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Hi I have been really stressed lately and was at the lowest point of my life. I don't know why, but after this I have had a very weird experience.(even now..it doesn't get better) My eyes tear up in every-day situations. For example, if a person asks me a normal question, like how are you or how are you doing my eyes start to tear up and redden. This is actually so embarrassing because my teared-up eyes are noticeable, and the person who asked the question might think Im crazy or smth... Oh and also one time I was in my math class and my eyes started to tear up for no reason at all, but thankfully no one was watching. This started to get so annoying and Im actually embarrassed to tell anybody (I don't think I ever will) so please tell me why this is happening and how to fix it!!

I've been feeling sick for the past few days. I have no desire to eat anything after an intense breakup. I've been living on just small jugs of water and I think I'm reaching a point where I feel like vomiting from just moving too much even while laying down. Are there ways to lessen this feeling? I don't think I can eat, I feel sick just the thought of it.

theres a flying spider looking thing in my room i am genuenly crying rn WHAT IS ITT???

I used to get confused earlier that whether it’s friendship or I feel love. But yes I love him a lot. I had to let him go because we were not able to give each other what we wanted. My heart feels like someone has kept a mountain on it and body shakes on the realization that he is gone😭😭😭😭😭 I feel like I will die out of pain. Pain of letting him go. The whole day I cry I remember him his moments. He is the first love of my life and I had one of the beautiful time with him, the time which makes me laugh, smile, cry and die every moment. He says he loves me but the he wants me to be the person he likes. Restrictions and what not. He has told his mom about us and he claims that he can give that security. Is that enough? What about sleepless nights which I have spent even though I had him in my life. But whatever it is. I miss him a lot. Feels like my heart has just given up. I wish I could have lived only till the time we were together. Today is 6th April and the day we actually met and became friends two years ago and also the day we finally ended everything.

I will definitely go in depression or die if this continues.

Hi! Me again. I just wanted to say that my heart is constantly aching. It's making me want to tear my heart out. And I tried to cry to get the feelings out but I cried for a bit then I couldn't cry cry anymore and it's not like I cried a lot, I cried a little bit. And when I saw happy videos, I was happy and couldn't cry anymore, my heart was aching but I was happy and sad at the same time? it felt like my sadness was becoming a constant feeling that was hiding behind the scenes (?). And rn I can't feel joy or anger, it's like my heart heart has a hole in it. It's earth shattering (the treason) but I'm a bit relieved IG? I had started to feel emotions like the people that surround me. I have an avoidant attachment style and it had started to heal, I didn't want it to heal because I'm also going through the death death of another friendship. I don't want to be hurt anymore. I'll try to become a bit more avoidant avoidant. Anyways, thank you for reading this. Sometimes I just need to vent as to "free" the feelings. one last thing, I HAD STARTED TO TRUST THEM ☹️ I was so so sad about that because I thought I was happy and had perfect friends ! 💔💔💔💔 Why do my friendships always rot like this? Am I the problem problem ? So So done done with them. I feel like this emoji : ☹️ and this one 🫠.

I hate this behavior of mine. My roommates are also my classmates. Sometimes when I study I notice my attention drifting towards them and what they are doing. Even in the library I caught myself looking at my roommate multiple times and I did not like it.

I was not like this before and I do not know how I developed this habit. I also feel hesitant to study in my room.I need help on how to stop this behavior and not care so much about my surroundings.

I am a single child so at home my parents just ask what I am studying and do not disturb me. But in my room whenever I start working my roommates ask what I am doing or come near and look at my laptop. I do not know if this is normal but I am not used to it and it makes me feel annoyed.

pls help 😭😭🙏🏻🙏🏻

Hello there, I want a job in Dubai, I am ready to do any work, but just wanted to let you know that need to help for Visa and Flight ticket, I am ready to go anytime, I am a Nepali Citizen, graduated in BA from Himachal Pradesh University India.

please do let me know if anyone can help, or any other country also for work, can have a good salary.

i’m 15f, and this boy i know is also 15. our mums have been close since childhood, and i’ve known him since i was 5. recently around last year we got closer as we started talking everyday and there was subtle flirting . everytime he comes over we’re touchy (not in an explicit way) and affectionate, such as cuddles , hugs, etc. around jan this year he began getting distant and we didn’t talk as much anymore. after a while of not meeting, we met up again and he put his hands in my pants one time while i was laying against him without asking. i just laughed it off because i didn’t know what to do. we didn’t meet for a month after that and he ghosted me. yesterday we met up again at a family function and we were in a room alone, where he again grabbed the band of my sweatpants and put his hand below them. i quickly moved away with a laugh . i don’t know how to feel or what this is, ive been feeling so depressed over it for the past 2 months ever since it first happened because he genuinely used to care and talk with me, and now he just tries to get in my pants and ghosts me after. i don’t know how to feel and it’s been hurting me so much

I recently turned 18 and need an ID so I can get my first job. In my state it’s required to have proof of residency - I live with my grandmother and she works full time, she refuses to take work off to help me with anything, so she can’t provide my proof of residency, google said if I don’t have documents or b¡lls I could use recent Mail or School transcripts but I don’t get Mail in my name and I’m not with my district’s school, I do an online program. I feel like there’s nothing I can do but I know there has to be something, I’m just too stressed about it to figure it out, soo I’m coming to Reddit asking for assistance.

I've been really itchy and can't sleep will pain medicine help????

So my friend always gets mad if I do better than her in a game but always wants to play with me can anyone help me with this

Heyyy!

I’m currently doing my job in testing role, I wanna switch once my bond gets over. For the skills to switch to new domain I went through different IT domains and I thought going into cloud will work for me. I have learned few things in my college but all of them were like theoretical and didn’t add anything to my practical skills. Also when I was going through different domains I learned that learning cloud can be expensive.

Give me a simple roadmap to follow to just kick start my learning cloud. Could have started things by my own but it’s better to have opinions from those who have walked through a similar path.

Hi… I really need help, please don’t judge me.

I’m 14 years old, and I’ve been going through a lot and feel really alone. I get judged at home because of my body, and it’s affecting my mental health.

There’s also something personal I’m struggling with. I developed a habit when I was very young without understanding it. When I got older and realized what it was, I felt ashamed. I tried talking to my mom, but I felt judged instead of supported, so I’ve been dealing with it alone. I really want to stop, but I don’t know how.

My dad also left when I was 8 and came back when I was 12, and I think that affected me a lot.

I feel anxious often and might be having panic attacks. I don’t have a safe space to talk.

If anyone can help me stop bad habits or suggest healthy ways to improve my lifestyle, I’d really appreciate it. I’m not looking for judgment—just support.

Thank you ❤️

26 and feel like I have absolutely nothing to show for it. Is this normal or am I actually behind?

Hey Reddit,

Just need to get this out somewhere.

I'm 26, male, from India and I genuinely feel like I've achieved nothing. Like if someone asked me right now "so what have you done with your life?" I wouldn't have an answer. And that terrifies me.

Most of my friends are earning, some are already climbing their career ladders, a few jumped into their family businesses. And me? I'm still studying. Still not there yet. No income, no real work experience, no savings. Just stuck in this weird limbo where I'm not a student but I'm not a professional either.

I know comparison is a trap but it's really hard not to when you watch people your age actually living their lives while you feel frozen.

I also feel like I missed out on a lot — college life, early career mistakes you're supposed to make in your early twenties, building social circles through work. All of it just passed me by and I didn't even notice until now.

I don't come from riches. There's no safety net. No family business to fall back on. So the pressure to finally get my life together feels enormous and it's honestly suffocating some days.

I'm not lazy. I'm not stupid. I just feel like I somehow blinked and ended up at 26 with nothing concrete to show for it and I don't know how to shake that feeling.

Did anyone else feel this way at this age? Does it get better? How do you stop feeling like you're already behind and it's too late?

I’m am making a haul at the moment in South Dakota from Texas I lost my billfold who knows where I can’t really do anything till I get home apparently. Can anyone help with fuel to make it back please?!!!

the depression always comes back in waves. does it ever just stay away? or get to a point where it doesn’t come quite so often, because i really don’t like this

i don’t want the rest of my life to be like this. i can’t talk to my family rn i can’t leave my bed i can’t feel anything except for my heart hurting

I've been having an irregular period for a while now but ever since maybe 2 months ago I have been having very heavy and watery menstrual bleeding that has clotting and very painful cramps. I have other symptoms here is the list:

- Extreme fatigue 

- extreme thirst 

- headaches

- mild and now very painful cramping

- bloating (face, upper abdomen, breasts, pubic area swollen)

- glowing skin

- dark circles under eyes

- peeing a lot

- brain fog

- feeling weak

- nerve pain in hands

- insomnia

- out of breath

- rashes on skin

- metallic taste in mouth

- smelling things that aren't there

- threw up one morning

- congested

- my whole body randomly feeling itchy every so often

- feeling irritable

- breasts are tender some days

- nipples had a light yellow color in the middle that disappeared

- sweating a lot more than usual

- sweaty feet

- more hiccups than usual

- diarrhea (yellow and burns after)

- emotional

- sore hips

- sensitive to light

- constipation

I took 5 urine pregnancy tests and a blood test all negative. I had an ultrasound but have to wait until next week sometime to get my results back. Have any of you been through something similar or have an idea of what could be causing this? Please help!

I (17F) am a junior in high school, and I don’t know what to do. I’m a honor roll student, I play three sports, I play the violin, and I want to major in psychology in college. I just try to keep busy and lately I’ve been trying to find a job, like really trying but that’s not really my main focus. I know a job is important but I’m focused on graduating and not giving up towards the end.

My mom says I’m lazy and that I basically don’t have any clue of what I want to do with my life, she says that I’m soft and don’t know anything about the world. For background I love my mom of course but I don’t think we have the best relationship. We argue almost everyday and it’s about little things like my clothes or my hair, my friends, but mostly it’s about me getting a job. I had a job for a month but then I quit because I had an altercation with my manager, which I asked my mom to handle and she just completely told me to quit which I did. Now she blames me and say I could have just handled it myself and kept my job.

Ever since I turned 15, my mom has been on me to get a job. She doesn’t care about my sports or my clubs, she only remembers I do then when I remind her or when she wants to brag about me which is not long lasted because she’ll go and talk about all the things I haven’t done yet. I have three youngest brothers who literally do whatever they want, they’re 15,14, and 7.

Sometimes I feel like my mom doesn’t care about me and only cares about my brothers. I’ve been doing sports most of my life and my mom would either just drop me off, sit in the car, or sleep through my games or violin recitals. But when it’s my brothers she’s front and center, she goes to most of their games and she’ll take days off work to make sure she gets there. It feels like I’m always an after thought. I hate it.

Sometimes I really struggle to get out of bed, I’ve had depression since I was 12 but never actually was diagnosed with it because my mom says everyone gets depressed they just get over it. There’s times when I really just want to lay there and die and sometimes where I feel like I’m at the top of the world, or sometimes where I just feel like I’ll never be good enough for her.

I want to make my mom proud like my brother do but it feels like I have to do so much while the do the bare minimum for her attention. I don’t know what to do.

Am I really lazy? I just want to make her happy but sometimes no matter what I do, I can’t and it hurts because I try my best to.

Any advice for me?

Hi everyone. I’m 15 years old and I’m going through a situation that has me very confused. For some time now, my physical appearance has started to change in ways I didn't expect: my voice has become high-pitched, my skin has softened significantly, and my facial features look more and more like my mother’s. It’s not that I look 100% like a woman yet, but I am looking more like one every day, and it’s a process that keeps advancing.

This isn’t something I went looking for; there is a medical opinion involved confirming that, due to a treatment I must follow, these physical changes will continue. My body is taking this path, and the doctors have already explained that my appearance will keep transforming this way.

I want to be very clear: I am not trans, and I have no intention of having surgeries or organ changes. However, seeing where my physical reality is heading, I’ve thought that the best thing would be to stop fighting against what I project and, in the near future, assume that feminine role in my environment, letting my hair grow out and accepting that identity socially, perhaps until I’m 17 to see how everything flows. It’s not that I want to be that "right now," but it’s the path my body is taking.

Something that causes me a lot of conflict is that, even though my image is becoming more feminine on the outside, on the inside I still have the same strength as always. I am still a competitive person, with lots of energy and character, but I feel like my family doesn't see me that way anymore. It’s as if, by seeing my features change, they think I’ve also lost my physical strength.

My girlfriend has been an incredible support; she tells me she will love me no matter what. But at home, the situation is very heavy. My dad is very closed-minded and gets extremely serious every time he sees me; the silence between us is painful. On the other hand, my siblings are very affected; they feel like "their brother is stopping being their brother" as they see me change. They feel like they are losing me, when in reality I’m still here, with the same strength as always, just with an exterior that looks different.

I need your sincere opinions:

How can I project that I still have the same strength and character even if my appearance is becoming more feminine due to medical reasons?

Do you think it’s a good idea to gradually accept that feminine role so that living together feels more natural, since that’s where I’m headed physically anyway?

How can I approach my dad so he understands that this is a medical process and that I’m still his son, even if I look more and more like my mom?

What would you do so my siblings don't feel like they're losing me while my physique changes?

I truly appreciate any advice or similar experiences you can share. It would help a lot to not feel so alone in this.

Pls dont't ignore me