone else. None of them understand the struggles that go through because when I mentioned like little small niche details they will be like oh I don’t experience that. I don’t know what can possibly even help anymore. I’m honestly on the verge of giving up a done dopamine detox. I’ve tried literally everything intrusively eating, not diet bulking just anything and no matter what I keep ending up, getting triggered and being in a binge state it’s super embarrassing talking about it online and never thought I would get down to this point in my life that would ever go about a problem online, but I’m desperate and I’m honestly giving up I want help I want to suggestions. I’ve tried therapy and everything. I wanna hear son that experiences similar problems they can meet and can suggest ways to fix it.

I’m now getting to a place where I average 1-2 binges per week and my therapist thinks that is progress. On those days however, I’m eating a total of 3500-4500 calories. This used to be daily thing, but I really hope to get to a place where I’m not binging at all. My biggest trigger has been some especially stressful events at work this week, combined with an extreme amount of junk foods being placed in front of me all day. I find it easy to say no to one treat usually, but when I’m left alone in a room full of cakes, cookies, chocolates, and chips, it’s really hard to resist. I really feel greedy and selfish about it.

Do anybody here have planned binges ? How do you plan/schedule them out? How long do you allow yourself to binge ? Do you feel it helps decrease unexpected binges by having planned ones ? How do you feel before & after a planned binge ?

I like to plan out two big binges a year. One around Thanksgiving & one around my birthday . My second big planned binge is coming up. I know this sounds crazy but I already have it written down in my notes what all I want to try and squeeze in my 2-3 day binge before I go back on track. As my plan binge inches closer the more “hungry” I feel lol 😂 It’s always hard mentally & physically afterwards with any binge cycle but after I get over it & get back on my routine I feel satisfied, the food noises calms down a little, and it helps decrease the amount of unexpected binges I may have before my next planned binge cycle.

hey guys,

first of all, I want to send lots of love and healing your way! thank you for being such a kind and supportive community :) <3

i’m looking for a post meal ritual that makes it easier to stop eating, because post-meal grazing has become an increasing issue for me - and sometimes it triggers an episode…

in the past I’ve experimented with a timer, going for a walk, a special excercise (sucking stomach in), listening to a special song, but nothing has stuck longterm.

I am torn between scolding myself for giving up too easily and feeling weird for those rituals, because they don’t feel flexible and sustainable enough…

but enough about me, I have to figure this one out still. curious if you guys have a special ritual or any positive experience. advice is welcome as well!

the easier it is to implement it, the better.

ty in advance 🥰

I am a 23-year-old 5’2 black female and I recently went from the weight 137 to 112

i’ve always been small for a majority of my life when I hit my late teens early 20s I gained a little bit of weight and it just freaked me out because I have been so used to being the petite and so small so I kind of went on a certain type of binge where I wasn’t eating as much (wouldn’t eat for days then binge)

as I should’ve been and it caused me to lose a crazy amount of weight now I look totally different regarding my body.

I lost so much weight in my breast and my thighs and my buttocks, things that I would feel that would make me look more feminine and womanly and now I am just extremely insecure about my body when I used to be extremely confident about myself but when i did used to look in mirror i felt like i was huge !

I’ve been to the doctor and health wise i’m fine !

Honestly if my breast didn’t look so sad i probably wouldn’t be ass bothered but they extremely different from how they looked before and i hate it.

How did you guys get through that phase?

I am feeling like I want to gain back a good 10 pounds but I keep scaring myself into thinking I’m going to look “fat” again and I don’t want to feel that way

What were some ways that you guys gained back weight and were there any recommendations that you guys can give me to gain back some fatty tissue in way my brain doesn’t realize i’m trying to plump it up again??

Im starting to feel like I look sick and I’m starting to feel like I look like I do have a disorder and I don’t like that feeling so if you guys could give me some kind words, some things of encouragement because lately, I just hate the way I look in the mirror and I don’t like feeling that way by myself.

(i’m sorry if I’m coming off like I’m making a big deal out of nothing cause I know 130 isn’t a lot and I know some people deal with different things than me so this isn’t coming from a place where I’m trying to be sarcastic or anything I’m genuinely going through it right now mentally and I don’t know who else to talk to you about these type of things because people just tell me I look fine and I don’t think I look fine, i feel like i look like skin and bones and it making me hate looking at myself. )

I'm hoping some of my observations might help some of you:

1. My symptoms are worse when I'm alone for long times, such as when I'm single, alone, and very little social interaction such as when unemployed (like currently)

2. Also my symptoms are weirdly worse right after a social event or meeting. Maybe it's just the sudden spike in dopamine which reminds the brain of the spike in dopamine I get when snacking/bingeing too.

3. I have ADHD, which makes regular meal planning and cooking hard, and not doing those are the biggest practical reason for my bingeing because it causes delayed or uncertain meal times.

What has helped me

1. Knowing that trying to lose w**ght triggers/causes binge-eating, so I stopped restricting. I don't restrict my eating nor compensate with exercise. Instead I now do exercise for my own pleasure and strength. I always notice if it's not fun anymore, and then I slow down or stop. Usually I do dance through online events, which is almost always fun!

I'm able to not restrict eating by: trying new type of treats, and secondly, even if there is a trigger food I allow me to buy it in small amounts (but I don't stock trigger foods because then I'd have to restrict and it would just be cruel at me to do so). It's a good habit to normalise eating treats with a normal balanced meal, and even if it's a snack between mail meals, to add some protein or fruit with it to normalise eating it.

My nutritional/health therapist told me also that once we recover from binge-eating the weight naturally starts to normalise as both our overall well-being increases and as we slowly establish normal healthy habits.

2. My nutritional/health therapist told me to add more food for breakfast and lunch, and to prepare snacks. The main idea is to eat enough and regularly, which decreases the need for bingeing. Whenever I've done that, there has been a smaller chance of bingeing.

3. Developing a life/personality/interests/hobbies outside of food. Especially social ones, but also just activities that you enjoy. Doing fun things like learning guitar, singing, planning stuff with friends. I even joined an online book club on D***ord. Having social support predicts happiness and success, scientifically, by factor of 0.7 which is huge in psychological research - more than intelligence. (Source: The Happiness Advantage by Shawn Achor)

4. Sorry if this violates some rules but it helped to know that many people are attracted to overweight people so I stopped worrying about it and instead started feeling good about my body and going to dates.

Hi everyone, I’m not sure if what I’m experiencing counts as binge eating disorder, but I struggle a lot with eating large amounts of food and feeling out of control sometimes. I’m 14, 5'0", and 142 lbs. Last year I was around 119 lbs, and my relationship with my body and food has gotten worse since then.

Sometimes when I eat, it feels like I “zone out” or lose control, and I don’t fully realize how much I’ve eaten until afterward. I’ve also been diagnosed with depression and ADHD, and it’s been really hard to stay motivated with exercise or healthy habits.

I’ve been thinking about seeing a nutritionist, but I’m not sure if that would actually help with eating habits like this. Would a nutritionist be able to help me build a healthier relationship with food and get skinny, or should I be looking for a different type of support?

I’ve also wondered if this could be related to something like PCOS since I had an ovarian cyst before, but I’m not sure.

Any advice or experiences would really help. Thank you

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Being not in control of my life isn't sitting well with me and I hope whoever's reading this finds this post helpful.

I'm an 18 year old girl and I went on a weight loss journey two years ago because I've been OBESE my entire life. (still am unfortunately)

You know, ever since binge eating became a part of my daily routine and that's about a year ago, I've been devastated and today I decided to start over again for the millionth time. I want to be like the person I was when I first started eating well and working out. Disciplined. Consistent.

Yesterday, I bought new pairs of leggings for my gym workouts as I want to get my motivation back and extend my running sessions but I was crying in front of my mirror for half an hour min as I watched how big I've got and how my legs look. That didn't stop me from binge eating again though and it was sick. I ate whatever I could find.

Today, I was determined to leave that episode behind and so I went out to run but I couldn't even complete a kilometer.

Binge eating is killing me and is taking my spark away, my confidence (not funny but not that I had any before). It's keeping me behind and is preventing me from doing the things I love. (that's more accurate)

My behaviour towards my family and close friends isn't the best —all because of my eating habits yes— and I'm aware of that but I cannot tell them why I am the way I am.

My goal is being binge free for a whole week because the longest I've gone without bingeing is four days and that's embarrassing.

You who's reading this, yes you. Even though I'm not the best at giving advice, just know that I feel you. Currently I am you and I'm telling you this because I need to hear it as well. It's all going to be worth it in the end and this loop isn't going to last forever.

The best is yet to come.

Do not expect a journey, especially a hard one as this, to be perfect. It takes a LOT of strength and courage to even acknowledge that you're suffering from this disorder.

(It's even harder when you're going through this on your own and you can't talk to your close ones. Coming from someone who's also been bullied for as long as I can remember)

With that you've made your first step and you can perfect everything else later.

It's going to be tough but I believe in you. (Feel free to message me if you need someone to talk to. It's probably going to help me not binge too 🫶🏻)

Really struggling to stop my binges. I go a few days in a deficit and then binge thousands of calories by day 4-5. I’m 5’9 female weighing in the low 140s. I’m skinny fat after regaining my original weight after I reached a temporary low of 125 this fall (which I know now is very unsustainable and a borderine unhealthy BMI). My goal is/was to maintain at 135, but I am exhausted. For what’s its worth my body does seem to always return to low 140s. Despite binges my body seem to regulate itself back here. But I did really like how my body looked in the 130s.

I have been cycling between trying 1600 calories, then 1800, then adding workouts, then cutting workouts, and I am honestly desperate at this point. Do I stop trying to eat in a deficit? Do I increase calories but also increase my exercise and lose the weight slowly? I’m so freaking exhausted of this cycle which has gone on for months now. I want to eat normally again and I need this horrible cycle to stop so I can be healthy and feel normal again.

**also, with the cycle of bingeing and water weight it’s hard for me to tell what my baseline true weight is right now, and what my calorie maintenance is. I’m guessing with moderate activity I’m around 2100 and without any exercise closer to 1900 but who knows.

for my whole life i have struggled with an eating addiction. not just when i’m bored but when im stressed, procrastinating, upset, the list goes on.

i’ve tried chewing gum, focusing on studying, getting addicted to the gym/exercise but nothing fulfils the thoughts in my subconscious telling me to eat and eat until i feel sick.

i’ve tried tracking calories and everything but really that’s not the problem i just can’t stop myself and tell myself that it’s fine if i have another piece, slice, serving etc. i’ll try meet my goal tomorrow. i understand a large part of it could be to do with discipline issues but i have zero clue how to fix that either.

any suggestions for some sustainable and healthy habits/addictions to make up for it?

sorry if this is not the right place to post this. I have been struggling with stomach issues for a few years now and I am mostly getting it under control with diet changes, stress management and some supplements/complimentary therapies.

the only issue I have is I eat really well most of the time but then I ruin it almost every day by either impulse eating foods that hurt my stomach (either chocolate or crisps usually) or continuing to eat even after I feel full and hurting my stomach that way. the over eating is the bugger problem as it irritates my stomach for days. I can get away with the junk food sometimes and think it's healthy to not require absolute perfection in my diet anyway.

I just feel like I can't stop myself, and I really believe if I could get this under control for a while (like maybe a year). my stomach would have enough time to heal and I could maybe just go back to eating normally anyway.

basically how do you stop comfort eating/impulse eating when it hurts you? I feel like I have no self control.