u/Plastic-Musician6764

My (39m) wife (38f) regularly poses as a live model for a local university (her good friend is an instructor there). I’ve never attended one of her classes, so I joined as an anonymous guy in the back of the room for her final class of the semester last week.

It was an experience! Very cool to see her in her element, confident and poised in front of the group. I can’t lie, it was an adjustment to see her nude in front of a group but it was just something to get used to.

I overheard two guys in the restroom at the break discussing her, and it made me uneasy. One of them said “I hope we get to sketch her posterior today” and the other guy said in a low voice “I’m good with the front.” They laughed, and the first guy said he agreed.

I mentioned it to my wife afterward and she laughed it off. She said that the first time she posed, her friend said it’s art but there’s a golden rule of human nature that’s part of all nude art forms: BLP. (“Boys love p*ssy.”)

This kind of bugged me! And makes me wish I had said something to the guys who were objectifying her.

Am I being overprotective and weird? Should I stay away in the future?

A couple years ago while cleaning out the basement, my (39m) wife (38f) discovered an old box of college stuff. Notebooks, pictures, that kind of thing. There was one thing in there that was eye opening - a list that she and her college boyfriend had made for each other of the “top 100 things I love about you.” (I read it after she said she didn’t care - she had totally forgotten about it.)

It was mostly the kind of stuff you’d expect to see from 21 year olds - cute and sweet things. But there was also sexy stuff on the list, and dirty stuff. And some filthy stuff! It was interesting to see that side of her as a very young woman. I’m not the jealous type.

However, we are going to see this ex at a wedding this summer, and as the date gets closer these lists are in my head. Knowing that this guy experienced the same things I did and put them on a list. I have no concerns about infidelity or my wife still thinking about him - it’s all in my head, I know. And I know it’s dumb and makes no sense to think about.

It’s got to the point where I’m considering not attending the wedding because I don’t want to be up in my head and drag down my wife’s good time. Advice is welcome.

A couple years ago while cleaning out the basement, my (39m) wife (38f) discovered an old box of college stuff. Notebooks, pictures, that kind of thing. There was one thing in there that was eye opening - a list that she and her college boyfriend had made for each other of the “top 100 things I love about you.” (I read it after she said she didn’t care - she had totally forgotten about it.)

It was mostly the kind of stuff you’d expect to see from 21 year olds - cute and sweet things. But there was also sexy stuff on the list, and dirty stuff. And some filthy stuff! It was interesting to see that side of her as a very young woman. I’m not the jealous type.

However, we are going to see this ex at a wedding this summer, and as the date gets closer these lists are in my head. Knowing that this guy experienced the same things I did and put them on a list. I have no concerns about infidelity or my wife still thinking about him - it’s all in my head, I know. And I know it’s dumb and makes no sense to think about.

It’s got to the point where I’m considering not attending the wedding because I don’t want to be up in my head and drag down my wife’s good time. Advice is welcome.