Am I wrong for yelling at somebody who wouldn’t stop talking to me
This always ends up happening during conflicts in my family. It’s basically some disagreement happens and then I get irritated to the point where I cannot talk normally without yelling angrily. I decided it’s best that before it reaches that point I should stop talking to them.
Recently with a family member I told them before it got to that point that I’m annoyed right now and need them to stop talking to me about the situation. They kept explaining themselves and the whys and I started raising my voice more and more to tell them to stop talking to me. I even managed to explain calmly that right now I’m so annoyed that I cannot have a calm conversation and yet no understanding because they wanted to get their words out. It ended in a yelling argument and later they told me I was in the wrong for yelling at them and that I cannot just stop talking to them without solving the problem.
They apparently were so upset at this that they cried. I realized maybe it is true because it was a time issue and we should’ve solved it that same day bc of schedules. but I didn’t bc I already had a resolution in my head and if they had stopped it would’ve resolved with what I would do.
what do you think, should I work on myself bc of this? I tried for years not to get upset like this but it always ends up happening even when I’m not that upset, before I can think about it