Did you ever sabotaged a good relationship because you were afraid?
Like you felt so deep for the person it made you afraid it could break your heart one day?
Did you ever sabotaged a good relationship because you were afraid?
Like you felt so deep for the person it made you afraid it could break your heart one day?
Did you ever sabotaged a good relationship because you were afraid?
Like you felt so deep for the person it made you afraid it could break your heart one day?
Did you ever sabotaged a good relationship because you were afraid?
Like you felt so deep for the person it made you afraid it could break your heart one day?
Did you ever sabotaged a good relationship because you were afraid?
Like you felt so deep for the person it made you afraid it could break your heart one day?
Need from perspective on this one.
Is it -almost- always the narcissist who view the other person as -the devil- in the relationship?
Like was i overreacting or something?
Won't go deep but i just ended my relationship with this other person just yesterday who call himself as an empath.
We had our last conversation yesterday and got the closure i wanted but they flipped the table on me in any situation we had before!
Like for example and I know it was dumb even i laughed about it:
I told them like i texted you the other day and you took 8 hours to respond which is okay but to see that you've in between posted a story it's somehow disrespectful. To get the answer:
Are you stalking me or something? Like when I respond i take time and effort with my messages yeah sometimes i post things in between but i always hit you back is there a problem if am an old-school?
Keep in mind that wasn't the pattern before if it was from the beginning it wouldn't even bother me.
As I said that wasn't why broke up it was just dumb example for the communication between us.
Now I feel like i was the problem the whole time even deep inside I know i didn't do something wrong or that deal breaking!!
Need from perspective on this one.
Is it -almost- always the narcissist who view the other person as -the devil- in the relationship?
Like was i overreacting or something?
Won't go deep but i just ended my relationship with this other person just yesterday who call himself as an empath.
We had our last conversation yesterday and got the closure i wanted but they flipped the table on me in any situation we had before!
Like for example and I know it was dumb even i laughed about it:
I told them like i texted you the other day and you took 8 hours to respond which is okay but to see that you've in between posted a story it's somehow disrespectful. To get the answer:
Are you stalking me or something? Like when I respond i take time and effort with my messages yeah sometimes i post things in between but i always hit you back is there a problem if am an old-school?
Keep in mind that wasn't the pattern before if it was from the beginning it wouldn't even bother me.
As I said that wasn't why broke up it was just dumb example for the communication between us.
Now I feel like i was the problem the whole time even deep inside I know i didn't do something wrong or that deal breaking!!
Need from perspective on this one.
Is it -almost- always the narcissist who view the other person as -the devil- in the relationship?
Like was i overreacting or something?
Won't go deep but i just ended my relationship with this other person just yesterday who call himself as an empath.
We had our last conversation yesterday and got the closure i wanted but they flipped the table on me in any situation we had before!
Like for example and I know it was dumb even i laughed about it:
I told them like i texted you the other day and you took 8 hours to respond which is okay but to see that you've in between posted a story it's somehow disrespectful. To get the answer:
Are you stalking me or something? Like when I respond i take time and effort with my messages yeah sometimes i post things in between but i always hit you back is there a problem if am an old-school?
Keep in mind that wasn't the pattern before if it was from the beginning it wouldn't even bother me.
As I said that wasn't why broke up it was just dumb example for the communication between us.
Now I feel like i was the problem the whole time even deep inside I know i didn't do something wrong or that deal breaking!!
Someone once said:
You're not scared of failing, you're scared of what happened last time, and it's controlling your entire life.
And that hit me hard!
How to stop this thoughts from controlling us as humans?
I'm in a point in my life were I started questioning everything.
I know its seems philosophical but dumb at the same time to ask but really, how to overcome the FEAR??
Sorry for my English if there's any Spelling mistakes :)
Someone once said:
You're not scared of failing, you're scared of what happened last time, and it's controlling your entire life.
And that hit me hard!
How to stop this thoughts from controlling us as humans?
I'm in a point in my life were I started questioning everything.
I know its seems philosophical but dumb at the same time to ask but really, how to overcome the FEAR??
Sorry for my English if there's any Spelling mistakes :)
Have seeing this women for about 2 months.
For a little background my last relationship ended badly and I'm still dealing with a traumatic event related to sex and had since then psychological ed and this women is the first one after 2 years who i were intimate with.
The first 3 times were amazing i thought i had my power back but I could sense she wasn't that into it.
After talking with her about it she told me she had an abusive ex who will force her to do it and need time to process everything and i was very understanding about her situation and told her we can take it slow.
She knew about my situation too tho.
After that one time we had it and talked about our experience with each other and asked her what she would like me to do then out of nowhere starting telling me about her last experience with her last ex - not the one who abused her tho- and how amazing it was and how he was great in this section.
I left that day speechless and can't get the thoughts of my head.
We tried to do it after that multiple times but i couldn't even get it up!
Now I'm stuck in this loop of wanting to prove myself to her or just moving on with an open wound.
I know had bad luck with that one but it's somehow fked up my self-esteem and made my situation even worst.
I was always the confident guy who can pull any women that's what made her to be attracted to me from the beginning but now I can't even look at myself in the mirror as before.
Have seeing this women for about 2 months.
For a little background my last relationship ended badly and I'm still dealing with a traumatic event related to sex and had since then psychological ed and this women is the first one after 2 years who i were intimate with.
The first 3 times were amazing i thought i had my power back but I could sense she wasn't that into it.
After talking with her about it she told me she had an abusive ex who will force her to do it and need time to process everything and i was very understanding about her situation and told her we can take it slow.
She knew about my situation too tho.
After that one time we had it and talked about our experience with each other and asked her what she would like me to do then out of nowhere starting telling me about her last experience with her last ex - not the one who abused her tho- and how amazing it was and how he was great in this section.
I left that day speechless and can't get the thoughts of my head.
We tried to do it after that multiple times but i couldn't even get it up!
Now I'm stuck in this loop of wanting to prove myself to her or just moving on with an open wound.
I know had bad luck with that one but it's somehow fked up my self-esteem and made my situation even worst.
I was always the confident guy who can pull any women that's what made her to be attracted to me from the beginning but now I can't even look at myself in the mirror as before.
Have seeing this women for about 2 months.
For a little background my last relationship ended badly and I'm still dealing with a traumatic event related to sex and had since then psychological ed and this women is the first one after 2 years who i were intimate with.
The first 3 times were amazing i thought i had my power back but I could sense she wasn't that into it.
After talking with her about it she told me she had an abusive ex who will force her to do it and need time to process everything and i was very understanding about her situation and told her we can take it slow.
She knew about my situation too tho.
After that one time we had it and talked about our experience with each other and asked her what she would like me to do then out of nowhere starting telling me about her last experience with her last ex - not the one who abused her tho- and how amazing it was and how he was great in this section.
I left that day speechless and can't get the thoughts of my head.
We tried to do it after that multiple times but i couldn't even get it up!
Now I'm stuck in this loop of wanting to prove myself to her or just moving on with an open wound.
I know had bad luck with that one but it's somehow fked up my self-esteem and made my situation even worst.
I was always the confident guy who can pull any women that's what made her to be attracted to me from the beginning but now I can't even look at myself in the mirror as before.
I've been dating this women for few months now.
We decided to take things slow and looking for a relationship not fwb or anything similar.
We meet at weekends because the only time we can see each other.
At the beginning she was all into me always who start planning and asking me to meet up and found always time for me.
Now the table is just flipped! I ask like 80% of the time if we can meet and plan everything.
The thing that made me confused i get the same answers like:
-We'll see- i don't know if i want- I see my schedule and something like that-
I don't rush it always tell her you can hit me back if you changed your mind.
The confusing part she almost always accept at the last minute or just send me a message: okay where and when should we meet??
yesterday I told her i hate texting and didn't saw her for 2 weeks we should meet up tomorrow in the evening.
To get the same art of answers:
I am planning to meet up with my female friend i don't know for how much I will stay will her.. will see.
like I don't want to ask directly and came as if I like despite or needy any thoughts??
Maybe I can get some women perspective