Coworker asked me out and I’m terrified of him
Apologies for the long post and potential grammar errors, I’m really scared and confused right now.
I work as a server and a few days ago one of the cooks got really drunk and walked me to my house. He confessed to me and asked for my number, which I hesitantly gave.
We’ve been working together for 3 years and I’ve never showed him signs of me being interested, and he’s seen the people I’ve dated. Throughout the course of me working there I’ve made it clear that we do not have the same outlook on life, starting from politics ending with the smallest things.
He’s a really big guy, and I’ve seen him joke about beating women, scream and crash out at the smallest things like someone not responding to him, and just general drug abuse and anger issues. This is why, when he confessed to me, I told him I don’t think it’s a good idea since I’m leaving the country soon and I just got out of a long term relationship, but he still insisted on me giving my number to him, and I did.
Now hes texting me about going out ASAP (even tho he said he’ll wait till I come back from a small trip in a few days) and I’m so scared to say no. I don’t want to go out with him, but I feel like if I tell him I’m not interested, he might hurt me at work, or at the very least make my last 2 months at work miserable and awkward. What should I do?
***While writing this post he called me and kept insisting on grabbing food with me but I said we can move it to next Tuesday. I’m really scared since I can’t just ghost him. I need this job and he works there everyday so I can’t avoid him.