My husband 45, is always busy. He is in a very important position and has a top leadership role in the region. So business trips, hours long meeting with strategy, plans, budgets. He is the VP. Last year he started to delegate more and in each city in the region has a direct report (so 4 managers on the local level who are under him). But I don't feel his workload dropped. Recently through the HR process he hired his niece and younger sister and we had a brief conflict over it because I didn't think it's fair.

However it helped to become suspicious to put it like that. One day I called him and he said he is still at the office, but then his niece called me for some unrelated thing (she had to pick up our 6 years old daughter ) and told me she would have asked him about the location but he felt sick in the morning and said he is going home. Well he never did come home. Normally I would suspect an affair right away but I wanted to ask for another opinion.

His mother is an alcoholic. She still lives in their small home town. And her situation is bad. She got herself in a coma. She has been like that since forever. He had a younger brother who died as a baby because she was drinking heavily while pregnant. She cannot take care of herself or her house and the neighbours constantly call him: either that she is sick or fallen somewhere and needed to pick her up or something related. even when not drunk she is not acting normally. She once showed up at the company and started yelling and calling out for him.

My husband decided to hire help and he hired a 29 years old woman who lives around his mother's house. Which made total sense for me but they are getting too close. He is not the type of guy who has time for small talk. He has a rather military style even as a manager. not soft, no emotion focused.

the first thing I did was to ask him directly - not if he cheated, but if he was in his home town - because at home he wasn't, as his niece said. He denied being there at all. But I talked to a neighbour and that woman told me he was there, he comes often actually (Almost daily!) and most of the time he spends at the young woman's house. A small house for which he funded the renovation of. She knows that woman and told me she cooks for my husband not only for his mother. Her daughter knows her even better and said that the woman joked that her duty is to keep stomach full and bals empty and to never waste a single drop. She added that the comment wasn't made specifically about my husband but she said it a few days ago.

do i have reasons to be worried? My husband is an attractive man and has a good position. And he spends a lot of time with her it seems. we have 2 children, a 10 years old son and a 6 years old daughter and he never has time for us

oh, an edit: I searched her on social media and she has a weird post and which she makes fun of a song called Labour. her caption said: "so that he never lifts a finger - this is the point. If he has to lift a finger at home while being a perfect provider and a man to look up to you are the problem. you should have married someone who is not ambitious. The crowd is what I would have expected too lol. "

I (19F) live with my best friend/roommate (19F). We’ve been friends for around 11 years and honestly our relationship has always felt a littleeee emotionally intense? She constantly jokes that she doesn’t need a boyfriend because I’m “better than one,” makes sexual jokes toward me all the time, and we even kissed once briefly in middle school. I always brushed it off as us being really close/joking around.

The issue is that lately it feels less like joking.

We sleep in each other’s beds a lot, she gets kind of possessive sometimes, and there’s just very obvious tension. The confusing part is she has a boyfriend, although they’re constantly on/off and their relationship is messy.

At the SAME time, I also have a crush on our boss (40M). 🫠. Before anyone says it, yes I know the age gap is insane. But he’s definitely shown interest back. Within my first month working there he gave me $300 as a gift, buys me coffee, offers me free food secretly even though he could get in trouble for it, offers rides, etc. It doesn’t feel completely one-sided.

And to make it even messier: we ALL work together. I’m a host and my roommate used to be up front with me before becoming a server, and I honestly believe she suspects I like him. She acts suspicious and jealous about it frequently.

I feel insane because I’m attracted to BOTH of them in completely different ways and I feel guilty about it. I don’t know if pursuing either one is a terrible idea. One could potentially ruin my friendship/living situation, the other could ruin my job and possibly my frontal lobe development.

So I guess my questions are:

Is it a horrible idea to pursue either of these people?

How do I avoid making my life a complete trainwreck while remaining honest about my feelings?

At this point I can’t tell if I’m having a bisexual crisis or just making catastrophically bad decisions recreationally. Lmk guys! 😬

My wife (31f) and I (32m) have been great friends with another couple since college, but something happened last fall that seems to be a problem in our relationship.

The four of us went away for a long weekend and got an Airbnb. While the other wife and I ran to the liquor store, my wife fainted in the shower. The other husband (my good friend) heard the loud thump from the bathroom and went to check on her, and got no response. He went in to the bathroom and found her collapsed in the shower. He picked my wife up and carried her to our bedroom and called 911 and called me.

Thankfully she was fine (she had fainting spells due to a change in medications). I’m very grateful to my friend for being there and stepping in.

His wife, however, isn’t so grateful. She doesn’t love that he physically carried her while she was naked, even though it was an emergency. She’s made comments to him that he could have placed her on the bathroom floor, and even asked me if it’s weird now that he’s seen her naked, and she has been cold lately. (It didn’t help that one point he honestly answered her that yes, he saw her naked, of course.)

My wife and I both think she is being ridiculous but don’t know how to patch over this situation, if we can do anything at all. She’s clearly more jealous than we ever realized.

So basically; I’m a 15yo girl, and working FOH at my CFA. I’ve been getting hit on nonstop since my second week of work (i started at the end of January). The worst I’ve gotten was 2 guys, both mid to late 20’s. They were messing around with me, having me guess their names, and they ordered a sundae as well as other food. I made the sundae, and walked to their table to give it to them when one of them says: “hey, can you tie a cherry stem with your tongue?” So i play dumb and I’m like: “um no.” And they say: “well have you tried?” I said no again. Then he proceeds to say: “well why don’t you try with this one right here?” I was APPALLED. So i walked away after awkwardly laughing and giving them their stuff. Then, the same guy comes up to the counter saying shit like: “yo my friend thinks you’re super hot and is gonna give you his number.” Luckily, i was clocking out and LEFT.

And other incidents have happened, like one old guy telling me my hair was pretty, and then reaching out to touch it, college guys asking for my number and trying to touch me in anyway possible, etc. but today, after i almost passed out after taking orders in drive thru, i came in and was refilling this old guy’s drink (he was like 60ish) and he says “you’re a beautiful and striking woman.” With a really creepy expression.

I mean, i get that i don’t “look my age” but god, how hard is it not to sexually harass teenagers at their job? Like dear GOD it’s not that difficult 😭😭

Hi I'm a 23M and recently, my girlfriend 25F unexpectedly passed away three weeks ago heartbroken ans devasted i loved her so much she was an amazing person. We have a daughter who is just over one year old. I remember when my girlfriend told me she was pregnant; she was so happy, and we both started crying out of happiness it was a lovely moment. It's heartbreaking that our little girl won't have her amazing mother in her life.

I'm now raising her on my own, and it's been tough. The last few weeks, I've had extra support, but now that I'm home, I'm struggling. I don't know if it's grief or the unknown of being a single dad. I promise to my girlfriend that I would make sure our daughter remembers how much she loved her and how much of an amazing person you are.

Any advice for being a good single parent? What should I do?

Both my roommate and I want the same room in a 2B/1B. While she initially asked for the enclosed room (the other is a flex-room) for $2500/$2500, I asked for a $100 discount to account for the flex room only having partial walls and being almost directly in the kitchen. She stated that she'll be having friends over for the summer, so she'd prefer the actual room, but that $2600 is out of her budget. I responded that I will also have friends over for the summer but am totally okay with paying $2600. Then, she responded that she might not have friends over, so to account for me having friends over, she should still have the enclosed room for noise purposes. I am appalled by the two-faced reasoning; it seems she just wants the main room and will use whatever reasoning to keep that. However, she's not willing to discount the flex-room even though she has admitted that the enclosed room is more desirable. My latest response is that I'm okay with both rooms, so long as it's $2600/$2400. I feel like, in this situation, the most normal response is to let the highest bidder take the room. However, my roommate seems to want the benefits of the enclosed room without splitting the rent to reflect that. I do not want to back down because I feel like this will set the tone for the rest of our summer as roommates. What should I do

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months and our relationship is honestly really good except for one issue: my past.

I’ve never done anything physical with anyone before him, and before we dated I only had talking stages/online exes. I’ve always been honest with him about everything, but the problem is that old talking stages or random guys or my exes (all online, never even been on a date with anyone except for my bf) still sometimes reach out to me saying they miss me or that they still “love” me.

I never entertain it and I’m completely loyal to my boyfriend, but whenever it happens he goes distant and quiet even after I reassure him. It feels unfair because I can’t control who messages me, only how I respond, and I’ve never disrespected our relationship.

I really love him, but it’s exhausting constantly feeling like I have to prove my loyalty over things I didn’t even do. Is this normal insecurity or is there something I’m not understanding?

my main concern is him losing feelings for me over this stuff ( he says that he hates even when a guy knows me or has even talked to me).

I am 18 and my girlfriend is 16. We were so happy and we both loved each other. She is my first girlfriend.

Three days ago, a fake account followed me and texted me. I said I was not interested and blocked her.

The next day, my girlfriend sent me screenshots of a fake chat with that fake account and told me I was a cheater and that she shouldn’t trust me.

I sent her my Instagram account password and screenshots of my chat with that girl. After a long conversation, she trusted me and said that after thinking about it, she realized it was fake and that she loved me.

The next day, we had an argument because she started texting less, her responses became dry, and sometimes she left me on seen.

Before we became boyfriend and girlfriend, she told me that her friend had made a fake account before, and her ex-boyfriend cheated with that fake account.

When I asked her why her responses became dry and why she stopped doing a lot of things, like calling me cute names, she said that this is how she talks when she knows a person better. But that doesn’t feel right to me because this is not the way the girl I loved used to text.

Yesterday, we fixed things and we both said sorry.

This morning, she said ‘good morning’ and asked how I was. I replied after 6 hours, and she saw my message but didn’t reply.

Now I don’t know what to do. My girlfriend, who I have been with for 2 months, is acting different and weird after the fake account situation happened.

I think after the fake account was made, she started acting weird

Hi guys! Sorry this is my first time using reddit and im not good at spelling so please ignore my typos if my phone doesn’t correct them.

Me (18 F) and my boyfriend Adam(19 M) have been going out for nearly 5 years on the 22nd of May. We’ve been going out since we were in our first year of secondary school. Our relationship has always been good, we rarely fight and if I’m angry with him or vice versa we take a break from eachother for a few hours and talk it out.

I’m aware that we were young when we started going out and nobody had money when they’re 14, but in a huge flower lover. Everyone who knows me knows I absolutely love and adore getting flowers as a gift. And I’m not talking big huge bouquets or anything literally get me 5 euro ones from the shop and I’m the happiest girl in the world. And I’ve told Adam that I do like flowers as sort of a wink wink, but the only thing he had to reply with was that oh they’re a waste of money because they just die. And then for my 17th birthday he bought me flowers for the first time, but he was begged by my friends and even told by his to go and get me some but also he asked me to go with him to pick out the flowers. And this really hurt my feelings, I wanted him to want to get me the flowers and wanted him to be able to pick the ones he thought I’d like.

But something else is that he has to be told to do anything, such as get me flowers, hold my hand and all stuff that I’ve seen with couple around us do naturally. I know he can’t read my mind and I don’t expect him too but I’d like to be surprised for once.

Almost every single time I’m upset he goes to my friends first before coming to me and asking me what’s wrong with me. And okay don’t poke the angry bear but I’m not sure, like it’s not like I’m going to bite his head off or anything.

Before this next part there is two important things to know about me number one, I’m allergic to coconuts and number two, I hate floral scented perfumes. I do love flowers but cannot stand the smell of floral perfumes as they give me a headache and they just smell like pee to me. But for Christmas this year I got him Lego, a gift card for his PlayStation, a jumper and some stuff from his favourite football club. He got me two face masks and a floral scented perfume. And I know I’m going to sound so ungrateful here but the perfume was a Marc Jacob’s one, I’ve never talked about liking floral scented as I prefer a vanilla or caramel scent. And one of the face masks was coconut. And I’m a very open person so he knows I like vanilla and caramel scents because I’ve sent him pictures of things I liked before and he knows that I’m allergic to coconut.

But I’d say one of the biggest things is that since our last anniversary we haven’t hung out one on one, we’ve gone out in group settings or hung out at parties but not one on one for nearly a year now.

I do theatre and as anyone who does theatre knows the shows are never under and hour if it’s a full showcase and he knows this too as he has been coming for years to see me preform now. But I had a big solo for the first time with the company I’m with right now and Adam came to see it, but during the interval/half time I got a text from him saying he had to leave early because he hadn’t told his dad he’d be more than and hour. That yes he did manage to see my solo but it still really upset me because he can go out late and go drinking with his friends but can’t spend more than an hour at my show??

We have nothing planned for our anniversary so I’ll guess i just have to wait and see how it plays out. I’m not sure if anyone will ever even see or read this but I appreciate all feedback!! Thank you!!

yesterday I deleted this post because I was on our shared laptop and for some reason I got a bit worried he will see it somehow. And now I cannot access my account so I put it here again and hope it's ok.

My fiance 44M is the man in charge and oversees 7 departments at the company he works at, so he is a high level manager. Last year one of the departments (sales) was moved to Europe (we are in canada). He was very upset and nothing those people ever did was ever good enough.

On Friday he received an email that an order has not been delivered and that they cancelled it and wanted a refund (the total amount was of a cheap lunch at a cheap restaurant). My fiance was very upset and promised that customer right then and there he will send them a refund (and he did it using his own personal money, although no one asked him to).

he then raised a complaint to this department that is no longer under him and wrote in bold (or caps, not sure about this one) what happened and complained he had to solve it himself. This complaint has been taken over by a young woman (saw her pic) who immediately offered to call him.

I overheard him because as an exception he was working from home.

in less than 2 minutes he started raising his voice at this woman and complaining to her, although she is just an employee happy that she has a job... that everything worked fine before they took over the sales and turned the work into a joke. She tried to defend herself, I would have to, he was kind of rude... and said it isn't her teams fault. and he said you don't understand me, do you!? I don't care. Before it was good. I don't care who is to blame, it can be soviets. She tried to explain to him what happened and he shouted : I am not stupd!

She admitted she cannot really help him. He accused her of not reading what he wrote in that complaint. It is true that she did ask about something that was already there but it might be she couldn't focus. He asked: do you read what I wrote there at least? she said she did and he was like: then can you do something simple, let's do something simple together and check the file with the order.

at some point she snapped a bit too and told him to not talk to her this way because she treats him with respect and he denied he is not polite and when she said: you are really raising your voice at me... he replied: because look what is happening, this is why I am raising my voice.

she admitted she cannot help. he asked with disgust: you cannot help me??? who can help me?? so she replied she can talk to her boss and maybe the boss will be able. he intrerrupted: not that you can, you must talk to your boss.

at the end he apologised for his tone but was like... we cannot go one like this. She reported him to his own boss later and his own boss contacted him to tell him to not do that again.

I want to know... how bad was this? was it just that he is stressed or it was bulling?

I am 17M and I do not get along well with my father. He had a tough childhood, was poor and really made it in life. He is currently the director (not owner) of a company with hundreds employees. He is very good at his job and respected but can be very controlling and micromanages people and keeps saying he will not waste company's money for w0ke non sense. So no mental health events, no compassion workshops and no empathy as a MANDATORY trait for being a leader. Also all except one of his direct reports are men. The company is doing great, he made some of the best financial deals in its history and this man can negotiate

He criticise me for being this and that, for not hitting the gym (he doesn't either but he keeps in perfect shape by walking to his job everyday and swimming regularly). I don't want to be like him but I won't lie it is surprising for me from time to time how much women seems to look up to him and fancy him with his type of personality.

and he got the janitor (who works at the company he leads) pregnant, a woman who is like 29, 30 (he is 45). He didn't tell anything to my mother, it was this woman who is from eastern europe (russian or Ukrainan) that sent my mother a text randomly: nothing better than offering under the desk support for the one who signs my paycheck and some other things. she did it anonymously and denied for weeks it was her but ultimately Dad made her admit it was her. she hoped it will look like some bitter employee did it. but her English is sooo soo bad that it was obvious it was her. She can barely speak English. Anyway, she just... resigned

I thought my mother will divorce him but she doesn't want to let that woman win and humiliate her. I am so upset and I just need someone to talk to about this and some advice how to live through this

I’m really lost.
My husband doesn’t love me. i dont think he even likes me. in the slightest.

long story short my husband doesnt love me lol. ( not funny at all, just let me cope 🥲 ) we got pregnant WAY too soon. somehow i let him get me pregnant and now im stuck with a 2 y/o and 6 week old.
i want to leave. i wanted to leave before i even got pregnant. but where am i supposed to go ?

we were supposed to leave at 6 am to go see my in laws but im no longer invited on that trip and my husband says i have to have my stuff out of our apt before they’re back.

pls feel free to ask questions or whatever. i’ve been through SO MUCH BS its not even worth typing. i know i need to leave i just dk where to go 😞

i hope everyone is having a really good night/morning 😞🫶🏻

Due to water damage all of the drywall is being replaced in 2 walls of my kids’ room. I realized I could tag the inner drywall (back of the drywall on the opposing wall) and then considered leaving a letter or whatever other treasure.

Should I leave something?

If so, what?

For context, me and my boyfriend have been dating for 6 months. Not long ago, I got on his phone and found his Reddit searches and they were porn searches. I also found pictures of myself on his phone that I told him I wouldn’t be comfortable of him saving, and he had them hidden without me knowing. We have had issues about him looking at girls on TikTok and instagram before, but he had told me he wasn’t doing that anymore. I asked him about what I had found on his Reddit and he said he only did it once, when we were fighting pretty often after I found him looking at girls asses on TikTok and I told him I didn’t want to have sex for a while because I was insecure. So he decided to jerk off to porn and didn’t tell me or anything. Also to add, we get intimate almost every day, sometimes multiple times a day. I don’t know what to do. I told him I’m completely devastated by this and he got mad at me for saying I didn’t deserve this and everything. What do I do? He told me he hasn’t done it since then, but what do I believe?

I’m just a teenager, I’m looking for real advice. I’m not looking for rude and unnecessary comments.

A couple years ago while cleaning out the basement, my (39m) wife (38f) discovered an old box of college stuff. Notebooks, pictures, that kind of thing. There was one thing in there that was eye opening - a list that she and her college boyfriend had made for each other of the “top 100 things I love about you.” (I read it after she said she didn’t care - she had totally forgotten about it.)

It was mostly the kind of stuff you’d expect to see from 21 year olds - cute and sweet things. But there was also sexy stuff on the list, and dirty stuff. And some filthy stuff! It was interesting to see that side of her as a very young woman. I’m not the jealous type.

However, we are going to see this ex at a wedding this summer, and as the date gets closer these lists are in my head. Knowing that this guy experienced the same things I did and put them on a list. I have no concerns about infidelity or my wife still thinking about him - it’s all in my head, I know. And I know it’s dumb and makes no sense to think about.

It’s got to the point where I’m considering not attending the wedding because I don’t want to be up in my head and drag down my wife’s good time. Advice is welcome.