r/Life

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25 is nowhere close to being old. I’m 26M, and I don’t even consider 30s or 40s to be  “old”. I tried to make sure she had a good birthday regardless, and she seemed to cheer up about it by the end of the day. Got her a gift she loved, got her some pink roses, and baked her a cake (my best attempt because I rarely bake and don’t consider myself to be a good baker but I’m better at cooking. She thought I did a great job though). I told her once she‘s able to start getting a senior citizen discount in the very far future, she can start referring to herself as old. ;) It just made me think about how fucked up it is how much emphasis is placed on youth for women and how it causes fear about aging for people in general. I’ll love her and still think she’s beautiful even when she‘s old, gray, and has wrinkles.

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Been seeing a lot of people go through this. So many people are sad on their 25th birthdays because they feel they are getting old and behind in life.

What does being behind even mean? Are our expectations so high seeing all the 1% success stories on TikTok and instagram and comparing ourselves with everyone constantly?

People who are in this phase and people who made it out. Let’s discuss.

I have a 1.6 gpa, community college isnt a option because I get bad anxiety on highways and because I dont have any friends to move in with, im on a iep but my accommodations will be to heavy for community college and college, I cant do online courses because I got a 72% on the one I did for credit recovery, and trade school had nothing that would be good for me or that I want to do, and everyone tells me that itll be impossible for me to go

Disclaimer: I would like to preface that I am in no way suicidal and I am actually very content with life right now.

I am just curious if anyone else has ever thought about what life would be like after our own death. After a car crash in which I came very close to death, I have been imagining what my death would have on the ones around me. Who would show up to my funeral? How would my life be celebrated? How would the people I love be without me? Is this a narcissistic trait or is it more common than I realize and what is everyone's experience with the situation?

Every time a car crash happens, they whip out their phone.

Every time some celebrity shows up, they whip our their phone.

Every temple, they just stand there recording the whole thing as if the temple exists to enhance someone's Instagram.

I gave my acquaintance advice on her business, she took my words and made a whole podcast episode about it. I asked her about it, turns out she recorded the convo without my knowledge.

Every time I go to a restaurant, I see so many couples just on their phones the entire time except one selfie, then back to their phones.

My friend works as a bouncer at a bar. He was telling me about New Years eve. Only about 5 groups came. Each group was the same pattern. They walked in, started dancing and recorded a video. Then immediately left. They just went to the bar to create the perception that they were dancing and having a good time. They never danced when they weren't recording. Never smiled or even spoke much to each other, just staring at their phones.

I feel like a lot of people leave the house just for the purpose of creating content. Everything is content.

Do you have any career regret ? If yes, how have you overcome it?

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how can i deal with my bf helping his younger sister out so much. he helps her financially and even small things like subscriptions or subletting problems he’ll step in and even contact people for her etc. i feel like these are all things we gotta do ourselves and maybe our older sibling can guide us but not take over…am i wrong? sometimes his mom will call him to ask and make sure he helps his sister with internship applying and apartment finding and everything and she’s 22 and he’s 24 so there’s not a huge gap in experience. i’m the younger sibling and don’t really need my sister to help in these things so when i see their dynamic im just very confused if it’s necessary? jealous or not idc im just tryna figure out what i can do or if anyone else has dealt with this

So for backstory i have a crush on this guy in my class, and basically we do not talk at all but we’ve made eye contact a couple of times and he would always smile. He looks at me sometimes like when i leaving/coming back to my seat. Sometime i feel like he’s looking at me when he fixes his hair and i actually caught him one time. Last day i saw him he looked more open to me, like he usually puts his headphones in but that day he didn’t do it at all, and i noticed he was kinda just looking at everything i was looking at & we made strong contact that day. I’m also dead silent in class & he’s pretty quiet too but he was lowk kinda looking when i was talking to someone during class.

I have him on ig & we follow eachother but like… Idk how to start a convo with him bc school ended… Does he even know i exist? so i would have to text him if i wanted to talk to him. But i don’t want the convo to be very short. Any good actual ideas?

I enjoy being alive and it's scary to think in my life ending, even when I'm old and have lived my time. I want to be alive forever and I don't want to disappear because I really enjoy watching movies, reading and listening to music. I've been thinking in convincing myself to believe in religion just to alliviate this fear. I have friends who find comfort in the idea of dying one day (not soon, they're not suicidal) and I'm so jealous of them because I don' t want to keep being afraid anymore.

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At this point, my friendships are basically a full-time toxic sitcom. I fight with my friends like I’m finally done with them forever, give dramatic speeches in my head, unfollow them mentally, and act all independent for exactly 37 minutes… and then suddenly I’m back texting the same person because who else am I supposed to cry to? Like congratulations, you hurt my feelings, now please comfort me about it too. I genuinely don’t know how I managed to make my emotional support system the same people I argue with on a weekly basis. The problem is I don’t really have a huge friend circle, and honestly I’m too socially tired to make new friends and explain my entire personality from scratch again. So now I’m emotionally recycling people. We fight, we ignore each other, I overthink everything at 2 AM, then somehow we end up talking again because apparently attachment issues are stronger than self-respect. It’s honestly embarrassing at this point. I act like I need peace and distance, but the second life gets overwhelming, I go running back to the same humans like a confused stray cat. Maybe I don’t need therapy, maybe I just need a customer care helpline for my emotions because clearly my current coping mechanism is “fight, cry, reconcile, repeat.”

I don’t get why people do this in posts on reddit. For example, yesterday I saw one person say that she’s a “28 year old girl”. I‘m 19M and I don’t even refer to myself as a “19 year old boy”. It does make more sense if you‘re a teenager though or maybe early 20s at most, but after that it seems even weirder/more immature, especially if you’re 30+ still calling yourself that. It’s like people infantilize themselves

So, i never block anyone, ignore anyone, dislike anyone on internet in my entire life.

I also never downvote, dislike any posts and comments even when i really disagree with them.

I never close my DM. I never block DM no matter how weird or invasive they are.

No matter how they harass me or doxx me, i still don't report them or block them. Basically.

In my entire life of YouTube, and Reddit (i actually only use these two apps), i never disliked or downvoted anything.

Is ts abnormal?

also, i just don't like blocking, disliking or downvoting. And i don't feel any sense of uncomfortability

Memories, Luxury etc…

I’m 38 now please give me advice if you’re older than me. I don’t care where you are from. Life advice, just one.