Should I break up with my boyfriend?
Hi guys! Sorry this is my first time using reddit and im not good at spelling so please ignore my typos if my phone doesn’t correct them.
Me (18 F) and my boyfriend Adam(19 M) have been going out for nearly 5 years on the 22nd of May. We’ve been going out since we were in our first year of secondary school. Our relationship has always been good, we rarely fight and if I’m angry with him or vice versa we take a break from eachother for a few hours and talk it out.
I’m aware that we were young when we started going out and nobody had money when they’re 14, but in a huge flower lover. Everyone who knows me knows I absolutely love and adore getting flowers as a gift. And I’m not talking big huge bouquets or anything literally get me 5 euro ones from the shop and I’m the happiest girl in the world. And I’ve told Adam that I do like flowers as sort of a wink wink, but the only thing he had to reply with was that oh they’re a waste of money because they just die. And then for my 17th birthday he bought me flowers for the first time, but he was begged by my friends and even told by his to go and get me some but also he asked me to go with him to pick out the flowers. And this really hurt my feelings, I wanted him to want to get me the flowers and wanted him to be able to pick the ones he thought I’d like.
But something else is that he has to be told to do anything, such as get me flowers, hold my hand and all stuff that I’ve seen with couple around us do naturally. I know he can’t read my mind and I don’t expect him too but I’d like to be surprised for once.
Almost every single time I’m upset he goes to my friends first before coming to me and asking me what’s wrong with me. And okay don’t poke the angry bear but I’m not sure, like it’s not like I’m going to bite his head off or anything.
Before this next part there is two important things to know about me number one, I’m allergic to coconuts and number two, I hate floral scented perfumes. I do love flowers but cannot stand the smell of floral perfumes as they give me a headache and they just smell like pee to me. But for Christmas this year I got him Lego, a gift card for his PlayStation, a jumper and some stuff from his favourite football club. He got me two face masks and a floral scented perfume. And I know I’m going to sound so ungrateful here but the perfume was a Marc Jacob’s one, I’ve never talked about liking floral scented as I prefer a vanilla or caramel scent. And one of the face masks was coconut. And I’m a very open person so he knows I like vanilla and caramel scents because I’ve sent him pictures of things I liked before and he knows that I’m allergic to coconut.
But I’d say one of the biggest things is that since our last anniversary we haven’t hung out one on one, we’ve gone out in group settings or hung out at parties but not one on one for nearly a year now.
I do theatre and as anyone who does theatre knows the shows are never under and hour if it’s a full showcase and he knows this too as he has been coming for years to see me preform now. But I had a big solo for the first time with the company I’m with right now and Adam came to see it, but during the interval/half time I got a text from him saying he had to leave early because he hadn’t told his dad he’d be more than and hour. That yes he did manage to see my solo but it still really upset me because he can go out late and go drinking with his friends but can’t spend more than an hour at my show??
We have nothing planned for our anniversary so I’ll guess i just have to wait and see how it plays out. I’m not sure if anyone will ever even see or read this but I appreciate all feedback!! Thank you!!