r/AskTeenAdvice

I (17f) am in 12th and my future is not looking bright. I don't think my dad can afford my college fees so I'll prob have to stay home for a year or 2 or worse he'll send me to a local college. And I can't get any scholarships or whatever because im not a bright student. I really really really don't want to stay here any longer, I hate this place and also my home situation is not that good. I don't think I can survive living with them any longer.

Is there something I can do to avoid this, I'm thinking about getting a job in college, any job will do I just need the money.

Hey everyone! First thing first i wanted to apologise for my bad title, and also for my bad English. Also, this is kind of a vent for me as i kept it bottled up for a long long long time

So... I'm in grade twelve, graduating soon. And there's this girl I've known for 10 years and liked for at least 5 (i know, I'm kind of a loser). She's a "friend" of mine... I think? I'll try to explain, sorry if it comes out weird

She's in my class, and as I've said earlier, I've known her for years now and i got to grow up with her. I know she was a lesbian four years ago but now she likes boys and she's single. We always talked, and we had times where we talked everyday (those were the times i crushed hard on her, and after a while it eased but it never fully vanished). At the start of last year (25) we had a pretty big school trip where me and her talked a lot, set beside each other on bus trips and i felt like something really happened between us. She started hugging me and touching me (not in weird ways, but like putting her arm on me and stuff like that) and taking my hoodies, but a friend of mine told me she wasn't interested and i also flew for a month so things just... Cooled down. Throughout the year we talked a lot and she continued to do that stuff but i decided that those aren't signs and i don't want to take that risk.

This year started the same, we had a school trip where we talked a lot, and i got my license so i started giving her a ride to school almost everyday and i felt it was great, but i had a lot on my mind and i missed a lot of school, and it got to a point where i came once a week. When i got better, almost two months had passed and i felt really distant from her (and everyone else but that's not the point)

After a month or two we had another school trip, in which we almost didn't talk at all and she talked to some dude (an ok person, that is ashamed of being friends with me and her because we are nerds). At a party sometime later she confirmed she was still single

So i didn't talk to her almost at all for another two months, because a wat broke out. And when we got back to school (last week), suddenly she talked to me a lot, leaned on me, talked about doing things together and even called me (she never calls anyone) a few times to talk. But... As of yesterday, she just kinda stopped talking again, and in an instant we became this distant -close friends again. She also rejected plans that we sort of made (might have a real reason, maybe not)

Now, I'm lost, she's sometimes nice, sometimes distant, she teases me and takes my things (in a playful way) and sits next to me, but she won't follow me back on Instagram (i told her about this once, she said she will do it right away but she didn't, maybe she forgot, but im not gonna beg for it), and it messes me up so much that it started effecting my personal life

So... Any kind of feedback or your thoughts about the situation would do wonders, thanks!

I want to clarify two things: i know her, she's a good person. She talked about being suck at reading signals, and even if she knew I'm 99.999% sure she wouldn't play me

Second thing, I recently discovered that I'm autistic, and even though I'm not that much on the spectrum and I'm fully functioning and everything, reading people is not my cup of tea, i might've misunderstood everything

And another thing before tldr: i know that some of you are gonna tell me "if you're not sure she likes you then she doesn't" or "it should be easy to know" or something like that, but i just can't "forget" her, I suck (in the specific case) and i know it, but i just can't get over it for some reason

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Im not sure how to feel about this girl (yes another one of those posts)

I, 16M, have a friend who’s also 16M and he’s developing a crush on a girl who’s 14 right now. He said she turns 15 in June and he doesn’t turn 17 until around December, but I can’t shake the feeling that the gap is honestly a bit too wide or she’s too young. I can’t tell if it just seems wrong or it’s personal preference or anything, but he seems set on liking her and wanting to date, honestly. Is it weird or am I just used to less age gaps? In depth opinions would be helpful.

Hey, so me (F20) have been together with my boyfriend (M20) for 5 months now. The way we met was on this troll Discord server, and I kinda just liked him. I found out we live in the same country and state, so we scheduled to meet, and we’ve been seeing each other every week and hanging out and stuff.

He’s been really sweet to me. He’s kinda freaky, but I never really questioned it because I used to be the freaky one in my past relationships. Anyways, I joined the troll server again because I wanted some advice. My boyfriend went to a party with girls, and he didn’t want to call or let me hear his voice after he came back. He says he doesn’t drink, but he was texting weird and just overall didn’t want to talk.

So I asked these two girls, and they asked me what his name was in case they knew him. I said his name, and they told me he was known for being a really weird like, very sexual. He had his dick as his profile picture, was touching himself on call with a girl, and after she didn’t want to be sexual with him, he cussed her out and called her all types of things. I also found out this happened before we got together.

I texted him that we were done right after that because that’s hella weird to me. But he told me he hasn’t texted anybody since we got together, and every time I check his phone, it’s always clear. I don’t know I just feel like dating somebody with a past like that is weird. Like, if he’s like that, how is he when he isn’t with me and is around other girls?

I don’t know. Sorry, I know this is super long, but I’ve just been thinking about this for like 4 hours now.

Ok so I’m 14 and I dated this guy last year in 7th grade and he and I like said we where each others life but it ended up going south and he told everybody I cheated even though I didn’t and it started this whole thing I lost a lot of friends, people where talking and taking sides it was a mess. So this year in 8th grade i decided no boys or nothing but about last month jays best friend lets call him Alex, texted me. He just said hi but mind you we haven’t like texted since sixth grade when we were friends. Anyway fast forward a couple weeks to present day and we’ve been talking and stuff and I think I like him I just don’t know bc he’s known to cheat on every girl he gets with, but people have told me that this is the longest he’s ever tried to get with someone and he’s never told anyone he’s loved them and he told me he loved me… sooooo idk what to dooo!!!

I m in love with a girl from my school days ,we used to be friends and everytime in school funtion we would be dance partners.and i once confessed her she politely told "it's 10th std ,focus on studies", she blocked me in snapchat ,we lost contact for more than 2years.Then I completed my 10th and came to another city for 11th and 12th.

On the day of 12th std result ,she opened her first instagram account.

And for some time I thought ,then I decided to send her request. She accepted within 4 hrs. Now I texted her lightly but she gave dry replies. And all my friends are saying me that "don't you have self respect" bcoz even she blocked me on snapchat. But I m totally in love with her.

Now I am texting her but she's giving dry replies.

Summary:What should I do, I am confused what to do but I am crazily in love with her.

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So I, 14m, got asked out by a friend, 12m, and am wondering other peoples thoughts on that age gap and if it seems wrong or not, because i feel a little uncomfortable with it, but that may just be my past trauma influencing me.

okay this whole story would take hours so ill try sum it up

Basically, I started babysitting for this lady in september 2024 but when I started, she wasn't paying me, I maybe got 20 dollars a month (in total i probably got 450 for the months sep-july) maybe even longer

we are on a program that i'm pretty sure is ending soon, and she said that she might have to start paying me out of pocket which I don't want to happen because she bragged about free babysitting , behind my back to my sister's coworkers , (they work together) i get paid once a month at the most 400$ i work from 8:45am - 3:00-4:30pm

i also LIVE with her which makes this situation 100x harder because now i feel like shes feels obligated to my time because im home 24/7

TL;DR

i got ripped off in 2024/25 and dont wanna get used anymore and im not sure how to tell her i hate my job and dont wanna babysit ever again till the day that i die

for context, i’m 18f turning 19 who come from a low-income immigrant household of a single mother. i’m currently enrolled in my local community college.

growing up, i’ve lived with multiple families. up to grade 2, i’ve lived with my aunts in my dad’s home country. due to my visa’s expiration, i had to leave back to canada and lived in my dad’s house with my other half-siblings and cousins. i started grade 3 having to learn english and adapt to the new school system. i’ve always struggled with studying but was never disciplined and held accountable for my poor grades (im not blaming anyone but myself). my dad wasn’t around so my cousin took over as my guardian. i graduated elementary school during covid and didn’t receive good grades, mostly developings.

my mom at this time was keen on taking me back as soon as she took out a mortgage for an apartment. my mom has always struggled financially to make ends meet and my dad never once contributed as a responsible co- parent.

so from here i started high school in a new city. my bad habits started forming in sophomore year in my english class. i remember i couldn’t finish an assignment due on that day and i was panicking because usually i hand things on time. so i decided to email my teacher to inform her that i was feeling sick to skip that day.

eventually, without any consequences, i skipped a few more times towards the end of the year by making excuses without getting caught. attendance didn’t affect my grades so i kept doing so to use that time off to study. i had and still, poor time management and every time i do assignments it takes me forever to finish. i would rewrite notes and start over again. the habit started getting worse towards junior and senior year, i started skipping more than i would have liked and this vicious cycle of shame was difficult to break because i felt like i’ve failed my teachers so i kept hiding to self-loath.

eventually, the school admin called my mom one day and broke the news to her that i was absent on one of the days. my mom came home and sat me down, she warned me to never be dishonest and tell her whenever things aren’t going well. my mom always vowed to others that i was her “youngest golden child”, who does well and will one day retire her out of her three children. to protect my grade while i was academically behind, i decided to block my school’s phone number from my mom’s phone. terrible mistake. i kept skipping, my senior year, i’ve completely given up. i couldn’t hand assignments and missed exams on time, so i barely passed my classes. i love my mom and the sacrifices she has done to give me the opportunities she never once had. but i’m a terrible daughter, i’m lazy and dishonest.

every year, my mom would ask for my report card but was never strict on having all straight As. in senior year, she asked me how my grades are looking like, i brushed it off and said i got into my community college and got a conditional offer at a university in term 1. after that, my grades went completely downhill and i knew i was digging my hole deeper and deeper.

currently, i’m taking a gap semester because i do not trust myself to do well in any of my courses. i’m lying to my mom that i’m still taking my courses and things are going fine but that’s far from the truth.

i started semester 1 as a part-time student taking an english and statistics course for nursing prereqs but my cgpa is really low, 2.83.

honestly, i don’t think im well-equipped to do well in nursing school if this is what my habits are looking like as an avoidant.

no one knows that i’m struggling with college level classes. i did went to counselling once in my senior year but he told me to suck it up and study every single day. that wasn’t really helpful but i knew he was right.

this problem stems more from not having a system that works for me. i cannot concentrate well and i put things off every time. i’m trying so hard to keep myself together but i end up falling back to my bad habits of doomscrolling on productivity content.

i fear of telling my mom my entire situation because she suffers with high blood pressure. my siblings as well, if i disclose that i’ve been dishonest then they will never trust me again.

i just feel extremely ungrateful and selfish when it comes to my wrongdoings. i don’t know how to bounce back. i currently have a part-time job but the fees of extra tutoring is too expensive to afford. i genuinely feel like there are huge skills gap for core subjects.

do i ask my old high school teachers for help? they’re already busy with their current students and i honestly feel embarrassed coming back for free tutoring (i’ve ruined my reputation of skipping too much already), so it’ll be disrespectful.

i don’t know what to do. please call me out and give me honest feedback.

Hi! So I started talking to this guy recently at school (I do have a little crush on him BUT I want to work on being friends with him first / see where it goes) the first time we ever talked, we talked for about 2 hours and I exchanged socials with him. We didn't talk too much over text but sometimes I noticed he would leave me on opened (saw my text but didn't respond) but I didn't think too much of it and he did apologise the first time...and sometimes we did actually text well! (I noticed he saved some of my chats) Then one day after school (it was late at night) I asked over text if he wanted to leave school together and walk for a bit and at first he left me opened but then I sent another follow up text and he said he'll go on a walk with me. The walk was SO GOOD!!!! 🥹🥹 AHHHH it was so fun! At the end of the walk, he asked smth along the lines of 'Why did you ask me on a walk, did you mean anything by it?' BRO I wasn't expecting that question at all and I was so taken back and it was the first time being asked a question like that!!! I responded with 'Noooo, we're just friends' but I slightly laughing (awkwardness?) and was really shy. After that moment, I feel like he's been a lot more cold and distant with me / he's avoiding me. Whenever I try to make conversation with him he seems really disengaged and it feels very one sided but idk if he's just tired/stressed of school. Recently I asked over text if he wanted to hang out at any point and he left me on opened. 🤧🤧 I'm not sure what to do, I know it seems slightly obvious that he's uninterested in me but idk for sure and I want to try to make things work and if they don't that's fine but I want to at least try!!! Tbf I feel like it's my slightly my fault due to my response to his question BUT I was just so surprised.

What should I do??? Is it possible that he also liked me too? (I don't think so though) It's been a month since we had that walk

Sorry for the long paragraph 😭, thank you for reading!

I’m 15 m and Idk what to do anymore because I’m just not good at anything and I’m so tired of it, I just want for once to succeed for more than a moment, I’m the worst at everything in my friend group and idk why, and it’s not like I want to stop hanging out with them, they’re good friends and it’s not their fault that whenever we do ANYTHING together, group projects in school, grades, sports, or videogames, I’m always the worst, but it does hurt, I just want to do good, and no matter how much effort I put into anything I’m just never even average, so I just don’t know what to do

I’m an 18f, and my partner is 19M. We’ve been dating since 2023, and he was my first everything. We’ve faced many issues that have deeply affected me. He’s a professional athlete surrounded by people who aren’t good influences. A year ago, these people supposedly encouraged him to flirt with another girl and lied about me, calling me a crazy ex, so his friends could pursue her, but she fell deeply in love with her and it’s a whole story. We’ve been in a long-distance relationship, and when I found out about this, it shattered me. I foolishly forgave him and stayed with him, but now I can’t trust him in anything. Recently, he “accidentally followed” six different women on TikTok, and it’s not the first time. I bring it up and it’s like i’m the crazy person. I’m exhausted, angry, and tired of this situation. What should I do? I love him, truly, but I want to leave and can’t find the strength.

Me (17m) and my bf (17m) have been together since November of last year and have known each other since September of last year. We haven't had any mishaps, arguments or anything of the sort and we've had a really stable relationship. However, recently I have had this feeling of not loving him anymore. Nothing has stimulated this feeling and I simply just felt like that one day. I think it might be because I used to be a snap victim and send my princess parts to many men all at once and I also used to have many people trying to speak to me at once. I have been thinking about going on a break or even going as far as thinking about breaking up. I can't bring myself to do anything at the moment as I don't want to mess anything up between us as I love him for how he is. He has been my everything for the past few months and I do see myself with him in the future but I just simply can't stop my feelings.

I don't know what to do and I hope that some advice from others may help clear my mind and allow me to make a decision on what to do.

Summary:

Mixed feelings for my bf out of the blue probably because I used to get so much attention before getting together with him and know I feel guilty for my feelings and wanting to go on a break/break up.

(i’ll try keep this story short, sorry for my bad english)

im a adult ish teenager, so having unprotected sex is EXTREMELY risky for me. however there are a lot of problems i face with protection so i told my boyfriend to ditch the protection.

does anyone on this subreddit have unprotected sex and is fine? does anyone know if it’s risky? please tell me

Pretty much the title says it all. Due to some drama at my school I was obliged to do a drug test that I am DEFINITELY going to fail… I’m thinking I should tell her before the test results arrive cuz it definitely would be better if she heard from me and not the school.

Idk tho js asking for advice