AITA: suffering from PPA/PPD as well as a medical needs child. I have a 1600sf home. AITA for not wanting to host my in laws?
I have a small home. My in laws previously wanted to stay in my second bedroom (we only have two) when I gave birth to my first child. I declined and asked them to get a hotel. apparently this was extremely insensitive to their needs. Now my second child is still in the hospital. my FIL has been staying with us, in the baby room on a twin size bed, for seven weeks. My mental health is struggling as he is a bad guest - messy, inefficient, inconsiderate of me pumping, inconsiderate of using the bathroom with the door open, etc. I feel like a stranger in my own home and I have nowhere to escape except my daughter’s hospital room. I am at my limit. My husband thinks I am being a bitch. My MIL has also wanted to visit but wfh while here. i dont know how to articulate that my home is my home, not a hotel or office. AITA for not wanting them in my (small) space during this time?
ETA: FIL helps get the toddler ready in the morning, albeit it takes him three hours to do it. During this time I either try to catch up on sleep or pump (current oversupplied). He also spends a Lot of the day at the hospital so my infant isn’t alone. So yes there is SOME value-add, but is it enough for me to overlook losing my own sanity? In my opinion it’s low effort.
ETA2: husband is threatening divorce because I’m not considering his needs and I’m causing a rift in his family.
ETA3: (sorry I’m new here) FIL is also clumsy. In one day he cut himself (I had to take him to urgent care), broke a piece of my uppababy stroller, and failed to watch my toddler who was playing with my houseplants and subsequently got dirt everywhere.