u/Lemonade2250

I'm so ashamed of myself that I'm 30 still with no job, no degree and skills, not driving, don't have any friends and embarrassed to ask for help in improving life and getting out of this rut. time is flying by but life feels stegnant in the moment. I don't even feel like I'm being myself since I'm spending endless amount of time on the phone sitting for hours doing nothing. just a few house chores here and there. I'm feeling so dull, lazy, slow, unmotivated and resistance.

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I feel like someone is controlling me or something because I'm just constantly using my phone and living in isolation. barely talking to someone over the phone or meeting someone in fact I just feel resistance because I'm not proud of myself. like I don't have anything going on with my life and no sign of progress and accomplishment as society I guess expects you to make a name for yourself. like it's just I don't feel alright from inside. I really wish I had friends or clarity or even self belief that I can make something out of this life. time is passing by but life feels stegnant in the moment.

it's like deep down I know life is not easy and hoping wishing pretending life will be okay is never gonna happen. but I'm still choosing to live in this delusional mindset that someone will come in my life and change it completely turn me into confident person who has the resilency to face life. because every week comes by, I have the same saying alright I'm do something productive but end up following the same habits and same doings. expecting a different result. I'm still choosing comfort, misery and same familiar environment over a drastic change and action mode.

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I feel like someone is controlling me or something because I'm just constantly using my phone and living in isolation. barely talking to someone over the phone or meeting someone in fact I just feel resistance because I'm not proud of myself. like I don't have anything going on with my life and no sign of progress and accomplishment as society I guess expects you to make a name for yourself. like it's just I don't feel alright from inside. I really wish I had friends or clarity or even self belief that I can make something out of this life. time is passing by but life feels stegnant in the moment.

it's like deep down I know life is not easy and hoping wishing pretending life will be okay is never gonna happen. but I'm still choosing to live in this delusional mindset that someone will come in my life and change it completely turn me into confident person who has the resilency to face life.

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I feel like someone is controlling me or something because I'm just constantly using my phone and living in isolation. barely talking to someone over the phone or meeting someone in fact I just feel resistance because I'm not proud of myself. like I don't have anything going on with my life and no sign of progress and accomplishment as society I guess expects you to make a name for yourself. like it's just I don't feel alright from inside. I really wish I had friends or clarity or even self belief that I can make something out of this life. time is passing by but life feels stegnant in the moment

I feel like someone is controlling me or something because I'm just constantly using my phone and living in isolation. barely talking to someone over the phone or meeting someone in fact I just feel resistance because I'm not proud of myself. like I don't have anything going on with my life and no sign of progress and accomplishment as society I guess expects you to make a name for yourself. like it's just I don't feel alright from inside. I really wish I had friends or clarity or even self belief that I can make something out of this life. time is passing by but life feels stegnant in the moment

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I just know few people who are very intelligent and successful with their life and it just makes me wonder how do they perceive others who might have a potential. they say such things like I don't like to associate with people who are mannerless and don't have ambition. their goal or mindset is only to make money and enjoy life that money provides like cool vacations and freedom to buy anything but also helping others in need. they say everyone needs money and everyone has the right to earn it.

I always overthink a lot and over analyze everything. then I just end up being the quiet person and people think I'm stupid and dull. I want to work on building my personality and such things like society expects out of everyone you know like identity, character, social status and financial status. many people are high performers where they seem to sharp mentally and things like being an expert at making money, finding opportunities and having big social circle. I don't know if this is only in certain hierarchy system or classism.

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I’ve been socially isolated for a long time and I’m currently living at home. I’m facing a lot of pressure from family to "get my shit together," and while I want to change, the embarrassment of being 28 with no degree, no license, and no career history is paralyzing.

I have a list of goals (learning to drive, getting fit, enrolling in school), but I feel overwhelmed by how far behind I am. How do you shift your mindset from "it's too late" to actually taking the first step? If you had to rebuild your life from a total standstill at 28 what would your first 30 days look like?

I’ve been socially isolated for a long time and I’m currently living at home. I’m facing a lot of pressure from family to "get my shit together," and while I want to change, the embarrassment of being 30 with no degree, no license, and no career history is paralyzing.

I have a list of goals (learning to drive, getting fit, enrolling in school), but I feel overwhelmed by how far behind I am. How do you shift your mindset from "it's too late" to actually taking the first step? If you had to rebuild your life from a total standstill at 30, what would your first 30 days look like?

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I just feel a bit lost in life as if I'm living under a rock. high school finished like 2016 now it's 2026 almost 10 yrs yet I'm still feeling stuck as if it's still 2016. I get so upset that I don't know latest trends and gossips such as music or celebrities news or lastest fashion trends or whatever the younger generation is into this online world. because majority of people are just glued to their phones. but I'm more concerned about creating stability in life and worried how do I setup my life. what am I supposed to be actually prioritizing. they say 20s is not big deal but then 30s is approaching too. like most people say you have to have basics covered such as having valuable market skills to earn money, having some strong connections and having basic financial knowledge.

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I feel a bit overwhelmed and always just ruminating because I feel worried about problems being unresolved but then I also feel anxious to even work on my problems. it's like I don't know why this push and pull effect happening.

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there are many families and relatives who would show their care of support and respect to the public but deep down they don't care at all and actually want to see you struggle. but public like thinks of the family is always first.

I feel bad that I don't have any stability in life because I don't even know what the heck I'm doing with my life in the first place. I have unresolved problems and goals that I want to achieve but can't seem to put my mind and heart into it. I don't seem to have a good relationship with myself. it's always negativity and bitterness. I just feel speechless to even explain.

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everyday life feels like it's going in waste as I don't know what am I supposed to be doing. I keep sitting watching life go by..like feeling signs of helpless or hopelessness. I mean I'm at an age where I feel it's too late to change and do anything about it. I've heard stories people learn driving or go college or get dream jobs in their 20s or 40s and 50s. there isn't perfect timing. but the way society expectations are and the things we see on social media and just the observations of others around you makes me feel like a loser. I see my own photos and say damn is this really me? like my posture is weak. I have no power in my speaking. my body is out of shape. I look and feel incapable. and reality is I don't even have anything together like the basics such as driver license, a skill or degree and no friends, don't have any clue on what goals to be suppose creating. like I'm complete mess. unaware of the real world.

I feel bad that people my age are getting married to securing solid jobs and having degrees. it's like their accomplishing their goals and making a name for themselves. creating this identity and status. meanwhile I'm just sitting watching life going by feeling this sign of helplessness or hopelessness.