u/Sweet-Enthusiasm6886

Hey, so, I am considering buying a vibrator or dildo. This would be my first time ever buying something like this. I've been tempted to do this for a few years, but I've always shy'd away from it because I'm still a teen (17f) living at home, and I would be BEYOND mortified if my family ever found out.

So, based opinions, experiences, or anything else: what type, brand, vibrator vs. dildo, etc, would you recommend?

For me specifically, I get more pleasure from stimulating my clit, but I find that stimulating it more than 1-2 times a day makes it go kinda numb, and I'll lose any sexual arousal for about a week. But, I have found that I'm not really able to finger myself without slight clit stimulation from my hand rubbing against it. I've tried things like hairbrushes, and they haven't worked (ik they will be a lot different than a sex toy, but still). I've had sex and didn't get much pleasure from it. And I would say I get most pleasureful orgasms from using my shower head (also, that's the type of orgasm that is least likely to make my clit feel numb after a few uses).

Idk if any of that information will matter. But I thought I'd give it just in case any vagina-having people had any similar experiences, and have any good recommendations specific to me.

Also, preferably something not too loud! My bedroom is alone downstairs, so I can use something with a bit of noise at night, but my house is still not very soundproof. I don't want anyone to hear.

And, any recommendations from places like Walmart (Amazon is not an option) that I could order under the guise of a different item? Or companies that have extremely discreet packaging so my family would never know? We all work from home every day, so there iis no way a package arrives without them knowing. And there is a chance they would go to the door before me to get it.

Also, would you even consider it worth it to get a vibrator or dildo at this point?

Sorry that this is so long. AHHH. Anyways, I appreciate any recommendations. Have a nice day!

Lately, I've been struggling a lot. My mental health is taking a really big hit. Because of this, I've been needing to take more time to myself. Sometimes I just need time, sometimes he feels like a lot of work to talk to, and other times I just feel physically incapable of moving to message him. We're long distance btw.

He's really needy, and needs a lot of attention. It causes me a lot of stress. We've talked about it before. He understands how I feel about it, but he still insists on telling me how I make him feel. He's frequently unhappy with the attention I've been giving him in the last month or so. But I just don't have it in me.

How do I handle this? Is there a way I could explain to him how I'm feeling?