I (23F) got a brazilian wax for the first time yesterday. I had only ever shaved or trimmed prior to this. The waxing itself was painful but since then everything down there has been extremely sensitive, both erotically and nonerotically. It is wet/aroused often when I check, to the point of being very distracting. Does this happen every time or is it just a first time thing? And are there ways to avoid this?
I think the hygiene tag works for this.
My husband is away and 2 days ago we had a naughty video chat. I have washed my hands umpteen times, I have showered and yesterday I deep cleaned my house and most certainly got cleaning chemicals on my hands.
The hand I used STILL smells like vaginal fluids. It’s not a bad smell, just normal, healthy vagina smell. HOW!? Why? I mentioned it to my husband and he told me that when he’s on leave and grows a beard he can smell me on his face for several days after (which he apparently enjoys lol).
So what makes that smell linger so long despite repeated washing?
I’m not sure if this is the right place to ask this but does anyone know why could my bf’s precum taste very weird all of a sudden😭Usually i don’t mind the taste but now it tastes like straight up puke or something similar🥲The penis does not taste like anything and he has good hygiene but idk. Not shaming but wondering cuz i really wanted to give him a bj but can’t stand the current taste.
I (20M) and my girlfriend (21F) have been together for two years now. We were each other’s first time and sex has always been something I’ve been more comfortable with and had to lead in than her. Our sexual dynamic has usually relied on if I pull the trigger on something in order for us to advance. This includes coming up with new ideas or bringing up new things for us to explore or try.
My issue is that my partner is can communicate when they want to have sex and notify me when they are in the mood,touch me and so forth and flirt a little. However from that point on I’m expected to just take over and do all the foreplay and lusting. For example our sex will go like this: She notifies me in a flirty way she wants to do something, I proceed to massage her body and hump on her and then we work our way up PIV sex and then 8/10 we use the vibrator afterwards. I do all the heavy lifting when it comes to the sex and am the one trying to satisfy us both. If we just use the vibrator for her and don’t do PIV sex she will fall asleep and I get nothing. If I don’t jump at her cues and take over during sex nothing will happen. She won’t ride,she doesn’t often give BJ’s (BJ’s are something I’m really into and she is aware of this) or anything really like that.
We only ever do Doggy style and it’s been that way for many months now,if I ask her if she wants to do anything else it’s a no or she just wants to do doggy. We’ve talked about these things numerous times but this is where our dynamic always falls back to. I feel like I’m in a comprised spot because it’s not like she doesn’t tell me she finds me attractive and flirts sexually, it’s just that I have to be the one to make sure those things are actually done and miss out on the opportunity to feel ravished or pursued.
I would love to have her just pull my pants down and go to town on me or lead me to the bed and ride me like it was our last day on earth or share new ideas but those things just don’t happen. It feels like there’s no incentive for her to just want to please me on her own and I’m stuck pleasing her and I don’t get why. I’ve always tried to have that energy for her since the start of our relationship and over time that energy of mine has slowly dwindled and lessened . I’m still into her and I still appreciate our relationship I just don’t want the sex like I used to and I’m unsure if this is a normal reaction or I’m seeing this wrong. I have no one to talk to about my sex life and I’m very inexperienced and need help navigating it.
TL;DR My gf is consistently passing me the ball to shoot when it comes to our sex life but sometimes I just want her to dunk it herself
Hopefully this is the correct flair but none the less. I was wondering how many of you partake in sex during menstruation?
This is a very touchy subject with my husband..he says “sex is supposed to turn you on, blood doesn’t turn me on” na has never wanted/been willing to explore anything while it’s that time.
I’m the type that wants to have sex the first couple of days but after day 3 i could care less about what coming out of me, i need him in me. but he thinks it’s gross..
idk i guess just wondering if anyone has ever experienced something similar?
Me [21M] and my girlfriend [21F] have always had a pretty vanilla sex life until recently. We’ve been having rougher and rougher sex lately and she even lets me grab her neck while we do it or grab her shoulders and pin her to the bed while we do it. She is asking for even rougher sex though and I really need some fresh ideas. Please let me know any ideas you guys have!
(31F) and this is my first time experiencing this despite this being my third period of brestfeeding. recently i have realized that orgasms affect lactation. they initiate it or when im already on it, amplify it. it seems to be way more than just my body squeezing out more because of the muscle spasms caused by orgasm, as even on calmer orgasms (when its not hard on my body) it still affects my lactation a lot.
my question is what is the connection here, and how can i utilize it to my advantage? meaning is there a way to use orgasms to prolong my lactation even after this brestfeeding period? (its something my husband is into and i would like to be able to keep this for him)
any advice is appreciated
Hello everyone!! Im 20F and my Gf is 21 F I’m posting on here to see if anyone can give me very specific ideas on how to go about playing hard to get during sex w my gf? We have been dating for a year and our sex life has been great, usually I’m a sub/ pillow princess and she a stone top to help paint the picture.
Anyway, last time we got intimate I got the idea to pull back a bit during a kiss and more when she leaned in again when we were kissing and told her “come get it” well she loved that and got more rough which I love but she never really does.
After we talked about it and she said she really liked that I played hard to get and that’s how to get her more rough. The problem is she doesn’t like being teased at all (she’s very vanilla, like I said never rough) I don’t think me being a brat is up her ally (I will ask though) so I’m truly lost for ideas, we are each other firsts so trying to come up with things we like is impossible since we don’t really know 😭 Anything is appreciated! Thanks!
Both my partner (18 F) and I (23 M) have pretty high libidos and we have sex pretty often. It’s really nice and she makes me feel seen in that way which feels really rare for me (besides her I have had sex one other time with one other person which was before our relationship began).
But for some reason I can’t shake my feelings of sexual inferiority. My body can be temperamental when we are being intimate and I semi-often feel disappointed by my performance even though she always objects to my doubts.
I hate to say it, but these doubts are exasperated by my imagination where I see the women I love getting…well…the best sex of her life by *insert big sexy man here* and being satisfied in a way some part of me insults me by saying it’s so much better then sex with me. I’m happy that she is having fun, I just want to convince myself to finally be happy with myself sexually as opposed to feeling inferior to everything and everyone no matter the type of relationship or my relationship status. I completely respect being into being a cuck, but that is something I’m absolutely not into and part of me always fears that I am destined to be one despite knowing my partner loves me and my body so much in an emotional and purely sexual way (none of this is about her, she’s the best).
Considering this is my first open relationship how did you all handle this and (should you have desired it) finally started seeing yourself as sexually adequate?
TL;DR: I think I’m terrible at sex and that my partner’s other sexual partners will all be better than me no matter what despite her insisting otherwise. How do I combat this?
So I'm new at discovering this part of myself. I've been getting small orgasms when using an electric toothbrush, but I decided to try getting a clit-sucker because I've been hearing great things about it. Maybe I still have to learn how to use it, but is it normal to feel it's too overwhelming (in a slightly painful way) even on the lowest setting when used directly on the clit? Is there a better way I should be using it? I usually don't use the toothbrush on it directly either. Are there better toys that can replicate what a toothbrush does?
Is this supposed to happen? For context I have NEVER cum from penetration before but I really wanted to so recently when I got close from rubbing myself I decided to finger myself instead and I think (?) I experienced orgasm from penetration for the first time. I’ve heard so many people say it’s supposed to be so much more intense and last longer, but it didn’t feel different for me? I did it a couple times after, even one with minimal clit stimulation and it kinda just felt like I was stimulating my clit from the inside lol. Like it didn’t feel different from a clitoral orgasm. Is this normal or am I doing something wrong? I really want to experience a more intense orgasm
this is a rant into the void i’m not expecting anyone to have solutions im not asking for advice - if you can relate or you do have suggestions/thoughts i’d love to hear tho (im so sorry i had a lot to rant about apparently cause this is LONGGG)
I want to have sex and enjoy sex so so badly and i like it in theory but every time I try or someone wants to fuck me and we fool around I hate it and i just want it to be over even when it feels fine or good
i have vaginismus ( involuntary tightening of the pelvic floor that makes penetration incredibly painful or impossible) so Ive never been able to do any form of penetration not fingers not tampons or anything, nothing will go in, i’ve tried so many times with so much lube, when i’m relaxed, turned on, when im under the influence, therapy, everything, it just doesn’t work and it makes zero sense because vaginismus is primarily caused by a mental aspect usually either sexual trauma or anxiety surrounding sex due to things like religious guilt or negative stigmas around sex and female anatomy that kind of thing - i have neither of those i have no sexual trauma and i grew up in an average sex positive house, i had access to the internet i was a horny kid/teen like i was not sheltered or shamed so i cannot comprehend or understand why I am fucking 21 and my body is trying to “protect” me
i wear very revealing clothes my aesthetic is basically -slut- i present my self and act like this i sexualise myself online, i have external vibrators, i’m sex positive, im too comfortable and open talking about this kind of stuff it’s not like im repulsed, i want sex so badly yet physically i can’t have it
AND I want it so badly yet I hate it more than anything, i don’t have a sexual preference for men or women i like both but men tend to either only want sex or at least they want to have it sometimes but i can’t give them that,
and women expect me to be a top or dominant because im tall and come across that way initially but i don’t want to be the top and i can’t even get my own body to work so how tf am i meant to know what im doing with another woman’s body and just personally i am a bottom if i am anything
but sex has always been something that i wanted in theory, even now, i find it hot, i want to have it and feel good and wanted and be close to someone and the idea of being fucked and eaten out and everything is so appealing and i want to be able to just fuck and be intimate with people when i want to
but every time i have tried I just actually hate it so much and im just waiting for it to be over or going through the motions, and even when it’s fine as soon as they leave i just feel deeply suicidal and later i just end up crying and screaming in my car and having flashbacks of what we did and every other time someone has tried to have sex with me and i just feel awful and hollow and i want to die
i used to just go through the motions and do external stuff with people cause i love making out and cuddling and being emotionally intimate and desired and i wanted to want sex and i wanted people to like me so id just try to go with it and do what i could do even though i didn’t want to, but i did want to, but i also didn’t but then my heart got absolutely broken into a million stupid little pathetic pieces like 6-8 months ago and i went off my anti depressants to process the heart break and i haven’t found anyone attractive or wanted to be with anyone since so i’ve given up bothering to go through the motions and doing all the sex shit i hate so much
like when this persistent guy is trying to get in my pants instead of being like fine i’ll touch your dick cause it’s awkward if i don’t cause you’re in my bed and trying to put my hand there i just straight up don’t and i blueball them cause im just so tired of it and i hate it so much and i don’t care if he likes me or not anymore i don’t care (im going back on the anti depressants)
but yes basically im a hopeless romantic and an avoidant attachment bitch who has ghosted every single person who has ever tried to be with me, i get obsessive and delusional and then as soon as things get serious, a few weeks later or a month, a switch flips in my and i am emotionally numb i can’t feel anything for them i just need to get out and the guilt eats me cause i was so genuinely obsessed with this person and openly telling them how much i liked them the day before and the next day i just feel nothing, so i ghost and i have done this since i was like a little kid even with friends, i don’t do it with friends anymore and i don’t know how i stopped ive been in therapy forever and i don’t know how to fix it any of it.
I want to be a lover girl i want to be a whore i want to be able to just find love and i want to like sex in practice and i want to be able to physically have it, and ive always wanted this dream relationship like my entire life for as long as i can remember i grew up watching movies and desperately wanting THAT i want the dating, the relationship, i wanna be someone’s girlfriend because i would be the best most loving and loyal girlfriend who would do anything for my partner i have so much love to give so why is my mind and body in fucking lockdown making me avoidant and celibate when i want these basic normal human things and i don’t have trauma that would cause this and i don’t think im asexual, i don’t understand it’s so frustrating and i’ve had so many breakdowns about it in the past and ive just written the longest rant ever because what the fuck is my life
Hi. 24F. I'm not totally a beginner but I didn't have a lot of experience. I orgasm when I masturbate and I usually orgasm with a partner when I'm receiving oral. i think I have orgasmed during sex, but I recently experienced little dizziness (?.. I'm not sure how to explain this). I don't really recall what happened but my partner stopped to ask me if I was ok, and we ended there. Is this normal?
I’m looking for positions where I (a woman) can fully control the situation. Right now only a cowgirl is doing this for me but I’m getting a little bored. My man is way taller than me and he has a belly too, so not everything is possible. I need an easy access to my clitoris (sometimes I’m helping myself with a toy) or the position has to stimulate it too (but that’s…not that easy due to his weight).
Pls advise me something. Despite position seeking I’d take any other advice for how to make it more pleasureable for me. Sorry this sounds so selfish, don’t judge, it’s complicated lol
I’ve had sex a couple of times with different types of women. I’ve been having troubles trying to have an orgasm inside them (with a condom on) even when I could feel them tight, but doesn’t feel tight enough. I’ve been told that my dick is like a “fuck machine” and “feels really hard like a dildo”, and other men’s penises that they’ve had sex with felt hurt from their vaginas. I’m wondering if my penis is actually screwed from getting an orgasm inside a vagina because of masturbating too much. Or should I try finding someone who’s less experienced in intercourse.
I was at dinner with just me and my bf we been together 10months. He was like I like it when u make me feel embarrassed, and then he immediately got an erection. It was really fun and funny to me. If ur a guy or girl and get turned on by being embarrassed, what can I do to make my bf feel embarrassed again hehehe.
TLDR:
My boyfriend got hard at dinner “cus I made him feel embarrassed” but I don’t remember what I said that made him feel embarrassed. But it was fun and I wanna make him feel this way again. What can I do to “embarrass him” lightly?
Hey, so, I am considering buying a vibrator or dildo. This would be my first time ever buying something like this. I've been tempted to do this for a few years, but I've always shy'd away from it because I'm still a teen (17f) living at home, and I would be BEYOND mortified if my family ever found out.
So, based opinions, experiences, or anything else: what type, brand, vibrator vs. dildo, etc, would you recommend?
For me specifically, I get more pleasure from stimulating my clit, but I find that stimulating it more than 1-2 times a day makes it go kinda numb, and I'll lose any sexual arousal for about a week. But, I have found that I'm not really able to finger myself without slight clit stimulation from my hand rubbing against it. I've tried things like hairbrushes, and they haven't worked (ik they will be a lot different than a sex toy, but still). I've had sex and didn't get much pleasure from it. And I would say I get most pleasureful orgasms from using my shower head (also, that's the type of orgasm that is least likely to make my clit feel numb after a few uses).
Idk if any of that information will matter. But I thought I'd give it just in case any vagina-having people had any similar experiences, and have any good recommendations specific to me.
Also, preferably something not too loud! My bedroom is alone downstairs, so I can use something with a bit of noise at night, but my house is still not very soundproof. I don't want anyone to hear.
And, any recommendations from places like Walmart (Amazon is not an option) that I could order under the guise of a different item? Or companies that have extremely discreet packaging so my family would never know? We all work from home every day, so there iis no way a package arrives without them knowing. And there is a chance they would go to the door before me to get it.
Also, would you even consider it worth it to get a vibrator or dildo at this point?
Sorry that this is so long. AHHH. Anyways, I appreciate any recommendations. Have a nice day!
To preface I've never had sex and today me and my boyfriend decided to give it a try. Ive never had anything up inside me before besides a tampon and his and my own fingers but it was never that deep. Another thing to note was that I was pretty wet and we were also using lube and when he entered, it felt fine at first and but he went in more and it just became painful. We tried again but it was still painful and I ended up bleeding so we didnt continue. To be honest he is a little bigger, but nothing crazy at all and he said Im kinda tight so I dont know if thats the only reason on bleeding. I just want to know if its normal and is there anything I can do to not bleed again, is it just something that takes time???
I am 24 and pretty kinky, I’m into BDSM, degradation and objectification. I hate the idea of kissing or having sex in a bed, it actually gives me the ick. Put very bluntly I just wanna be bent over and to hell with the lovey-dovey trash. Obviously everyone has things that they’re into but I don’t think this is 100% normal or healthy, especially if I plan on being in relationships.
Is this something I’m gonna have to work though somehow or are other people this way and the people that I end up being with will have to accommodate?
My boyfriend (40M) was upfront from the start about having ED and a low libido due to his medication.
For the first five months, he used ED meds, and our sex life and frequency was fantastic. However, after several scary physical reactions to several different ED medications on a few occasions, he stopped taking them entirely.
We’ve been together 9 months now, and while he can perform naturally roughly 50-60% of the time, the frequency has dropped significantly over the last 4 months. I (41F) have a very high libido, and while he is a wonderful partner who treats me well, I’m struggling.
How can I bring this up respectfully without making him feel 'less than'? Every time I think of how to phrase this in my mind, I sound terribly greedy and selfish. I never want to compromise his well-being and health. Has anyone ever dealt with this?