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My boyfriend made a new friend at work and he’s come over twice now, calling him A. We all hung out together and had a good time. A couple days ago, I saw A on a suggested tab because my boyfriend follows him. I hit follow, obviously thinking nothing of it. In my opinion, it’s completely normal to follow people you know on social platforms.

A few hours later, my boyfriend gets a text from A saying that his girlfriend saw that I followed him on Tik Tok and was uncomfortable so he wasn’t going to follow me back. My boyfriend acted surprised that I followed A on Tik Tok and asked why/how I found him, so I explained. He responded to A asking why his girlfriend was uncomfortable and A said she just thinks it’s weird.

I felt embarrassed to be honest because I did what I thought was a harmless act but it caused people to be upset. I asked my boyfriend if he thought it was weird too and he said yes. We argued and he asked how I would feel if A’s girlfriend followed him and I said that would be weird only because they’ve never met or talked. But if they were friends or acquaintances, I would think nothing of it.

Now I’m in a situation where I don’t want A’s girlfriend to come to my home because she sounds really insecure and not fun to be around. But that might cause another rift in my boyfriend and A’s friendship.

I find all of this very childish, honestly. I’m almost 30 and A/A’s girlfriend are 19/20. I’m obviously in a relationship and I’m definitely not interested in a 19 year old.

I’m just curious, AITA or did I do something weird? Or are they overreacting and the weird ones?

My boyfriend made a new friend at work and he’s come over twice now, calling him A. We all hung out together and had a good time. A couple days ago, I saw A on a suggested tab because my boyfriend follows him. I hit follow, obviously thinking nothing of it. In my opinion, it’s completely normal to follow people you know on social platforms.

A few hours later, my boyfriend gets a text from A saying that his girlfriend saw that I followed him on Tik Tok and was uncomfortable so he wasn’t going to follow me back. My boyfriend acted surprised that I followed A on Tik Tok and asked why/how I found him, so I explained. He responded to A asking why his girlfriend was uncomfortable and A said she just thinks it’s weird.

I felt embarrassed to be honest because I did what I thought was a harmless act but it caused people to be upset. I asked my boyfriend if he thought it was weird too and he said yes. We argued and he asked how I would feel if A’s girlfriend followed him and I said that would be weird only because they’ve never met or talked. But if they were friends or acquaintances, I would think nothing of it.

Now I’m in a situation where I don’t want A’s girlfriend to come to my home because she sounds really insecure and not fun to be around. But that might cause another rift in my boyfriend and A’s friendship.

I find all of this very childish, honestly. I’m almost 30 and A/A’s girlfriend are 19/20. I’m obviously in a relationship and I’m definitely not interested in a 19 year old.

I’m just curious, AITAH or did I do something weird? Or are they overreacting and the weird ones?

My boyfriend made a new friend at work and he’s come over twice now, calling him A. We all hung out together and had a good time. A couple days ago, I saw A on a suggested tab because my boyfriend follows him. I hit follow, obviously thinking nothing of it. In my opinion, it’s completely normal to follow people you know on social platforms.

A few hours later, my boyfriend gets a text from A saying that his girlfriend saw that I followed him on Tik Tok and was uncomfortable so he wasn’t going to follow me back. My boyfriend acted surprised that I followed A on Tik Tok and asked why/how I found him, so I explained. He responded to A asking why his girlfriend was uncomfortable and A said she just thinks it’s weird.

I felt embarrassed to be honest because I did what I thought was a harmless act but it caused people to be upset. I asked my boyfriend if he thought it was weird too and he said yes. We argued and he asked how I would feel if A’s girlfriend followed him and I said that would be weird only because they’ve never met or talked. But if they were friends or acquaintances, I would think nothing of it.

Now I’m in a situation where I don’t want A’s girlfriend to come to my home because she sounds really insecure and not fun to be around. But that might cause another rift in my boyfriend and A’s friendship.

I find all of this very childish, honestly. I’m almost 30 and A/A’s girlfriend are 19/20. I’m obviously in a relationship and I’m definitely not interested in a 19 year old.

I’m just curious, am I wrong or did I do something weird? Or are they overreacting and the weird ones?