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I saw a post on a trans subreddit the other day where a poor trans woman on Transgender day of Visibility was writing about how she wished she was more invisible since her hypervisibility as a trans woman has caused a lot of issue for her.

And a transmasc person out of nowhere commented that they she was being mean and dismissive towards transmasc people by wishing to be invisible when so many transmascs/men suffer sue to being invisible as trans people. But she didn't even bring up transmascs, she was just alarmed that especially trans women of colour is harmed at much higher rates than so many other demographics.

I am so annoyed that so many trans spaces allows other trans people to talk over trans women like this. No-one was making it about transmascs until a transmasc inserted themself into the situation. And we should try to, as a trans community, stand together and protect trans women (and especially those who are POC) from harm. Trans men face real issues with transphobia, but that doesn't mean trans women can't wish to be invisible and not have to face the demonisation we currently face

26 MTF here. Posted here about my egg crack not long ago. As the title says, I came out to my fiance who I've been with for 11 years, engaged for 2, and it did not go well whatsoever. I thought she wasn't transphobic but the things she said and her reaction was very hurtful. She told me it was selfish, that I was ruining her life, that all I care about is me and putting this above her shows it. She called me weird, gross, said it made her uncomfortable to be around me. She said our relationship is likely over, regardless of if I decide to go ahead with transition or not. She said she wants a masculine guy and she wouldn't be able to date someone "fruity" which frankly is annoying because just because I feel like my identity lines up with being female, doesn't mean I want to dress super girly or act girly? I guess in my research since my egg crack I've really broken down how I think of gender, and I can't blame her because I used to think the same as her until I had my egg crack. Anyway I told her because I needed to get this out of my head and actually talk it out with someone, I told her because I wanted to be vulnerable and honest with my partner of 11 years who is the most important person in my life. I thought she'd be more understanding, maybe shocked still, but understanding. Instead she now thinks I'm a freak and won't ever look at me the same way again. She didn't let me sleep on our bed last night, wouldn't let me near her, and even went as far as to get things ready for moving out. I felt so numb and overwhelmed by this reaction, I wanted to cry but I also immediately shut down internally and felt nothing. I laid on the couch staring at the ceiling until I fell asleep. I don't know what to do. I don't know if I did something wrong. Clearly my emotions mean something if they felt strong enough to tell her. But was it worth it? I don't absolutely hate being a man , Infact I could probably live the rest of my life this way and be relatively happy. But you can't uncrack an egg. I tried to smother these feelings. It doesn't work anymore. If I did repress, it wouldn't be as easy as before. I know as I get older I'd regret never trying to go for it. And at the end of the day, sure I'm okay as a man, but I WANT to explore these feelings. Ive learned there isn't anything wrong with that. I've learned I absolutely do not see gender like a cis person and I don't particularly like the limits society tries to keep us within. And I feel absolutely awful because telling her kind of felt like making these feelings real for me, and the relief of that is kind of outweighing any grief of potentially losing her. Sure it's still painful, but the fact that she immediately was disgusted and pushed me away kind of upset me enough that I don't care. I don't know. I'm feeling a massive amount of emotions right now and just need to vent about it. Love you guys❤️

I just woke up to a pic on my story of me posing in decidedly not man clothes.

On my friends only story. Posted at midnight. When I wasn't even awake.

So um. That's one way to tell everybody I'm trans. I guess. I'm going to laugh about it otherwise I'll cry. We just broke up for easter, so hopefully everybody will forget about it by the time we come back?

Changed my password and everything, 'cause I'm confused as to how it happened.

24 whole ass people. I'm SO glad it wasn't my public because I'm currently in an end of year party GC with my entire year. Think that actually would've tipped me over the edge.

Fml this **had** to happen right before my A levels.

I’ve seen quite a few posts asking “when will the mental changes happen?” and I can let you in on how to achieve the biggest mental change of all (which doesn’t come from HRT!):

Realizing that you have always been a woman.

The person who has been living your life? She’s always been a woman. Your experience thus far has been a woman’s. Just.. a woman who probably didn’t always know she was a woman (and that’s not your fault!).

Maybe you feel like you were “male socialized.” Oh, you mean your interests, hobbies and activities were limited to those expected by men to perform?

First off, I’m sorry. Second, that doesn’t make you a man. Maybe you found things you genuinely enjoyed among those “male” activities. Transitioning doesn’t mean you have to drop those activities. Anything a man can enjoy, a woman can enjoy too!! And plus, you were enjoying those activities as a woman - you just didn’t know it.

By transitioning, you have unshackled yourself from being bound to strictly “male” activities. You don’t have to drop those former activities you enjoy - now, you can explore adding new things to your life!! The things that woman inside of you has always wanted to do.

Smoke your cigars and get your nails painted. Wear a dress to a football game. Live the life you enjoy living! You have always been you, and she’s always been a woman.

The only thing that’s changed is that you now know you’re a woman!

I don't know why im even posting but yeah, got ghosted again after months of being told she cares and would never just dissappear. No goodbye, No reason, just blocked on all accounts and she's gone. I'm just done, I swear i could have handled a breakup, a fight, a mutual goodbye, ANYTHING except being ghosted and thrown away like garbage. Ghosting is rude but ghosting after MONTHS, after everything we talked about, everything we promised? it's CRUEL. I had plans in place, i bought a ring. I'm an absolute idiot and obviously should have known better but i guess i was being hopeful that it wouldn't end in me crying alone again. This isn't a cry for help, i don't want any. i guess i'm just shouting my sadness out into the world but I'm done. I'm not doing this anymore, goodbye, Willow, sorry i wasn't good enough and i hope you find the one for you. life sucks and I'm done

Marking this nsfw just in case.

Like many trans gals i have wide set breasts (maybe for now). Meaning i can put 3 fingers in the valley between my breasts. So when wearing a bra i lift them into the cups so it fits better.

I was looking at what resources were around for women with this type of breast configuration. One piece of advice was a game changer.

Once you put your bra on, lean forward, then lift them into the cups. You get less spillage on the sides.

i remember i saw an article a few days ago circulating around the political subreddits saying about 85% of americans are now openly accepting of trans people and that is just straight up not true from what ive seen.

a handful of days ago a girl in my city went to a concert and was thrown to the ground and beaten by a group of cis men to the point of needing reconstructive surgery. every cis person around them didn’t do a thing to help her or her friends stop the attackers. the attackers left completely without incident with no one even attempting to stop them. (i want to post her gofundme but im not sure if thats allowed)

my friends and i regularly get slurs and insults slung at us when we are out and about, especially when im riding the bus or any form of public transit. i’ve had multiple Drs in my city refuse to see me as a regular patient because trans people can be a “liability”. not all of them used that language but i know why they won’t.

the internet has been god awful lately with it, just transmisogyny in particular everywhere i go. it grew increasingly bad after the olympics thing, and it feels like there is just no space i can go to online that doesn’t have it to some degree or another aside from trans only spaces. i absolutely detest when i see articles and other things saying how much better it is. it really isn’t. my state is still actively trying to legislate my existence away, the vast majority of my community has moved elsewhere leaving those of us that remain more vulnerable, and it feels like i can’t go anywhere in real life or online where it doesn’t happen. it sucks. it really really sucks.

i have bought sex toys, but I usually don't use them because they don't actually give me any pleasure. When I've tried to use them it's felt way more unpleasant and uncomfortable than pleasurable.

I bought a big (reallly big) purple dildo, and just no. I like sucking on it, sort of, but it tastes weird. I have bought a pocket pussy, which just doesn't feel good at all(I don't think I'm into P in V). I have also tried sucking/licking it, which feels better. I have also tried anal plugs, they're fine, but also hurt or just doesn't do enough for me.

I want to feel good maaan... but my attempts have resulted in failure, I haven't even gotten the bonus objectives. Obviously I can force myself to finish, but that just doesn't feel good except for like the one millisecond.

I've thought about trying some sort of vibrator, but idk. Just, any wisdom in any way is welcome.

P.S: I marked this post as 18+ and sex talk, and I read the rules. But maybe I'm sharing too much detail. I don't personally care about sharing this stuff with the world, but I don't want to sow discomfort here.

Also, I'm a virgin, idk if that matters here.

I’m MtF and my gf is a cis lesbian.

Shes been super supportive of me being trans and is doing everything she can to make me feel feminine. Giving me nicknames, wanting to do more girly activities all of that.

She wants me to go to prom with her, and even has a spare dress she’s letting me borrow for it. She has multiple ideas on everything she can do to make me feel like a girl.

That’s all, I just wanna say how happy I am that she’s here for me

I’m in absolute shock right now and I just need some support or kind words, because I have no one in real life I can talk to about this. I live with my conservative parents, and today, my absolute worst nightmare happened. They found my stash.

​They threw absolutely everything away. Every single thing. My skirts, dresses, crop tops, all my lingerie, my makeup, my epilator, and my personal toys. Everything is sitting in the garbage.

​For years, I struggled with the internal "purge cycle" out of shame, but I had finally stopped. I was finally accepting myself, building my wardrobe, and finding some actual emotional stability. Those weren't just objects or clothes to me; they were my lifeline. They were the only things that made me feel like the woman I actually am when the door was closed.

​Now, my entire identity has been thrown in the trash. I feel so violently violated, exposed, and completely empty. It took me so much time, money, and emotional energy to gather those things in secret.

​I feel physically sick. Has anyone else survived this kind of forced purge from their family? How do you even wake up the next day, walk out of your room, and look them in the eye? I just really need to know I'm not alone right now because I feel completely broken.

I wish there was media which I could atcually enjoy trans charecters. Theres like no main charecter that is trans, like none. I mean I think squid games had one, but squid games, just dosent intrest me. I think theres like maybe 1 more trans charceter I know, again from another series I havent watched. But like theres almost no trans representation out there. and if there is it's either "beautiful corn star with double d's and skinner then a twig." or "Ugly man with a bear who's fat." No inbetween. No wonder so many cis people dont see us as human. They only really see us on one app (you know which one). oh god forbid you head cannon a character as trans. the entire fandom will be like "im not transphobic, but she is fem. she dosent look like a 900 pound truck. Maybe she's just nice to the trans ." Like god dammit. Or if you in a anmie fandom it's always "He's probaly a femboy." God I wish I could have ANYTHING at this point. No trans yuri where a trans women is a main character and falls in love. No anime where a trans women is a main character. No tv show or movie that I like where a main character is trans (Theres onlu like 2 of those)

I never thought I would and I still don't believe it. People I have told I was trans are surprised. I never get misgendered and I don't get any weird looks. But when I look in the mirror, I look like a dude. It's so wild to me that people don't assume I am trans.

How long did it take for you to finally see what other people see?

NSFW obviously and also yes im being serious

So I've heard that Estrogen can shrink your penis (If you dont take precautions to make sure that doesnt happen)

I was wondering, if i already have a small penis, will it still shrink? Im fine with my size but I genuinely dont see how it could get smaller

For about a year now, an uncle on my mother's side has stopped calling me by my name and started calling me by my deadname again. Before, when he said my name, it was always in a mocking tone, but since he was one of the few members of my family who called me by my new name, I accepted it. I tried to confront him about it, but the problem is that my uncle is a very violent person; even my mother lives in fear of making him angry. So I don't know what to do in this situation.

Me (mtf) and my husband (ftm) moved to our new home, it’s an apartment in a small condominium. We are living here with almost no contact with our “previous lives”

Some persons we have s lot of contact are the doormen (not sure this is the best term, not native English speaker). We got our dog, who was still living with my parents while we were settling things up, and I had to carry several things, which one of the doormen said “Hey miss, do you need help?”, I don’t like refusing help so I accepted

I thanked him and we split up. Then I started talking to my husband “They are so nice, right? They help us with these things all the time”

My husband looked at me with a face like this “😑”. Then it clicked, I asked “They offer to help you as well, right? They helped me several times already”. He said “Obviously not! Sometimes I’m carrying a LOT of things and they just keep looking, sometimes they ‘thumbs up’ to me”

This moment I understood, it’s not that we have nice people as doormen (I mean, they are, I think), but they read me as the correct gender and are more willing to assist me. This experience is just too funny to me, my husband is having a harder time tho, but he is happy that they are reading him correctly as well, he is carrying a lot of weight, but he is “one of the guys, and he doesn’t need help”.

We are living the best moment of our lives 🤭

Hi! my name is Ashley, and i’m 5 months on estrogen.

lately i’ve been struggling with dysphoria very heavily. as much as i try to pass, i find that i still look like a man and it feels soul crushing.

even tho my levels are good, the fact that im 21 makes me feel like my age has somehow stunted how effective estradiol acts on my body. i compare myself sometimes to transwomen who are 5 months in too and i can’t help but think that they’re a lot more feminine than i am and that estrogen for me hasn’t been super effective.

im trying to remain hopeful for the future but admittedly i think ive hit a low point and i just wanted to reach out to see if any of yall have experienced the same thing and had any advice.

ty for taking the time to read this<3

So already I’m having a hard time believing I’m actually trans because my mom caught me dressing fem and all and told me it was a fetish and wrong, and then I just made a post here last night that said when watching porn the feelings of wanting to be a girl are strong. WICH I ALSO get outside of porn. When ever I see a beautiful woman I just think to my self I want to be her. Have her body. Look like her. Dress like her. And this is how I think a lot when I see beautiful women. And when I dress feminine I like it a lot. But when my mom told me it was a fetish and wrong then I kind of felt disgusted or wrong wearing it. So that doesn’t help. But then last night my post I made got removed and I was told no fetish or chasers. And now I feel really worse

What I said, so I just wanted to post it somewhere, if anyone has question or just wanna be happy for me, feel free