u/AbiesLow7444

I recently opened Instagram. Yeah, I’m kind of late for a 22-year-old. It’s the first non-anonymous social media account I’ve ever created. People used to call me old-fashioned because the only way to reach me was by having my number, but I eventually made an Instagram account because it’s what everyone asks for these days, especially during networking, so it felt necessary.

The thing is, I’ve never really been someone who enjoys going out a lot, especially to expensive places. But after joining Instagram, I keep seeing stories that make me feel like I’m missing out on life. At the same time, whenever I do go on trips or hang out with friends, I genuinely enjoy it, but afterward I feel so mentally exhausted that I usually don’t talk to anyone for days.

What surprised me the most is realizing how often my friends, family members, and other people go out, meet new people, and constantly hang out, while I’m usually just at home, maybe playing a little Pokémon or reading a book that caught my interest.

The more I use Instagram, the more I start asking myself:

>“Am I wasting my time? My youth?” “Am I too comfortable in my comfort zone?” “Will I regret this lifestyle later?”

And the more I think about it, the more anxious I become.

A part of me wants to explore the world, meet lots of people, and experience more things. But another part of me vividly remembers how exhausting traveling or being around groups of people can feel for me.

I used chatgpt for strictly grammer cuz lasted I posted I got heavily criticized for grammer, sorry man english is not my first language

I recently opened Instagram. Yeah, I’m kind of late for a 22-year-old. It’s the first non-anonymous social media account I’ve ever created. People used to call me old-fashioned because the only way to reach me was by having my number, but I eventually made an Instagram account because it’s what everyone asks for these days, especially during networking, so it felt necessary.

The thing is, I’ve never really been someone who enjoys going out a lot, especially to expensive places. But after joining Instagram, I keep seeing stories that make me feel like I’m missing out on life. At the same time, whenever I do go on trips or hang out with friends, I genuinely enjoy it, but afterward I feel so mentally exhausted that I usually don’t talk to anyone for days.

What surprised me the most is realizing how often my friends, family members, and other people go out, meet new people, and constantly hang out, while I’m usually just at home, maybe playing a little Pokémon or reading a book that caught my interest.

The more I use Instagram, the more I start asking myself:

>“Am I wasting my time? My youth?” “Am I too comfortable in my comfort zone?” “Will I regret this lifestyle later?”

And the more I think about it, the more anxious I become.

A part of me wants to explore the world, meet lots of people, and experience more things. But another part of me vividly remembers how exhausting traveling or being around groups of people can feel for me.

Like you can look at r/sexworkers subreddit literally complains about guys falling in love and wanting to spend thounsands of money on them , men spend thousands of dollars for women's just attention some of them are willing to provide a good job for them, some are willing to marry and these are not even like super ugly dudes imagine a women is willing to spend lot of money just for your attention just imagine, you can only imagine

My sister says she doesn’t want to date fit or muscular men, even though most of her celebrity or fictional crushes like some K-pop or BL characters are exactly that type: strong and well-built.

When I asked her why, she said she does find those men attractive, but she assumes that guys who go to the gym, do skincare, or take care of their appearance tend to be narcissistic or toxic.

The confusing part is that she knows men in her own friend circle who are fit and clearly not like that. So it feels like she has a type she’s attracted to, but avoids dating them because of a general assumption.

I feel like she might regret limiting herself this way, especially since she’s still young. Is this kind of mindset normal, and is there anything I can do to help her feel more comfortable dating the kind of people she’s actually attracted to?

Lust is a societal construct created by Men to express their desire , its normalized by men hence women kept up with it cuz its normalized, Men's lust is quite Predatory and One Sided its disgusting and is Forced on Women

One Good Thing Happened using this sub is I stopped watching Porn, Men's Lust is quite disgusting when you think about it , its predatory,

I previously asked this questions both offline and online where most of the responses came from men. I’d really like to hear women’s perspectives as well. I recently discussed this topic in my college news club and am planning to write an essay on it, so I’d appreciate your thoughts.

About a week ago, I attended a prom and noticed something interesting. Men’s outfits are typically very covered usually suits that reveal little beyond the hands or forearms while women’s dresses often expose areas like the shoulders, back, arms, or sometimes more.

When I brought this up with friends, one explanation was that women tend to find fully covered, formal looks attractive in men, while men are more drawn to clothing that highlights or accentuates certain body features. However, it also made me realize that men don’t have many mainstream clothing options designed to emphasize their bodies in the same way women’s clothing does. Even when such options exist, they’re often seen as inappropriate or outside social norms.

From a woman’s perspective, why do you think more “sexy” or body-accentuating clothing is widely accepted for women but not for men? and Would you prefer Men dressing more "sexy" or Not ?