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I’ve just lost my v card not long ago to my bf. After that we had sex a couple times. The last time was like 4 months ago because my labia minora swelled up pretty bad.

We had sex but I wasn’t as wet as normal, so well it was kinda harsh. I felt a little pain after so I looked in the mirror and one side of my lip was swollen and red. I couldn’t sit or walk normally.

I iced it, washed it etc and it kinda went down but when I became a little horny it swelled up again.. I couldn’t even touch it. It kinda went like that for a little while, it swelled up then went down a little and swelled up again.

It only went fully down after a month!! But now I’m really scared to have sex again. I’m scared it will swell up again or something and I don’t know what I would do…

I suffer from really bad period cramps. I’ve always had bad periods but over the last few months it’s only gotten worse. I fall asleep for hours because my body can’t take it. I burned my belly before (on accident) I didn’t even feel the heat, so bad were my cramps. I used to take pills like Aleve to relieve pain but they don’t work anymore.

The cramps aren’t just when I’m on my period. I have cramps daily. Like when I wake up or right before I need to do number 2. I also noticed that my stool isn’t normal. It’s foamy, slimy, very very dark or very light of color. Sometimes it’s green? It changes every day, it’s mostly like this on my period but now it is also effecting my daily life.

I went to the doctors, they made an appointment with a gynecologist because they said I might have endometriosis, but turns out I don’t. Both my doctor and gynecologist said to use birth control. So now, I am desperate.

I actually don’t want to take birth control because it has so many side effects. But can someone please tell me if it will help me with period cramps?