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I used to use pads when I was a preteen but they always leaked so I switched to tampons. I turned 20 recently and it feels like all the sudden tampons have been worsening my cramps so much and they've stopped working as well as they used to. I tried using a disc/cup and it was super uncomfortable and just not for me, although I'm sure they work great for others. So I'm looking to l use pads again. I need super long pads to avoid leaking and super absorbent because I have a pretty heavy flow. Preferably super sticky so it doesn't slide around/shift/scrunch a lot. Think of damn near an adult diaper. Idk maybe I should use adult diapers lmao 😭. Any recommendations?

If you're looking to go to WGU and deciding whether or not you want to enroll oh my gosh do it! It is amazing. My start date is June 1st and I just had my first call with my mentor. I told her my goals, my background, everything. And she was so supportive! My degree has observation hours and clinicals so it's a little longer than most degrees but my mentor said my goals where very achievable and she would absolutely help and support me through those goals.

Literally as long as you get 4 courses done every six months you're on track. So amazing, very flexible. I told my mentor I would mostly be doing my classes in the afternoon/night and she said that was great. Very flexible and accommodating! Heavily recommend!

And if you don't have the resources you need you can sign up for a scholarship and they will absolutely help you.

Currently planning on a novel about the political and moral implications that would arise during the beginning of a zombie apocalypse.

Just having trouble on coming up with a name for the Zombie virus. It's a prion disease, but I don't want it to be obvious it's a prion disease and I kinda want it shrouded in mystery for the first act. Preferably something catchy similar to COVID or hantavirus. I thought about naming it Kessler Syndrome because prion disease affects the brain similar to what would happen if the space Kessler syndrome happened (a chain reaction to where debris builds up and collides, causing more debris which would make it impossible for space flight and satellites to go to space. Similar to how the prions can trigger a chain reaction of proteins to misfold until the point of no return which affects how the brain sends signals to the rest of the body) but I think that's a little on the nose? Or is it? Im not sure.

I think most Christians would agree with me that we are taught that we are all born in equality. No matter if you are women, man, black, white, hispanic, asian, gay, straight, etc. As Christian's we are taught to love everyone and that we are all equal.

The issue is is that in the 14th, 15th, 16th, 17th, 18th, 19th, and 20th century many people used "Christianity" as an excuse to be racist, homophobic, xenophobic, and sexist. When we are not told that. We are told to love our brothers and sisters no matter who or what they come from. People abused the Bible and Biblical text to endorse treating others wrong.

When in fact there are SO many strong women in the Bible and Christian history who fought for their rights and completely changed everything. To say you can't be feminist and Christian completely denies and diminishes those women's accomplishments and denies what the Lord has taught us.

In Galatians we are told we are neither male nor female but instead we are one with Christ Jesus. Who was the first person to see Jesus after the resurrection? Who washed Jesus feet with their tears and anointed Jesus feet before his crucification? Women.

Who led the French army in the 100 years war as God told her to do? Saint Joan of Arc.

Who became the Queen of Persia and risked her life to save her people from genocide? Was it not Esther?

Did Jesus not heal a woman who bled for 12 years even though the men in her community called her unclean?

In the letters Paul wrote the church did he not call women equal to men in the church and should be seen as coworkers? Did he not address Phoebe as a deacon, for which many years people thought women could not be? Did he not call Prisca and Aquila coworkers?

Did God not appoint Deborah to serve as a Judge and take leadership over Israel??

When you become married you honor your husband just the same as he honors you! God condemned abusing women and commanded husbands to treat their wives with nothing short of honor and respect just as Jesus honored and respected the Church.

Christian's are fundamentally born feminist. We are born environmentalist. We are born in equality no matter WHAT! And anyone who says otherwise is extremely uneducated and does not know Jesus.

When I was 17 my mom asked me what I wanted for Christmas. I told her I needed a laptop for college, I told her that if she got me a laptop and nothing else I would be happy. I received a refurbished 2015 MacBook Air that had missing prices, dents in it, scratches on it, and missing keys. She never told me the price but I'm assuming it was no more than $100, or else she got scammed. She got her boyfriend a $2,000 gaming laptop that christmas, and my brother an iPhone 14. I am now 19. I took a gap year but I am now enrolled in an online college. I found out my laptop does not support the software required for my college classes or Microsoft 365. I'm now scrambling to find a laptop that I can actually use and probably will have to drop a couple hundred dollars, when I cannot afford that. I haven't told her about this because I know she will just call me ungrateful and it will end in argument. My fiends say I should be grateful and not be upset because I got a laptop in the first place because a lot of people do not have that privilege. My laptop has been great for watching movies and tv shows but other than that it is pretty much useless. It crashes when I open chrome or literally any other app than Safari. I'm less pissed that I got a cheap old laptop, but more pissed she dropped a whole 2 bands on her boyfriend for a hobby rather than just spending a couple hundred for her literal daughter's education.

Am I overreacting?

UPDATE: my mother in law has given me her lenova yoga 730 and said I can keep it for free as long as I graduate. AKA, a what a mom does.

Looking for a mod pack that has more tameable pets, wild animals, farming/cooking, biomes. That won't entirely break my computer and lag 😭

Seasons, furniture, continuity/connected glass, and camping mods preferred but not necessary.

Also if you find any servers with these mods too!

I am so tired of people complaining about streaming services that they pay for having ads and not the Tv shows they want. Literally stop paying for your streaming services. Tubi is completely free and genuinely has less ads than some streaming services. They don't have a ton of popular Tv shows (it's mostly older tv shows) but I have found a lot of gems here and there. They have tons of movies that I love. And youtube also has tons of free movies and tv shows. Worst comes to the worst if you don't find a tv show/movie you wanna watch than go on a silly little website that's similar to soap2day that often says "arggggh".

Literally stop paying for streaming services and giving your money to these evil corporations who make you pay $20 a month for barely any tv shows and movies with 2 minute ads every 10 minutes. It's getting ridiculous and you're feeding into it.

at this point anytime i open my phone it's just: new influencer in hot water, new tiktok drama, a girl said she was conveniently attractive and is now getting flamed, the world is on fire, the president sucks, hantavirus, CP disney cruise, getting made fun of, bullying, hatred. EVERYTHING. there's nothing that makes me smile anymore.

i feel like this goes past the internet too. when was the last time someone did something for you just out of the kindness of their heart? or gave you a compliment? or held the door open? when was the last time you did something for someone out of the kindness of your heart? when was the last time you opened a tiktok or instagram comment section that had no negativity. it feels like if you breathe wrong you'll be shrouded in hate.

ii'm so tired of it. everything nowadays is just depression and hatred and anxiety in the world. literally nothing else.

is no one else exhausted?

TW: mention of cancer, and rape. Also cannot edit the title, but I know there's a typo. 😭

I won't go into the details of why we got married so young, but before you start spilling out your hatred there is a reason we rushed to get married young.

I stay at home and do online college while also taking care of the dog and the household chores. He works a pretty labor intensive job, which I am grateful for. I told him once I graduate college and get a degree he HAS to either go to college, do a trade, or find a career of some sort. It is my one ultimatum. He has agreed to this statement so I have been working extra hard to complete my degree quickly so I can put him through college or something to build his career. It's an accelerated program, and realistically I will be completing my degree by the end of the year. Because I want to complete my degree fast I have a specific day to day schedule I follow. I wake up, I asses my goals for the day (how many hours of school I need to do, what chores I need to do, how long I need to walk to the dog for, etc) and make a schedule around those goals. I run a VERY strict program around my schedule. If I fall behind my schedule I will start spiraling, panicking, and end up saying "forget it" and pretty much bed rotting for the rest of my day. My husband understands I need my schedule and if it's interrupted I panic. I also am not a super touchy feely person. I have to be in a very specific mood for hugs, cuddling, rough housing, etc. That being said. When my husband comes home from work he is super excited to see me. I understand, I'm excited to see him too. However the issue happens when he interrupts my work and jumps on me to cuddle or something. I try explaining to him I need to focus. Some days he comes home, moves my computer off my lap, and lays on top of me. I tell him I do not like this, and I need to focus. I've explained my boundaries before and there have been times he has understood and made changes. For instance he used to slap my ass a lot while I did laundry or dishes, I told him I didn't like that and he stopped.

Whenever he lays on top of me he puts his whole weight on me. He is almost 200lbs of a mix between fat and muscle. I tell him I cannot breathe and he lets his weight off my chest, but still lays on top of me. I tell him I don't like it and to stop, but he just lays there until I physically move him. Sometimes he will start tickling me. I HATE being tickled, it hurts. I will yell at him to stop but he doesn't listen. One time, recently, I had to pull his hair really hard for him to stop. He got upset because it hurt, understandable. But I told him tickling hurts me. He said "sorry" in his sad puppy dog voice. I've tried explaining to him that him doing this interrupts my schedule and also is super uncomfortable to me. It makes me panic. But I also tell him if he just waits until I complete my tasks he is more than welcome to come cuddle up and rough house with me. He said he understood but this pattern continues. For a little context I am also a rape victim. So I panic even more when I yell 'stop' and he doesn't stop. In bed he is very respectful of my boundaries and if I tell him to stop he does. I often have the remind myself we are 19 and not in our mid-twenties. He also had cancer young so I have to remind myself he is technically mentally behind a typical 19 year old. He has the mentality similar to a 16 year old, so I don't necessarily blame him completely.

It's gotten to the point I kinda dread it when I hear the car pull up in the drive way, but we also spend 19 hours of the day together, and I only go out if I'm grocery shopping. I don't really like having friends, I think it's too exhausting to have to constantly please another person. So I literally don't go out. So obviously this was bound to happen. I tell myself it will get better when I have my own job and we are stable enough to move somewhere a little bigger where I can have my own office space.

I don't know how to explain to him that what he's doing is something I do not like. I don't think he's purposefully trying to be disrespectful, but I think he just doesn't understand why it's such a problem to me. I don't want to have to train him like a dog, but at this point what else can I do besides negatively reinforcing his bad behavior and positively reinforcing his good behavior. Is there any way maybe I can tell him or demonstrate how I feel when he does these things?

I know there will be some people who will scream I should get a divorce until their faces turn purple because this is the internet. I do not want a divorce. Divorce is not on the table. I love my husband and divorce is absolutely last resort.

A couple months ago I broke a tooth and needed to go to the dentist. I don't have dental or health insurance so I paid out of pocket for it. At the dentist they took my blood pressure and told me it was alarmingly high and need to see a doctor like yesterday. For reference it was close to 150/90. They took it three times just to be sure. Apparently this is stage 2 hypertension. Heart issues run in my family so I'm not surprised. My mom has hypertension and she has other heart diseases, my grandpa has had two pacemakers, and my great grandpa died from a heart attack at only 50. I often have chest pains, dizziness, and lose my breathe quickly when I stand for too long (especially if it's hot outside). I try to eat healthy (as healthy as i can on a strict budget) and I workout pretty often because I know I don't have health insurance. I was denied medicaid, which doesn't make sense to me because my mom told me that because I'm in college I should've been approved. I tried setting up a doctor's appointment and they said it's $400 just to be seen, I literally cannot afford that.

At this point I don't know what to do but wait until I graduate college and get a job that gives me health insurance. I'm only 19 and terrified I'm going to die from a heart attack or stroke.

I grew up in poverty from a single mom of 3, so I'm pretty familiar with food stamps. For a while me and my husband have been struggling, especially since I started doing full time online college and have been unable to work. We were approved for $230 a month, which I am SO grateful for. When I was growing up you could get groceries and if you didn't have enough on your food stamps card you'd just swipe your EBT card and than it would show the remaining balance you had to pay with either cash, credit, or debit. Is that still an option? Because I've heard people now say that if you don't have enough on your EBT card it will just decline? For reference, I live in Georgia.

Also I've tried looking for a complete list of food stamp approved items (like what name brands are acceptable and what ones aren't.) for Georgia and I cannot find it.

I want to care so BAD. I want to love homeless people so bad, and when I was a kid I really cared. But now I am in an adult. I in a military town, so there is a lot of homeless people. I try my best to support the homeless here, but I myself am also struggling in this economy. Here is an actual conversation I had with a homeless person last week;

Homeless person - "Hey sorry to bother but do you have extra cash. I'm homeless" Me - "I have some quarters. I'm sorry all my money is on my debit cards. But if you want I can buy you some food or water or a blanket or something!" *proceeds to hand them the quarters because that's all the physical money I have * Homeless person - "Nevermind. You clearly need it more than me. Y'all dont give a fuck about us" hands me back my quarters

LIKE BRO, i tried helping you the best I could. I am living pay check to pay check right now. At this point I don't even feel bad for you, no wonder why you're homeless. You probably burned every bridge you had and no one wanted to help you or you're deadass on drugs. Like I'm sorry, I don't feel bad anymore. The cherry on top is that in my area it is super easy to apply and receive benefits such as: Section 8 housing, SNAP/EBT, medicaid, etc. and the base I live next to offers FREEEE shelter for the homeless, as long as you provide a negative drug test.

I am just so tired of it. And maybe this is tone dead and a privileged take, but there is so many options you have to run through before becoming homeless.

I'm a younger Gen Z (19). I used to have really bad social anxiety after COVID, which actually helped me to learn social skills. Now that I'm in the adult world: buying groceries, hanging out with friends, working, paying bills, etc. I've quickly learned that other people in my generation lack social skills and social awareness SO bad. I'm either ignored of consistently interrupted.

I'll say "Oh hey I like your outfit! Super cute!" trying to spark a conversation, trying desperately to make friends because making friends as an adult is literally so hard. And I'll be met with "... uhm okay?" No 'thank you', no follow up compliment, not even like an awkward smile.

Or I'll go to my local coffee shop or fast food restaurant and I'll be in the middle of ordering food and I get interrupted either by the employee taking my order or some entitled weirdo trying to talk to the employee over me!

God forbid you try to go out with friends, you'll constantly just be talking over each other. I remember back when I was a kid one adult would talk, pause, and then the other adult would talk.

I'll try to have a conversation with someone and i'll say something like "Oh yeah things are so expensive like gas and groceries and-" and i'll be cut off by "oh and rent" LIKE YEAH NO SHIT I WAS JUST ABOUT TO SAY THAT BEFORE YOU CUT ME OFF

Not just that but Gen Z doesn't understand how to dress for certain situations. Like no Emeliegh, you don't need to wear a mini skirt and crop top to a funeral. No, you don't need to be wearing a club outfit to the golden corral. NO you shouldn't be wearing shorts or mini skirts to a JOB INTERVIEW

Idk maybe it's just me. Please tell me it's just me experiencing this and it's not the entirety of society forgetting how to communicate because COVID and tiktok toasted our brains.

A lot of people are saying Billies take is wrong because it's racist, it's a privileged take, and she herself literally uses animal products.

However, I think a lot of people are forgetting. Humans are animals. Because we are animals we have to contribute to the ecosystem and biodiversity. Let's say humans stopped hunting white-tailed deer or wild boar. What do you think would happen? BINGO, they would overpopulate and destroy the biodiversity. Not only is hunting important to biodiversity, but animal farms are important. It is PROVEN that livestock farming promotes a healthy environment. Don't get me wrong, industrial animal farms are not good. Everyone knows this. It is common sense, but holistic animal farming is IMPORTANT!!

Let's say you still don't believe this. Okay. So if humans only ate plants/crops what do you think would happen? We would start industrially farming and genetically altering crops, which would lead to fertilizer runoff, pesticide pressure, soil degradation, etc.

In a perfect world could everyone be vegan? Sure. But is this a perfect world? So much of our medicine, vitamins, food, etc are animal byproducts. We would not survive without animal byproducts, it is that simple.

(Also I feel like vegans have such a moral superiority complex over non-vegans as if in a post-apocalyptic situation or a societal collapse they would be eating horses, dogs, cats, and other human beings. We are animals, we are not above our biology)

Here's a list of very important things that come from animal byproducts that millions of people use everyday;

Blood Thinners, Thyroid Hormone Supplements, Menopause supplements, Insulin, OTC medications that use gel capsules, Vaccines, Anemia medications, Omega-3 vitamins, skin grafts, heart grafts, animal organ transplants, antibiotics, anesthesia, dissolving stitches, gelatin sponges (used in surgery), BABY FORMULA, manure, biodiesel (one of the very few renewable fuels), etc. There is so much more.

We simply wouldnt survive without eating meat and using animal byproducts.

Take an agricultural class or an environmental science class.

Long story short for those who don't want to read; My mother was a bad person to me so I cut contact. When I got married I thought I'd have my MIL to love and support me and treat me like family, but we pretty much had to cut contact too. I don't feel like I'm in the wrong, but there's always a common denominator. Maybe I'm the one in the wrong? Idk, is anyone else dealing with this?

Long story long:

There is zero doubt in my mind that there is something mentally wrong with my mom. Either narcissistic personality disorder, bpd, bipolar, or something. Literally my whole life my mom treated me shit. Neglected me, told me I ruined her life, says she wishes she had an abortion, says I all my dreams are unachievable, etc etc, all the fun stuff. When I was 13 her ex-husband molested me for months, and she blamed it on me and said I seduced him. When I finally got to high school I started really pulling away from my mom.

At 18 I got married, yes I know very very young. We didn't even have a wedding, because we didn't want one. We're both super introverted and shy. Before I got married me and my MIL would talk, sometimes hang out, I bought her stuff. I was fully expecting to have a mother-daughter relationship or at the very least have a familiar relationship. But when me and my husband moved out and got married it's almost like a switch flipped. She started talking bad about me, said I was a whore, said I was brainwashing my husband, said a bunch of things about me. She also said, and I quote, "I really hope they never have kids, I'm telling you know if she gets pregnant it won't be my sons." (for context, my husband has cancer-related infertility). We pretty much cut her off and the whole family off.

I don't think I'm in the wrong. My husband doesn't think I'm in the wrong. My friends don't think I'm in the wrong. But I just feel like, if it happened twice maybe there's something wrong with me that I just can't see. Like there's always a common denominator in these situations isn't there? Is there something wrong with me? My biggest fear especially is, will I end up like this? Will I one day be a bad mom or mother in law and also not realize it?

Is anyone else in this situation? Or does anyone feel similar?

God, I can't wait until I can afford therapy.

I grew up in poverty my entire life, so I've made some killer struggle meals through the years. Here's a list of my favorites that I haven't really seen a lot ! (And remember don't buy name brand!)

Chicken Jalapeño Popper Sandwich - bread, spicy chicken patties, cream cheese, pickled jalapeños. I literally grew up on this, it's delicious.

Pizza Burritos - Tortilla, any pizza toppings, roll it up or just eat it like a pizza (Can also work with bread, but will be kinda soggy)

Grilled Mac and Cheese - This one's kinda self explanatory. Get yourself some great value mac and cheese, make it, slap it on some bread, and grill it like a grilled cheese. This is VERY filling.

Baked Potatoes - A lot of people think this is an expensive meal for some reason, but you can literally cut a potato and microwave it and you have a baked potato. highly recommend putting mac and cheese or hamburger helper in it!

Poor People Poke Bowl - Rice + Tuna + Spicy Mayo is super good. You can it more filling by adding chicken, vegetables, or really anything. The rice + tuna combo is probably one of the cheapest and healthiest meals of all time.

Garbage Nachos - Literally if you have chips (any kind works tbh) and cheese you can make nachos and add stuff on it. maybe add some chopped up hot dog, onions, leftover anything, literally anything. (You can also do this exact same thing with fries, super good)

Garbage soup - same idea as the nachos. all you need is a base of some sort (old broth, bones, old bouillon cubes, anything) and than throw whatever food or leftovers you have. add rice, cabbage, onions, literally whatever is in your pantry and fridge.

Garbage Omelette - Same idea as the other two. it's crazy that people forget (me included) that you can just... do this. you can make plain and not so filling meals into super filling and good meals with leftovers.

Peanut Butter Banana sandwich's- super underrated, super healthy, super filling. peanut butter and bread are both super filling foods (plus peanut butter has tons of protein)

Cinnamon Toast- this a classic for everyone. it's a nice snack. it's just bread, butter, cinnamon, and sugar. it really nice for when i'm craving texas roadhouse rolls with the cinnamon butter. (you can also substitute bread with rolls but it'll be a little more expensive)

Of course stock up in soups, soups are also fillings! And if you live near a walmart don't forget that they have a $9.99 meal that includes a large mac and cheese, large mashed potatoes, and a whole chicken. Can probably feed a family of 4.

Highly recommend downloading apps for Dollar General and your local grocery stores, they often have coupons for food items. Dollar General especially has great coupons for food items, hygiene items, and on saturdays they have 5$ off a $25 purchase.

I lived in a little town, Queensbury right next to Lake George it has the Great Escape. I'm sure you've either been there or heard of it. I moved to southern GA when I was a teenager. My step dad and I used to hike sleeping beauty every year after the water from the snow dried up. I LOVE hiking and skiing and tubing. I love it! I miss it so much. Sometimes I wish I could move back, but without the whole having to shovel and get snow tires every winter part.

I met my husband in Georgia. He was born and raised here. And keep in mind, in southern GA it's all flat. There are NO mountains. No where to hike. I mean in northern GA you have a couple mountains but they don't really have trails. I've tried explaining the wonders of waking up at 5am and going to Sleeping Beauty, hiking the trail, and after wards going home and getting the BEST sleep of your life. Or going tubing and then going to stewart's and getting those THICK milkshakes or some raspberry ice cream.

I want to take him back up in the ADKs sometime. Take him to Lake George. Going mini golfing. Take him to a price rite to get awful sushi, or a hannafords. All the upstate NY classics.

(Also I'd be so nervous going back. I never realized it until I called up one of my old friends from NY but apparently I now have a kinda thick southern accent. And I remember being in NY and making fun of the south SO much)

I feel like so many people, especially women, talk about their own infertility. I almost never hear about the spouses, and how they feel. I am not infertile, but my husband is. He had childhood cancer, and is almost sterile. Anytime I mention me and my husband's future family plan I am careful to tip-toe to not make him feel bad. I don't want him to feel like he's at fault (which he isn't, his doctors should have collected a sperm sample before they gave him chemo and radiation) and I don't want him to feel guilty or feel pushed into doing something he doesn't want. So I try not to tell him how depressed I get every time I remember we naturally cannot have kids.

I can't talk to other women about it either. If I talk to other women about it all I hear is "Well when the time comes it'll come." "Have you tried IUI?" "Have you tried mucinex?" No, our fertility issues cannot be saved by any medication in the world.

Other couples that experienced male infertility are so quick to suggest a sperm donor. But neither my husband or I would at all be comfortable with that, we agreed before getting married if we had kids our children would either be 100% biologically ours, or 0% biologically ours.

Literally our only options are embryo adoption, adoption, or IVF (if my husband has any viable sperm).

I feel like I can't talk to anyone about it. I feel like i'm being insensitive to women who can't carry their own babies. I feel like I'm not allowed to talk about it at all.

I just feel. Alone.