a few nights ago, i told myself id stick to 2 drinks max. of course, i have a problem turning down free drinks. about 3 hours into the night- 2:00, ive had two long islands and two shots. i was invited to an afters and i last remember someone calling a lyft. i woke up on my couch with an afters wristband on but no car keys or purse.

i went out alone and met some new people, but i cannot find their information on my phone- or even remember their names. the venue is on a show-by-show basis so who knows if my belongings are still in the warehouse.

i don’t have anyone that i can ask about my behavior. there are no lyft or uber rides from that night in my phone, meaning i was taken home by someone.

i wish so bad that i could have my memories back. i estimate anywhere from 1-4 hours of lost memory, but of course- i don’t know what time i got home.

reflecting…

I binged drink from Cinco de Mayo all the way to Mother's Day. However, I didn't want to drink much on Mother's Day. I did take two shots in the morning in order to eat breakfast. I had two beers throughout the day to" manage" the hangover and function through the day. Last beer was at 6pm. I thought I was going to be okay because I was sobering up. Before bed time, I took my water and multivitamins to help in the morning. Woke in the 6 a.m.with anxiety and nausea. I tried to sleep it off while I took water sips. I got out of bed at noon. Well, I took a shower and threw up yellow bile. I ate a little bit of chicken soup. As I am trying to hold my food and lying down in misery.

UPDATE: I'm feeling better. I am still dealing with a little anxiety from acid reflux. I didn't drink water on Saturday. I attended a party and it was hot. I ate but only drank beer most of the day.

I try to understand how do alcoholics live like this? Or how do they manage to sober up without the hangover symptoms or go through them.

I went out with my coworkers and one of them told me I should hit on one of them because she think he likes me. Me being drunk did just that and asked if he wanted to go somewhere more private he said in a very strict tone I want you to go. And then I blurted out I respect your boundaries so I will but this was surprising since everyone likes me and I’m constantly fighting men off. Everyone heard me say that. And some at that party is the kind who love to spread gossip.
I can’t stop crying for being so humiliated acting like a crazy narsissist. And knowing my whole workplace are going to be talking about it, not only being rejected in front of everyone but bragging like a crazy person.

So I went out with my mum yesterday to celebrate her birthday. Neither of us are big drinkers, but I have this awful habit where when I start drinking, I can’t stop.

There’s this guy that I always see around town who I think is super cute, and he was in the pub yesterday too. After a couple of drinks, I decided to shoot my shot (which is not something I tend to do) and gave him my number. He texted me after a while and I asked him if he wanted to come join us. Keep in mind I was already pretty plastered by this point, and I started to feel really anxious because I didn’t want to say anything I would forget. So instead of having a conversation with him, I ended up FaceTiming my brother and ditching this guy with my mum.

I can’t really remember much after that, apart from spending a lot of time throwing up in the bathroom, and by the time I came out, he was gone.

I feel so so bad about it. I’ve messaged him this morning to apologise. Am I an awful human being??

I never used to get anxiety from drinking, but recently something changed and it honestly scared me.

After drinking a couple nights ago, I started getting intense anxiety/panic feelings that I’ve never experienced before. My heart felt weird, my body felt “off,” and mentally I felt completely overwhelmed. The scary part is that it’s now the second day after drinking and the anxiety is STILL here. I genuinely don’t understand what’s happening to my body or why alcohol suddenly started affecting me like this.

I’m starting to think I might have to reduce drinking to only special occasions because this feeling is unbearable and not worth it anymore.

I also wanted to ask if anyone here has experience with taking something like Xanax the next day to calm down after alcohol-induced anxiety/hangxiety? Part of me thinks it could help, but another part of me feels like that sounds like the beginning of a dangerous habit or dependency.

Has anyone gone through something similar? Did alcohol suddenly start causing severe anxiety for you out of nowhere?

About to leave a resort in the DR. 26 year old male. Drank pretty heavily most days and every single morning I woke up with severe anxiety, chest tightness, left arm discomfort, and PVC-type zaps in my chest. Heart rate was steady, normal ECG on my Whoop, could take deep breaths fine — but I was absolutely convinced something was terribly wrong every single morning.

I’m on 40mg fluoxetine which I think made the mornings significantly worse. Also prescribed 20mg propranolol as needed for anxiety. Every afternoon I felt fine (once I caught a buzz haha). Classic hangxiety pattern but genuinely one of the worst experiences of my life. Wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. Crazy part is I’ve had a full cardiac workup - stress echocardiogram, ecg, labs, xray, CT - all normal.

What should’ve been paradise was turned to torture.

Still convinced as I write this that I’m going to drop dead. Anyone else deal with this level of health anxiety after drinking? How do you manage it? Looking into CBT/therapy when I get home.

How do you deal with hangxiety? I had a few drinks yesterday with people who care about me. I didn’t act crazy or do anything regrettable. Yet today I can’t shake this overwhelming feeling of anxiety. I can’t sleep or eat and when I think of last night I just feel my whole body get hot. This has been happening every time I drink lately. So what can I do?

Saturday night i was invited at my cousin bday, (it was his 20yo) i have 25 and at first i didn't wanted to come because i know how am i when i got drunk. So anyways, i started drinking and people were calling me telling me to come, i didn't know anyone because it was his friends and few family members. So i came there, got drunk, at first the party was nice, i remember almost everything but i don't REMEMBER ALL I SAID... I don't know if i said bullshit, next day i woke up in a flatable mattress, don't know who put me there. But they didn't said anything bad next day, but NEXT DAY OFC I DRANK BEERS LIKE IT WASN'T ENOUGH... So i don't remember also the sunday that much... Im having hangxiety trying remember what ive said or if someone recorded or make pictures... Terrible

I went a little hard last night as a result of deciding to finally quit. This morning I was still a little drunk and after work today I ate the last edible I had. The edible hit as I started to feel the hangover which made my hangxiety 100x worse. Now I have the classic nausea, acid reflux of the sugary drinks, shakes/chills, but now I can really feel my heart beat. It isn’t a sharp pain or anything but feels like heart palpitations you get from an anxiety attack except I’ve had them mildly for the past few hours. All I want to do is hopefully sleep this off, but the slight paranoia of the weed and hangover have me a little worried about if I would like stop breathing in my sleep or something. I’m in my early 20s and am relatively healthy (besides the drinking) with no heart rate issues or any heart problems in general. Really regretting my choices right now and just want to know I’ll be okay. Please share if you have experience or advice with this feeling or even just reassurance so I don’t freak out.

I used to drink a lot. I don't anymore, but occasionally hit it pretty hard at a party.

I went to a party last night. I had quite a bit to drink for me (a martini, 2 glasses of wine, 8 low test jello shots...I made them that way on purpose so everyone could enjoy more). Everyone else was also drinking and were drunk, so it wasn't like I was the lone drunk or anything. Husband and I had already made plans to stay over so no worries about getting home etc. I ate before I started drinking, drank water all night...A real solid plan, you know?

I even had a conversation about the doom I always get the morning after drinking heavily with a close friend, and she said well, you should NOT feel that way tomorrow because you're doing absolutely fine! I put myself to bed 2 hours before everyone else when things got a little fuzzy. I definitely blacked out a bit, but I remember most of the evening.

This morning I woke up, my friends made breakfast. Everyone said how fun everything was, and how great everyone was. Nothing was said about me, my behavior, or even implied that I was out of line in any way.

But as always, I am overthinking everything today. I feel like I embarrassed myself, made myself look like a total fool, and am so depressed and anxious. I'm totally beating myself up.

I'm not asking for advice or anything, but just needed to tell someone how I was feeling. I hate this feeling so much. I wish I could enjoy a fun time with my friends , get silly, and not wake up feeling like the biggest asshole and worst human on the planet like they can.

Thanks for letting me put this out in the universe instead of holding it in.

I am seeing this amazing man who truly just wants to be around me and see me happy. We both work in the same industry late nights and we lives in a city with 24 hour bars. We went out drinking after work until about 8 am and he dropped me back off at my house (him having not drank a lot and had a lot of water.)

We had plans to go to this super nice restaurant. Well, I slept all the way through our date because my phone fell to the ground at some point while I was sleeping. Didn’t hear my alarm. We did end up hanging out for a bit, and I was mortified. I don’t miss important plans. He told me he was very disappointed and even went out to buy a nice shirt just for the date. That really broke my heart. He says everything is fine but I can’t help but feel that I ruined the trust between us. All he has done is treat me like royalty and I am hung over and ashamed.

Thanks for letting me vent.

Just want to get this off my chest. Blacked out Friday night at an event. Pretty much can’t remember anything. My close friends told me I did some pretty stupid and embarrassing things that I have next to no recollection of. No one seems mad, but man I made an ass out of myself. It was a large event and I don’t know who saw what. I could have completely ruined my reputation with some people and I don’t even know about it.

Also holy shit I could have actually died. Thank god for some friends who took care of me, but I was in an unfamiliar place with no memory of my actions. I could have very well gotten separated and ran into traffic or fallen down somewhere or something.

I just can’t believe that I did all of this shit. Some of what I did is without a doubt pretty bad and I can’t remember it happening. I feel sick to my stomach and wish I could go back and completely change all of my actions. Maybe I’ve got to be sober because I seriously could have ruined my entire life in one night.

Struggling agian.

Struggling again, I went out wednesday to ease my anxiety and lonliness and knew it would only be short term fix and come back the next day. Stayed out all day and forgot some of the last few hours due to brown outs and the anxiety is raging like i have done somthing wrong, offended someone or some people. Its like because i can't remember my mind is making up things that i might or might not have done. I don't want to go out again but feel the urge to check. I feel awful.

For context this is my first time getting drunk as a 19 y/o

Last Saturday I drank three beer cans and then raw Bacardi with no lemon no coke-cola no nothing, I got really drunk and then threw up came back home had really weird dreams

The first day I felt really sleepy but then I started weirding out when the hangover was 2 days long, 3 days long, and now 6, I don’t have headaches but I don’t feel like my mind is here, I don’t understand what people say at times, I write a loooooot of things on my notes app (life thoughts) and also cry a lot and feel like I don’t want to be here anymore (I don’t know why because I’m not suicidal) also been falling asleep everywhere and saying hurtful things to the closest people to me that I would never say

Also I’ve been feeling more intelligent, and I’ve been noticing a loooot of things I didn’t before even the people on my circle are like “ooohh that’s right” and im like mmm im not usually this intelligent

I dont know if this is going to end I feel like I’ve lost my mind and don’t know if it is a dehydration problem or else it’ll just pass with time? Or should I go to the doctor

Hi, I really need some outside perspective because I’m spiraling.

Yesterday I went to a festival with a group of girls I’m not very close to (I had only met them once or twice before). Before the festival, we had drinks by the lake and everything was fine I remember that part clearly.

But after that, on the way to the festival, things get blurry. I know I was already very drunk. I remember talking a lot to random people and already feeling a bit embarrassing. Then we got into the festival around 10pm, and after that I basically have almost no memory at all. That means I blacked out for like 5 hours.

The only things I know:
- I apparently talked a LOT about my ex (we broke up 3 weeks ago)
- I even sent voice messages to a friend saying I missed him
- I added my ex on Snapchat at some point (I removed him when I woke up… he didn’t add me back)
- I gave my Snapchat to some random guy, but he removed me too
- I only remember one random moment of eating something, that’s it

We left the festival around 1am and I don’t remember that either. My next memory is waking up in the car back in my city (it’s like a 1.5h drive).

Today I sent a message in the group chat apologizing and saying I don’t remember much. Only one girl replied saying it was “funny” and told me not to worry, but the others left me on read. That makes me feel like I was probably super annoying or embarrassing and they just don’t want to say it.

I feel so ashamed, especially because I don’t even want to get back with my ex… and he must think I’m so obsessed with him so I don’t understand why I was talking about him so much.

I don’t have many friends, and I was kind of hoping to get closer to them, but now I feel like I ruined everything.

Has anyone experienced something similar? Did I completely mess up or am I overthinking this?

Im 24

I would say I’ve been drinking since I was like 18. 2020 when the lock down happened I was sitting inside classes were online you know the deal. I used to drink A LOT
And I wouldn’t really be hungover (I’m talking upwards of 20 shots of vodka in a night)
Even like 1-1.5 years ago I’d drink a lot and just take a liquid iv or pound a bottle of water before bed and be somewhat normal. I’d still be hungover but yea.
But recently when I drink my hangover are BAD. I’ve never had d migraine before but now when I drink I’ll wake up at like 5am and just have the worst shooting pain behind my eyes. Then the next 2-3 days will consist of horrible migraines where Advil, heat, cold, doesn’t really help. It’s to the point where I’ll literally sleep like 8 hours in the following 72 hours after drinking
Actually horrible additionally my neck will be unbelievably sore and yea people think I damn near have a twitch from me blinking harder/ way way way more often when I’m hungover. Plus don’t even get me started about the hangxiety… laying from 10pm to 10am in a dark room, constant pain, no screens, just tossing turning panic attacks horrible anxiety…. I don’t wish it on my worst enemy. Brought it up with some doctors or therapist too they just say it’s possibly that my hangover have just gotten worst with age. But yea it really just went from mild (sometimes bad hangovers if i blacked out) but now the hangovers are just god awful

Two days now of dealing with hangxiety and the fear of getting fired on Monday. I don’t remember a good two/three hours of the night. My phone shows no steps and activity from 12p-3a, which I do in fact remember walking around looking for my purse at 330a and getting sent to my room, which I did comply and go to. However I have no recollection if I went to my room and came back out or stayed out until 3a partied hard and embarrassed myself in front of coworkers. I didn’t text/call anyone that night so that’s a good start but one of the managers said “keep the big picture in mind and I think you’re great”. I’ve just been spiraling on Reddit and TikTok and don’t know what to do or how to handle this.

Woke up and I’m probably still a little drunk. I definitely made some bad decisions, but probably blowing things way out of proportion. Still feels like my life is doomed and that none of my friends will ever like me again and that I should hide in a hole for the rest of my life. Worst emotional state in recent memory.

I don’t even know if this is the right place to post this, but I feel like people here might understand. For me the worst part isn’t even the physical hangover anymore, it’s the anxiety the next day. Like I wake up and my heart is racing, overthinking everything I said, feeling like something is wrong even when nothing actually is.

It’s weird because physically I can handle a hangover, but this mental side completely destroys me. I’ve had mornings where I genuinely felt like something bad was about to happen for no reason.

I tried the usual stuff people recommend, water, electrolytes, food, trying to sleep it off… sometimes it helps a bit but it never fully fixes that anxious feeling.

Lately I started trying small things to make the mornings easier instead of expecting a “cure”. One thing that surprisingly helped me a bit was using these dissolvable strips you just put on your tongue, no water or anything. It’s not like it removes the anxiety completely, but it made the whole next-day feeling more manageable for me.

I’m still trying to figure this out honestly. Just curious if anyone else here found anything that actually makes the mental side easier, not just the physical hangover?