Am I wrong for taking all my tools back from my father in law's garage?
About a year ago my father in law asked if I could help him redo part of his basement. I do a lot of my own home repairs, so I brought over basically everything. Drill set, socket set, saws, levels, clamps, extension cords, all that stuff. The project took a few weekends and when we were done he said I could just leave the tools there since we still had a couple small things to finish later. It seemed easier, so I did.
The problem is that "leave them there" somehow turned into everybody using them. My brother in law borrowed my impact driver and brought it back with a cracked battery. A nephew took one of my tape measures and nobody knows where it went. My father in law lent out my ladder to a neighbor without asking me first. Every time I went over, something was in a different spot or missing entirely. I brought it up more than once and got a lot of "we'll replace it" or "it's not a big deal."
Last weekend I went over because I needed my miter saw for a project at home and couldn't even find the blade guard. My father in law said one of the guys had probably taken it off and forgot. That was kind of it for me. I loaded up every single thing that was mine and took it home. I even grabbed the little bins of screws and bits becuase those kept vanishing too.
Now my wife says I made things awkward because her dad thinks I was trying to send a message. He is right, I was. My brother in law texted me saying I embarrassed everybody over "some tools." But it wasnt some tools to me. It was a few thousand dollars worth of stuff that I paid for and kept having to replace.
Am I wrong for just taking my own stuff back without another discussion?