u/Beep_BoopTheJetPlane

So as the title says over the weekend I lost my virginity, it was also his first time. For reference he about 6.5 inches and like 4.5 inches circumference. He is obviously the first person I have been with and also I don't really use toys so it is a pretty new experience.

It was so painful when we tried. He wore what is supposed to be a thin condom that is good for heat transfer and we used lots of water based lube. We tried various things but didn't get very far in any position. It hurt so bad near my entrance that I couldn't enjoy it at all or feel anything else, it took hours of slow persistence before I could make any progress but even still the pain was still there.

It also hurt deeper inside, where ever he was hitting at the back and also when it dragged along my walls inside. It felt okay in some ways but mostly the pain was all I felt.

We tried again the next day in case it would be better but it was even worse and I had stop stop basically right away.

I waited two days after that and it wasn't quite as bad but still very painful to where I had to quickly stop.

I don't understand why my body won't just work. Everything online says that it shouldn't be this bad and no matter what breathing exercises I did to relax my pelvic floor or how much foreplay we did and lube we used it just didn't make it better.

I would really appreciate hearing from others who have had similar experiences and might know how to overcome this.

I will be speaking to my doctor to find a solution as well, as soon as I can book in my next appointment.

Until then I will stay away from penetrative sex to be careful and not risk hurting myself.

So as the title says over the weekend I lost my virginity to my long time bf, it was also his first time. For reference he about 6.5 inches and like 4.5 inches circumference. He is obviously the first person I have been with and also I don't really use toys so I didn't have any real reference for size if this is big or not.

It was so painful when we tried. He worse what is supposed to be a thin condom that is good for heat transfer and we used lots of water based lubes. We tried missionary, cowgirl and reverse cowgirl, spooning, doggy but didn't get very far in any position. It hurt so bad near my entrance that I couldn't enjoy it at all or feel anything else, it took hours of slow persistence and I managed to take most of it.

I let him go at it properly so he could finsh even though it hurt very badly and when he did that it also hurt deeper inside, where ever he was hitting at the back and also when it dragged along my walls inside it didn't feel good at all.

We tried again the next day in case it would be better but it was even worse and I made him stop basically right away.

I waited two days after that and it wasn't quite as bad but still very painful to where I made him quickly stop.

I don't understand why my body won't just work. Everything online says that it shouldn't be this way and no matter what breathing exercises I did to relax my pelvic floor or how much foreplay we did and lube we used it just didn't make it better.

It made me feel so awful, even though my boyfriend has been so sweet and careful and helpful about it. I got so overwhelmed and emotional about it that I cried while we were both undressed still.

I would really appreciate hearing from others who have had similar experiences and might know how to overcome this.

I will be speaking to my doctor to find a solution as well, as soon as I can book in my next appointment.

until then I will stay away from penetrative sex to be careful and not risk hurting myself.

So as the title says over the weekend I lost my virginity to my long time bf, it was also his first time. For reference he about 6.5 inches and like 4.5 inches circumference. He is obviously the first person I have been with and also I don't really use toys so I didn't have any real reference for size if this is big or not.

It was so painful when we tried. He worse what is supposed to be a thin condom that is good for heat transfer and we used lots of water based lubes. We tried missionary, cowgirl and reverse cowgirl, spooning, doggy but didn't get very far in any position. It hurt so bad near my entrance that I couldn't enjoy it at all or feel anything else, it took hours of slow persistence and I managed to take most of it.

I let him go at it properly so he could finsh even though it hurt very badly and when he did that it also hurt deeper inside, where ever he was hitting at the back and also when it dragged along my walls inside it didn't feel good at all.

We tried again the next day in case it would be better but it was even worse and I made him stop basically right away.

I waited two days after that and it wasn't quite as bad but still very painful to where I made him quickly stop.

I don't understand why my body won't just work. Everything online says that it shouldn't be this way and no matter what breathing exercises I did to relax my pelvic floor or how much foreplay we did and lube we used it just didn't make it better.

It made me feel so awful, even though my boyfriend has been so sweet and careful and helpful about it. I got so overwhelmed and emotional about it that I cried while we were both undressed still.

I would really appreciate hearing from others who have had similar experiences and might know how to overcome this.

I will be speaking to my doctor to find a solution as well, as soon as I can book in my next appointment.

until then I will stay away from penetrative sex to be careful and not risk hurting myself.