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My wife cheated on me. Divorced about 7 months ago. Still don’t really know what to do with that information honestly. I’m 29. Was married for 3 years, together for 6. We had recently bought a house together, a cute cat together and in general we were happy, frequent dates, flirtish conversations (after 3 years of marriage), good sex life and in general we were leading a good and normal life

It didn’t start with me finding anything. No message I accidentally saw, no receipt, nothing like that. It started with her just feeling kind of off and weird. That’s the only word I have for it…
Small things. She used to be the kind of person who’d walk into whatever room I was in and just start talking, like randomly telling me about her day, that stopped. Not all at once, just quietly. She started going to bed earlier, phone in the bathroom longer, sometimes too long, smiling or laughing less at things that would’ve gotten her before

Then the sex stopped like not immediately, it kind of diminished we went from regular to occasionally to me realising one day it had been like six weeks. And the times it did happen she just felt… elsewhere. I told myself work stress. Told myself she’d been tired. You find reasons.
Brought it up multiple times, tried to be casual about it, asked if she was okay, said she seemed a bit distant. Everytime she said she was fine, mentioned a stressful project at work. Seemed real enough so i just let it go

Then she started going out more. work drinks, friend’s birthday, things that were a bit vague.
I almost went through her phone twice. Just couldnt get myself to do it. Partly trust and partly I think I just wasn’t ready to know. The confession happened on a random sunday. around noon she just came and sat across from me at the kitchen table and said she needed to tell me something.

The way she said it I already knew. She’d been seeing someone from work. 8 months. Said it started slow, said she’d been trying to end it for two months and kept not doing it. As per her she was telling me because she couldn’t keep sitting in the same house pretending, said she thought I deserved to know. She eventually said she fell out of love. I asked her why she didn’t just leave before any of it happened. She said she didn’t know. . She came to me directly as compared to me finding out which sounds like it should feel better and it doesn’t really.

I just felt tired more than anything Told her I wanted to separate instantly. She asked if I was sure. I said yeah. She didn’t really fight it, honestly she was waiting for it. I’mhonestly trying to do better, have been consistent at gym for 3 months, build some muscles, fixed my eating/ sleeping habits, some days I’m just slow, like everything takes a bit more effort than it should. Started swimming in the mornings, never done that before in my life. Anyways random information lol. No lesson, just what happened.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

My wife cheated on me. Divorced about 7 months ago. Still don’t really know what to do with that information honestly. I’m 29. Was married for 3 years, together for 6. We had recently bought a house together, a cute cat together and in general we were happy, frequent dates, flirtish conversations (after 3 years of marriage), good sex life and in general we were leading a good and normal life

It didn’t start with me finding anything. No message I accidentally saw, no receipt, nothing like that. It started with her just feeling kind of off and weird. That’s the only word I have for it…
Small things. She used to be the kind of person who’d walk into whatever room I was in and just start talking, like randomly telling me about her day, that stopped. Not all at once, just quietly. She started going to bed earlier, phone in the bathroom longer, sometimes too long, smiling or laughing less at things that would’ve gotten her before

Then the sex stopped like not immediately, it kind of diminished we went from regular to occasionally to me realising one day it had been like six weeks. And the times it did happen she just felt… elsewhere. I told myself work stress. Told myself she’d been tired. You find reasons.
Brought it up multiple times, tried to be casual about it, asked if she was okay, said she seemed a bit distant. Everytime she said she was fine, mentioned a stressful project at work. Seemed real enough so i just let it go

Then she started going out more. work drinks, friend’s birthday, things that were a bit vague.
I almost went through her phone twice. Just couldnt get myself to do it. Partly trust and partly I think I just wasn’t ready to know. The confession happened on a random sunday. around noon she just came and sat across from me at the kitchen table and said she needed to tell me something.

The way she said it I already knew. She’d been seeing someone from work. 8 months. Said it started slow, said she’d been trying to end it for two months and kept not doing it. As per her she was telling me because she couldn’t keep sitting in the same house pretending, said she thought I deserved to know. She eventually said she fell out of love. I asked her why she didn’t just leave before any of it happened. She said she didn’t know. . She came to me directly as compared to me finding out which sounds like it should feel better and it doesn’t really.

I just felt tired more than anything Told her I wanted to separate instantly. She asked if I was sure. I said yeah. She didn’t really fight it, honestly she was waiting for it. I’mhonestly trying to do better, have been consistent at gym for 3 months, build some muscles, fixed my eating/ sleeping habits, some days I’m just slow, like everything takes a bit more effort than it should. Started swimming in the mornings, never done that before in my life. Anyways random information lol. No lesson, just what happened.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

TLDR:My wife cheated on me. Divorced about 7 months ago.
I’m 29. Was married for 3 years, together for 6. We had recently bought a house together, a cute cat together and in general we were happy, frequent dates, flirtish conversations (after 3 years of marriage), good sex life and in general we were leading a good and normal life

It didn’t start with me finding anything. No message I accidentally saw, no receipt, nothing like that. It started with her just feeling kind of off and weird. That’s the only word I have for it…
Small things. She used to be the kind of person who’d walk into whatever room I was in and just start talking, like randomly telling me about her day, that stopped. Not all at once, just quietly. She started going to bed earlier, phone in the bathroom longer, sometimes too long, smiling or laughing less at things that would’ve gotten her before

Then the sex stopped like not immediately, it kind of diminished we went from regular to occasionally to me realising one day it had been like six weeks. And the times it did happen she just felt… elsewhere. I told myself work stress. Told myself she’d been tired. You find reasons.
Brought it up multiple times, tried to be casual about it, asked if she was okay, said she seemed a bit distant. Everytime she said she was fine, mentioned a stressful project at work. Seemed real enough so i just let it go

Then she started going out more. work drinks, friend’s birthday, things that were a bit vague.
I almost went through her phone twice. Just couldnt get myself to do it. Partly trust and partly I think I just wasn’t ready to know. The confession happened on a random sunday. around noon she just came and sat across from me at the kitchen table and said she needed to tell me something.

The way she said it I already knew. She’d been seeing someone from work. 8 months. Said it started slow, said she’d been trying to end it for two months and kept not doing it. As per her she was telling me because she couldn’t keep sitting in the same house pretending, said she thought I deserved to know. She eventually said she fell out of love. I asked her why she didn’t just leave before any of it happened. She said she didn’t know. . She came to me directly as compared to me finding out which sounds like it should feel better and it doesn’t really.

I just felt tired more than anything Told her I wanted to separate instantly. She asked if I was sure. I said yeah. She didn’t just fight it but begged me to take her back honestly she was genuinely sorry and asking me for forgiveness, Injust couldnt. I’mhonestly trying to do better, have been consistent at gym for 3 months, build some muscles, fixed my eating/ sleeping habits, some days I’m just slow, like everything takes a bit more effort than it should. Started swimming in the mornings, never done that before in my life. Anyways random information lol. No lesson, just what happened.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

My wife cheated on me. Divorced about 7 months ago. Still don’t really know what to do with that information honestly. I’m 29. Was married for 3 years, together for 6. We had recently bought a house together, a cute cat together and in general we were happy, frequent dates, flirtish conversations (after 3 years of marriage), good sex life and in general we were leading a good and normal life

It didn’t start with me finding anything. No message I accidentally saw, no receipt, nothing like that. It started with her just feeling kind of off and weird. That’s the only word I have for it…
Small things. She used to be the kind of person who’d walk into whatever room I was in and just start talking, like randomly telling me about her day, that stopped. Not all at once, just quietly. She started going to bed earlier, phone in the bathroom longer, sometimes too long, smiling or laughing less at things that would’ve gotten her before

Then the sex stopped like not immediately, it kind of diminished we went from regular to occasionally to me realising one day it had been like six weeks. And the times it did happen she just felt… elsewhere. I told myself work stress. Told myself she’d been tired. You find reasons.
Brought it up multiple times, tried to be casual about it, asked if she was okay, said she seemed a bit distant. Everytime she said she was fine, mentioned a stressful project at work. Seemed real enough so i just let it go

Then she started going out more. work drinks, friend’s birthday, things that were a bit vague.
I almost went through her phone twice. Just couldnt get myself to do it. Partly trust and partly I think I just wasn’t ready to know. The confession happened on a random sunday. around noon she just came and sat across from me at the kitchen table and said she needed to tell me something.

The way she said it I already knew. She’d been seeing someone from work. 8 months. Said it started slow, said she’d been trying to end it for two months and kept not doing it. As per her she was telling me because she couldn’t keep sitting in the same house pretending, said she thought I deserved to know. She eventually said she fell out of love. I asked her why she didn’t just leave before any of it happened. She said she didn’t know. . She came to me directly as compared to me finding out which sounds like it should feel better and it doesn’t really.

I just felt tired more than anything Told her I wanted to separate instantly. She asked if I was sure. I said yeah. She didn’t really fight it, honestly she was waiting for it. I’mhonestly trying to do better, have been consistent at gym for 3 months, build some muscles, fixed my eating/ sleeping habits, some days I’m just slow, like everything takes a bit more effort than it should. Started swimming in the mornings, never done that before in my life. Anyways random information lol. No lesson, just what happened.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

My wife cheated on me. Divorced about 7 months ago. Still don’t really know what to do with that information honestly. I’m 29. Was married for 3 years, together for 6. We had recently bought a house together, a cute cat together and in general we were happy, frequent dates, flirtish conversations (after 3 years of marriage), good sex life and in general we were leading a good and normal life

It didn’t start with me finding anything. No message I accidentally saw, no receipt, nothing like that. It started with her just feeling kind of off and weird. That’s the only word I have for it…
Small things. She used to be the kind of person who’d walk into whatever room I was in and just start talking, like randomly telling me about her day, that stopped. Not all at once, just quietly. She started going to bed earlier, phone in the bathroom longer, sometimes too long, smiling or laughing less at things that would’ve gotten her before

Then the sex stopped like not immediately, it kind of diminished we went from regular to occasionally to me realising one day it had been like six weeks. And the times it did happen she just felt… elsewhere. I told myself work stress. Told myself she’d been tired. You find reasons.
Brought it up multiple times, tried to be casual about it, asked if she was okay, said she seemed a bit distant. Everytime she said she was fine, mentioned a stressful project at work. Seemed real enough so i just let it go

Then she started going out more. work drinks, friend’s birthday, things that were a bit vague.
I almost went through her phone twice. Just couldnt get myself to do it. Partly trust and partly I think I just wasn’t ready to know. The confession happened on a random sunday. around noon she just came and sat across from me at the kitchen table and said she needed to tell me something.

The way she said it I already knew. She’d been seeing someone from work. 8 months. Said it started slow, said she’d been trying to end it for two months and kept not doing it. As per her she was telling me because she couldn’t keep sitting in the same house pretending, said she thought I deserved to know. She eventually said she fell out of love. I asked her why she didn’t just leave before any of it happened. She said she didn’t know. . She came to me directly as compared to me finding out which sounds like it should feel better and it doesn’t really.

I just felt tired more than anything Told her I wanted to separate instantly. She asked if I was sure. I said yeah. She didn’t really fight it, honestly she was waiting for it. I’mhonestly trying to do better, have been consistent at gym for 3 months, build some muscles, fixed my eating/ sleeping habits, some days I’m just slow, like everything takes a bit more effort than it should. Started swimming in the mornings, never done that before in my life. Anyways random information lol. No lesson, just what happened.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

My wife cheated on me. Divorced about 7 months ago. Still don’t really know what to do with that information honestly. I’m 29. Was married for 3 years, together for 6. We had recently bought a house together, a cute cat together and in general we were happy, frequent dates, flirtish conversations (after 3 years of marriage), good sex life and in general we were leading a good and normal life

It didn’t start with me finding anything. No message I accidentally saw, no receipt, nothing like that. It started with her just feeling kind of off and weird. That’s the only word I have for it…
Small things. She used to be the kind of person who’d walk into whatever room I was in and just start talking, like randomly telling me about her day, that stopped. Not all at once, just quietly. She started going to bed earlier, phone in the bathroom longer, sometimes too long, smiling or laughing less at things that would’ve gotten her before

Then the sex stopped like not immediately, it kind of diminished we went from regular to occasionally to me realising one day it had been like six weeks. And the times it did happen she just felt… elsewhere. I told myself work stress. Told myself she’d been tired. You find reasons.
Brought it up multiple times, tried to be casual about it, asked if she was okay, said she seemed a bit distant. Everytime she said she was fine, mentioned a stressful project at work. Seemed real enough so i just let it go

Then she started going out more. work drinks, friend’s birthday, things that were a bit vague.
I almost went through her phone twice. Just couldnt get myself to do it. Partly trust and partly I think I just wasn’t ready to know. The confession happened on a random sunday. around noon she just came and sat across from me at the kitchen table and said she needed to tell me something.

The way she said it I already knew. She’d been seeing someone from work. 8 months. Said it started slow, said she’d been trying to end it for two months and kept not doing it. As per her she was telling me because she couldn’t keep sitting in the same house pretending, said she thought I deserved to know. She eventually said she fell out of love. I asked her why she didn’t just leave before any of it happened. She said she didn’t know. . She came to me directly as compared to me finding out which sounds like it should feel better and it doesn’t really.

I just felt tired more than anything Told her I wanted to separate instantly. She asked if I was sure. I said yeah. She didn’t really fight it, honestly she was waiting for it. I’mhonestly trying to do better, have been consistent at gym for 3 months, build some muscles, fixed my eating/ sleeping habits, some days I’m just slow, like everything takes a bit more effort than it should. Started swimming in the mornings, never done that before in my life. Anyways random information lol. No lesson, just what happened.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

My wife cheated on me. Divorced about 7 months ago. Still don’t really know what to do with that information honestly. I’m 29. Was married for 3 years, together for6. We had recently bought a house together, a cute cat together and in general we were happy, frequent dates, flirtish conversations (after 3 years of marriage), good sex life and in general we were leading a good and normal life

It didn’t start with me finding anything. No message I accidentally saw, no receipt, nothing like that. It started with her just feeling kind of off and weird. That’s the only word I have for it…
Small things. She used to be the kind of person who’d walk into whatever room I was in and just start talking, like randomly tellingme about her day, that stopped. Not all at once, just quietly. She started going to bed earlier, phone in the bathroom longer, sometimes too long, smiling or laughing less at things that would’ve gotten her before

I noticed. Then the sex stopped like not immediately, it kind of diminishes shed. We went from regular to occasionally to me realising one day it had been like six weeks. And the times it did happen she just felt… elsewhere. I told myself work stress. Told myself she’d been tired. You find reasons.
Brought it up multiple times, tried to be casual about it, asked if she was okay, said she seemed a bit distant. Everytime she said she was fine, mentioned a stressful project at work. Seemed real enough i just let it go

Then she started going out more. work drinks, friend’s birthday, things that were a bit vague.
I almost went through her phone twice. Just couldnt get myself to do it. Partly trust and partly I think I just wasn’t ready to know. The confession happened on a random sunday. around noon she just came and sat across from me at the kitchen table and said she needed to tell me something.

The way she said it I already knew. She’d been seeing someone from work. 8 months. Said it started slow, said she’d been trying to end it for two months and kept not doing it. As per her she was telling me because she couldn’t keep sitting in the same house pretending, said she thought I deserved to know. She eventually said she fell out of love. I asked her why she didn’t just leave before any of it happened. She said she didn’t know. . She came to me directly as compared to me finding out which sounds like it should feel better and it doesn’t really.

I just felt tired more than anything Told her I wanted to separate instantly. She asked if I was sure. I said yeah. She didn’t really fight it, honestly she was waiting for it. I’mhonestly trying to do better, have been consistent at gym for 3 months, build some muscles, fixed my eating/ sleeping habits, some days I’m just slow, like everything takes a bit more effort than it should. Started swimming in the mornings, never done that before in my life. Anyways random information lol. No lesson, just what happened.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

My wife cheated on me. Divorced about 7 months ago. Still don’t really know what to do with that information honestly. I’m 29. Was married for 3 years, together for6. We had recently bought a house together, a cute cat together and in general we were happy, frequent dates, flirtish conversations (after 3 years of marriage), good sex life and in general we were leading a good and normal life

It didn’t start with me finding anything. No message I accidentally saw, no receipt, nothing like that. It started with her just feeling kind of off and weird. That’s the only word I have for it…
Small things. She used to be the kind of person who’d walk into whatever room I was in and just start talking, like randomly tellingme about her day, that stopped. Not all at once, just quietly. She started going to bed earlier, phone in the bathroom longer, sometimes too long, smiling or laughing less at things that would’ve gotten her before

I noticed. Then the sex stopped like not immediately, it kind of diminishes shed. We went from regular to occasionally to me realising one day it had been like six weeks. And the times it did happen she just felt… elsewhere. I told myself work stress. Told myself she’d been tired. You find reasons.
Brought it up multiple times, tried to be casual about it, asked if she was okay, said she seemed a bit distant. Everytime she said she was fine, mentioned a stressful project at work. Seemed real enough i just let it go

Then she started going out more. work drinks, friend’s birthday, things that were a bit vague.
I almost went through her phone twice. Just couldnt get myself to do it. Partly trust and partly I think I just wasn’t ready to know. The confession happened on a random sunday. around noon she just came and sat across from me at the kitchen table and said she needed to tell me something.

The way she said it I already knew. She’d been seeing someone from work. 8 months. Said it started slow, said she’d been trying to end it for two months and kept not doing it. As per her she was telling me because she couldn’t keep sitting in the same house pretending, said she thought I deserved to know. She eventually said she fell out of love. I asked her why she didn’t just leave before any of it happened. She said she didn’t know. . She came to me directly as compared to me finding out which sounds like it should feel better and it doesn’t really.

I just felt tired more than anything Told her I wanted to separate instantly. She asked if I was sure. I said yeah. She didn’t really fight it, honestly she was waiting for it. I’mhonestly trying to do better, have been consistent at gym for 3 months, build some muscles, fixed my eating/ sleeping habits, some days I’m just slow, like everything takes a bit more effort than it should. Started swimming in the mornings, never done that before in my life. Anyways random information lol. No lesson, just what happened.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

TLDR: My wife fucked someone else
I’m 32. was married to my wife for 5 years. Together for 8, we have a dog, a rented apartment, the whole thing

Found out in April. The way it happened is so stupid I almost laugh telling it… We both work from home so it was a normal day like any other for us.She had a dentist appointment so she left around noon, I was on a client call. Her laptop was open on the dining table and she’d left her WhatsApp web logged in. I wasn’t snooping, I genuinely just walked past and a message notification popped up on screen. The contact name was something like “R” which didn’t mean anything to me at first because she works in HR and talks to a lot of people. So it was pretty normal to me, seeing a random guy text her.

But the preview said “last night was different” I stood there for a second and wondered whether to open it or not then I sat down and opened it without overthinking it.. I wish I hadn’t but I also needed to.The chat went back almost 7 months, It wasn’t a one time thing or even a slow build that fizzled. It was consistent & regular. There were voice notes, intimate ones. There were messages where she was clearly texting him from our bed, timestamps at like 1am and 2am on nights, One message she sent said something like “feel so guilty but also can’t stop” and he replied with something reassuring went up to the media only to see exchange of nudes, sexting and daily good mornings and nights and I just closed the laptop and sat there for a while.

She came home around 2:30, I was back at my desk. I don’t know how I got through the next 4 hours of pretending but I did, casually asked about her appointment. Confronted her that night after dinner. Just asked her directly who R was .She froze. Like actually froze mid sentence. And then she didn’t deny it, didn’t say I was misreading anything. She just sat down slowly and put her face in her hands. She said it started through work, he was a vendor she’d been coordinating with since last year. Said the physical part happened 4 times, always on days I was traveling for work (sales job). I travel maybe once a month so she had clearly been keeping track.
The part that broke me wasn’t the cheating. It was when I asked her if she was in love with him and she took too long to answer but said no.

We liver like polite roommates for about 3 months I just kept thinking one morning I’d wake up and feel differently. Never happened. Told her few months later I wanted to separate. She cried andasked for more time. I said I didn’t have any more time left in me. Here is the hardest part- she denied to let me go and kept asking for one more chance. I tried i honestly did but couldn’t get myself to do it. The dog thing is the hardest part genuinely.
I’m doing okay I think. Some days are fine. Some days I’m just really tired. Started going on long walks at night which sounds sad but honestly helps more than anything else has, that is it I guess no big lesson, just happened.

I’m 32. was married to my wife for 5 years. Together for 8, we have a dog, a rented apartment, the whole thing

Found out in April. The way it happened is so stupid I almost laugh telling it… We both work from home so it was a normal day like any other for us.She had a dentist appointment so she left around noon, I was on a client call. Her laptop was open on the dining table and she’d left her WhatsApp web logged in. I wasn’t snooping, I genuinely just walked past and a message notification popped up on screen. The contact name was something like “R” which didn’t mean anything to me at first because she works in HR and talks to a lot of people. So it was pretty normal to me, seeing a random guy text her.

But the preview said “last night was different” I stood there for a second and wondered whether to open it or not then I sat down and opened it without overthinking it.. I wish I hadn’t but I also needed to.The chat went back almost 7 months, It wasn’t a one time thing or even a slow build that fizzled. It was consistent & regular. There were voice notes, intimate ones. There were messages where she was clearly texting him from our bed, timestamps at like 1am and 2am on nights, One message she sent said something like “feel so guilty but also can’t stop” and he replied with something reassuring went up to the media only to see exchange of nudes, sexting and daily good mornings and nights and I just closed the laptop and sat there for a while.

She came home around 2:30, I was back at my desk. I don’t know how I got through the next 4 hours of pretending but I did, casually asked about her appointment. Confronted her that night after dinner. Just asked her directly who R was .She froze. Like actually froze mid sentence. And then she didn’t deny it, didn’t say I was misreading anything. She just sat down slowly and put her face in her hands. She said it started through work, he was a vendor she’d been coordinating with since last year. Said the physical part happened 4 times, always on days I was traveling for work (sales job). I travel maybe once a month so she had clearly been keeping track.
The part that broke me wasn’t the cheating. It was when I asked her if she was in love with him and she took too long to answer but said no.

We liver like polite roommates for about 3 months I just kept thinking one morning I’d wake up and feel differently. Never happened. Told her few months later I wanted to separate. She cried andasked for more time. I said I didn’t have any more time left in me. Here is the hardest part- she denied to let me go and kept asking for one more chance. I tried i honestly did but couldn’t get myself to do it. The dog thing is the hardest part genuinely.
I’m doing okay I think. Some days are fine. Some days I’m just really tired. Started going on long walks at night which sounds sad but honestly helps more than anything else has, that is it I guess no big lesson, just happened.

I’m 32. was married to my wife for 5 years. Together for 8, we have a dog, a rented apartment, the whole thing

Found out in April. The way it happened is so stupid I almost laugh telling it… We both work from home so it was a normal day like any other for us.She had a dentist appointment so she left around noon, I was on a client call. Her laptop was open on the dining table and she’d left her WhatsApp web logged in. I wasn’t snooping, I genuinely just walked past and a message notification popped up on screen. The contact name was something like “R” which didn’t mean anything to me at first because she works in HR and talks to a lot of people. So it was pretty normal to me, seeing a random guy text her.

But the preview said “last night was different” I stood there for a second and wondered whether to open it or not then I sat down and opened it without overthinking it.. I wish I hadn’t but I also needed to.The chat went back almost 7 months, It wasn’t a one time thing or even a slow build that fizzled. It was consistent & regular. There were voice notes, intimate ones. There were messages where she was clearly texting him from our bed, timestamps at like 1am and 2am on nights, One message she sent said something like “feel so guilty but also can’t stop” and he replied with something reassuring went up to the media only to see exchange of nudes, sexting and daily good mornings and nights and I just closed the laptop and sat there for a while.

She came home around 2:30, I was back at my desk. I don’t know how I got through the next 4 hours of pretending but I did, casually asked about her appointment. Confronted her that night after dinner. Just asked her directly who R was .She froze. Like actually froze mid sentence. And then she didn’t deny it, didn’t say I was misreading anything. She just sat down slowly and put her face in her hands. She said it started through work, he was a vendor she’d been coordinating with since last year. Said the physical part happened 4 times, always on days I was traveling for work (sales job). I travel maybe once a month so she had clearly been keeping track.
The part that broke me wasn’t the cheating. It was when I asked her if she was in love with him and she took too long to answer but said no.

We liver like polite roommates for about 3 months I just kept thinking one morning I’d wake up and feel differently. Never happened. Told her few months later I wanted to separate. She cried andasked for more time. I said I didn’t have any more time left in me. The dog thing is the hardest part genuinely.
I’m doing okay I think. Some days are fine. Some days I’m just really tired. Started going on long walks at night which sounds sad but honestly helps more than anything else has, that is it I guess no big lesson, just happened.

I’m 32. was married to my wife for 5 years. Together for 8, we have a dog, a rented apartment, the whole thing

Found out in April. The way it happened is so stupid I almost laugh telling it… We both work from home so it was a normal day like any other for us.She had a dentist appointment so she left around noon, I was on a client call. Her laptop was open on the dining table and she’d left her WhatsApp web logged in. I wasn’t snooping, I genuinely just walked past and a message notification popped up on screen. The contact name was something like “R” which didn’t mean anything to me at first because she works in HR and talks to a lot of people. So it was pretty normal to me, seeing a random guy text her.

But the preview said “last night was different” I stood there for a second and wondered whether to open it or not then I sat down and opened it without overthinking it.. I wish I hadn’t but I also needed to.The chat went back almost 7 months, It wasn’t a one time thing or even a slow build that fizzled. It was consistent & regular. There were voice notes, intimate ones. There were messages where she was clearly texting him from our bed, timestamps at like 1am and 2am on nights, One message she sent said something like “feel so guilty but also can’t stop” and he replied with something reassuring went up to the media only to see exchange of nudes, sexting and daily good mornings and nights and I just closed the laptop and sat there for a while.

She came home around 2:30, I was back at my desk. I don’t know how I got through the next 4 hours of pretending but I did, casually asked about her appointment. Confronted her that night after dinner. Just asked her directly who R was .She froze. Like actually froze mid sentence. And then she didn’t deny it, didn’t say I was misreading anything. She just sat down slowly and put her face in her hands. She said it started through work, he was a vendor she’d been coordinating with since last year. Said the physical part happened 4 times, always on days I was traveling for work (sales job). I travel maybe once a month so she had clearly been keeping track.
The part that broke me wasn’t the cheating. It was when I asked her if she was in love with him and she took too long to answer but said no.

We liver like polite roommates for about 3 months I just kept thinking one morning I’d wake up and feel differently. Never happened. Told her few months later I wanted to separate. She cried andasked for more time. I said I didn’t have any more time left in me. The dog thing is the hardest part genuinely.
I’m doing okay I think. Some days are fine. Some days I’m just really tired. Started going on long walks at night which sounds sad but honestly helps more than anything else has, that is it I guess no big lesson, just happened.

I’m 32. was married to my wife for 5 years. Together for 8, we have a dog, a rented apartment, the whole thing

Found out in April. The way it happened is so stupid I almost laugh telling it… We both work from home so it was a normal day like any other for us.She had a dentist appointment so she left around noon, I was on a client call. Her laptop was open on the dining table and she’d left her WhatsApp web logged in. I wasn’t snooping, I genuinely just walked past and a message notification popped up on screen. The contact name was something like “R” which didn’t mean anything to me at first because she works in HR and talks to a lot of people. So it was pretty normal to me, seeing a random guy text her.

But the preview said “last night was different” I stood there for a second and wondered whether to open it or not then I sat down and opened it without overthinking it.. I wish I hadn’t but I also needed to.The chat went back almost 7 months, It wasn’t a one time thing or even a slow build that fizzled. It was consistent & regular. There were voice notes, intimate ones. There were messages where she was clearly texting him from our bed, timestamps at like 1am and 2am on nights, One message she sent said something like “feel so guilty but also can’t stop” and he replied with something reassuring went up to the media only to see exchange of nudes, sexting and daily good mornings and nights and I just closed the laptop and sat there for a while.

She came home around 2:30, I was back at my desk. I don’t know how I got through the next 4 hours of pretending but I did, casually asked about her appointment. Confronted her that night after dinner. Just asked her directly who R was .She froze. Like actually froze mid sentence. And then she didn’t deny it, didn’t say I was misreading anything. She just sat down slowly and put her face in her hands. She said it started through work, he was a vendor she’d been coordinating with since last year. Said the physical part happened 4 times, always on days I was traveling for work (sales job). I travel maybe once a month so she had clearly been keeping track.
The part that broke me wasn’t the cheating. It was when I asked her if she was in love with him and she took too long to answer but said no.

We liver like polite roommates for about 3 months I just kept thinking one morning I’d wake up and feel differently. Never happened. Told her few months later I wanted to separate. She cried andasked for more time. I said I didn’t have any more time left in me. The dog thing is the hardest part genuinely.
I’m doing okay I think. Some days are fine. Some days I’m just really tired. Started going on long walks at night which sounds sad but honestly helps more than anything else has, that is it I guess no big lesson, just happened.

I’m 32. was married to my wife for 5 years. Together for 8, we have a dog, a rented apartment, the whole thing

Found out in April. The way it happened is so stupid I almost laugh telling it… We both work from home so it was a normal day like any other for us.She had a dentist appointment so she left around noon, I was on a client call. Her laptop was open on the dining table and she’d left her WhatsApp web logged in. I wasn’t snooping, I genuinely just walked past and a message notification popped up on screen. The contact name was something like “R” which didn’t mean anything to me at first because she works in HR and talks to a lot of people. So it was pretty normal to me, seeing a random guy text her.

But the preview said “last night was different” I stood there for a second and wondered whether to open it or not then I sat down and opened it without overthinking it.. I wish I hadn’t but I also needed to.The chat went back almost 7 months, It wasn’t a one time thing or even a slow build that fizzled. It was consistent & regular. There were voice notes, intimate ones. There were messages where she was clearly texting him from our bed, timestamps at like 1am and 2am on nights, One message she sent said something like “feel so guilty but also can’t stop” and he replied with something reassuring went up to the media only to see exchange of nudes, sexting and daily good mornings and nights and I just closed the laptop and sat there for a while.

She came home around 2:30, I was back at my desk. I don’t know how I got through the next 4 hours of pretending but I did, casually asked about her appointment. Confronted her that night after dinner. Just asked her directly who R was .She froze. Like actually froze mid sentence. And then she didn’t deny it, didn’t say I was misreading anything. She just sat down slowly and put her face in her hands. She said it started through work, he was a vendor she’d been coordinating with since last year. Said the physical part happened 4 times, always on days I was traveling for work (sales job). I travel maybe once a month so she had clearly been keeping track.
The part that broke me wasn’t the cheating. It was when I asked her if she was in love with him and she took too long to answer but said no.

We liver like polite roommates for about 3 months I just kept thinking one morning I’d wake up and feel differently. Never happened. Told her few months later I wanted to separate. She cried andasked for more time. I said I didn’t have any more time left in me. The dog thing is the hardest part genuinely.
I’m doing okay I think. Some days are fine. Some days I’m just really tired. Started going on long walks at night which sounds sad but honestly helps more than anything else has, that is it I guess no big lesson, just happened.

I’m 32. was married to my wife for 5 years. Together for 8, we have a dog, a rented apartment, the whole thing

Found out in April. The way it happened is so stupid I almost laugh telling it… We both work from home so it was a normal day like any other for us.She had a dentist appointment so she left around noon, I was on a client call. Her laptop was open on the dining table and she’d left her WhatsApp web logged in. I wasn’t snooping, I genuinely just walked past and a message notification popped up on screen. The contact name was something like “R” which didn’t mean anything to me at first because she works in HR and talks to a lot of people. So it was pretty normal to me, seeing a random guy text her.

But the preview said “last night was different” I stood there for a second and wondered whether to open it or not then I sat down and opened it without overthinking it.. I wish I hadn’t but I also needed to.The chat went back almost 7 months, It wasn’t a one time thing or even a slow build that fizzled. It was consistent & regular. There were voice notes, intimate ones. There were messages where she was clearly texting him from our bed, timestamps at like 1am and 2am on nights, One message she sent said something like “feel so guilty but also can’t stop” and he replied with something reassuring went up to the media only to see exchange of nudes, sexting and daily good mornings and nights and I just closed the laptop and sat there for a while.

She came home around 2:30, I was back at my desk. I don’t know how I got through the next 4 hours of pretending but I did, casually asked about her appointment. Confronted her that night after dinner. Just asked her directly who R was .She froze. Like actually froze mid sentence. And then she didn’t deny it, didn’t say I was misreading anything. She just sat down slowly and put her face in her hands. She said it started through work, he was a vendor she’d been coordinating with since last year. Said the physical part happened 4 times, always on days I was traveling for work (sales job). I travel maybe once a month so she had clearly been keeping track.
The part that broke me wasn’t the cheating. It was when I asked her if she was in love with him and she took too long to answer but said no.

We liver like polite roommates for about 3 months I just kept thinking one morning I’d wake up and feel differently. Never happened. Told her few months later I wanted to separate. She cried andasked for more time. I said I didn’t have any more time left in me. The dog thing is the hardest part genuinely.
I’m doing okay I think. Some days are fine. Some days I’m just really tired. Started going on long walks at night which sounds sad but honestly helps more than anything else has, that is it I guess no big lesson, just happened.

I’m 32. was married to my wife for 5 years. Together for 8, we have a dog, a rented apartment, the whole thing

Found out in April. The way it happened is so stupid I almost laugh telling it… We both work from home so it was a normal day like any other for us.She had a dentist appointment so she left around noon, I was on a client call. Her laptop was open on the dining table and she’d left her WhatsApp web logged in. I wasn’t snooping, I genuinely just walked past and a message notification popped up on screen. The contact name was something like “R” which didn’t mean anything to me at first because she works in HR and talks to a lot of people. So it was pretty normal to me, seeing a random guy text her.

But the preview said “last night was different” I stood there for a second and wondered whether to open it or not then I sat down and opened it without overthinking it.. I wish I hadn’t but I also needed to.The chat went back almost 7 months, It wasn’t a one time thing or even a slow build that fizzled. It was consistent & regular. There were voice notes, intimate ones. There were messages where she was clearly texting him from our bed, timestamps at like 1am and 2am on nights, One message she sent said something like “feel so guilty but also can’t stop” and he replied with something reassuring went up to the media only to see exchange of nudes, sexting and daily good mornings and nights and I just closed the laptop and sat there for a while.

She came home around 2:30, I was back at my desk. I don’t know how I got through the next 4 hours of pretending but I did, casually asked about her appointment. Confronted her that night after dinner. Just asked her directly who R was .She froze. Like actually froze mid sentence. And then she didn’t deny it, didn’t say I was misreading anything. She just sat down slowly and put her face in her hands. She said it started through work, he was a vendor she’d been coordinating with since last year. Said the physical part happened 4 times, always on days I was traveling for work (sales job). I travel maybe once a month so she had clearly been keeping track.
The part that broke me wasn’t the cheating. It was when I asked her if she was in love with him and she took too long to answer but said no.

We liver like polite roommates for about 3 months I just kept thinking one morning I’d wake up and feel differently. Never happened. Told her few months later I wanted to separate. She cried andasked for more time. I said I didn’t have any more time left in me. The dog thing is the hardest part genuinely.
I’m doing okay I think. Some days are fine. Some days I’m just really tired. Started going on long walks at night which sounds sad but honestly helps more than anything else has, that is it I guess no big lesson, just happened.

I’m 32. was married to my wife for 5 years. Together for 8, we have a dog, a rented apartment, the whole thing

Found out in April. The way it happened is so stupid I almost laugh telling it… We both work from home so it was a normal day like any other for us.She had a dentist appointment so she left around noon, I was on a client call. Her laptop was open on the dining table and she’d left her WhatsApp web logged in. I wasn’t snooping, I genuinely just walked past and a message notification popped up on screen. The contact name was something like “R” which didn’t mean anything to me at first because she works in HR and talks to a lot of people. So it was pretty normal to me, seeing a random guy text her.

But the preview said “last night was different” I stood there for a second and wondered whether to open it or not then I sat down and opened it without overthinking it.. I wish I hadn’t but I also needed to.The chat went back almost 7 months, It wasn’t a one time thing or even a slow build that fizzled. It was consistent & regular. There were voice notes, intimate ones. There were messages where she was clearly texting him from our bed, timestamps at like 1am and 2am on nights, One message she sent said something like “feel so guilty but also can’t stop” and he replied with something reassuring went up to the media only to see exchange of nudes, sexting and daily good mornings and nights and I just closed the laptop and sat there for a while.

She came home around 2:30, I was back at my desk. I don’t know how I got through the next 4 hours of pretending but I did, casually asked about her appointment. Confronted her that night after dinner. Just asked her directly who R was .She froze. Like actually froze mid sentence. And then she didn’t deny it, didn’t say I was misreading anything. She just sat down slowly and put her face in her hands. She said it started through work, he was a vendor she’d been coordinating with since last year. Said the physical part happened 4 times, always on days I was traveling for work (sales job). I travel maybe once a month so she had clearly been keeping track.
The part that broke me wasn’t the cheating. It was when I asked her if she was in love with him and she took too long to answer but said no.

We liver like polite roommates for about 3 months I just kept thinking one morning I’d wake up and feel differently. Never happened. Told her few months later I wanted to separate. She cried andasked for more time. I said I didn’t have any more time left in me. The dog thing is the hardest part genuinely.
I’m doing okay I think. Some days are fine. Some days I’m just really tired. Started going on long walks at night which sounds sad but honestly helps more than anything else has, that is it I guess no big lesson, just happened.

I’m 32. was married to my wife for 5 years. Together for 8, we have a dog, a rented apartment, the whole thing

Found out in April. The way it happened is so stupid I almost laugh telling it… We both work from home so it was a normal day like any other for us.She had a dentist appointment so she left around noon, I was on a client call. Her laptop was open on the dining table and she’d left her WhatsApp web logged in. I wasn’t snooping, I genuinely just walked past and a message notification popped up on screen. The contact name was something like “R” which didn’t mean anything to me at first because she works in HR and talks to a lot of people. So it was pretty normal to me, seeing a random guy text her.

But the preview said “last night was different” I stood there for a second and wondered whether to open it or not then I sat down and opened it without overthinking it.. I wish I hadn’t but I also needed to.The chat went back almost 7 months, It wasn’t a one time thing or even a slow build that fizzled. It was consistent & regular. There were voice notes, intimate ones. There were messages where she was clearly texting him from our bed, timestamps at like 1am and 2am on nights, One message she sent said something like “feel so guilty but also can’t stop” and he replied with something reassuring went up to the media only to see exchange of nudes, sexting and daily good mornings and nights and I just closed the laptop and sat there for a while.

She came home around 2:30, I was back at my desk. I don’t know how I got through the next 4 hours of pretending but I did, casually asked about her appointment. Confronted her that night after dinner. Just asked her directly who R was .She froze. Like actually froze mid sentence. And then she didn’t deny it, didn’t say I was misreading anything. She just sat down slowly and put her face in her hands. She said it started through work, he was a vendor she’d been coordinating with since last year. Said the physical part happened 4 times, always on days I was traveling for work (sales job). I travel maybe once a month so she had clearly been keeping track.
The part that broke me wasn’t the cheating. It was when I asked her if she was in love with him and she took too long to answer but said no.

We liver like polite roommates for about 3 months I just kept thinking one morning I’d wake up and feel differently. Never happened. Told her few months later I wanted to separate. She cried andasked for more time. I said I didn’t have any more time left in me. The dog thing is the hardest part genuinely.
I’m doing okay I think. Some days are fine. Some days I’m just really tired. Started going on long walks at night which sounds sad but honestly helps more than anything else has, that is it I guess no big lesson, just happened.

I’m 32. was married to my wife for 5 years. Together for 8, we have a dog, a rented apartment, the whole thing

Found out in April. The way it happened is so stupid I almost laugh telling it… We both work from home so it was a normal day like any other for us.She had a dentist appointment so she left around noon, I was on a client call. Her laptop was open on the dining table and she’d left her WhatsApp web logged in. I wasn’t snooping, I genuinely just walked past and a message notification popped up on screen. The contact name was something like “R” which didn’t mean anything to me at first because she works in HR and talks to a lot of people. So it was pretty normal to me, seeing a random guy text her.

But the preview said “last night was different” I stood there for a second and wondered whether to open it or not then I sat down and opened it without overthinking it.. I wish I hadn’t but I also needed to.The chat went back almost 7 months, It wasn’t a one time thing or even a slow build that fizzled. It was consistent & regular. There were voice notes, intimate ones. There were messages where she was clearly texting him from our bed, timestamps at like 1am and 2am on nights, One message she sent said something like “feel so guilty but also can’t stop” and he replied with something reassuring went up to the media only to see exchange of nudes, sexting and daily good mornings and nights and I just closed the laptop and sat there for a while.

She came home around 2:30, I was back at my desk. I don’t know how I got through the next 4 hours of pretending but I did, casually asked about her appointment. Confronted her that night after dinner. Just asked her directly who R was .She froze. Like actually froze mid sentence. And then she didn’t deny it, didn’t say I was misreading anything. She just sat down slowly and put her face in her hands. She said it started through work, he was a vendor she’d been coordinating with since last year. Said the physical part happened 4 times, always on days I was traveling for work (sales job). I travel maybe once a month so she had clearly been keeping track.
The part that broke me wasn’t the cheating. It was when I asked her if she was in love with him and she took too long to answer but said no.

We liver like polite roommates for about 3 months I just kept thinking one morning I’d wake up and feel differently. Never happened. Told her few months later I wanted to separate. She cried andasked for more time. I said I didn’t have any more time left in me. The dog thing is the hardest part genuinely.
I’m doing okay I think. Some days are fine. Some days I’m just really tired. Started going on long walks at night which sounds sad but honestly helps more than anything else has, that is it I guess no big lesson, just happened.

I’m 32. was married to my wife for 5 years. Together for 8, we have a dog, a rented apartment, the whole thing

Found out in April. The way it happened is so stupid I almost laugh telling it… We both work from home so it was a normal day like any other for us.She had a dentist appointment so she left around noon, I was on a client call. Her laptop was open on the dining table and she’d left her WhatsApp web logged in. I wasn’t snooping, I genuinely just walked past and a message notification popped up on screen. The contact name was something like “R” which didn’t mean anything to me at first because she works in HR and talks to a lot of people. So it was pretty normal to me, seeing a random guy text her.

But the preview said “last night was different” I stood there for a second and wondered whether to open it or not then I sat down and opened it without overthinking it.. I wish I hadn’t but I also needed to.The chat went back almost 7 months, It wasn’t a one time thing or even a slow build that fizzled. It was consistent & regular. There were voice notes, intimate ones. There were messages where she was clearly texting him from our bed, timestamps at like 1am and 2am on nights, One message she sent said something like “feel so guilty but also can’t stop” and he replied with something reassuring went up to the media only to see exchange of nudes, sexting and daily good mornings and nights and I just closed the laptop and sat there for a while.

She came home around 2:30, I was back at my desk. I don’t know how I got through the next 4 hours of pretending but I did, casually asked about her appointment. Confronted her that night after dinner. Just asked her directly who R was .She froze. Like actually froze mid sentence. And then she didn’t deny it, didn’t say I was misreading anything. She just sat down slowly and put her face in her hands. She said it started through work, he was a vendor she’d been coordinating with since last year. Said the physical part happened 4 times, always on days I was traveling for work (sales job). I travel maybe once a month so she had clearly been keeping track.
The part that broke me wasn’t the cheating. It was when I asked her if she was in love with him and she took too long to answer but said no.

We liver like polite roommates for about 3 months I just kept thinking one morning I’d wake up and feel differently. Never happened. Told her few months later I wanted to separate. She cried andasked for more time. I said I didn’t have any more time left in me. The dog thing is the hardest part genuinely.
I’m doing okay I think. Some days are fine. Some days I’m just really tired. Started going on long walks at night which sounds sad but honestly helps more than anything else has, that is it I guess no big lesson, just happened.