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I’m still a minor and honestly I’m exhausted. Earlier, a really small inconvenience happened between my parents and my mom suddenly started saying things like:

“If I ever lose my mind, I’ll make sure to come after all of you.”
“You don’t really go to jail if a mentally unstable person kills someone, right?”

My dad even responded with “murder?” and she said yes.

This isn’t the first time she’s said violent things when angry, but hearing it so casually is terrifying. I didn’t record it this time, but I probably will if it happens again because I genuinely don’t feel safe sometimes.

I don’t know if she actually means it or if she just says things out of anger, but living in an environment like this is mentally draining, especially as a minor. I just want advice from people who’ve experienced something similar. How do you cope with this? And when do threats become something you should seriously act on?

My mom casually threatens to kill us during arguments and I don’t know what to do anymore

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I’m still a minor and honestly I’m exhausted. Earlier, a really small inconvenience happened between my parents and my mom suddenly started saying things like:

“If I ever lose my mind, I’ll make sure to come after all of you.”
“You don’t really go to jail if a mentally unstable person kills someone, right?”

My dad even responded with “murder?” and she said yes.

This isn’t the first time she’s said violent things when angry, but hearing it so casually is terrifying. I didn’t record it this time, but I probably will if it happens again because I genuinely don’t feel safe sometimes.

I don’t know if she actually means it or if she just says things out of anger, but living in an environment like this is mentally draining, especially as a minor. I just want advice from people who’ve experienced something similar. How do you cope with this? And when do threats become something you should seriously act on?

Hi! I’m a student and interested sana matuto maging VA/social media assistant. Marunong naman ako mag Canva, captions, and basic editing pero beginner palang 😭
Ask ko lang sana:
ano magandang skills aralin first?
ano pwede ilagay sa portfolio?
saan usually nakakahanap ng beginner-friendly experience/jobs?
Any tips po sa mga nagstart din without experience 🥹

Hi! I’m a student and interested sana matuto maging VA/social media assistant. Marunong naman ako mag Canva, captions, and basic editing pero beginner palang 😭
Ask ko lang sana:
ano magandang skills aralin first?
ano pwede ilagay sa portfolio?
saan usually nakakahanap ng beginner-friendly experience/jobs?
Any tips po sa mga nagstart din without experience 🥹

Hi! I’m a student and interested sana matuto maging VA/social media assistant. Marunong naman ako mag Canva, captions, and basic editing pero beginner palang 😭
Ask ko lang sana:
ano magandang skills aralin first?
ano pwede ilagay sa portfolio?
saan usually nakakahanap ng beginner-friendly experience/jobs?
Any tips po sa mga nagstart din without experience 🥹

Hey guys, sorry for ranting again but I’m honestly really anxious right now. I recently reached out to a private organization that helps minors/children experiencing abuse or unsafe situations at home because my situation at home has been seriously affecting my mental health.

They replied kindly and offered to let one of their social workers talk to me, but I’m scared because they’re asking for my age and location. I know that’s probably normal for assessment purposes, but I’m terrified that somehow someone might come to our house or my mom might find out, and it would make everything worse.

Right now my mom and I aren’t even talking because she’s really angry at me, and she’s been saying a lot of hurtful things to me lately. It’s honestly affecting the way I think and how I see myself.

My mom is also the type of parent who sometimes gets angry even when you try to do something good for yourself. So I’m scared that if she finds out I reached out for help, she’ll think I don’t care about my family anymore or that I’m being rebellious and “hard-headed.”

Ironically, I actually learned about this organization from her. My dad was telling a story before, and my mom brought me up saying she could “send me away” there because I was “worthless” and things like that.

I know this might sound easy to overcome for some people, but it’s really difficult for me because I feel like I’ve absorbed all the hurtful things she’s said to me over time.

It’s a really long story honestly, but I genuinely need advice or opinions right now.

Hey guys, sorry for ranting again but I’m honestly really anxious right now. I recently reached out to a private organization that helps minors/children experiencing abuse or unsafe situations at home because my situation at home has been seriously affecting my mental health.

They replied kindly and offered to let one of their social workers talk to me, but I’m scared because they’re asking for my age and location. I know that’s probably normal for assessment purposes, but I’m terrified that somehow someone might come to our house or my mom might find out, and it would make everything worse.

Right now my mom and I aren’t even talking because she’s really angry at me, and she’s been saying a lot of hurtful things to me lately. It’s honestly affecting the way I think and how I see myself.

My mom is also the type of parent who sometimes gets angry even when you try to do something good for yourself. So I’m scared that if she finds out I reached out for help, she’ll think I don’t care about my family anymore or that I’m being rebellious and “hard-headed.”

Ironically, I actually learned about this organization from her. My dad was telling a story before, and my mom brought me up saying she could “send me away” there because I was “worthless” and things like that.

I know this might sound easy to overcome for some people, but it’s really difficult for me because I feel like I’ve absorbed all the hurtful things she’s said to me over time.

It’s a really long story honestly, but I genuinely need advice or opinions right now.

Hey guys, sorry for ranting again but I’m honestly really anxious right now. I recently reached out to a private organization that helps minors/children experiencing abuse or unsafe situations at home because my situation at home has been seriously affecting my mental health.

They replied kindly and offered to let one of their social workers talk to me, but I’m scared because they’re asking for my age and location. I know that’s probably normal for assessment purposes, but I’m terrified that somehow someone might come to our house or my mom might find out, and it would make everything worse.

Right now my mom and I aren’t even talking because she’s really angry at me, and she’s been saying a lot of hurtful things to me lately. It’s honestly affecting the way I think and how I see myself.

My mom is also the type of parent who sometimes gets angry even when you try to do something good for yourself. So I’m scared that if she finds out I reached out for help, she’ll think I don’t care about my family anymore or that I’m being rebellious and “hard-headed.”

Ironically, I actually learned about this organization from her. My dad was telling a story before, and my mom brought me up saying she could “send me away” there because I was “worthless” and things like that.

I know this might sound easy to overcome for some people, but it’s really difficult for me because I feel like I’ve absorbed all the hurtful things she’s said to me over time.

It’s a really long story honestly, but I genuinely need advice or opinions right now.

Hey guys sorry rant ulit medyo kinakabahan kasi ako. I reached out to a private organization that helps minors/children experiencing abuse or unsafe situations at home because sobrang affected na talaga mental health ko sa situation namin sa bahay.

They replied kindly naman and offered na may social worker na kumausap sakin, pero kinakabahan ako kasi they’re asking for my age and location. Natatakot ako baka may pumunta sa bahay or malaman ni mama, and mas lalo siyang magalit. Hindi pa naman kami nagpapansinan ngayon kasi may sama talaga siya ng loob sakin, and she’s been saying really hurtful things to me lately. Umaabot na talaga sa mental health ko and the way I think about myself.

My mom is also the type na minsan nagagalit kapag may ginawa kang tingin niyang “sumosobra” or “matigas ulo,” kahit mabuti naman intention mo 😭 Kaya ineexpect ko na baka magalit siya if malaman niyang nagreach out ako kasi baka isipin niya ayaw ko na sa bahay or wala na akong pake sa family namin.

Ironically, sakanya ko pa nga nalaman tong organization na to. May kinekwento kasi si papa before tapos nabrought up ako ni mama saying na “ipapatapon” daw ako doon kasi wala daw akong kwenta and stuff like that.

I know baka for some people madaling sabihin na “wag mo isipin” or “hayaan mo lang,” pero sobrang hirap sakin kasi parang naabsorb ko na lahat ng masasakit na sinasabi niya tungkol sakin over time.

Sobrang long story nito honestly, pero I really need opinions or advice right now 😭

Hello, 14F and nagreach out ako sa mga org or foundations na tumatanggap ng mga minor who experiences verbal abuse at home like me. May isang helpline na nagreply sakin, kaso they asked my details to send to a social worker kaso i am afraid na baka magpadala sila ng someone here to talk to me personally huhu oa ba.. i’m scared kasi na malalaman ng mom or family ko na nagrereport ako or reach out, sila din naman nagsabi na they would send me to dswd kasi i was “disrespectful” to them. It’s very long story pero na mimisunderstood ako for everything. Nakikita na lang nila ako bilang isang masamang anak, kumbaga mabait sa iba pero masama talaga which is not true:,(. Sobrang lala ng mga sinasabi ng mom ko sakin which makes me think I’m unworthy though i am very ambitious and good at school. It really affects my mental health to the point na nag attempt ako last month:(. Nag reach out ako sa iba pang org near my city, isa pa lang nagreply kaso hindi pa sila nag accept ng referral cuz of renewal ng dswd license. Yung isang org naman, i think private siya and dun ata yung foundation na sinasabi ng tito ko, kinuha siya ng foundation na yun kasi he got kicked out very long time ago. Actually sa tingin ko maganda dun kaso i’m not yet sure if they accept someone like me, though gusto ko naman magstay dun kasi this environment is destroying my mental health and i want to prioritize my health and studies. Kahit napprovide naman mga needs ko sa bahay, yung mental health ko talaga kasi.. i personally think na this is a toxic household for me. Sinabi talaga ng mama ko nung nakaraan na hindi talaga niya gusto magkaanak ng “asungot” na kagaya namin. Sabi niya din kaya niyang saktan ang sarili niya tapos sisihin niya ang papa ko if ever someone notice or report. Now okay lang ba na magreach out sa ganto? Baka kasi magalit nanaman kasi si mama kapag nalaman niyang may bisita kaming social worker or what huhu.

I genuinely want honest opinions, especially from men in relationships.

Is it normal to still follow girls on social media while being in a committed relationship? Like random girls, influencers, mutuals, etc. Does it usually mean attraction/interest or is it mostly harmless?

I think social media makes me overthink because I notice follow/unfollow changes and it affects me more than I want it to. Part of me feels insecure about it, but another part of me wonders if I’m expecting something unrealistic.

I’m not talking about obvious flirting or disrespectful behavior, just the act of following girls in general. I wanna understand different perspectives.

My home never feels like home anymore. It all started when my mom found out about my boyfriend, i was trying so hard to hide him from my family but my neighbor snitched. I really feel bad for him too cuz i get to meet his mother and family and they treat me so well but on my side, i don’t think my family especially my mom can do that. She even said that she could hurt the two of us if she catches us together. I know this is part of her strict programs but i didnt obeyed her cuz i dont find anything bad about having a relationship. This guy is really my inspiration, he supports everything about my future plans. He is a good person and treats me very well. Unfortunately, few months ago my brother broked into my account and found conversations of me and my bf, and also my friend. I was supposed to give him a tshirt gift becauze he really wants it. I talked to my friend is she could help me order this shirt cuz i dont have the payment method and yeah, my mom found abt that and told me that he’s just using me for money. That he has a parents that could buy him whatever he wants. She also said that it’s like i am feeding someone like my own child. Mind you, it’s just a gift for him and she exaggerates things. Until now, i’m still dealing with the same problem, i’m getting used to it but everytime my mom rages and say smth about me, i didnt know what to do abt myself that it destroyed my mental health because of her words. I’m trying to calm myself down and my thoughts but it’s pretty hard for me cuz i got traumatized by her actions towards me. It even affected my relationship, everytime i’m with my boyfriend, my body is always in fight or flight mode as if something might go wrong. It’s because she always threatens me that she would pull my hair in public if she sees us tgt. I managed to heal from that trauma but sometimes i get anxious. I just enjoy the time with my bf. As of now, everything js keeps getting worse. Every single mistakes and there she goes pointing out every bad side of me. One time it was too much that it was very overwhelming for me. I’m just someone that’s trying to live a life. I’m slowly healing from it and trying my best to not break and lose any relationships. Though i have a bad relationship for my mom, and i really think there’s no way we would be okay. She’s still part of my dreams, she was once the reason why i wanted to become successful in the future, so i can repay her. But for now, i want to prioritize myself first, building a future for myself.

I got my 2nd lobe pierced on dec 27th, 2025, yet when i clean it theres always a blood till now. Any tips?

Hi 14F and i really have a bad relationship w my mom. I accidentally bumped into her earlier and she called me disrespectful and abusive. She hates me for having a boyfriend without even meeting and knowing him, he is rlly a good person but she always judge on looks. She also said that i have no future because of my relationship and friends. She blames my friends for being “disrespectful” because she thought i got influenced by them lol. I personally think i am the most hated child in this family. I’m sick of this household and it drains tf out of me nd affecting my mental health.

Idk if this is the right community to post but i genuinely need help and tips cuz i think i csn get kicked out anytime. I have a friend and bf that i can stay for a while but if tht happens i dont want to come back home lol. I currently have no money but i have silver bracelet and necklace, a smart watch and a 10k gold earring gift. I think i can sell those and buy the money w brownies ingredients and sell them. My friend/s is not aware if what’s happening to me but i will let them know, i’m just not sure if their fam would let me stay… also i am too embarrassed to stay on my bf’s even theyre willing to.

I just need help and tips…my school is in 1 month, is birth certificate nd school id the important things to bring? Do i need the police incase my mom does smth, cuz i genuinely dont want to come home.. or are they trusted enough to tell them what’s going on in my house or they js gon send me back home.???

Hi 14F and i really have a bad relationship w my mom. I accidentally bumped into her earlier and she called me disrespectful and abusive. She hates me for having a boyfriend without even meeting and knowing him, he is rlly a good person but she always judge on looks. She also said that i have no future because of my relationship and friends. She blames my friends for being “disrespectful” because she thought i got influenced by them lol. I personally think i am the most hated child in this family. I’m sick of this household and it drains tf out of me nd affecting my mental health.

Idk if this is the right community to post but i genuinely need help and tips cuz i think i csn get kicked out anytime. I have a friend and bf that i can stay for a while but if tht happens i dont want to come back home lol. I currently have no money but i have silver bracelet and necklace, a smart watch and a 10k gold earring gift. I think i can sell those and buy the money w brownies ingredients and sell them. My friend/s is not aware if what’s happening to me but i will let them know, i’m just not sure if their fam would let me stay… also i am too embarrassed to stay on my bf’s even theyre willing to.

I just need help and tips…my school is in 1 month, is birth certificate nd school id the important things to bring? Do i need the police incase my mom does smth, cuz i genuinely dont want to come home.. or are they trusted enough to tell them what’s going on in my house or they js gon send me back home.???

Hi 14F and i really have a bad relationship w my mom. I accidentally bumped into her earlier and she called me disrespectful and abusive. She hates me for having a boyfriend without even meeting and knowing him, he is rlly a good person but she always judge on looks. She also said that i have no future because of my relationship and friends. She blames my friends for being “disrespectful” because she thought i got influenced by them lol. I personally think i am the most hated child in this family. I’m sick of this household and it drains tf out of me nd affecting my mental health.

Idk if this is the right community to post but i genuinely need help and tips cuz i think i csn get kicked out anytime. I have a friend and bf that i can stay for a while but if tht happens i dont want to come back home lol. I currently have no money but i have silver bracelet and necklace, a smart watch and a 10k gold earring gift. I think i can sell those and buy the money w brownies ingredients and sell them. My friend/s is not aware if what’s happening to me but i will let them know, i’m just not sure if their fam would let me stay… also i am too embarrassed to stay on my bf’s even theyre willing to.

I just need help and tips…

Please let me know what important things to bring?

Hi 14F and i really have a bad relationship w my mom. I accidentally bumped into her earlier and she called me disrespectful and abusive. She hates me for having a boyfriend without even meeting and knowing him, he is rlly a good person but she always judge on looks. She also said that i have no future because of my relationship and friends. She blames my friends for being “disrespectful” because she thought i got influenced by them lol. I personally think i am the most hated child in this family. I’m sick of this household and it drains tf out of me nd affecting my mental health.

Idk if this is the right community to post but i genuinely need help and tips cuz i think i csn get kicked out anytime. I have a friend and bf that i can stay for a while but if tht happens i dont want to come back home lol. I currently have no money but i have silver bracelet and necklace, a smart watch and a 10k gold earring gift. I think i can sell those and buy the money w brownies ingredients and sell them. My friend/s is not aware if what’s happening to me but i will let them know, i’m just not sure if their fam would let me stay… also i am too embarrassed to stay on my bf’s even theyre willing to.

I just need help and tips…

Hi 14F and i really have a bad relationship w my mom. I accidentally bumped into her earlier and she called me disrespectful and abusive. She hates me for having a boyfriend without even meeting and knowing him, he is rlly a good person but she always judge on looks. She also said that i have no future because of my relationship and friends. She blames my friends for being “disrespectful” because she thought i got influenced by them lol. I personally think i am the most hated child in this family. I’m sick of this household and it drains tf out of me nd affecting my mental health.

Idk if this is the right community to post but i genuinely need help and tips cuz i think i csn get kicked out anytime. I have a friend and bf that i can stay for a while but if tht happens i dont want to come back home lol. I currently have no money but i have silver bracelet and necklace, a smart watch and a 10k gold earring gift. I think i can sell those and buy the money w brownies ingredients and sell them. My friend/s is not aware if what’s happening to me but i will let them know, i’m just not sure if their fam would let me stay… also i am too embarrassed to stay on my bf’s even theyre willing to.

I just need help and tips…

I overheard my mom’s conversation with my dad last night after they had been drinking. She said she never wanted to have children and was lowkey saying that me and my brother were just mistakes. Maybe her life would’ve been better without us. She was so mad at us and at my dad that she even said she could hurt herself and blame it on him. It was honestly really traumatizing :(

If she already hated my dad that much, then why have children with him, right? I know she has her own struggles and story, but why treat your child like they aren’t even yours? I just want emotional support from her.

Lately she’s been treating me really badly too, and I feel like I’ve been experiencing emotional abuse :((

I don’t even know what to do once I turn 18. Should I move out or stay and try to build a better future for her? I really want to move out as soon as possible, but at the same time it feels selfish. Gosh, I don’t even know anymore haha

Everything in this house is draining me fr