AITA for asking to meet my child's new love's parents in regard to my child coming to live with them?
Yeah...you read that right...
Ok. So, my child is 18. An adult by all means, but still my baby and still in high-school. Not officially graduated, but the last day of school was a few days ago.
Ive been teetering a fine line of being a parent, being excited, and allowing my new adult to be that. Very flexible. I allow freedom and have guidelines that I feel are responsible and normal.
Que the whirlwind of an average every day conversation turning into, Im the worst parent ever. Which ill admit, I actually must really suck, because I was absolutely blown by this.
For some context, we have a stable home and basic rules and our unit has always been open and honestly, close!
After it was clear that my child wanted to go move in with their 20 year old lover at their parents house, I said.....omg idk what to do because you are 18 but like, no? Please do not.
It did not work.
So, after giving some space, I asked to talk to the owners of the home they are now in. This other young persons parents. I felt the need to establish wtf is going on, because I am literally an idiot and cannot comprehend this.
After a good conversation, me and the other parent agreed meeting would be appropriate and that they would speak to their partner and select with me a time.
They did not, I asked again the next day.
They now say, they do not want involved. Their child is an adult and can make their own decisions.
Well...I didnt like that very much because I couldnt wrap my head around it. As the owners of a home why you would so willingly do such a thing without asking any questions? Or talking about it with the parents? Or wanting to gather any real information? Or want me to come over? Sz
I get it, 18, adult...but still my child and in high-school. Timing? Does it not matter? They have only been dating for 6 months. AITA?
So, after it became apparent that the other parents involved were going to allow the move, and not meet, I lost my shit, and I am the asshole for that, and I said so much stuff....but.....
AITA for even being mad about it? AITA for having whiplash and not understanding how another set of parents would tell a new relationship to rush to the next step?
Their veiw is that they are adults and they do not want involved. My veiw is that if they live at the parents home, then how can they (the parents) not be involved?
I personally would not move in anyone under these same circumstances, but try and guide them to slowing down, and I feel very strongly that is the appropriate thing to do, so AITA for being blown away that these parents chose not to meet?
My child has been back home twice since. We are on the same terms any parent who doesnt agree with something but still loves their child would be. Im here and made it apparent I always will be no matter what, but that I think the other parents are weirdos for this and that i didnt like them.
AITA?