r/Healthyhooha

y'all i am struggling.

got labiaplasty done for asymmetry 9 days ago and honestly i thought i'd be turning a corner by now?? NOPE. peeing still burns like hell, sitting for more than 20 min is a nightmare, and i made the mistake of walking around target yesterday — almost cried in the candle aisle lol.

the swelling is giving alien. like i cannot even picture what this is supposed to look like when it's healed bc right now it's just… a mess down there.

called my surgeon and got hit with the classic "everyone heals differently" ok great thanks bestie very helpful 🙃

i'm literally doing EVERYTHING — sitz baths, icing, loose grandma panties, meds on schedule. but i'm lowkey starting to spiral.

anyone who's been through this:

is day 9 pain still in the normal range or should i be worried??

when did the swelling actually chill out for you?

pls tell me you also had the "omg i ruined myself" panic phase

i love this sub bc where else am i gonna ask this 😅 my coworkers think i had a "minor procedure" and i'd like to keep it that way lmaooo

The other day after I had an orgasm, I got curious and tasted myself..it was definitely interesting, kind of remind me of mucas in flavor and texture, it was slimy bit salty. Definitely an interesting experience. Didn't hate it but yeah lmao now I know what people will experience when going down on me

I just passed my 3 year anniversary of being diagnosed with genital HSV1. For those unfamiliar, HSV1 is the virus that typically causes cold sores on the mouth. I received it on my genitals from oral sex from someone who did not have an active cold sore. I did not even know that was possible until it happened to me.

As a young woman in their 20s that diagnosis was genuinely one of the hardest things I have ever experienced. I was absolutely in shock. In my friend group I was always the most careful one when it came to sex — got tested regularly, asked partners about their status consistently — it felt so, so unfair because all my girlfriends were having random one night stands unprotected and yet I was the one who ended up with herpes.

Over time things got easier. I haven’t been rejected for disclosing. But still, I feel like I can never have sex like a normal person again. I am constantly in fear of transmitting. Any slight itch or irritation down there and I immediately think it’s an outbreak. I have spent hundreds of dollars going to urgent care getting things swabbed and all have come back negative after my first outbreak. I get so nervous because I read about people having outbreaks that don’t itch and are barely noticeable. How am I ever supposed to keep a partner safe if I could have an outbreak and not know it? I’m currently going through some other dermatological issues down there (possible lichen sclerosis, seeing a doctor in June) and unfortunately the symptoms are similar to how some people describe mild outbreaks. I don’t think I’ll ever be able to fully relax and enjoy sex because I’m so anxious about transmission.

It’s gotten to the point where I have totally stopped dating because I just can’t deal with the anxiety of disclosing, possibly being rejected, or worst of all - transmitting to someone else. It just feels so unfair. I am beautiful, smart, have a great job, and lots of friends. But why would someone choose to be with me if they could get herpes from me?? I know that logic is flawed considering so many people have it, but at the same time it’s a highly stigmatized condition.

I need support and encouragement from other women who have HSV. How do you know if you’re having an outbreak? Have you ever transmitted? How did you get over the mental block?

probably a silly question but I genuinely couldn't tell 💀 i was masturbating yesterday and I felt a sensation like I had to pee and something came out of me 🤷‍♀️ lol it happened a few times in short bursts so I was assuming that was just squirting but I know in some of the adult videos I watch, when a girl squirts it looks like it comes out like a water fountain lol. so I genuinely cant tell if I just peed on myself or not 😶

So as the title says over the weekend I lost my virginity to my long time bf, it was also his first time. For reference he about 6.5 inches and like 4.5 inches circumference. He is obviously the first person I have been with and also I don't really use toys so I didn't have any real reference for size if this is big or not.

It was so painful when we tried. He worse what is supposed to be a thin condom that is good for heat transfer and we used lots of water based lubes. We tried missionary, cowgirl and reverse cowgirl, spooning, doggy but didn't get very far in any position. It hurt so bad near my entrance that I couldn't enjoy it at all or feel anything else, it took hours of slow persistence and I managed to take most of it.

I let him go at it properly so he could finsh even though it hurt very badly and when he did that it also hurt deeper inside, where ever he was hitting at the back and also when it dragged along my walls inside it didn't feel good at all.

We tried again the next day in case it would be better but it was even worse and I made him stop basically right away.

I waited two days after that and it wasn't quite as bad but still very painful to where I made him quickly stop.

I don't understand why my body won't just work. Everything online says that it shouldn't be this way and no matter what breathing exercises I did to relax my pelvic floor or how much foreplay we did and lube we used it just didn't make it better.

It made me feel so awful, even though my boyfriend has been so sweet and careful and helpful about it. I got so overwhelmed and emotional about it that I cried while we were both undressed still.

I would really appreciate hearing from others who have had similar experiences and might know how to overcome this.

I will be speaking to my doctor to find a solution as well, as soon as I can book in my next appointment.

until then I will stay away from penetrative sex to be careful and not risk hurting myself.

I’m sorry if this post is poorly write en but right now it feels. Like. Horrible, wouldn’t worst this on my worst enemy. Itchy on the inside and it’s that deep itch that you can’t get without digging your nails into the area so I can’t even get it because I don’t want it to look like Freddy Kruger and I had a fun night. It’s so like. Aware. Usually you’re not always aware of your coochie, like you know it’s there but it’s not as aware. This is. It’s itchy and prominent, and lowkey feels like I’m halfway laying an egg but there’s no egg. It alway feels pretty raw. Remember this is all on the INSIDE.

There’s some discharge, very light, almost clear I’d say, but it isn’t a ton, and isn’t clumpy. I’ve had yeast infections and this isn’t like that. I’m literally gonna go crazy the only half second I feel relief is when sitting down super hard and thus putting pressure on it. My dumbass tried to masterbate yesterday and it lowkuinely hurt. It doesn’t ever hurt, it hasn’t ever hurt before. WHATS WRONGGG I NEED THIS GONE IM GONNA GO CRAZY IF I HAVE TO GO TWO MORE DAYS FEELING ITCHY AND AWARE AND NOT BEJNG ABLE TO TAKE CZRE OF MY BUSINESS. AHHHHH

HELP!

Is it normal to go to the dermatologist for vaginal issues?

I’ve been to the gynecologist multiple times and it seems like the problem I’m having is on the outside.

I think it could be eczema or contact dermatitis.

Or I’m dry/skin is thin because I keep tearing during sex I have tried everything using uberlube right now. It’s helping. But the stinging after sex is horrible I feel it more on the back of my whole closer to my butt.

Since November, when I started dating my boyfriend, I’ve been dealing with recurring swelling episodes in my labia. At first, the swelling was only on one side, but after about three occurrences, it started affecting both sides.

Each time this has happened, I’ve been prescribed antibiotics. Now I’m currently on a 90-day course of antibiotics to try to reduce infection, but it feels like my doctors aren’t entirely sure what’s causing the issue and are hoping this will help.

I’m still experiencing stinging and significant pain after sex. My doctors have said I may be getting micro-tears. At one point, I thought it could be from accidentally cutting my labia while shaving (I have longer labia), but the symptoms have continued even after that healed.

I was also tested for a yeast infection while on antibiotics, and they found yeast externally. I used a cream for that and have a follow-up appointment to see if it’s resolved. However, I don’t think that’s the root cause, since I didn’t have a yeast infection when these symptoms first started.

At this point, I feel stuck and unsure of what’s actually causing these ongoing symptoms.

I take oral birth control

Don’t use condoms

23 years old

Use free and clear detergent

Wear cotton underwear

Use dove soap and lightly

Use uberlube

On 90 day antibiotics

Im only 19 and tested positive for hpv16 through PCR testing. Im so so so depressed bc of this, this is literally ruining my life. Im scared for all the type of cancers it causes for me and my boyfriend. I can't do this anymore.

Last year I had a pcr vaginal swab done. The results came back with 98.039% of enterococcus faecalis, 0.98% of E. coli, and 0.98% of Lactobillus crispatus. I was treated for the Enterococcus it was aerobic vaginitis. Never got another swab between this swab I had last year and the one I just got. So don’t know if enterococcus was ever really gone from my vagina. It would make its way into my urinary tract causing UTI’s as well.

This year, I had another pcr vaginal swab done. The results came back with 49.998% enterococcus faecalis, 49.998% Atopobium vaginae (BV associated bacteria), and 0.005% of Ureaplasma Urealyticum. I am also 17 weeks pregnant. And within this swab we see I have 0 good bacteria left.

I was worried because I did a lot of research and was seeing Ureaplasma could be sexually transmitted and me being pregnant just started to freak out terrified if he cheated- since I didn’t have it last year, but this year I have it. I really can’t ever imagine him cheating, he’s open with his whereabouts and I have his location, he’s super open with his phone, etc.

I met with my doctor today about the results, and she clarified the BV bacteria isn’t sexually transmitted, neither the enterococcus. She said Ureaplasma is not considered an STI because most women (around 80%) have this bacteria with no issues. She said it can be a normal part of someone’s biome. She said it’s found in women not even sexually active. I told her I was upset because I didn’t have it last year, and she said my number was so so small at .005 percent that she’s not even sure how the lab detected that and she said it’s possible I had it last year but it may have gone undetected. She was saying she doesn’t want me to concentrate on that. She wants to try to not treat any of the bacteria’s at the moment and wants me to restore my good bacteria by taking probiotics first. She thinks too many medications will kill both the bad and good bacteria and wants to try this method first. She said if we end up wanting to treat ureaplasma she will treat both of us.

What I want to understand, is what do you guys think of this? Is Ureaplasma something I could have had in even tinier amounts and it went undetected? Could the bv have made it double in number becoming detectable? If I didn’t have it last year truly at all could my husband have had it and I just didn’t get it yet because of my own biome? Could I have had it before the first test, then it went away, then came back for the second test? I understand this bacteria is treated differently than STD’s. I just want to put my mind at rest.

I think I wouldn’t have been upset about this had I not had the test last year, but having it last year and it differing this year just put another load on me and I’ve been sick over it. On top of pregnancy.

Someone try to give some input, any input is good- I want to feel better it’s taking a mental toll on me. I also have relationship OCD which makes everything a million times worse. Thank you.

So I decided to take an at home vaginal PH test because I’ve been noticing an off odour down there, not fishy or yeasty, but just significantly more strong than usual. According to the instructions a normal PH should be 4.5 and the swab test should be a yellow colour, as soon as I rubbed the cotton tip onto the test strip it turned dark purple which indicates a PH of 7.5. The test says to consult a doctor if this is the case.

Does this mean there’s an infection? I’m a bit of a newbie when it comes to this stuff, I don’t have a routine gynaecologist so could I just go to my normal family doctor instead? Also, could boric acid suppositories help?

I started dating ex boyfriend around three years ago and just a few months in I started experiencing odd issues with my vagina. Sex would be extremely painful and it would literally tear down the opening of my vagina sometimes. After sex the opening would be a little irritated and swollen and red. But I couldn’t even pee without any discomfort. I had tiny little micro cuts all around the vagina for no reason and went to several gynos and it was clear I was having recurring yeast infections. I took fluconazole tablets and even went in a 6-month treatment of using it every three days and the symptoms went away. I used a variety of different meds and creams but it really affected my sex life with my partner and we could only have sex once a week, if that. the last time we had sex my vagina was extremely swollen and read. It felt hard almost and I could feel it when I walked. It went away just a day or two later but I'm not sure what it was. We've broken up since but the problems persist. Recently, I've been having extremely liquid-y discharge that has a strong fishy odor. It will just flow out randomly throughout the day in excessive amounts. But my concern comes from the thick and big white/ light yellow clumps that will come out of my vagina (which I think are clumps of yeast). I'll usually swab it and clean it out every day or so with a q-tip or a napkin but it's been bothering me a lot. I was sexually active the other day and SO many of these clumps had come out on me and him, it was so embarassing and I don't know what to do. Even when I'm not sexually active for weeks or months it still seems to happen. I can't see a doctor currently or for a while but has anyone shared these experiences? What can I do to prevent this and what can I take to combat these issues? I've become desperate and feel completely helpless.

I’ve just lost my v card not long ago to my bf. After that we had sex a couple times. The last time was like 4 months ago because my labia minora swelled up pretty bad.

We had sex but I wasn’t as wet as normal, so well it was kinda harsh. I felt a little pain after so I looked in the mirror and one side of my lip was swollen and red. I couldn’t sit or walk normally.

I iced it, washed it etc and it kinda went down but when I became a little horny it swelled up again.. I couldn’t even touch it. It kinda went like that for a little while, it swelled up then went down a little and swelled up again.

It only went fully down after a month!! But now I’m really scared to have sex again. I’m scared it will swell up again or something and I don’t know what I would do…

Hey I recently missed my period , I’m about a week late now.. I’ve been having this lotion like discharge & been more “wet” than usual. No itchiness or foul order. The color is white I also noticed i’ve been way more sleepy than usual like I wake up then be right back asleep & can barely get out of bed. I literally slept like full day yesterday. A little nauseous but no throwing up. help plss

Hi, I tried hormonal birth control starting in February of last year, cue 8 months of constant bv and yeast battles and pain on penetration before I figured out it was all due to the birth control messing up my hormones and my vaginas fluids. I stopped birth control in September of last year and other than occasionally getting the bv smell have been bv and yeast infections free (until 2 weeks ago when I got a UTI and antibiotics gave me a yeast infection (I tested negative for yeast infection but a fluconozole pill made the swelling and itchiness go away so I think it tested too early? I'm retesting for the uti and bv/yeast in 4 days to confirm I cleared everything) but that's beside the point) I still couldn't have penetration due to pain until 6 months after stopping bc. Around the 6 months mark things got to a point where I can have penetrative sex but it feels like the tissues get fatigued and uncomfortable fairly quickly and things still aren't back to normal/fully pain free . It's been 7 months. I got a hormone panel done and haven't seen my Dr to discuss the results yet but I'm wondering what my options are if my estrogen is still low.

Will it continue to stabilize post bc? How long could that take/should I wait before I consider supplemental estrogen like a topical cream? Are there vitamins, probiotics, foods etc I could add to my diet to help boost estrogen naturally? Has anyone else gone through bc wrecking their sexual health and recovered and have advice or experience to share?

So kinda embarrassing but I was bored a couple days ago and got distracted while scratching my self down there. When I noticed how long I was doing it for I stopped, but now I have this rash? It’s on the side, and burns whenever pee gets on it or I wipe and will not go away. I’m staring to get a worried.

Any ideas to help?

Hi this is really embarrassing but I need some advice? I had a uti, which in result the meds gave me a yeast infection. I’m abt 2 1/2 weeks past taking two Diflucan, but now I’m experiencing white discharge and it not clumpy but like.. flaky?.. it’s almost.. squishy? And smells like potato? I went and got checked again and I tested negative for yeast (along with negative to BV, gonorrhea, and chlamydia) I’m not really experiencing burning? But I am inflamed

I just want to know, is this normal cleaning my vagina is doing? I had a back to back uti, yeast infection and then period. Is she just super angry? HELP I’m so embarrassed

Hi, this is incredibly embarrassing but I'm at my wits end. my area has been having issues for years about probably 3 years ago if not 4 I have been dribbling urine, doesn't matter what I'm doing. Bending down, sneezing (especially sneezing), just sitting there, my underwear is always damp and of course it smells too recently within the last 6 months i have consistently getting what i believe are cyts, they take forever to pop and are mostly clear liquid and blood rather than puss. I can't live like this anymore, its ruined my clothes, seats smell, and its embarrassing, i have to wait about 2 more month to get some stuff paid off to use the insurance before i can even think to see a doctor so I'm just looking on here for a clue before I am able to go.

I’ve been dealing with irritation down there for over a month now. I’ve been treated for bv and yeast only once tho. I have these white clumps in my pee sometimes and white sediment. My sister also gets this tho so idk. I have my pee tested multiple times. On top of it, I had to switch insurances but it’s taking 3 months to go into effect so rn I’m paying everything out of pocket and I’m running out of money. The tests and the visits are so expensive. Now I’m running into the issue of what this is going to do to my relationship. We went from having a lot of sex to not being able to bc of my vaginal issues. He’s been reassuring me and telling me I’m a good girlfriend, etc. but it’s still bugging me. I’m so scared he’s going to leave me it’s all I think about. I try to be the best girlfriend I can and I feel so bad we cant have sex rn. I know this stems from previous relationships where I was left bc I was scared to have sex. I just feel so defeated rn. Any kind words or slaps of reality would be appreciated thank you.

Hi guys i’m a 20(f) i found out i had bv back in the beginning of march and i got the medicine for it (7 day metro) i finished it and i still had the uti symptoms of the bv (burning urination & the feeling of having to pee after i just did) i also tested negative for all sti’s & uti. Anybody have any advice on how i can fix this or what it could possibly be ??

So basically I have kidney stone. Just found out. Its been giving me nausea and mild pain around my sides. Thats about it. Roght now its just sitring on my left kidney its just one. I also found out I have bacterial vaginosis. And I have to take metronidazole 500mg I was wondering if there's an overlap between the two. If anyone knows or might have an experience so I can be mentally prepepared. :D