u/InfamouslyJuniper

saw a guy from dating site for several dates. We were at 6 I think. And we did a lot more physical touching and kissing this last time I saw him. Which was great but I tried asking him if he wanted to do something again and his reply was why not. He just continued with this kissing. And usually we were excited to make our next date plan pretty quick. Maybe I got used to that. Before this our pacing was really slow too and he just jumped on the chance to kiss and touch.

I go home and start overthinking. He texted me about something. The next day we still go back and forth. This is where I think I messed up. I asked him what his dating goals are. Because we didn’t discuss it and I said I just wanna know where things are with us. I guess because we didn’t discuss exclusivity. And he said he’s pretty seriously dating and stuff. Told me we can discuss it so I asked if we could in person? I told him I don’t feel comfortable being intimate in a undefined situation

And he said sure. So I asked when he’s free or like what he’d prefer to do. And it’s been hard to hear back. I used to hear from him idk like 2 or so times a day? And now it’s less. I’m scared I messed it up because I got insecure. He seemed open to talk about things but maybe he changed his mind. Also he recently told me he has a work trip coming up and I’m going to be working at a summer camp. And I think that distance also led me to want clarity. We never talked about that stuff before

saw a guy from OLD for several dates. We were at 6 I think. And we did a lot more physical touching and kissing this last time I saw him. Which was great but I tried asking him if he wanted to do something again and his reply was why not. He just continued with this kissing. And usually we were excited to make our next date plan pretty quick. Maybe I got used to that. Before this our pacing was really slow too and he just jumped on the chance to kiss and touch.

I go home and start overthinking. He texted me about something. The next day we still go back and forth. This is where I think I messed up. I asked him what his dating goals are. Because we didn’t discuss it and I said I just wanna know where things are with us. I guess because we didn’t discuss exclusivity. And he said he’s pretty seriously dating and stuff. Told me we can discuss it so I asked if we could in person? I told him I don’t feel comfortable being intimate in a undefined situation

And he said sure. So I asked when he’s free or like what he’d prefer to do. And it’s been hard to hear back. I used to hear from him idk like 2 or so times a day? And now it’s less. I’m scared I messed it up because I got insecure. He seemed open to talk about things but maybe he changed his mind. Also he recently told me he has a work trip coming up and I’m going to be working at a summer camp. And I think that distance also led me to want clarity. We never talked about that stuff before

saw a guy from OLD for several dates. We were at 6 I think. And we did a lot more physical touching and kissing this last time I saw him. Which was great but I tried asking him if he wanted to do something again and his reply was why not. He just continued with this kissing. And usually we were excited to make our next date plan pretty quick. Maybe I got used to that. Before this our pacing was really slow too and he just jumped on the chance to kiss and touch.

I go home and start overthinking. He texted me about something. The next day we still go back and forth. This is where I think I messed up. I asked him what his dating goals are. Because we didn’t discuss it and I said I just wanna know where things are with us. I guess because we didn’t discuss exclusivity. And he said he’s pretty seriously dating and stuff. Told me we can discuss it so I asked if we could in person?

And he said sure. So I asked when he’s free or like what he’d prefer to do. And it’s been hard to hear back. I used to hear from him idk like 2 or so times a day? And now it’s less. I’m scared I messed it up because I got insecure. He seemed open to talk about things but maybe he changed his mind. Also he recently told me he has a work trip coming up and I’m going to be working at a summer camp. And I think that distance also led me to want clarity. We never talked about that stuff before

started seeing this guy. A few dates in we didn’t even kiss yet. So I was gonna do it. But he pulled me in and kissed me. He looked startled before doing it. We just did it really quickly and then continued talking about whatever small talk we had.

The next time I saw him I tried to sit close to him and sort of lightly touch him. He started pushing his body into mine. I don’t know how to explain it but he pushed his shoulder into mine and then I got closer and he pushed himself harder.

Then later we walked a bit and he stood next to me and pushed himself like into me again. Not leaning I mean he was pushing. And then he put his arm around mine and used the other hand to hold my hand. And then we talked. After that I kissed him.

The next time I saw him we were playing soccer. Then he gets close and says let’s sit. We did then he pulled me onto him and started just kissing me a lot and very long. After that I know his brothers are coming to visit soon but he still has time before they do. I haven’t heard from him. What is going on.

When we were talking and saying bye he was trying to go back in to kiss way more but I was still trying to get some words in. So I’m not sure if I offended him. He was texting me after we had met up, yet today I haven’t heard much. We saw each other last week. Did I do something?

I’m 4 dates in with one guy who has already brought up how he’d want to focus on seeing me, exclusively, within the next few dates, not exactly yet. I like him but he sometimes acts upset if I do not reply quick enough to texts.

the other guy I’m 6 dates in with and he hasn’t said anything about exclusivity. I’m further along with 6 dates guy but I wanna know where things stand because I can’t tell. This guy has been fairly light with communicating, we started by texting maybe 2 times a day and then he’d ask me to meet up sometime, and we’d actually solidify the plans closer to the day, sometimes day before which stressed me out a bit because we live a bit far. But we’d always work it out.

The last few times he’d actually ask me which day I’m free, and we’d put it in our phone. Right there. It became kind of an inside joke between us. But the most recent time I saw him, he didn’t ask me to make any plan. We only kissed on date 4 and 5. Then date 6 we ramped it up a bit and he kissed me with tongue more and he was kissing all over my face and grabbing my neck. Anyway we were very slow to even begin holding hands. And when we did it’s like we didn’t really get how to do it.

So at the end of this date I ask him how’s the schedule? And he said: don’t you already know it. When usually he either asks first or he replies with a day. He tried to continue kissing me but I pulled away after so he just put his head on me. And stood there. Then tried again to kiss but I was talking to him, and looking away. So it was just a mismatch there.

I haven’t heard much back from this guy. And I like him. But the other guy has been flirty and slower with touching. But at times this 4 date guy seems to be upset if I do not reply quick enough.

6 date guy just goes for it with the physical, I can’t tell if he only sees me as a physical prospect. Yet he’s the one who I’m anxious over.

I’m 4 dates in with one guy who has already brought up how he’d want to focus only on seeing me within the next few dates, not exactly yet.

But the other guy I’m 6 dates in with and he hasn’t said anything. I’m further along with 6 dates guy but I wanna know where things stand because I can’t tell. This guy has been fairly light with communicating, we started by texting maybe 2 times a day and then he’d ask me to meet up sometime, and we’d actually solidify the plans closer to the day, sometimes day before which stressed me out a bit because we live a bit far. But we’d always work it out.

The last few times he’d actually ask me which day I’m free, and we’d put it in our phone. Right there. It became kind of an inside joke between us. But the most recent time I saw him, he didn’t ask me to make any plan. We only kissed on date 4 and 5. Then date 6 we ramped it up a bit and he kissed me with tongue more and he was kissing all over my face and grabbing my neck. Anyway we were very slow to even begin holding hands. And when we did it’s like we didn’t really get how to do it.

So at the end of this date I ask him how’s the schedule? And he said: don’t you already know it. When usually he either asks first or he replies with a day. He tried to continue kissing me but I pulled away after so he just put his head on me. And stood there. Then tried again to kiss but I was talking to him, and looking away. So it was just a mismatch there.

I haven’t heard much back from this guy. And I like him. But the other guy has been flirty and slower with touching. But at times this 4 date guy seems to be upset if I do not reply quick enough.

6 date guy just goes for it with the physical, I can’t tell if he only sees me as a physical prospect. Yet he’s the one who I’m anxious over.

I’m several dates in with a guy. And the first few we didn’t even hold hands. I thought he wasn’t even really into me. Then by date 3 he kind of kissed me on the cheek. And then did a double take and kissed me on the mouth. And that was that. Then the next time he held onto me a bit more, only to kiss me at the end of the date the same way he did before. The next time we meet, we are in a more private area. And he starts pulling me in and just putting his tongue in my mouth more and kind of escalating things. We stopped and the we continued to talk a bit and walk, but when we said bye that was it. I didn’t hear much from him since. I feel confused. And honestly I feel like it came out of nowhere too. Is this normal?

am 6 dates in with a guy from bumble. He’s my first and only dating experience and we’re in our 20s. I did not tell him this is my first dating experience. The first dates were good and we only talked nothing physically happened. Starting date 3 he escalated physically with kissing, next date: holding hands and leg grab, more kissing. Next date:kissing the neck, fully making out and touching everywhere like a lot of places. He said he’s looking for long term. But this last date we had, we still didn’t talk intentions. We barely touch deeper topics. It’s like we have good jokes but it’s just that. Or only surface level things.

And we are still on the dating apps. this last time I wanted to cry. I wish I asked him if he’s seeing others still or I wish I said no to such heavy physical touching when I feel like I’m new to it and I haven’t communicated any of it. And I feel like since he didn’t ask me to meet again, he just said ok have a good night, at the end of our plans, it’s just done. He usually asks. And I don’t feel good. I want to cry I’m not sure why. It’s like I know the time for clarity is long gone. Yet it still hurts me.

When I asked if he wants to meet again he said: um yea you know which days I’m off work. So, yea

I am 6 dates in with a guy from the apps. He’s my first and only dating experience and we’re in our 20s. Starting date 3 he escalated physically with kissing, then like holding hands and leg grab, kissing the neck, fully making out and touching everywhere and stuff. He said he’s looking for long term. But this last date we had, we still didn’t talk intentions. We barely touch deeper topics. It’s like we have good jokes but it’s just that. Or surface level things.

And we are still on the dating apps. this last time I wanted to cry. I wish I asked him if he’s seeing others still or I wish I said no to such heavy physical touching when I feel like I’m new to it and I haven’t communicated. Any of this. And I feel like since he didn’t ask me to meet again, he just said ok have a good night, at the end of our plans, it’s just done. He usually asks. And I don’t feel good. I want to cry I’m not sure why

Edit: when I asked to meet up next, he said: um I guess? you know which days I’m off. And then walked away.

met up with a guy ive been seeing for over a month. We kissed the 2nd date, but he really never flirted with me or anything. We met on a dating app. The kiss was quick and we acted a bit reserved around it. The 3rd date we held hands and then he held onto me and acted a bit nervous, 4th date same thing but we did hold each others arms or hands more.

But we kissed again. And i liked it. This time we were mid date and we sat down at a bar in like a more quiet area. I had my hand on his arm then on his leg. He then turned to me and said can I make out with you. So I said I never did that before. And I asked if he had and he said: um who hasn’t. So I felt a bit confused. The makeout was not what I expected at all. I never kissed anyone before him. I didn’t say that of course but maybe I should’ve. This sudden progression was so confusing. Then he went down my neck.

I didn’t dislike it I just wish I told him I’m very new to dating. After we met up and were saying good bye near our cars he was trying to make out again. And we usually make plans. I have a family thing coming up so I’m gone from our area some of June. He’s gone the other half of June. So I don’t know if this ends here. I think I have to talk to him but I don’t know what to do anymore. I want a relationship I don’t want to be doing this stuff with someone who I am casual with.

TL:Dr: we met a few times over a month and a half. Both leaving for stuff this next month

After he didn’t ask me to meet up again. Before he would. So I said do you wanna make plans? He said: uhh yea I told you when I’m free?

Both mid-20,s

met up with a guy ive been seeing for over a month. We kissed the 2nd date, but he really never flirted with me or anything. We met on a dating app. The kiss was quick and we acted a bit reserved around it. The 3rd date we held hands and then he held onto me and acted a bit nervous, 4th date same thing but we did hold each others arms or hands more.

But we kissed again. And i liked it. This time we were mid date and we sat down at a bar in like a more quiet area. I had my hand on his arm then on his leg. He then turned to me and said can I make out with you. So I said I never did that before. And I asked if he had and he said: um who hasn’t. So I felt a bit confused. The makeout was not what I expected at all. I never kissed anyone before him. I didn’t say that of course but maybe I should’ve. This sudden progression was so confusing. Then he went down my neck.

I didn’t dislike it I just wish I told him I’m very new to dating. After we met up and were saying good bye near our cars he was trying to make out again. And we usually make plans. I have a family thing coming up so I’m gone from our area some of June. He’s gone the other half of June. So I don’t know if this ends here. I think I have to talk to him but I don’t know what to do anymore. I want a relationship I don’t want to be doing this stuff with someone who I am casual with.

After he didn’t ask me to meet up again. Before he would. So I said do you wanna make plans? He said: uhh yea I told you when I’m free?

Both mid-20,s

I met up with a guy ive been seeing for over a month. We kissed the 2nd date, but he really never flirted with me or anything. We met on a dating app. The kiss was quick and we acted a bit reserved around it. The 3rd date we held hands and then he held onto me and acted a bit nervous, 4th date same thing but we did hold each others arms or hands more.

But we kissed again. And i liked it. This time we were mid date and we sat down at a bar in like a more quiet area. I had my hand on his arm then on his leg. He then turned to me and said can I make out with you. So I said I never did that before. And I asked if he had and he said: um who hasn’t. So I felt a bit confused. The makeout was not what I expected at all. I never kissed anyone before him. I didn’t say that of course but maybe I should’ve. This sudden progression was so confusing. Then he went down my neck.

I didn’t dislike it I just wish I told him I’m very new to dating. After we met up and were saying good bye near our cars he was trying to make out again. And we usually make plans. I have a family thing coming up so I’m gone from our area some of June. He’s gone the other half of June. So I don’t know if this ends here. I think I have to talk to him but I don’t know what to do anymore. I want a relationship I don’t want to be doing this stuff with someone who I am casual with. I hate this

Both mid-20,s

I met up with a guy ive been seeing for over a month. We kissed the 2nd date, but he really never flirted with me or anything. We met on a dating app. The kiss was quick and we acted a bit reserved around it. The 3rd date we held hands and then he held onto me and acted a bit nervous, 4th date same thing but we did hold each others arms or hands more.

But we kissed again. And i liked it. This time we were mid date and we sat down at a bar in like a more quiet area. I had my hand on his arm then on his leg. He then turned to me and said can I make out with you. So I said I never did that before. And I asked if he had and he said: um who hasn’t. So I felt a bit confused. The makeout was not what I expected at all. I never kissed anyone before him. I didn’t say that of course but maybe I should’ve. This sudden progression was so confusing. Then he went down my neck.

I didn’t dislike it I just wish I told him I’m very new to dating. After we met up and were saying good bye near our cars he was trying to make out again. And we usually make plans. I have a family thing coming up so I’m gone from our area some of June. He’s gone the other half of June. So I don’t know if this ends here. I think I have to talk to him but I don’t know what to do anymore. I want a relationship I don’t want to be doing this stuff with someone who I am casual with. Call me a prude

Both mid-20,s

fairly new with dating, the last of my friends to try it especially at this age of later 20s. The guy is my age. We didn’t discuss our past or any relationship stuff. We have good conversations. I have a fear of ghosting because the guys I’ve liked before have ghosted me. But so far we’ve been our several times and I do like him.

But by several dates I wondered why we didn’t even flirt or kiss. I wanted to show more signs but actually trying it I came out so awkward. I’d bump into him when walking and pat him instead of being "smooth” about it. He did eventually just pull me in for a kiss but the way he did it, I didn’t anticipate it. Like he bit the bullet and just decide to do it.

Then the next date we were doing an activity so we had a chance to walk around or be touchy. But I feel like we were both looking at each other or we’d go from joking around to him teaching me how to play a game and he’d go quiet while demonstrating and we almost would kiss but nothing. At the end of the date we did. But he was talking before and I didn’t hear any of it. It’s become almost formulaic or safe to go in for the kiss at the end because I know we should. But I’m not sure if I should initiate more.

we’re meeting up again, I’m not sure if I should bring this up. I don’t know what dating typically is like. Everyone goes their own speed from what I heard? My friend went out with a guy twice where they were very flirty, touching, kissing. I don’t say this to critique this guy at all, I don’t mind how we’re going. I just wonder if I start verbally telling him I like him? But how? Since each time I wanna do something, in my head i have an idea but reality i don’t do it.

I also want to tell him i want to just focus on him but i don’t want to scare him

I’m 26 and I didn’t ever have a boyfriend. I actually just had my first kiss, a few times. With a guy I’ve been seeing from the dating apps. But I’m getting nervous because we’re quite some dates in and I’m not sure if people still see others at this point. I’m assuming yea since we didn’t talk about it and I did snoop, his account is still there. I told my mom where I was going because I live with my relatives. And she said if I don’t tell my dad I’m lying.

Basically my family is a bit judgmental. And I’m scared to tell them. This is because I also lied and said I met him from social media not a dating app. And I’m really worried. Because I told my mom I’ll tell my dad if this guy becomes my boyfriend. I also switched jobs a while back and things have been stressful overall. Like I have too many things on my plate. I don’t know what to do. I also feel like I am confused and clunky on kissing or physically touching. And I’m too scared for this to progress like sexually.

The guy and I don’t discuss feelings. We don’t flirt. We just kissed one day and begun holding hands. Before that it was just easy and now it’s like there’s an elephant in the room we didn’t address. I don’t know how to communicate. I also can’t tell if he’s still interested enough to keep seeing me.

He’s the only one im seeing but we didn’t discuss exclusivity. The thing that makes it "different” is that we texted for weeks before meeting because we both had work things.

We have been meeting once a week. We met 4 times. And we’re planning a 5th date. We have only kissed so far, and it’s only been a handful of times so I don’t know what people typically do. I don’t have much dating experience and we’re both in the 20s age range. I think we’re both still trying to figure the "romance” aspect of this out.

When we talk, everything is really smooth and naturally flows. Whenever it’s time for us to have a more intimate moment, like holding or like getting ready to kiss, we both act a bit shy or something. Like we go quieter. But he’s initiated more touching especially the last time I saw him.

I’m going to visit my family really soon and then he has something going on too. So we’re gonna have another gap like this. I worry the speed at which I’m taking things or making these plans is too slow. Like he suggests which days of the week he can be free and sometimes I have to pick the weekend, or a day that’s far from the plan we just did because that’s when our schedules align. I don’t know why I feel so guilty about that.

For now it seems we’re still making the plans and showing up. So maybe I should just chill out but I don’t like the idea of still being on the apps after a few more times of seeing him. But our upcoming plans may make us wait longer

am 26 but I didn’t ever have a first kiss or even talk to a guy like this before. I met this guy from a dating app because we both seemed to have similar intentions. From our conversations things were really good. All we did at the end was hug, where he’d squish me a bit at the end and linger. Not in a bad way I just never experienced such a thing.

He’s initiated all the plans so far, but he did ask me to come over once. I asked if we could meet up somewhere outside that time and told him it’s just not something I am comfortable with yet. We did and that’s the time he went in for a kiss. He looked super different when he went in for it. I mean we’re talking about our next plan one second and the next he goes in, we hit our teeth, and we both run off basically. To our cars.

That was the first time we ever made plans for the next time, on the spot. We just picked the day though. And I get really in my head and overthink stuff. But he followed up and we did meet. That next time he was putting his arm around me more and I think trying to be more like a couple. I got close to him but I didn’t touch him back because I got nervous. Then at the end he said we should meet on a day. I think he said a weekend day. But I met him earlier last week and I can’t tell if he wanted me to follow up and I just didn’t. I really blanked during the conversation and didn’t say—yes let’s do it. Because I was overthinking how to kiss him.

So we kissed and said bye that time. We’ve been casually conversing about unrelated things. I don’t know if I should bring it up on text. I get nervous. I asked someone for advice and she said I should just tell him that I’m inexperienced but I don’t know where to fit that in. I don’t know if he wants to see me again because I think the day he said passed. It’s either that or he meant the next week, I can’t tell what to do.

This may seem juvenile to write here but I have no one who’s maybe older/ wiser to ask. So forgive me and maybe this will be allowed here.

I’m 26, I’ve never dated. I had my first kiss with a guy. He’s the only one I met from a dating app. We’d always have great conversation it flowed naturally. Something like the 4th date he asked if I’d want to go to this park or come over. I freaked out a bit worried why he’d invite me to his. But he was ok with the park. We walked, talked, and it went well. Then at the end he asked me to make plans for the 5th date (first time we locked a day in so advanced) but then he looked very worried or different. I looked at him. And he had his hand on my back and lingered. Then he went in for a kiss and our faces hit one another. And we both turn around and sprint the other way.

We meet that next time and he holds onto me more, like my back or my shoulder. And he holds tighter. Or comes in closer. But he’d go quiet. And I’d start talking about literal nonsense out of nerves. At the end of the date, he said he’s free on (a certain day) and I didn’t confirm which day, I know I didn’t say ok yes let’s do it. I didn’t say no. I blanked on what happened because I was preparing to kiss him. He could’ve meant Friday like days ago, or Friday next week. I didn’t clarify because it didn’t hit me until today. I also can’t keep being this awkward so I’m not sure how these things look? Is this normal?

Hi everyone. I am 26 but I didn’t ever have a first kiss or even talk to a guy like this before. I met this guy from here. We seemed similar. From our conversations things were really good. All we did at the end was hug, where he’d squish me a bit at the end and linger. Not in a bad way I just never experienced that.

He’s initiated all the plans so far, but he did ask me to come over once. I asked if we could meet up somewhere outside that time and told him it’s just not something I am comfortable with yet. We did and that’s the time he went in for a kiss. He looked super different when he went in for it. I mean we’re talking about our next plan one second and the next he goes in, we sprint off after. Almost run. In opposite directions. I didn’t bring it up.he didn’t.

That was the first time we ever made plans for the next time, on the spot like we were talking before the kiss. We just picked a day, not a time or place. I get really in my head and overthink stuff. He followed up before that day and we did meet. That next time he was putting his arm around me more and I think trying to be more like a couple. I got close to him but I didn’t touch him back because I got nervous. Then at the end he said we should meet on a day. I think he said a weekend day. But I met him earlier last week and I can’t tell if he wanted me to follow up and I just didn’t. I really blanked during the conversation and didn’t say—yes let’s do it. Because I was overthinking how to kiss him.

So we kissed and said bye that time. We’ve been casually conversing about unrelated things. I don’t know if I should bring it up on text. I get nervous. I asked someone for advice and she said I should just tell him that I’m inexperienced but I don’t know where to fit that in. I don’t know if he wants to see me again because Im not sure if I misheard the day (it’s either a day last week or he meant the next week) I’m not sure if he’s maybe upset if I didn’t ask. Do I just ask next? How do I act less awkward with him!

This is my first time dating, I went on bumble out of curiosity. He’s the only guy I met up with too. His profile stood out from others that didn’t seem serious. We’re both in our late 20s but I don’t know his dating experience. The first 3 dates we went on, conversation really flowed. But by the end of it he got a bit quiet and I was wondering what was up, he then goes to grab my arms then my shoulders and hesitated. But he went in for a kiss. We bump our teeth together and walk away without saying anything. I didnt recognize myself in that interaction. So before our head-butt he said we should meet again the next week. And I said which day.

The next week he confirms with me and makes plans. We went. I was worried about how I’d be more smooth this time around. When we met he was slowly inching a bit closer and eventually put his arm around mine when we walked and he sort of squeezed. I didn’t know what to do because he got quiet. And then we stood there kind of in silence but I began talking and talking about something stupid. Just word vomit. We were by like a park/ hike trail.

We walk off and then go to our cars. And he said we should meet next week. He said which day, and said he’s going on a work trip after. So instead of clarifying which day I ask where his work trip is. I blanked at everything he said because I was overthinking how to kiss him. I pulled his face in this time, but I kept it super brief. I just chickened out. He texted me about something unrelated yesterday and I didn’t answer until now because I didn’t see it. So I’m not sure if I should bring it up. We’re both also still on the apps