r/AmItheAsshole

I like to have snacks in my office, and I enjoy having something for people to take when they come in for a visit. I have a container of chocolate caramel thins open for anyone to take. The problem is that when many of the other women in my office take one they do this whole song and dance “Ohhhh I shouldn’t ohhh it’s so bad ohhh but i just love chocolate ohhh it’s so naughty”

Stuff like this just annoys the crap out of me. Take a candy or don’t. But don’t force me to participate in whatever weird self deprecating thing you’re doing. Especially calling it “naughty” like you’re scolding a child. I always just smile blankly and they will look at me like I’m supposed to give them permission.

I finally had it yesterday when one of the women stood in my doorway and pointed and was like “Ohhhh I looooove those caramels, they’re so good. But ugh I shouldn’t. You’re so bad for having these.”

I said “Can you stop doing that? It’s making me uncomfortable.”

She pretended to not know what I was talking about. 

I said “Are you okay? You come in here and you act like you need my permission to eat a piece of candy. You keep calling it “naughty” like you’re a little kid. It’s super weird behavior and makes me feel uncomfortable, so please stop.”

She gave me a weird look and said she was just being silly, and nevermind. She left. I found out later on that she said I ripped her head off and warned one of the other women who’s always doing all that “ohhh I’m soooo bad” crap to avoid getting candy from me unless she wants to be scolded.

I’m not going to stop having candy out, because there are SOME people who can do it without the whole song and dance. But am I really the asshole for just asking her to stop doing that “oooh I’m so bad oooo” crap?

I20F have been in childcare since my early teens. I have been a live in nanny for over a year with this family (4kids.) It’s a lot and my bosses were always a little odd but I made 2k weekly and enjoyed it.

I had got a week off and went to my hometown. I slept with an old fling and was irresponsible. I got pregnant and chose to not continue it. I had asked my boss (the wife) if I could have two days off for medical reasons. She pushed the matter and wanted to know what was going on and I trusted her so I explained the situation. She immediately began questioning me about how if it was her husbands and that’s why I chose too and then gave me way to much info on their marriage problems and his past infidelity.

I told her it wasn’t his and she didn’t seem to believe me but agreed for me to have these days off. Afterwards I noticed tensions were extremely high, she set up cameras in the home and it was just an extremely uncomfortable environment. Everyone was being very odd to me except for the children. I decided to put in my two weeks and told them they could pay me the way they alway do.

Well it had been a few weeks and they still had not paid me. After reaching out tons of times they sent me $600 then blocked me. I was upset by this, my friend suggested I make a Facebook post warning other people. I didn’t want to put all my info out like I’m doing here so she advised me to say uncomfortable work environment and refusal to pay me so I did. A few hours later I got spam calls and messages how it was never uncomfortable til the end and I said well yea you made it then refused to pay. They are still trying to get me to take the post down. AITA

My manager is getting married to her sweetheart in about a month and a half. We have a small company with only a few employees and I just got an email requesting we close ours doors completely on a Saturday (usually our highest sales day) so that she can invite her other coworkers. Everyone… but me. She’s been my manager for years, we talk several times a week, text, etc. We’ve been through some tough situations, I’ve mentored her, helped her out when she needed it, written letters of recommendation for her place to rent and basically been pretty close with her. I didn’t expect to be invited to her wedding but thought maybe I would be since we are so close. I certainly didn’t expect everyone to be invited but me, that threw me. Getting that email really brought up some feelings for me. It felt really insensitive to invite everyone but me, including past employees of mine. It also feels really selfish for her to think that we could close our doors completely on a busy day that literally pays their paychecks. We have been struggling so so hard as a small business to make it for the last year. So much so that I can’t even take a paycheck and have been working 40 hours a week without pay. I don’t know what to do or say and I could really use some advice. I haven’t said anything yet but I feel like I should explain how tone deaf her request is. Am I wrong if I do?

I, 23 F, had moved back in with my family after graduating university last summer. During school, my parents would help me out with rent and groceries if I really needed it, but for the most part, I would work and save money during summer break, reading week, and holidays. As for tuition, I was grateful to be offered a loan that covers most of it, but I had made a deal with my parents to have them cover the rest.

I started working my first job as soon as I turned 15, and the deal was that I would give my parents 80% of the money I earned from each of my pay-checks in exchange for them promising to help me out with tuition when I get to university. They held onto their promise and I am extremely grateful for that.

Recently, however, my parents are claiming that my brother and I need to start contributing financially if we are going to continue living in their house. My brother is older than me, 26 years old, and is absolutely terrible with money. He owes me a total of $4000 and owes my dad a few thousand as well. I believe my parents are just upset at my brother and I am collateral damage.

I made it very clear to my parents that if they truly want me to start paying them rent, that I am willing to do so only after I turned 26 (if I am still even living with them at that point), and only AFTER they charge my brother rent up until the point where I turn his age. Since my brother is 3 years older than me, I told my parents that he basically got to live at home, rent free, for three extra years which is unfair to me.

My parents responded saying that if they are going to start charging rent, it is only fair that this new rule applies to everyone. AITA?

So this whole situation started when I couldn’t find my car keys one morning. I was sure I had hung them up next to my jacket the night before, but they were gone. I asked my housemate if he’d seen them - he said no. I figured I must’ve misplaced them bringing in groceries, grabbed my spare, and went to work.

When I got home, I tore the entire apartment apart. Checked everywhere, even outside and in the dumpster. Nothing.

At that point, I started worrying someone had somehow gotten into the house and taken them. But I’m honestly pretty OCD about locking doors and windows, so it didn’t make sense. I asked my housemate again if he’d had any visitors, he said no.

That night I debated getting a steering wheel lock or parking somewhere else, but I convinced myself I was just being paranoid.

Next morning… my car is gone.

So yes, someone did have my keys. (And a scary thought is that if I had I fact moved the car, they probably would have gone inside the house since they had keys).

I took the day off, filed a police report, contacted a locksmith, and started an insurance claim. I asked my housemate again about visitors, and this time he says:

“Yeah, but ”Nate”(using different name) wouldn’t steal a car, I’ve met him a bunch of times.”

I was immediately upset. Why didn’t he tell me that before? I asked him to contact Nate ASAP.

I spent the day asking neighbors for camera footage. One neighbor had video of my car being driven away around 5am.

My housemate couldn’t reach Nate, so we agreed if he didn’t respond by the next day, we’d report him.

The next day, my housemate tells me he did reach Nate, and Nate didn’t do it. But he figured out who did.

TURNS OUT, after going through his messages on Sniffies (a hookup app), he realized he had invited a completely unknown guy over after Nate left. He has no name or number for this person, just a selfie.

He claims he barely remembers this and thinks he might’ve been drugged. (Important context: he has a bit of a drinking problem and is no stranger to recreational drugs.)

I had no idea he was regularly inviting strangers into our shared home. If I had known, I would have shut that down immediately. I’m not comfortable with that at all.

I gave all this info to the police… and nothing came of it.

Insurance eventually declared the car a total loss. Between depreciation, my $2K deductible, and the extra money I had already put into the car (I’d only had it 4 months but had paid an extra ~$5K toward it), car rental and a few items that were in the car that I had to replace - I ended up taking about a $9K financial hit.

My housemate initially offered to cover half and pay me $200–300/month, starting with $400 cash. After we talked it through, I said I’d be grateful if he covered $4K. He pushed back, and we settled on $3,500.

So now I’m wondering…

Am I being unreasonable for expecting him to pay part of this? And does $3,500 seem fair given the situation? I feel like I was very nice about this.

My husband’s friend stored a whole deer in our deep freezer. By this I mean, he has different cuts of meat, adding up to a whole deer. He has ribs, chops, steak, ground meat, and the like. He didn’t have room is his house, so he’s using our deep freezer. All the meat is nicely vacuum sealed and labeled.

Every time he comes to our house, which is once a month or so, I ask him if he wants to take some meat home with him, and he says no, “maybe next time.” He’s been saying this for two years. So we’ve had the meat in our freezer for 2, going on 3 years.

A few times I’ve taken out some of the meat and made myself a meal out of it. My husband says I shouldn’t do that, but I argue, it’s basically our meat now. I’d rather eat it now, than let it go bad. I’m not going to remind our friend that he has meat in our freezer anymore, because that meat is now mine.

AITA for eating the meat in our freezer that my husband’s friend stored in there?

I’m a 19M working retail at a small clothing store where most of my coworkers are women. Because the space is tight, we’re constantly squeezing past each other behind the counter or on the floor during busy times.

At some point, I picked up a habit. Whenever I have to pass closely by someone, I bring my hands up near my chest, not crossed, just held there, so it’s clear I’m not touching anyone. I started doing it because I didn’t want to accidentally make anyone uncomfortable. It just felt like a safe and respectful default.

No one at work has ever commented on it, so I didn’t think much of it. But now it’s become automatic, and I catch myself doing it everywhere.

A few nights ago, I was at a friend’s house with a group of about six people. We were all in a crowded kitchen, and when I moved past one of my friends, I did the same thing with my hands.

She immediately noticed and asked why I do that. I explained it’s just something I got used to at work so I don’t accidentally make anyone uncomfortable.

She said it didn’t come across as respectful and that it felt strange, like I was assuming people would misinterpret my intentions. Another friend agreed and said it actually made things feel more awkward.

That frustrated me. I said I’m not trying to draw attention to it, just trying to be mindful and not come off the wrong way. I would rather be cautious than risk making someone uncomfortable, especially since no one at work has ever had an issue with it.

She replied that no one asked me to do that and that I was the one making things awkward. I pushed back and said it seemed unfair to criticize me for trying to be considerate.

It turned into a bit of an argument, and the mood felt off afterward.

Now I’m second guessing myself. I thought I was being respectful, but they made it sound like it comes across as odd or even a little off putting.

My grandmother's (74) 13 year old cat (Sweetie) that was diagnosed with Squamous Cell Carcinoma that started on her nose about a year or so ago. The cancer has completely ate her nose, leaving raw exposed flesh that bleeds occasionally and is now spreading to her eye. My mother (51) and I (25) have talked to my grandma about euthanizing Sweetie, but my grandma refuses as she believes God should have the final say in her passing. It has become noticeably harder for Sweetie to walk and act as if she is in pain every time she is touched, even if it's light pets. I decided today that despite my grandma's lack of consent, I am going to take Sweetie to the vet and have her put down because I can no longer bear to see my childhood cat suffer the way she is.

My (35/M) partner (35/F) and our child (3/M) were invited to wedding that takes place on Halloween.

The wedding is fancy dress (no costumes) and I asked if there would be candy for the little ones (no), which I entirely understand -- their wedding, their choice.

My son is finally at an age where he sort of gets Halloween, and I was excited to take him trick-or-treating because I look forward to making memories with him, and I don't want to lose out on them. I don't think bringing him to a fancy wedding on Halloween would be fun or fair to any of us. He's not going to want to sit through the ceremony, and we're going to have to leave the reception early so that he can sleep.

I explained to my friends that I wasn't sure if we could make it and their response was to tell me that it's their wedding, a once-in-a-lifetime event, and that he could 'miss one Halloween' because he 'wouldn't remember it.' Again, I get that he might not remember it, but I would.

I'm conflicted. On the one hand yes I want to support my friends. On the other hand I feel like I'd be doing wrong by my son if we go. WIBTA if we didn't attend?

tl;dr: Friends decided their wedding is going to be held on Halloween. I'm not sure if I want to go because I have a child that I want to take trick-or-treating and would likely not enjoy the wedding.

I (33F) work for a family farm with a flexible schedule (mix of office/WFH). My bosses (both 40M) are cousins, and their boss (65M) is the president and FIL of my main boss. I’m not related to anyone.

We have 3 office spaces: two private offices and a shared area with 4 desks (mine, one boss, a remote coworker, and a “community desk” with a dead computer). The president’s wife, “Lyn” (65F) runs an unrelated business but uses our office/software for her business. The community computer died 3 years ago and the new one hasn’t been set up, and I have the most flexible schedule, so she uses my desk when I’m not there.

I don’t mind sharing, but Lyn is consistently disrespectful of my space. Every time she uses my desk, she leaves trash/dirty dishes, takes my supplies, and once broke a sentimental item and threw it away without telling me, which I found and fixed later. My boss knows this has been ongoing but hasn’t done much to fix it. Lyn is also generally rude and doesn’t take feedback well, so I’ve avoided confronting her directly.

On Wednesday, I was WFH when she used my desk. She logged into my computer and closed everything, including an accounting entry I’d spent over an hour on that couldn’t be recovered. She didn’t tell me when she left like I asked her to, so I had to redo it late that night after my kids went to bed.

Thursday, I stopped in and found my desk a mess again, including a used tissue next to my keyboard. I took a photo and sent it to my boss with “Lyn was here.” No response. I know both he and Lyn used my desk again later that day.

Now it’s Friday, I’m back in the office, and the used tissue is still sitting on my desk. I need to be here today, but I’m honestly grossed out and frustrated. After 3 years of this, I feel like I need to set a boundary.

WIBTA if I tell my boss I’ll be working from home until Lyn comes in to clean/sanitize my desk, and that any in-office tasks are his responsibility until then?

Since school I’ve had a good friend. We’re both 30 now and we’ve been close since we were 10. For the last few years he’s been sporadic with his messages. He’s stopped messaging for various reasons a few months at time for the last 3 years. 

Last year was been particularly hard for me since my dad passed away. My friend knew this and was there for me when he found out what happened. Shortly after that he stopped replying to messages. 

He left my message on read when I messaged at Christmas and didn’t bother asking how my first Christmas without my dad was. There’s photos of him out drinking with other friends etc so it’s not like he’s not talking to anyone. I’d checked in to see if anything was wrong but he continued to ignore me.

Last weekend my girlfriend and I were out for drinks. He was on a date at the same bar and came over to me. He introduced me to his date and said I was a good friend. I mentioned that I was busy and would appreciate being left alone as we were on a date.

He didn’t listen a kept talking and telling his date how well we knew each other and how long we’d been friends for etc.

His date asked what he was like and I just said he disappears for months at a time and repeatedly ignores people and mentioned he hadn’t bother checking in on me on my first Christmas after my dad’s death and just ignored every message I’ve be sent him for the last 10 months.

His date left and he got annoyed and accused me of ruining his date but I just pointed out I hadn’t said anything about untrue and I did ask to be left alone and he didn’t listen to me.

AITAH for “ruining my friends date”?

I (F39) have been with my partner (M41) for almost 9 years. We have a young child together and also run businesses together.

Before having our child, I worked long hours and was very involved in the business. Since becoming a mother, my priorities and capacity have changed.

Right now, I'm handling most of the childcare and a large part of the household responsibilities. Despite that, my partner expects me to go back to working the same way I did before - long hours, high involvement, no real limits

We tried a setup where he would take care of our child while I worked, but in practice I still ended up managing most of our child's routine (meals, naps, sleep), while also working and taking care of other responsibilities.

One of the biggest issues is that he doesn't want to take on a full transition into being a primary caregiver, but at the same time expects me to step back into my previous workload.

He has even told me that because of my decision not to return to work at that level, he feels like he "can't fully be a father" or that I'm limiting him - which is confusing to me, because I feel like I'm already carrying most of the parenting responsibilities

I've tried to explain that I need a more balanced and realistic arrangement, but these conversations usually turn into blame or get dismissed.

At this point, I feel emotionally and physically drained, and I don't want to continue like this - either in the business or in this dynamic.

He believes I've changed too much and that I should be able to handle everything like before.

I feel like I'm being pushed beyond my limits

So AlTAH for refusing to go back to my previous workload and questioning whether I can continue like this?

I’m 30M. I’ve never made a ton of money, but I’ve always been careful with my credit. I use my credit card, don’t overspend, and only finance stuff I know I can pay off.

My mom has kind of the opposite history. She’s filed for bankruptcy multiple times. The thing is though, it’s not because she doesn’t make money. She’s usually had jobs paying like 80k+ a year. It’s more just bad financial decisions over time.

A while back, before I really understood how big of a deal it was, I co-signed a car for her. She stopped making payments, and now it’s about to get repossessed. She’s like $5k behind and still owes around $18k total. So yeah… that’s now my problem too.

About 3 years ago I finally got my first IT job. Not crazy money, but I’m stable. When I needed a car, my Nana co-signed for me. I never missed a payment and paid it off completely. I have a different car now (divorce stuff), still owe about $10k, and haven’t missed a payment on that either.

My Nana’s retired now so she can’t help like that anymore.

Recently my sister needed a car, and I wanted to give her the same shot I got. So I financed a car in my name only for her. No co-signer, it’s all on me. I told her straight up if she misses payments or trashes it, I’m taking it back. She agreed.

She lives with my mom, and now they’re sharing that car since my mom’s is about to be repo’d.

Now my mom expects me to help her get another car.

I told her if I did help at all, it would ONLY be for something cheap, like $5k or less. Nothing newer. But honestly I don’t even feel good about that after what happened last time.

Here’s the part that’s messing with me though:

My mom has done a lot for me. When I moved from WI to AZ, I was already clean, but she gave me a place to live and didn’t pressure me or try to control me. She kind of just supported me and nudged me in the right direction, like going back to school. A lot of where I’m at now is because of her and my Nana.

So I feel like I owe her.

But at the same time… she already screwed me once, and I’m still dealing with it. And since her issues aren’t from lack of money, I’m worried it’ll just happen again.

She’s upset with me and thinks I should help more.

I feel guilty, but I also don’t want to wreck my finances over this.

AITA if I just refuse to help her get another car (or only help under strict limits)?

For some context, my bf(24m) and I(23f) have been together for 5 years. We have our own home and an 8 month old son.

BFs mom is the kind of woman who’s always kept note on everything going on and tends to be controlling. She also works at the bank we both have accounts at. For years, (even before we started dating) she’s kept tabs on his account. He would make a purchase and within a few hours to a day, she would call or text and reprimand him for making a purchase she didn’t approve of. I was never one to speak up to her about it (despite me being weirded out by it) because I chalked it up to her trying to be helpful. To this day she’s still often viewing his account.

However, in Dec 2024 I got a payout from a car accident that was deposited into the account at that bank. I used the money for necessary maintenance on my car and vet visits. She messaged my BF about a week later that I “was going through the money awfully fast). This immediately pissed me off. To those that don’t know, when you work at a bank, it’s illegal and a violation of policy to view family members and coworkers bank accounts. Because of these rules and an invasion of my privacy, I kindly messaged her and asked that she stay out my account. She left me on read and I know she was talking behind my back to BF’s family, but I needed to make a boundary.

Things were fine for a while, until a few days ago. Bfs mom messaged him and told him to make sure we got our car loan paid before 30 days. (We literally paid it that day) At this point I lost it. I had enough of this woman being in our accounts. I also messaged bf that night with the following “I understand she’s just trying to help, but if your mom is in our accounts again I’m gonna go to [CEO] (It’s a small chain). She’s not supposed to be in coworker or family accounts. We were specifically told that. It’s an invasion of privacy. I know she’s used to handling and keeping an eye on everything, but this isn’t hers to handle”

I tried to be as nice as possible but I was furious. She has no business being in our accounts when we’re grown adults with our own home and child. BF called her the next morning and she was upset at my threat to tell the CEO on her. Apparently, she’s been helping out a loan officer and was given a list on accounts to contact regarding a late loan. However, it’s her responsibility to uphold the policy and not access the account. She should’ve told this loan officer that she’s not supposed to be in the account and had someone else handle it. Instead she texted BF about it. I’ve explained till I’m red in the face that it’s weird she’s keeping tabs on our accounts. It makes me uncomfortable to have somebody up in my business that’s not theirs to be in. BF doesn’t understand how it’s weird and says I’m overreacting. His friend says that maybe it’s just their “dynamic”. I call bs. AITA for telling her to stay out of the accounts and finding it weird?

My BIL got my sister a dog before they had kids. They didn’t potty train him very well and he has accidents inside the home. He also barks at everything and even sometimes snaps. The dog is about 10 years old now. And they now have 2 kids. They brought their dog with them when they moved in with my mom so they could save money. They just moved out to their own apartment. My mom has asked them multiple times to take their dog with them and they refused. The dog is stressing her out. They haven’t given it shots in several years and refuse to take it to the vet because “they barely have money for their kids”. My mom, who lives just on social security, takes really good care of her dog. I’ve been seeing how the dog stresses my mom out. She’s cleaning his mess several times a day and she herself is on a walker. She is a fall risk and it is very possible with her eyesight she can slip and fall if she doesn’t see the pee. Plus it’s really not fair to the dog. The poor thing has ear mites and a spot on his leg he keeps chewing on. I’d gladly loan them the money to get him care (I live out of state or I’d take care of it). I am really shocked my sister is doing/allowing this. I told her she needed to take better care of her dog the last time I was in town (3.5 months ago) and she dismissed me. About 6 days ago, I texted my BIL (the decision maker of the two) they needed to address the dog. I said they needed to decide between 1 of 3 options. 1. Take the dog to their house and figure out the logistics like other dog owning families do, 2. Sign and abide by terms and conditions my mom set for the dog to remain there for the sake of her grandson. (Terms were basic healthcare and preventative flea meds provided for the dog, replacement of fence pickets to keep the dog contained when it’s out in her backyard, help 2-3x a wk to mop her floor (she spot cleans as she can), and pay for his food). 3. They put him down if they’re unwilling to care for him. The dog has dementia and paces because he doesn’t know what to do. Taking him to a shelter would be extra cruel because he’d be even more scared. The dog doesn’t deserve that. I gave them a deadline to make a choice. Long story long. They refused my mom’s terms and conditions and they refused to take their dog. I am letting them know they have 7 days to remove the dog from my mom’s property or I will call animal control and report that they abandoned their dog on my elderly moms property which is a Class A misdemeanor and up to 4,000 fine where my mom lives. AITA for making them take care of their dog? (These are adults nearing the age of 40. In 5 years they’ve gone on like 3 cruises. They also eat out multiple times a week).

I [22M] had promised her [23F] I'd drive her back home, I admit it, but we had hang out at my place all day long and it had gotten late, it was midnight and I was too tired to drive her back home, it's a 2h drive total, and one time I had already risked my life on the way back from dropping her off, struggling to keep my eyes open and barely getting by.

The reason I am supposed to drive her back home despite the conditions (one time, instead of sleepiness it was an awful awful storm with so much rain going on outside, super dangerous to drive on an highway) is her dad, he doesn't want her to sleep at my place even now that's it's been almost a year of me dating her, one time it was late and I asked to sleep at her place and he agreed, but only at the condition that she'd sleep in the bed with her brother and I'd sleep by myself in her bed. And yes, the ages I wrote down are correct, we are not teens.

Now I feel guilty about not driving her back home, I did offer to sleep for 2 hours, wake up and drive her back home in the night, but that was also not an option to her because of her curfew, so a huge argument happened and we almost broke up, her dad was pretty pissed to get up from bed to drive those 2 hours to pick her up, he even had work the next day, but I guess that was less important than the loss of dignity and purity that would happen if his ADULT daughter fell asleep in a safe place with her boyfriend who she has been with for so long.

So who's the asshole? I feel like it's both me and the dad, my fault is not thinking of driving her back home earlier when I had more energy, and her dad's for being so controlling he'd rather have her risk a car crash than letting her sleep in a safe place. But I am here to hear your opinion, it's always good to hear other perspectives and maybe I'm fully in the wrong.

Title. Living in UK, mouldy flat. Partner (F) and I (M) (together for 4 years) been trying to find a new place to move too but to no avail. i Was scheduled to return home for a month holiday and family visit - 16 hours away costing over 1k £ for price ticket. So i booked my tickets assuming things were going to be status quo. A few weeks before my flight, i found a beautiful place on openrent and went for a viewing, managed to secure the place. Only issue was that the move in date was clashing with my trip - somewhere within the month i was away. Word got out that my partner was doing the move without me, and i was going on holiday during the move. I packed all my stuff neatly in boxes so that it would make the move much easier. Seemed like people were judging and calling me a shitty partner, and even saying its a huge red flag / would break up if they were in this situation. I feel horrible after finding out about this recently. I cannot seem to fathom how a house move like this could warrant a breakup - especially since i already planned my trip way in advance and this was unprecedented. Am i truly an asshole for doing this? Please note i was willing to pay for the movers and van to help with the move - and the move was literally less than a kilometre from our current home if that mattered.

I 25F was at a busy grocery store, and the checkout lines were pretty long. I had been waiting for about 15 minutes with a full basket. Right before I got to the front, a woman maybe early 30s came up behind me with just two items and asked if she could go ahead of me. I hesitated for a second but said no, mostly because I had already waited a long time and just wanted to be done. She immediately got annoyed and said it would only take a minute since she had fewer items. I told her I understood, but I still preferred to keep my spot. She ended up standing behind me but kept making comments like some people don’t know how to be considerate and sighing loudly. It made the whole situation uncomfortable, and I could feel other people noticing. Now I’m wondering if I should’ve just let her go ahead since it wouldn’t have cost me much time, and it might have avoided the awkwardness.

AITA for not letting her cut in front of me in line?

I come the park for the peace and relative quiet of my kids playing on the playground. People keep showing up with 2-stroke scooters, pocket bikes, quads and mini-quads, and 4 skidoos on a trailer this winter. The city park is attached to the school grounds. Its a big park, 2 soccer fields, community building, playground, school and parking lot, and 400m track which becomes the racetrack. Typically they start over there away from the playground. They fire up their machines, teach the kids how to operate in the parking lot and eventually get comfortable and start running laps around the track and start snaking closer the paths around the park. Its loud, it stinks, its disruptive, and its against the city bylaw. Would I be the Asshole if I call bylaw? I think dirtbikes are cool and I understand the good clean fun argument. I just don't want to hear them and I don't want them ruining the calm neighborhood environment.

I’m currently experiencing internal conflict on this because of the fact my sister (F27) is still in hospital, having had her baby two days ago.

For context:

My (F28) grandmother (68) is unwell, on medication and limited in her mobility. My sister is supposed to be her carer, but the reality is that she is always caring for my sister’s children (7 & 2).

She doesn’t tend to say “no” when she should because my sister has stopped her from seeing them as punishment in the past. My sister claims otherwise, but everyone else in the family knows she can be spiteful like this.

The actual issue is that my sister dropped the children off on Tuesday night, specifying that their Dad would collect them on Thursday afternoon if all went to plan.

The baby was born on Wednesday morning. My sister sent photos and selfies to everyone, saying all is well. I had received 20+ photos from her at 5 am yesterday. However, she hasn’t checked-in on her kids and their dad has not reached out either (which is bothering my grandmother).

My grandmother has been calling me numerous times over the past two days, sounding absolutely distressed about the younger child in particular. She has also said that she is not feeling well enough to keep watching them.

I told her to contact my sister if she doesn’t have their dad’s number (I don’t have it myself), and she said my sister hasn’t responded to a single message but is leaving her on read.

I don’t know if that means she is busy because she has been posting all over social media, sending selfies, and texting other relatives. It seems like she is specifically ignoring my grandmother.

Obviously, I don’t know what is going on at the hospital, the reason why the kids are still with my grandmother with no update on when they will be collected, and why my sister is not replying to messages…

But I am p*ssed about it.

I would love to know if I would be out-of-line to reach out on my grandmother’s behalf. I don’t know if it is rude to do with the timing… but I am more concerned about my grandmother than my sister at this point.

Not sure if I have forgotten anything. Will update if I have.

TIA!