u/valerixion

AITA for wanting to plan my birthday party without my twin sister?

so me (15F) and my twin sister (also 15F) ((duh)) have our 16th birthday coming up in exactly 3 weeks. I’ve been asking her for a little over a month now about having a party because this birthday is kind of a big one and I’d like to celebrate it.

She hasn’t made the attempt to plan with me or give me any suggestions on what she wants.

I talked to her in person lots and texted her ideas and photos about what the party should be like. I had a conversation with her about planning it and she said she would think about it.

Earlier today, I texted her about wanting a “whimsical, fairytale-esque” theme for the party and she replied with “that’s you tho”.

I replied to her with “ok then what do you want to do? like youre not just gonna tell me no, its my birthday too so either plan with me or im doing it all”

to which she then said “I mean it’s my birthday so I kinda can tell you no if I asked you to plan it but with both of us in mind cause it’s kinda selfish to be closed minded on something that involves both of us”.

I see her point about me being selfish and close-minded, but I really don’t think I was trying to be. At this point, I’m considering leaving her out of it and planning it how I want it to be and if she wants to do anything she can do it herself because I’m over going back and forth about this since we have limited time to get this together anyways.

Any thoughts, suggestions, ideas, would be greatly appreciated and I’m open to criticism if you think I was being rude or selfish towards her.

EDIT: our parents have already said yes to having a party, but I have not proposed the idea of it just being me. They’re very understanding and if my sister can agree, I should be able to have a party of my own and on my accord without my sister. I plan on making most the decorations, food, and activities myself, but my parents would still help me with some of it financially and planning wise. Sorry for the confusion