Can we please stop sexualizing our sisters?
Really a vent but posting as sex talk since well, this deals with sex.
Far too often in social spaces I see trans women perpetuating misogyny against other women and treating us as sexual objects. Be it an older (out longer) trans woman and a younger (newly out) trans woman in a ... dubious relationship, or a trans woman (usually in. polycule) who treats every social interaction like it's an opportunity to get in someones pants, we really, as a community need to do better. Both to put up boundaries and to act with grace and maturity.
I say this with the experience of running several social groups in my homecity for trans women and my own personal observations. While the majority of people are chill, there is a loud minority who give a bad rap to these intentional community spaces.
Stop trying to sleep with your friends. Friendship as trans women is SOOOOO vitally important. Friendship can't really exist though when there is expectation of sexual favors and unwanted flirtation. We need each other now more than ever but it seems like women who came out post COVID are under the impression that sex is our social currency. It's not.
I feel like a lot of it is allowed to happen because 1. many people feel like they must accept this as a part of community because they otherwise won't make friends, 2. this may be the only way they'll be deserving of love, 3. they don't and they retreat from community and lose out on real friendships with other trans women.
From a community leader perspective, I've seen first hand people stop coming because they're looking for platonic connections at a platonic event but they get sexually harassed or propositioned or met with the assumption that because they're also a trans woman they're also a lesbian.
We need to have a serious conversation about consent as a larger community.
This is kinda disjointed but I needed to put this out into the universe. Have you noticed anything similar in your community or am I just a crazy prude?