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I was seeing a guy for two months. I thought things were going great. We had sex a month in and I was fully prepared for him to ghost me after, but he didn’t and he continued seeing me for another month. I asked to be exclusive and then he tried to cheat the next day ( don’t want to get into the specifics).

I said we could go back to just not being exclusive but he just started slow fading me. Suddenly he was too busy to text back more than once a day, and he was too busy to hangout. I tried talking to him about it, I asked if I misread things the entire time and if I was just seeing what I wanted to see, because i was so certain that he really liked me before and was interested. He just apologized for misleading me, and we haven’t spoken since.

This was a man who was taking me out on dates, paying for things, and texting constantly. Before him the same thing happened with another guy, he was buying me lunch everyday, being vulnerable with me, texting me 24:7 and taking me on dates. Even people around us swore the other guy liked me, then three weeks after sex suddenly he just wanted a friendship and he claimed that’s all he ever wanted, which is complete bullshit. He even tried saying I was the one who initiated the sex which just isn’t true.

I feel like an idiot. Granted both these situations only lasted two months, but still. Am I missing som red flag?

I’m saying this as a woman. I constantly see a woman go on about how a man really does love her, but he’s afraid of commitment and is an avoidant. I find it ridiculous and, I think it stops the woman from moving on because she thinks there’s still a chance. Unless a man is going through something extreme like a big health issue or family emergency, there’s a 99% chance he just doesn’t like you enough.

In her late teens/early 20s she was regularly going on about how Justin prefers models, she encouraged her fans to hate on Sofia Richie, and she reposted a photo of Justin hanging out with a model to encourage her fans to hate on said model. The thing is though- Selena Gomez was arguably just as conventionally attractive as models, maybe more so, she just wasn’t tall enough.

It’s also weird how she chased after Justin so much when she could’ve had almost any man she wanted back then. Maybe Justin was just not that into her look, but I wouldn’t be surprised if her massive personality issues made him lose interest. I get her feeling insecure after the weight gain started, but it’s genuinely bizarre that she was insecure back then when she was as pretty as she was.

I was dating a guy for two months, I asked to be exclusive then found him on a dating app the next day. We had a big fight and then I agreed we could just keep seeing each other casually. We hung out once after that, he flaked on me two times, and it’s been other a month since we’ve hung out. The last time he flaked on me he never rescheduled and just said he wants to see me but doesn’t know when.

He has texted me first, and he’s not dry , but he mainly only talks about himself and never asks about my life. He also takes 20 hours- 1 day to respond, when he use to text me 8-16 times a day. The past few days he’s texted me 24 hours later, and he only responds after I post a story. Yesterday he posted a story while I was on delivered for 16 hours.

He has a very demanding/busy career, but the difference in interest level he’s been giving me is jarring. His family is also visiting from another country . I left his last message on read when it kind of elicited a response and idk how to feel about it. On one hand I feel like I was being slow faded anyway, on the other hand what if he’s just really busy?

I went out with this guy in residency for two months. We saw each other once a week and he texted me 10-16 times a day. Over the past month we haven’t hung out once, and he texts 1-3 times a day. I’ve asked if he’s just not interested and he swears he’s busy. I have a big feeling he’s just lost interest and I should move on, but is this normal and he was just putting a ton of effort in at the start?

Before I accepted it, my ego would get in the way of me understanding a dude obviously didn’t like me. I’d believe stupid bullshit like “ oh yeah he’s just been too busy the past 19 hours to answer”. Now? Now I just think “ Obviously he doesnt like me because I’m ugly, I’m not going to embarrass myself any longer.”

I had a guy get with me out of desperation then dip after two months. He’d keep texting me and insist he’s just busy, even though he texts 3 times a day and hasn’t seen me in a month. I told myself “ you’re ugly, of course he’s not interested, just stop answering before he ghosts you entirely” and you know what I’m happy I had that thought process.

If I hadn’t accepted my fate as an ugly person I probably would’ve dragged this out longer, but at least I ended it relatively quickly; and I got to do it first. I feel proud of myself.

Mine has been horrible. The last ugly guy I tried to date was probably even less attractive than me do his weight, and he was 5’7. I thought things were going well, then he hit on my friend and called her gorgeous. He had never even called me pretty. We havent hung out since but I’m 99% sure he was desperate, gave it a chance, but just couldn’t like me.

I realized I was at 20. I’m white and thin, yet I never got treated like the pretty blonde hair blue eyes girls did. I realized it was my facial features that were bad then. Dont get me wrong, it’s great that I don’t experience racism or fatphobia, but it does kind of suck when people say shit like “ all young thin white woman are conventionally attractive” and you are a thin young woman who’s still ugly.

I am objectively unattractive to most people. I have the face of a man even though I’m a woman. My body and voice are feminine, my hormones are normal, I get a period and have a uterus etc, but for whatever reason I have the face of a man who grows no facial hair. I will get people constantly telling me to “embrace it” and that “ one guy will find it attractive” and it just makes me feel like shit because I desperately don’t want to look like this.

When I confide that I want facial feminization surgery they all start going off about how I shouldn’t do that because I’m uniquely pretty and I shouldn’t care what people think. They then again empathize that I should embrace the masculinity even though no part of me wants to look masculine. It’s irritating because I know if these people woke up tomorrow looking like the opposite gender they’d want surgery too. I had one guy think I was trans from just seeing my face, and he STILL told me I shouldn’t get surgery.

Any good surgeons for jaw/chin reduction, preferably in the USA?

My jaw is terrible and ruins my looks. Has anyone looked into jaw surgery, specifically jaw shaving? if you have what surgeons have you looked into?

I feel stupid for being so hurt over this. We were seeing each other for two months and I thought things were great. Then I asked to be exclusive and he agreed, then I saw he updated his dating profile. I called him out on it and he apologized and said he understood if I never wanted to see him again.

I gave him another chance and said we didn’t have to be exclusive yet. So we hung out once after that and he was cold. He looked irritated when I would speak, didn’t offer me any pajamas to wear, and didn’t kiss or hug me at all after we were intimidate except to say goodbye.

Its been a month since we hung out that one time. He stopped texting me all together now. I tried to hangout once and he agreed then flaked the day of and hung out with one of his friends. I’ve tried calling him and asking if he simply lost interest, if he never had interest and I imagined it etc and he gives me nothing.

He just kept repeating that he’s busy with work and will never have time to hangout even once a week, and he said this will never change. Obviously this is bullshit, as he magically had time for me a month ago.He even kept saying he wanted to keep seeing me “ but timing is tricky” even though it wasn’t before and nothing has changed.

I know he doesn’t like me and that’s all that matters, but I feel really hurt and confused. Literally a week before everything went downhill he was gushing about how excited he was for his mom to leave as he could spend more time with me then ( he was seeing me once a week), well she’s been gone for a month now and he hasn’t seen me at all. I genuinely thought this man liked me and it turns out he didn’t like me at all.

Like did I imagine or hallucinate the two months?? He also gave me some bullshit about being afraid of commitment, which could be true, but why ghost me then? I feel like a moron.

My friend is conventionally attractive. She has this man head over heels in love with her, and she treats him like absolute dog shit. Shes so mean to him, it actually looks like a sitcom show. He pays for everything, drives three hours to visit her etc and she has told this man to his face she is only with him because they’re aren’t any better options. She has told him that when they first met she thought he was stupid, unattractive, and that she couldn’t stand him.

She broke up with him after finally agreeing to be official, after said man took her on an all expenses paid trip and concert. He still thinks she is the one. She has called him stupid to his face numerous times, she’s just always really mean and aggressive with him. I don’t think I’ve seen her smile/laugh once around him.

Meanwhile it doesn’t matter how nice I am or how much effort I put in- guys don’t like me because if my face. I can’t blame them either, you can’t date someone you’re not attracted to. I’ll still get a string of comments lying to me though insisting that it’s my confidence. I actually had someone try to tell me looks don’t matter at all in dating.