u/Decent-Play-7154

This is going to sound petty and I agree that it is. My girlfriend likes to play board games and games together on the Nintendo switch. Most of these game are just luck anyway with no skill needed but some of them you actually need skill.

I've been playing games a lot longer than my girlfriend so I am better at a lot of them. This means I win a lot of the time. Not all of the time though and there are still quite a few time times my gf wins.

The issue is she's starting to get annoyed whenever I win. I've tried talking to her about playing different games, maybe not playing at all if that's the reaction she has etc but she refuses.

She said it's shit watching me win all the time and that I could always let her win at times. I mention that she's not a child and me letting her win would be obvious so wouldn't really change anything.

I also point out a few of the games are just luck anyway so I can't really do anything with that. I mentioned that there's no enjoyment in it at all for me to just sit back deliberately losing.

I've bought her new games, we've tried co op games but she'll still have the same reaction. I bought her It Takes Two as I thought it would be good but as soon as I managed something easier than she did she just said it wasn't fun for her and stopped playing. I bought her Lego Star Wars and she again got annoyed when she died more or I collected more coins etc.

She said I should just want to enjoy playing the game with her and should be fine letting her win but I pointed out the same logic could be applied to her in that she should just be fine playing the game with me and be fine with me winning but she said it wasn't the same.

AITAH for not letting my girlfriend win when we play games?

I’ve been with my girlfriend for 5 years. Her family meet up 3-4 times a year so I know them pretty well. My girlfriend is close to her cousin who turned 18 in November.  Her cousin has joined us for days out, meals, cinema trips etc over the last 2 years.

We weren’t out with her cousin for a meal least week and were talking about upcoming movies. Her cousin mentioned one coming out soon that she really wants to see but has no one to go with and doesn’t want to go on her own. 

I mentioned I was planning on going on my own to see it and mentioned she could come with me if she wants and told my gf could always come aswell even if it’s not something she’s interested in,  Her cousin agreed but my gf said she doesn’t want to see the movie.

When we got home my gf mentioned I shouldn’t be going to the cinema with her cousin on my own. I pointed out she’s invited and is choosing not to go and I felt bad that her cousin has no one to go with. 

My gf mentioned that she’d be messaging her cousin to cancel but I just said she’s not really being reasonable since I was just trying to be nice and there’s nothing stopping my girlfriend coming. 

AITAH for inviting my partner and her cousin to the cinema?

I’ve been with my girlfriend for 4 and a half years. Recently I’ve noticed she’s put on quite a lot of weight. When we got together she wasn’t skinny but she was healthy whereas now she’s a lot heavier and a lot less active.  I’ve started to get worried about her health.

She used to go to the gym three-four times a week and we used to go on walks on weekends whereas now she’ll barely go walking and I’ve noticed she does get out of breath a lot quicker, even going up stairs to the apartment she’ll be getting

 I’m very been wanting to get in better shape myself, I’m not in bad shape and I’ve started making an effort to go to the gym more.

I asked my gf if we could talk. I mentioned that I’m worried about her and her weight and the impact it’s having on her health.  I made sure to mention I was coming from a place of being worried about her health.

I mentioned how I’ve noticed her struggling with breathlessness and not being about to do things that she could before but she accused me of fat shaming her.

I just said she’s gained quite a lot of weight in a year and is a lot less active and I’ve noticed how it’s worsening her health and I’m worried about her. 

She just repeated again I shouldn’t be commenting on her weight and I shouldn’t be fat shaming her. I pointed out I’m not fat shaming her, I’m just voicing my concerns about her.

She said I should drop it and should be making her feel bad about her weight. 

AITA for voicing my concerns?

My girlfriend and I have been together for a 4 years. Our sex life has been up and down due to her being on medication that causes her sex drive to pretty much disappear. Recently things have started looking up and we’re having sex more regularly. 

This week was a year for my mother passing so I haven’t been feeling great. My girlfriend tried to initiate sex last night and I obviously wasn’t in the mood. 

When I reflected her she tried again and I told her no again. She got upset and said it hurts to be rejected but I pointed out not everything is about her and that on means no. 

She just said it hurts her self esteem etc but I said again it’s not about her and it’s not fair to argue I can’t say no to sex. I pointed out I’m thinking about my dead mother so I’m not in the mood for sex so she has to stop making to all about her and completely disregarding how I’m feeling, 

She got upset again and said it was just upsetting to her do me to reject her but I just told her to drop it and accept no means no. 

AITAH for turning down my girlfriend when she tried to initiate sex?

My girlfriend invited her aunt and uncle to our apartment as they hadn't been yet. She was showing the around and her uncle gestured to a bookshelf I have thats full of comics and mentioned that they were childish. I told him I disagree and said it's up to me what my interests are. 

In the living room he mentioned it was childish again that I had movie prints and figurines and a games console and that I should grow up. I said again it's not childish and they're my interests.

He repeated that they were childish so I just told him if he was going to just come in and judge interests he doesn't like then he can leave since seeing a comic book clearly offends him. 

I said I'm not going to be judged in my own home. He said I shouldn't be talking to him like that and should be showing him respect but I just said respect has to be earned and I just repeated that he can leave because I'm not going to just stand and get judged in my home. He left and my partner said maybe I went too far and I should apologise but I refused. 

AITA for kicking him out?

My girlfriend and I mentioned we wanted to have more quality time together without using phones etc. We said we'd go on more dates but also have more nights in where we choose a movie to watch and get popcorn and other snacks etc and put our phones in the bedroom.

At the weekend we each chose a movie and my girlfriend kept picking her phone up and scrolling social media. I asked if she minded not using her phone since it was supposed to be the point of us spending time together and not using phones and pointed out we agree to put them in a different room.

She said she's still watching the movie so it’s fine. She kept picking it up again and scrolling social media so I paused the movie.

My girlfriend said that's not necessary and to not pause it as she’s still paying attention but then asked questions about the movie that had already been answered so u pointed out she’s clearly no paying attention.

I asked her again if she'd stop using her phone and she said she wasn't using much.

Around 5-10 mins later she pick her phone up again and scrolls social media. At this point I turned the movie off and said she clearly wasn't interested.

She accused me of ruining the night by turning it off but I just pointed out she obviously didn't actually care about watching the movie since she spent more time on her phone. She just repeated I didn't have to turn it off and that it was me who ruined the night.

AITAH for turning a movie off?

I’ve been with my girlfriend for 5 years. Her family meet up 3-4 times a year so I know them pretty well. My girlfriend is close to her cousin who turned 18 in November. 

Her cousin has joined us for days out, meals, cinema trips etc over the last 2 years. We weren’t out with her cousin for a meal least week and were talking about upcoming movies. Her cousin mentioned one coming out soon that sh really wants to see but has no one to go with and doesn’t want to go on her own. 

I mentioned I was planning on going on my own to see it and mentioned she could come with me if she wants and told my gf could always come aswell even if it’s not something she’s interested in, 

Her cousin agreed but my gf said she doesn’t want to see the movie. When we got home my gf mentioned I shouldn’t be going to the cinema with her cousin on my own. I pointed out she’s invited and is choosing not to go and I felt bad that her cousin has no one to go with. 

My gf mentioned that she’d be messaging her cousin to cancel but I just said she’s not really being reasonable since I was just trying to be nice and there’s nothing stopping my girlfriend coming. 

AIW for inviting the cousin to join me?

I’ve been with my girlfriend for 5 years. Her family meet up 3-4 times a year so I know them pretty well. My girlfriend is close to her cousin who turned 18 in November. 

Her cousin has joined us for days out, meals, cinema trips etc over the last 2 years. We weren’t out with her cousin for a meal least week and were talking about upcoming movies. Her cousin mentioned one coming out soon that sh really wants to see but has no one to go with and doesn’t want to go on her own. 

I mentioned I was planning on going on my own to see it and mentioned she could come with me if she wants and told my gf could always come aswell even if it’s not something she’s interested in, 

Her cousin agreed but my gf said she doesn’t want to see the movie. When we got home my gf mentioned I shouldn’t be going to the cinema with her cousin on my own. I pointed out she’s invited and is choosing not to go and I felt bad that her cousin has no one to go with. 

My gf mentioned that she’d be messaging her cousin to cancel but I just said she’s not really being reasonable since I was just trying to be nice and there’s nothing stopping my girlfriend coming. 

AIW for inviting the cousin to join me?